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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

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By *elshman52Man
over a year ago

North Wales


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!"

As a genuine single guy it pisses me off that the time wasters give us all a bad name

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By *he Big Five OhhMan
over a year ago

bristol

I get what you mean.. I only accept an invite if I know I'm not going to get dragged away from the area by work.

Saying that "office days" in NP are always guaranteed after hours

Oh the same goes for any meet... if you aren't sure then don't invite!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!"

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really hard to 'vet' guys first though.

I invited a guy, who I thought was single, to a party once. He turned up, mingled and played a bit. These parties always go on til very late, but at 11pm he said "oh sorry I'll have to shoot now ... missus thinks I'm down the pub" Poor woman ... I hope he didn't get supper when he got home!

Hence why I am investing in a bright light, a cattle prod and a chair with restraints on so that I can interrogate guys even more rigorously before party invites go out haha!

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town


"Really hard to 'vet' guys first though.

I invited a guy, who I thought was single, to a party once. He turned up, mingled and played a bit. These parties always go on til very late, but at 11pm he said "oh sorry I'll have to shoot now ... missus thinks I'm down the pub" Poor woman ... I hope he didn't get supper when he got home!

Hence why I am investing in a bright light, a cattle prod and a chair with restraints on so that I can interrogate guys even more rigorously before party invites go out haha! "

Spoils it for the genuine one's here but to play devil's advocate there is also a small percentage of married ladys here doing exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the reasons I stopped meeting guys was that I always ended up with married/attached/psychos/liars in general. I find meeting at parties and clubs so much easier as I'm really not interested in smalltalk.

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest


"Really hard to 'vet' guys first though.

I invited a guy, who I thought was single, to a party once. He turned up, mingled and played a bit. These parties always go on til very late, but at 11pm he said "oh sorry I'll have to shoot now ... missus thinks I'm down the pub" Poor woman ... I hope he didn't get supper when he got home!

Hence why I am investing in a bright light, a cattle prod and a chair with restraints on so that I can interrogate guys even more rigorously before party invites go out haha! "
may get more interest from guys now after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the reasons I stopped meeting guys was that I always ended up with married/attached/psychos/liars in general. I find meeting at parties and clubs so much easier as I'm really not interested in smalltalk."

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By *he Big Five OhhMan
over a year ago

bristol


"Really hard to 'vet' guys first though.

I invited a guy, who I thought was single, to a party once. He turned up, mingled and played a bit. These parties always go on til very late, but at 11pm he said "oh sorry I'll have to shoot now ... missus thinks I'm down the pub" Poor woman ... I hope he didn't get supper when he got home!

Hence why I am investing in a bright light, a cattle prod and a chair with restraints on so that I can interrogate guys even more rigorously before party invites go out haha! "

Err.... cattle prod .... mercy mercy uncle Percy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really hard to 'vet' guys first though.

I invited a guy, who I thought was single, to a party once. He turned up, mingled and played a bit. These parties always go on til very late, but at 11pm he said "oh sorry I'll have to shoot now ... missus thinks I'm down the pub" Poor woman ... I hope he didn't get supper when he got home!

Hence why I am investing in a bright light, a cattle prod and a chair with restraints on so that I can interrogate guys even more rigorously before party invites go out haha! "

And you had to kick me out as I didn't go

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

I have a titful of let downs this week. Yes there was one who had a genuine reason why he couldn't make the meet. The others just wasted my time. The fact you spend the time getting ready only to find a message not long before you're about to meet. Boils by blood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still can't think why single blokes let people down ?

They must not think very higly of others

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By *endybutthickMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

They should be thankful there getting a meet !

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By *obodys fool 69Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"Really hard to 'vet' guys first though.

I invited a guy, who I thought was single, to a party once. He turned up, mingled and played a bit. These parties always go on til very late, but at 11pm he said "oh sorry I'll have to shoot now ... missus thinks I'm down the pub" Poor woman ... I hope he didn't get supper when he got home!

Hence why I am investing in a bright light, a cattle prod and a chair with restraints on so that I can interrogate guys even more rigorously before party invites go out haha! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't judge as some have a very open relationship,take my (now) ex husband and I (reason we separated wasn't swinging) we both played together and then had separate profiles which we both agreed was ok and worked for us. Yes we are separated now but that was down to stuff outside of swinging. Don't judge all married/partnerships men as like mine he may have permission xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really hard to 'vet' guys first though.

