FabSwingers.com forum: How to start a message?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey everyone, kinda new here, I was wondering how would I start a message? When I say Hey there, it 99% of the time gets deleted, even if I say my age, what I am and what I like, 90% deleted, so I have no idea but I am hoping if anyone knows how to start a message? Either that's the problem, or my age, or I ain't good looking haha

By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

'interested is interesting'

Try and make the message about them and not about you. Pick out a few things from their profile and use them to ask open ended questions so that there's something to reply to. Or just make some simple observations. Keep it conversational and not like an interrogation or a stalker. It shows that you've both read their profile and have a layer that's not just simply about sex.

Try not to mention anything sex-based in the opening message or suggest meeting up at all. Leave that to them. Also avoid asking how they are / how their day's been or how they're finding the site. If they're like us then they've already been asked that several times that day. Make the message subject line something eye catching and relevant to the message. 'hey / hey guys / how's u?' will usually be dismissed without trial.

Good luck!

By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Just looking at your profile, your age will obviously be a factor to some. It could be an attractive attribute or it could put some off.

The first thing people do when they get a message is to check out the profile of the sender. So if you think there's anything you can do to it to make your age work for you or at least mitigate your immaturity then do so.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you are just not what they are looking for....single men are an abundance on this site...good luck though

By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"Thank you guys this hopefully will help a lot

You're welcome! Good luck