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"I have done the polite thing and messaged to say "no thank you" to get abusive messages in return or messages asking me why I said "no thank you" So now if I have a message from someone who I'm not interested in it just delete the message. I think that may be what a lot of other females do too. Just the way we manage our profiles. Best to just move on and forget about the ones who haven't replied" 
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"Maybe expecting politeness is too much. I will lower my expectations." We have to say that far too many couples and perhaps even more solo-females do use the blocking feature too easily . . we'll leave it to others to decide if it's because they're lazy or simply inconsiderate or rude. Blocking should be used for specific reasons not because the recipient has got a message they couldn't be bothered to reply to . . if, of course, they actually took the time to even fully read it. Sadly - yes - you may need to lower your expectations  . . . but NEVER lower your enthusiasm and principles.  | |||
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"I reply every single mail i recieve even if its just a "No Thanks"" & you'd have the time to reply to all the messages a single female gets everyday, there's a block button for reason. If a person is not for me I block & delete the message so there's no confusion on either side. The delete is your answer 'not interested' & the block prevents the needy responses that women get all the time; 'why, what's your type' etc. Very rarely do the men here accept a polite no thanks, more often than not you get abuse in return. How are we to know you're any different & why does this method make us rude or impolite? I call it self preservation & we're prioritising our own self esteem X | |||
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"Maybe expecting politeness is too much. I will lower my expectations. We have to say that far too many couples and perhaps even more solo-females do use the blocking feature too easily . . we'll leave it to others to decide if it's because they're lazy or simply inconsiderate or rude. Blocking should be used for specific reasons not because the recipient has got a message they couldn't be bothered to reply to . . if, of course, they actually took the time to even fully read it. Sadly - yes - you may need to lower your expectations . . . but NEVER lower your enthusiasm and principles. "I am most certainly not lazy, rude or inconsiderate, but I do think it's unreasonable of people to see a response from a stranger as their right, it's not about lowering expectations, it's about respecting a person's right to run their profile in a way that suits them. I wasn't aware that there was a designated use for the block button, maybe you could signpost me to those rules X | |||
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"Maybe expecting politeness is too much. I will lower my expectations. We have to say that far too many couples and perhaps even more solo-females do use the blocking feature too easily . . we'll leave it to others to decide if it's because they're lazy or simply inconsiderate or rude. Blocking should be used for specific reasons not because the recipient has got a message they couldn't be bothered to reply to . . if, of course, they actually took the time to even fully read it. Sadly - yes - you may need to lower your expectations . . . but NEVER lower your enthusiasm and principles. "The block feature should be used however each user wishes to, not how you think they should | |||
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"Maybe expecting politeness is too much. I will lower my expectations." I think you need to not take it so personally, girls and couples get tons of messages on here and sometimes it's just easier for them to click block to stop any repetitive messages. Save your time stressing over it and focus your search elsewhere it will bring you more success | |||
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"Unfortunately the block button is used to save single women and couples the harassment and degradation that comes when you've tried the "sorry not for us" reply. However if single women replied to every filthy piece of mail they get off some single men then that would make them pretty bereft to say the least. Take it on the chin fella and move on.....simples!!!" I have considered giving up my job so I can sit here all day & be polite to everyone x | |||
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"Blocking is a blunt tool, but I use it on rude profiles, those that are not interested in me or what I want, and of course the ones that regular post statuses that shows off their poor life skills.... "Poor life skills, great way to put it & yep, that's the main reason I block x | |||
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"Blocking is a blunt tool, but I use it on rude profiles, those that are not interested in me or what I want, and of course the ones that regular post statuses that shows off their poor life skills....