I invited a guy, who I thought was single, to a party once. He turned up, mingled and played a bit. These parties always go on til very late, but at 11pm he said "oh sorry I'll have to shoot now ... missus thinks I'm down the pub" Poor woman ... I hope he didn't get supper when he got home!

Hence why I am investing in a bright light, a cattle prod and a chair with restraints on so that I can interrogate guys even more rigorously before party invites go out haha!

Spoils it for the genuine one's here but to play devil's advocate there is also a small percentage of married ladys here doing exactly the same. "

Spot on with this! Ive been completely open and honest with my profile and my situation which i know alot won't agree with but have still managed meets, social events etc. Problem is people just ain't bein honest enough and that goes for alot of women on here aswell.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing "

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all,

I only used to meet couples and widened my appetite so to speak and have had SO MANY single guys arrange to meet and then u hear nothing at all &/or are NO SHOWS. Don't even have decency to keep in contact with little banter going back & forth or to message with apologies if life gets in the way etc.

Shoot me BUT there are soooo many youngsters now that have jumped on the swing band wagon and treat it like a fuck fest.

Swinging isn't just sex it's abt connection, friendship and fun.

There are decent single males out there, it's finding them just same as couples. I have met a handful of lovely single guy's but have had time wasted by dbl to treble that.

It's a mindfield with time wasters in every category xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very frustrating trying to get meets as a single male, but if you go to socials and message people respectfully that's a good starting point.

Single men that don't accommodate would normally be a red flag for most I suppose so maybe have some basic checks first of that sort of thing? Just a suggestion

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By *ommo2512Man
over a year ago

Llanelli

Some of us given the chance will meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about ."

Ok but it doesn't sound like it mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!"
Majority of men on here only want a quick notch on the bedpost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are also a lot of time wasting women on here also! Start having a great conversation then nothing they stop reading your messages!

It's hard to get stared in here if your a single guy. Nobody wants anyone with out veries and nobody wants single guys!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

Ok but it doesn't sound like it mind "

what part?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


". . . Hence why I am investing in a bright light, a cattle prod and a chair with restraints on so that I can interrogate guys even more rigorously before party invites go out haha! "

. . and never forget . . . . "The Comfy Chair" too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

Ok but it doesn't sound like it mind

what part?

"

The bit when you said you have trouble getting a single bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

As a genuine single guy it pisses me off that the time wasters give us all a bad name"

It pissis me off as i find it so hard. Myself i work 12 hour shifts so can be hard. But ppl just think ur lyin. But it aint just the men its the women aswell.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

Ok but it doesn't sound like it mind

what part?

The bit when you said you have trouble getting a single bloke "

Thats right .plenty will chat. plenty will say yes to coming but most wont turn up.its not just us who experience this loads of single women and couples have.

lots of married men bail out last min maybe because of guilt or unable to see "a man about a dog" or cannot find an excuse to get away for a few hours.but couples do not want to be dictated too by men and why should they? they are offering sex for free .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

Ok but it doesn't sound like it mind

what part?

The bit when you said you have trouble getting a single bloke

Thats right .plenty will chat. plenty will say yes to coming but most wont turn up.its not just us who experience this loads of single women and couples have.

lots of married men bail out last min maybe because of guilt or unable to see "a man about a dog" or cannot find an excuse to get away for a few hours.but couples do not want to be dictated too by men and why should they? they are offering sex for free ."

Sorry didn't realise that it was just single guys that messed people around ,, thought single women and couples did also

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Why has it always got to be a bickering argument.

Maybe someone who has been swinging nearly 30 years just might have a bit more experience than someone who's been here a year or so. So might know more about the scene and who let's who down more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on this site since it started firstly as a couple then as a single fem and again as a couple, the biggest time wasters I've come across on this site has to be couples, hence why we only meet single guys they rarely let us down unlike the couples and single fems who failed to turn up at the last party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why has it always got to be a bickering argument.

