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the social meet, a necessity or not ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey you lot, ive been thinking....dangerous I know lol

When meeting ive always liked to meet socially first, somewhere neutral where you can relax, enjoy the banter and flirting with no commitment to play. This is firstly for safety reasons, secondly its much easier to politly say no to someone in a bar or coffee shop rather than thier home if there is no connection and lastly I like the build up, excitment of what may be to come at a later date.

This is how I do things, my way...and im sure many of you do the same.......BUT after talking to some people, they think this is an unreasonable request, and more like dating than swinging.

Although I never intend on changing my approach, im just wondering how you lot play the game ?

Pinky xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree - it gives both sides ample opportunity to drop out and doesn't put any pressure on anyone. Nobody is likely to be the exact clone of their profile image when face to face, so sensible not to invite direct to a home.

As for being like dating - eh? Four faults and a refusal, got to explain the logic on that one! I would love to see anyone turning up with flowers, wine and chocolates to a swinging meet!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmmmm flowers , wine and chocolates lol

Condoms, toys and lube isnt it lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep condoms wine or vodka and lube for a play meet is always good to turn up with and always do a social meet first as it does give you the option to opt out on further meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds perfectly reasonable to me pink play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shut up thinking pink and get your arse round to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spot on pinky hun xx socialy 1st to see if you click then play xx safety too especialy if youre a single fem .

if people find it unreasonable TUFF!! let them go elsewhere. now get youre ass over here and picmk mrs devs up on the way

A.S.XXXXX

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By *ust JoanWoman
over a year ago

caerphilly

We play exactly the same way Pink, you can talk to some1 for ages on a computer and get on really well with them, then meet in real life to find they are a completely different person to the one oyu been chatting to online. So for us that coffee meet is the most important meet of all, like you say, if there no chemestry there socially, how there going to be chemestry in the bedroom?

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

Well the ppl that we have played with have come highly recommended in th first place tbh so most of them baa the proper odd 1 we have played with on the first date so to speak, mind you we have done alot ov chat cam with cpls first so we know the score and what they look like and it does help that weve been lucky enuff to have had a good run of proper hot cpls so weve not been dissapointed but like i said baa for the 1 and that all went very strangly but for those of you that know me know that i wouldent have any problem at all in pulling the plug on a meet at all in any inviroment if the cpl/cpls wernt for us coz for me as in anything honesty is the best policy but what i hate is when you do decide thats its a no go the other cpl/cpls than ask why and me being me again would give an honest answer please or fend and if they dont like the answer well dont ask stupid questions inni lol coz if somthing not happening its for a reason and no thanx should be good enuff but like i said ,if they wanted the truth id have no problem whatsoevr telling them what they want to know but thats me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honesty is the best policy but anyone asking why you dont want too isnt a stupid question if somebody said to me no thankyou i would want to know why in case its summit that might get in the way of the next potential meet so i could put whatever was wrong right if you know what i mean at the end of the day everybodys tastes and sexual preferences are different if they not for you well let them down gently be polite and respectful and try to please never offend S

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!


"honesty is the best policy but anyone asking why you dont want too isnt a stupid question if somebody said to me no thankyou i would want to know why in case its summit that might get in the way of the next potential meet so i could put whatever was wrong right if you know what i mean at the end of the day everybodys tastes and sexual preferences are different if they not for you well let them down gently be polite and respectful and try to please never offend S "

Yes i would agree but there are ppl out there that want to know why and exactly why you dont want to progress with the meet and saying that your just not for us ,sometimes just dont go with them they want more so then you can only be as polite as poss before it becomes unpolite due to the specifics they wat to know ie,they could be too fat ,too thin,down right ugly,smelly or too hairy or even decietfull by putting piks up ov they better days that was 10 yrs before ,so what do you say to those ppl and how do you sau it properly as not to insult them???? your not for us should really be appropriate we think coz being left to explain your self can be imbarassing and uncomfurtablle which isnt what any1 wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always like to meet socially.

People can differ from pics, and you need to get on with them.

We're not into the turn up and f**k regardless type of scene others have - we're very fussy with whom we play with, and if there is no connection on a social level or no attraction then it's not going to happen.

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By *ldbut_shagableMan
over a year ago

Pembroke Dock

Well to be truthfull I have no idea what you lot talking about. maybe its me, but ive already worked out what kinda poeple they are and if I wanna have any body contact (ok sex) with them before I (or in the past We) ever get to the meeting part. phone calls,webcams,photos and how they interact in the chat room tells me almost every thing i need to know. the only thing it dont tell me is if they smell or not lol. but as already mentioned to each thier own, I do agree that single ladys have to be careful as I would hate to see any of them hurt, but after all we are swingers and its just sex. If after the first time things dont go right then you just dont meet them again, what im trying to say is even after a social meet. you then meet again and theres no buzz in the bedroom, what a waste. so far touch wood I/we been lucky had a few bad meets but all in all had some bloody great ones and still meeting them. but to end. If you dont really click in the room. dont ask for a meet. I'm hearing more and more of meets being made but not turning up and that in my book is a big no no and people should bewarned about couples or singles that do that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have had a social meet and no play and i find it brilliant as you get to find out so much more about a person and why you are both there . if play is for another time it makes it all the more interesting as you feel that you know the person rather than just a shag to put it bluntly .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Alf, easy for you to say you would call time on a meet if things were not right....how do u think it would be for a lady on her own up against another couple, man or even another fem ? X

Old, I can see your point, espc the scoping out in chat; but still prefer my way x

Everyone else....good to see im not asking too much lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PMSL!!!!!!!!!!!!! pinky xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmmm I've yet to have a coffee meet lol I must be a right slapper!

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!


"Alf, easy for you to say you would call time on a meet if things were not right....how do u think it would be for a lady on her own up against another couple, man or even another fem ? X

Old, I can see your point, espc the scoping out in chat; but still prefer my way x

Everyone else....good to see im not asking too much lol x"

Pinky i couldent agree with you more by there hun ,i can imagine how difficult it may be for a sexy single lady such as you self to call time on a meet and how daunting it may be to go meet new cpls/singles but the trick is ,cum to us lol because we dont do daunting we do relaxing and laid back sexual pleasure ,we aim to ease ,tease them please lol ,if we get more laid back we be sleeping on our feet ha ha but they all cant be us cool lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had a few coffee meets when i was on here as a single fem they all ended up in the bedroom though, so dont see the point myself,and if i didnt like anyone i met i found it really easy to tell them it was never going to happen everyone i met knew from the start that i was in controll and whatever i said goes simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey you lot, ive been thinking....dangerous I know lol

When meeting ive always liked to meet socially first, somewhere neutral where you can relax, enjoy the banter and flirting with no commitment to play. This is firstly for safety reasons, secondly its much easier to politly say no to someone in a bar or coffee shop rather than thier home if there is no connection and lastly I like the build up, excitment of what may be to come at a later date.

This is how I do things, my way...and im sure many of you do the same.......BUT after talking to some people, they think this is an unreasonable request, and more like dating than swinging.

Although I never intend on changing my approach, im just wondering how you lot play the game ?

Pinky xx"

We couldn't agree with you enough. We always say 'if people don't want to meet socially then they ain't worth having sex with'.

Due to time restrictions some cpls can't meet socially so there is always an exception to the rule but we try hard to live by the rule.

On the flip side we've met cpls several times socially then they've turned out to be nutters so it can go tits up both ways I suppose but social meets are still the way forward xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its good to see that most of us enjoy the social side to swinging too...and why not I say, ive made sone great friends and fab acquaintances here

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