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By *kybox2 OP   Man
over a year ago

maidstone

Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I've been single so long I'm probably not the best person to offer advice.

Confused though - if you've not talked to her, how do you know she doesn't like it?

How else are you going to broach the subject if you don't talk to her? Mime it? .

The social idea sounds like a massive gamble. You've got this mental image of her being intrigued and going for it. Plenty of others will have a mental image of you being kneed in the bollocks.

Also, what couple are going to take a chance on that. Time is precious and there's a risk they'll get kneed in the bollocks/minge too. I guess you might find the odd ones who fancy a conversion project, but most would steer clear and go for the sure bets.

Sorry, but better to be realistic than a trip to A&E for bollock treatment...or much worse.

Talk to her. Find a way to bring it into conversation and the don't nag if she doesn't jump at the chance. Respect is important.

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By *aturemale51Man
over a year ago

port talbot

Think you need to find out about her fantasies are and build it up from there, it could,take months to get it right but could end in divorce if you push to hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?"

If she's not into the swinging scene, then it's obviously not for her.. Don't try and arrange socials with other swinging couples if she isn't into it, it could end up messy surely if you are married to her, you would already know what rocks her boat?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been single so long I'm probably not the best person to offer advice.

Confused though - if you've not talked to her, how do you know she doesn't like it?

How else are you going to broach the subject if you don't talk to her? Mime it? .

The social idea sounds like a massive gamble. You've got this mental image of her being intrigued and going for it. Plenty of others will have a mental image of you being kneed in the bollocks.

Also, what couple are going to take a chance on that. Time is precious and there's a risk they'll get kneed in the bollocks/minge too. I guess you might find the odd ones who fancy a conversion project, but most would steer clear and go for the sure bets.

Sorry, but better to be realistic than a trip to A&E for bollock treatment...or much worse.

Talk to her. Find a way to bring it into conversation and the don't nag if she doesn't jump at the chance. Respect is important."

Well put...We'd stay well away from this one I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to me that you haven't talked about the scene simply because you already know deep inside what her response will be,,,,That,and you're also thinking with your balls.......If you push her too much then she will look at you differently,,,,,,start to question her marriage and sex life,,,,,dent her confidence,,,,plant a seed of doubt in her mind that she is not good enough for you.This will breed insecurity,,she will be constantly looking over her shoulder,,,you will lose her respect and eventually her.You most probably have got what a high percentage of people here actually seek,,,it's not as glamorous as some would have you believe,,,,EVERYTHING in life comes at a price.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales


"Think you need to find out about her fantasies are and build it up from there, it could,take months to get it right but could end in divorce if you push to hard."

Find a way to broach the subject, a way into the conversation. Be gentle. If she shuts you down then you'll just have to accept her decision. If she's intrigued don't go I'm guns blazing arranging g stuff.

You got to talk about it, talk about and talk some more about it.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?"

Be careful as she might have you swinging by your bollocks if she doesnt take to the idea well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've known other couples joining the scene like this but you might like to think very carefully how you do it, does she know you've been here 10 months & had sex with others? If not you might consider how you cover that angle first. Many years ago it was me who introduced me then hubby to the scene, I'd found it whilst on a separation & told him about it when we got back together, we enjoyed a good few years swinging together so it is possible X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in same boat mate.. I'm gona mention something tonight tho.. :/ wish luck, got a feeling I'm going to need it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Epic fail... don't do it!! lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, never talked about it and asking for advice on getting her into swinging. Don't think it's as simple as that. As others have asked does she know that you have been on here for a while? If the answer is no then you should tell her what you've discovered and see what her reaction is.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Epic fail... don't do it!! lmao"

I'm sorry, but this poor fella's last two posts are a mini online tragedy. You can write a whole soap opera episode imagining the scene.

I'm not taking the p*ss - they encapsulate the issues of trust, risk etc amazingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bottle or two of wine, set a relaxed scene, easy chat about your life, eventually move the subject to fantasies, keep the glass filled and see what is said.

Remember, there are some things that can't be put back in the box once opened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bottle or two of wine, set a relaxed scene, easy chat about your life, eventually move the subject to fantasies, keep the glass filled and see what is said.

Remember, there are some things that can't be put back in the box once opened."
Ahh Booze the key that unlocks everything ,,,,even Pandoras box but what happens when she sobers up and throws it all back in your face?

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By *arren e treggidenMan
over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

Basicly your saying you've been cheating for months how's she going to feel that would be my worry I always say honesty is best but from day 1 .....oh by the way love for the last 6 months I've been having sex with all and sundry think it's about time you joined in after the initial shock will come the explosion then your being and life becomes suicidle. Don't admit to it. Take her to a club where your not known and she will make her choice charms in Dakar on would be good. Or swamp in Bristol Omg in Swansea you'll get lucky or dead. Good luck

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By *utty and bustyCouple
over a year ago

newport

you need to talk to her about it first no matter what else you try it would only end in divorce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?"

Your profile says you're looking for a couple or single female, makes no mention of being married at all. Why don't you just show her that and see how it goes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on the guys I need assistance, I'm well into the swinging scene but the wife ain't, we've never tallied about it nor have a ever suggested it, how do I get her involved, do we talk about it? Do I arrange a social with a experienced couple and see what happens what ?"

You obviously have a truthful and honest marriage just carry on as your are behind her back, maybe she's doing the same behind yours .

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