Maybe someone who has been swinging nearly 30 years just might have a bit more experience than someone who's been here a year or so. So might know more about the scene and who let's who down more! "

What argument pretty certain it's a discussion and even if two or more people have different views doesn't make it an argument

Why are you always on the offensive to make something sound like it isn't ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on this site since it started firstly as a couple then as a single fem and again as a couple, the biggest time wasters I've come across on this site has to be couples, hence why we only meet single guys they rarely let us down unlike the couples and single fems who failed to turn up at the last party "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about ."

My math isn't fantastic but what you're saying is that you started swinging at the age of 17?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone likes the bash the single men!

Change the record people. Single guys have enough to compete against as it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

My math isn't fantastic but what you're saying is that you started swinging at the age of 17?"

Not the female posting it's the male and there are swingers of that age believe it or not. My first ffm was just after my 18th at Uni. Haven't looked back since.

Everyone male/female/couples has a tendency to let others down. Whether it be nerves, real life problems or just sheer fantasist that like to dream but have no intentions of actually meeting. We'll all experience it at some point. It's annoying but a fact.

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By *0sKidMan
over a year ago

Newport

Some single men might not want to turn up too parties on their own. So you can't really use that against them.

I'll just put this out there, I'm 100% single with own place. So all you ladies only after single men, inbox away!

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By *0sKidMan
over a year ago

Newport


"Some single men might not want to turn up too parties on their own. So you can't really use that against them.

I'll just put this out there, I'm 100% single with own place. So all you ladies only after single men, inbox away! "

PS just swap Facebook accounts if you have been chatting for a while. That's a good way to vet out the cheaters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!"

That's why I stopped trying to meet random strangers on here a long time ago !!!

Visiting clubs and parties then making contacts from there seems to work best at least that way it cuts out all the tedious messages and shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

My math isn't fantastic but what you're saying is that you started swinging at the age of 17?

Not the female posting it's the male and there are swingers of that age believe it or not. My first ffm was just after my 18th at Uni. Haven't looked back since.

Everyone male/female/couples has a tendency to let others down. Whether it be nerves, real life problems or just sheer fantasist that like to dream but have no intentions of actually meeting. We'll all experience it at some point. It's annoying but a fact."

We took it as it was written "we have been swinging" meaning both parties of the couple in question, we've been swinging for around six months, and we do mean we, arranging meets must of been extremely difficult before the internet was omnipotent, and extremely unappealing for a 17 year old.

We've haven't been jilted by a single man as yet, however we have been by a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

My math isn't fantastic but what you're saying is that you started swinging at the age of 17?

Not the female posting it's the male and there are swingers of that age believe it or not. My first ffm was just after my 18th at Uni. Haven't looked back since.

Everyone male/female/couples has a tendency to let others down. Whether it be nerves, real life problems or just sheer fantasist that like to dream but have no intentions of actually meeting. We'll all experience it at some point. It's annoying but a fact.

We took it as it was written "we have been swinging" meaning both parties of the couple in question, we've been swinging for around six months, and we do mean we, arranging meets must of been extremely difficult before the internet was omnipotent, and extremely unappealing for a 17 year old.

We've haven't been jilted by a single man as yet, however we have been by a couple."

why assume 6 months?any logical reason for this statment?

before the internet there were contact mags.every only genuine people put an add to print with a code number this was held by the mag owner swho had your address.each message was £5 and postage

we never had one person not turn up or mess us about. nor did anyone we knew in the scene at the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

look at it like this.

Its rude,bad mannered and selfish to waste peoples time. but thats ok in this society today.dog eat dog fuck you i'm ok jack issadly the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just seems like single men get the blame here most when as you all can see it's couples and single women also that mess people about

Just seems that single women moan about it more and us single men just accept it and move on, case in point it happened to me last week but there we go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oops sorry two in love.

did'nt read the thread properly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It just seems like single men get the blame here most when as you all can see it's couples and single women also that mess people about

Just seems that single women moan about it more and us single men just accept it and move on, case in point it happened to me last week but there we go "

definitely just as many couples have messed us about .the general rule with party organisers is if you want 20 people invite 40 or 50 its that bad !

once though we invited 50 and got 54 turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It just seems like single men get the blame here most when as you all can see it's couples and single women also that mess people about

Just seems that single women moan about it more and us single men just accept it and move on, case in point it happened to me last week but there we go

definitely just as many couples have messed us about .the general rule with party organisers is if you want 20 people invite 40 or 50 its that bad !

once though we invited 50 and got 54 turn up "

Wow 54 bet that was amazing ,, feel free to give me a shout if you only got 53 and need a 54th x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm expecting about 34 at my next party who I have invited and exchanged messages with. I don't think my house could take many more lol!

I find the best way is to invite people you know personally from the social scene .. they tend to keep to arrangements or at least keep you informed if they can't make it.

I know some people are just not interested in socials, but they really are the best way to get known so that people who want to hold house parties etc know who's who and also who mixes well with who - so that the party goes with a bang!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

My math isn't fantastic but what you're saying is that you started swinging at the age of 17?

Not the female posting it's the male and there are swingers of that age believe it or not. My first ffm was just after my 18th at Uni. Haven't looked back since.

Everyone male/female/couples has a tendency to let others down. Whether it be nerves, real life problems or just sheer fantasist that like to dream but have no intentions of actually meeting. We'll all experience it at some point. It's annoying but a fact.

We took it as it was written "we have been swinging" meaning both parties of the couple in question, we've been swinging for around six months, and we do mean we, arranging meets must of been extremely difficult before the internet was omnipotent, and extremely unappealing for a 17 year old.

We've haven't been jilted by a single man as yet, however we have been by a couple.

why assume 6 months?any logical reason for this statment?

before the internet there were contact mags.every only genuine people put an add to print with a code number this was held by the mag owner swho had your address.each message was £5 and postage

we never had one person not turn up or mess us about. nor did anyone we knew in the scene at the time. "

Unless English is not your first language then we'd think it QED that when a couple state "we" they mean both parties, unless your royalty in which case you may use the prerogative of the royal "we" surely that negates the need for an assumption.

We may have only been swinging for six months but we have been interacting with people for 45, and 47 years respectively, I believe by now we have formulated a basis to make simple character judgements, be it via contact magazines, the internet, or actual meetings, perhaps after being so long in the scene looking out you should take a fresh perspective, there have been valid points raised on this thread a good start may be to take them on board instead of shooting them down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a sex site for fuck same who gives a fuck if they are married or with somebody or single ban these little wankers who pretend to be couples and woman who are actually sad little fuckers who wank their little tiny cocks away who haven't got the bollocks to put it In a woman's pussy that's what you want to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some single men might not want to turn up too parties on their own. So you can't really use that against them.

I'll just put this out there, I'm 100% single with own place. So all you ladies only after single men, inbox away! "

astounding! have you read the post?

The single men have asked for an invite SO WHY ASK IF THEY HAVE NO INTENTION OF TURNING UP?.

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By *ojomojo79Woman
over a year ago

Swansea ish

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By *ojomojo79Woman
over a year ago

Swansea ish

I don't seem to have any problems meeting!! I feel sometimes it's me that can't meet and Im mucking them about! I prefer attached men sorry as they don't get clingy or want relationships. it is hard work sometimes with single men but it does all pay off in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

My math isn't fantastic but what you're saying is that you started swinging at the age of 17?

Not the female posting it's the male and there are swingers of that age believe it or not. My first ffm was just after my 18th at Uni. Haven't looked back since.

Everyone male/female/couples has a tendency to let others down. Whether it be nerves, real life problems or just sheer fantasist that like to dream but have no intentions of actually meeting. We'll all experience it at some point. It's annoying but a fact.

We took it as it was written "we have been swinging" meaning both parties of the couple in question, we've been swinging for around six months, and we do mean we, arranging meets must of been extremely difficult before the internet was omnipotent, and extremely unappealing for a 17 year old.

We've haven't been jilted by a single man as yet, however we have been by a couple.

why assume 6 months?any logical reason for this statment?

before the internet there were contact mags.every only genuine people put an add to print with a code number this was held by the mag owner swho had your address.each message was £5 and postage

we never had one person not turn up or mess us about. nor did anyone we knew in the scene at the time.

Unless English is not your first language then we'd think it QED that when a couple state "we" they mean both parties, unless your royalty in which case you may use the prerogative of the royal "we" surely that negates the need for an assumption.

We may have only been swinging for six months but we have been interacting with people for 45, and 47 years respectively, I believe by now we have formulated a basis to make simple character judgements, be it via contact magazines, the internet, or actual meetings, perhaps after being so long in the scene looking out you should take a fresh perspective, there have been valid points raised on this thread a good start may be to take them on board instead of shooting them down."

Don't upset the clique with common sense they get nasty

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town

And this is why I very rarely comment on threads anymore to much drama lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And this is why I very rarely comment on threads anymore to much drama lol "

Agree with you hun, I've said more than I wanted to, I just don't like ignorance, I'll leave it there now

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts. Can we stick to posts without the personal insults please. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity... As I do class myself as having some intelligence even though I am single and male, but how does one recognise a prostitute on here.... I'm sure it's not that simple.!!!

Too much generalising on this site.... It's amazing how many people don't like to be judged but love to judge themselves????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity... As I do class myself as having some intelligence even though I am single and male, but how does one recognise a prostitute on here.... I'm sure it's not that simple.!!!

Too much generalising on this site.... It's amazing how many people don't like to be judged but love to judge themselves????????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I can message you if you want and describe the give always . There are lots of women who ask for money. They have been the topic in forums countless times.

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over a year ago


"Been on this site since it started firstly as a couple then as a single fem and again as a couple, the biggest time wasters I've come across on this site has to be couples, hence why we only meet single guys they rarely let us down unlike the couples and single fems who failed to turn up at the last party "

About time we single guys had fans xx

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By *ackInBlackMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

It's one of the reasons I stopped hosting "greedy girl" nights!

It get's kinda embarrassing when you promise eight guys for a female, but only three turn up! Hence I reckon those hosting them should at least invite double the numbers that the female requires

Too many married guys or guys in a relationship on here. Loads that talk the walk big time, but when push comes to shove, cannot and will not, walk the walk.

Too many guys saying they will turn up, probs have a wank over the thought of partaking. However, their wife's or partners then won't let them out of an evening or weekend afternoon. They haven't then got the bottle or the good manners to admit or even get in touch, to say they couldn't get out.

You are mostly definitely right, I'd say eight out of ten single guys on this site, aren't infact "single"

Might help the situation if Fab actually charged people to join. I think a fair number of fantasists would drop out and leave swinging to those that wish to do it

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By *otandHard4funCouple
over a year ago

GWENT

I (Mr.Hard) am part of couple, clearly but we meet alone aswell. So far I've had 2 solo meet in the many years we've been on here. Mainly single women and couples believe that I'm sneaking out behind Mrs.Hots back, which isn't true. We both use the account and have no single profiles. I think it's even more hard work for a guy in a couple to find a solo meet! And that's my tuppence worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You playing up caz xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are difficult to meet and given that we are after a single male, that makes it doubly difficult

We always insist on a bit of messaging first and then a social meet in a public environment. Often we meet a couple of times in a public environment with no playing whatsoever on these first meets.

Also, we will only meet on Friday's and weekends.

Clearly in this scenario makes it simple to identify who is single or not Married/attached ones either can't meet, or get twitchy at closing time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are difficult to meet and given that we are after a single male, that makes it doubly difficult

We always insist on a bit of messaging first and then a social meet in a public environment. Often we meet a couple of times in a public environment with no playing whatsoever on these first meets.

Also, we will only meet on Friday's and weekends.

Clearly in this scenario makes it simple to identify who is single or not Married/attached ones either can't meet, or get twitchy at closing time

"
It's definitely the best way to meet men.genuine ones will turn up and a connection can be made.

we have a few good male friends who we meet and invite to parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but then again buck i have turned up in the past and the other couple or lady is nowhere to be seen ... fakers again ... it seems to be like that for a lot of people mate .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials. Every time...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"but then again buck i have turned up in the past and the other couple or lady is nowhere to be seen ... fakers again ... it seems to be like that for a lot of people mate . "

yea m8 it seems that an arrangement made for swinging is somehow less important to honour than any other.

The genuine people will message to say they cannot make it or call /text.

the others just don't turn up. Either they are very rude or fake.

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By *ariadcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff/Bristol

Dreamers more like lol we have had lots xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials I have found are more reliable,and safer for a single female

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By *adboy48Man
over a year ago

pontypridd

I'm single and won't ever let any one down if go on a meet this how so hard for genuine single guys to many time waster

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By *hrisy69Man
over a year ago

chester/hawarden

Is this more of an issue ion South Wales as cant see many from North Wales making comments. Oh and some of us say we are married on profiles but still come up as single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Touch wood, I haven't been let down by a single man yet.... yet... lol

My "vetting" process is quite tight though, and I've been told my profile puts a lot of men off. Which I don't think is a bad thing as only interested in meeting the people who put in a bit of effort

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By *ay rickMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Don't even think about it but hey there's always the real world lol but as for being single guy on fab if your a decent guy ul always find a few who match you to meet in my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 4 years on here I have found that the easiest way to meet single women and couples is at parties and clubs

If you hit it off then stay in touch

After a while you end up with a group of friends who you can rely on

I keep meeting and making new friends this way and don't bother trawling through the profiles as it's a mind fuck which is not what I'm after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Touch wood, I haven't been let down by a single man yet.... yet... lol

My "vetting" process is quite tight though, and I've been told my profile puts a lot of men off. Which I don't think is a bad thing as only interested in meeting the people who put in a bit of effort

"

I'd say your profile is pretty perfect: nice and descriptive, what you're looking for, and great photos. I imagine it filters out those that read it and feel they don't measure up, and those that don't read - no guilt in hitting insta-delete!

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By *.1079Man
over a year ago

caistor

These people give us genuine single guy a bad name I never let anyone down. I always arrange meets when the wife hasn't got the car.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Touch wood, I haven't been let down by a single man yet.... yet... lol

My "vetting" process is quite tight though, and I've been told my profile puts a lot of men off. Which I don't think is a bad thing as only interested in meeting the people who put in a bit of effort

I'd say your profile is pretty perfect: nice and descriptive, what you're looking for, and great photos. I imagine it filters out those that read it and feel they don't measure up, and those that don't read - no guilt in hitting insta-delete! "
why thank you! And yes, that's what I hope it does

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"These people give us genuine single guy a bad name I never let anyone down. I always arrange meets when the wife hasn't got the car."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this more of an issue ion South Wales as cant see many from North Wales making comments. Oh and some of us say we are married on profiles but still come up as single "

its only because wales is one area but north wales is 3 hours away.

maybe a better system would be distance from your location .Bristol is only 45 mins away from us but thats The South West.

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over a year ago


"we seem to see lots of complaints off single men but we all know 80% are not single.

This becomes a problem when we require a single man or 2.

Or our friends getting let down by no shows.

The usual thing is you invite a man around and the reply is (i can come around 3.30 to 5pm or I have a darts game at 8 et OR they seem to get a kick out of the messages and messing people around.

If you wife or girlfriend ain't fucking you have a wank! or pay a prostitute(you will find a few on the site if you have any intelligence )

In short if you are married or in a relationship be realistic about looking for meets and if you are lucky to get an invite turn up ffs!

So your only talking to unemployed darts players then.

Think maybe you need to vet these so called single guys a bit better first, us decent single guys are out there maybe might be worth reading some of our veris also might be a good idea

Happy fabbing

well we hae been swinging for 27 years so we have some knowledge and experience.

we have tried all ways of vetting. we have invited men to parties.(nearly all don't show) done the chat thing for days on end. and btw we met on here the mr was a successful single man here .and never messed people around.but thanks for your input.we think we have got it right after many years of being fucked about .

Ok but it doesn't sound like it mind

what part?

The bit when you said you have trouble getting a single bloke

Thats right .plenty will chat. plenty will say yes to coming but most wont turn up.its not just us who experience this loads of single women and couples have.

lots of married men bail out last min maybe because of guilt or unable to see "a man about a dog" or cannot find an excuse to get away for a few hours.but couples do not want to be dictated too by men and why should they? they are offering sex for free .

Sorry didn't realise that it was just single guys that messed people around ,, thought single women and couples did also "

If you read my original post.its about single men.I did not say that they were the Only timewasters. but as i just said this post is about single men.

we have many single male friends who we have built up a friendship with and have played as mmf many times.i Billy sytarted on here as a single man but chatted in forums and went to socials i then held a party and invited the people i met.it took a while but nothing in life comes easy.

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