Poor life skills, great way to put it & yep, that's the main reason I block x" | |||
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"I jave just sent a mail to a female whom i found very interesting and very sexy. I took the time to type a decent mail (not copynpaste) and without a single word of a reply she blocked me? I didnt say anything defamatory infact i was complimentary! What chance do guys here have if after taking time to contact women they dont even bother to reply. I thinks its rude and very very ignorant! " She blocked you because she can, some use it as a tool to limit who can view them, others as a tool to reduce those that are not suitable from showing on a search, she may have had other reasons. Don't get bent out of shape about it, if you are miffed after one knockback, you aren't going to last long on here lol!  | |||
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"I totally agree with you buddy. After taking time to send a nice , complimentary message, the very least they could do is say a polite NO THANKS....at least then you wouldnt have to mail them again ....May like yourself, my expectations are too high...." Go read site FAQs......a deleted msg should be taken as a no thanks/not interested. If you saw some of the drivel we have to put up with on a daily basis you'd delete too. | |||
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"I totally agree with you buddy. After taking time to send a nice , complimentary message, the very least they could do is say a polite NO THANKS....at least then you wouldnt have to mail them again ....May like yourself, my expectations are too high.... Go read site FAQs......a deleted msg should be taken as a no thanks/not interested. If you saw some of the drivel we have to put up with on a daily basis you'd delete too." | |||
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"I totally agree with you buddy. After taking time to send a nice , complimentary message, the very least they could do is say a polite NO THANKS....at least then you wouldnt have to mail them again ....May like yourself, my expectations are too high.... Go read site FAQs......a deleted msg should be taken as a no thanks/not interested. If you saw some of the drivel we have to put up with on a daily basis you'd delete too. "Let's face it some people have sensitive egos & the rules of Fab or life just don't seem to apply to them, they require a little more stroking; my motto for strangers like this, fuck em my sanity is more important to me than your ego X | |||
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"I totally agree with you buddy. After taking time to send a nice , complimentary message, the very least they could do is say a polite NO THANKS....at least then you wouldnt have to mail them again ....May like yourself, my expectations are too high...." I disagree!! The amount of times I have politely replied a no thanks. Then 2/3 days later that same person sends another message asking to meet again. I just find it easier to block!! Saves time for us both!! | |||
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"I totally agree with you buddy. After taking time to send a nice , complimentary message, the very least they could do is say a polite NO THANKS....at least then you wouldnt have to mail them again ....May like yourself, my expectations are too high...." Would you send 20 or 30 "no thanks" messages every day though? | |||
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"Have to say we seem to have been lucky with offensive messages. If someone takes the time to write a decent message, if we have the time, which is not all that often. We will reply . Even if to say sorry no. Generally not replying to the usual effortless message does the trick. But if it doesn't then we block. We also block anyone who messages us who has made themselves appear an obvious idiot/waste of space on the forum. But we agree with some of the comments. It's your profile block who you want. Haven't seen any legislation to say otherwise."
Surely those who use this site are primarily here to meet others and that takes COMMUNICATION skills . . simply blocking those who invest some of their time in contacting you "because you can" truly sends them, and others, a clear message as to the quality of YOUR communication skills . . doesn't it?
When we said there should be a specific reason for using the block it's interesting that those whose communication skills including blocking have mistaken this as some kind of rule? No . . never said that.
Those who enjoy using the blocking feature should note clearly that it takes only the same effort to hit DELETE instead . . and you don't even need to read the message that has offended you. Most enquirers will note your actions and not try again . . .
. . . but if they do, and we've had them too, then you still have the option to sin bin them by blocking? | |||
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"I totally agree with you buddy. After taking time to send a nice , complimentary message, the very least they could do is say a polite NO THANKS....at least then you wouldnt have to mail them again ....May like yourself, my expectations are too high...." We VERY obviously agree with you and one small change that @Admin may wish to consider is to include in the messaging system a simple "one-click" option found on a popular US based contact site? When receiving messages with them you have your "one click" options beneath and that includes the system sending a polite "Thanks but no thanks" response on your behalf. Easy and efficient. COMMUNICATION . . remember that is what this site is based upon . . communication. | |||
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"Have to say we seem to have been lucky with offensive messages. If someone takes the time to write a decent message, if we have the time, which is not all that often. We will reply . Even if to say sorry no. Generally not replying to the usual effortless message does the trick. But if it doesn't then we block. We also block anyone who messages us who has made themselves appear an obvious idiot/waste of space on the forum. But we agree with some of the comments. It's your profile block who you want. Haven't seen any legislation to say otherwise.
Surely those who use this site are primarily here to meet others and that takes COMMUNICATION skills . . simply blocking those who invest some of their time in contacting you "because you can" truly sends them, and others, a clear message as to the quality of YOUR communication skills . . doesn't it?
When we said there should be a specific reason for using the block it's interesting that those whose communication skills including blocking have mistaken this as some kind of rule? No . . never said that.
Those who enjoy using the blocking feature should note clearly that it takes only the same effort to hit DELETE instead . . and you don't even need to read the message that has offended you. Most enquirers will note your actions and not try again . . .
. . . but if they do, and we've had them too, then you still have the option to sin bin them by blocking?"My communication skills are perfectly adequate thank you, the use of the block button had little to do with any of my skills to be honest, nor anyone else's. You mention the investment of time, that's your time to give & it's not for you to attach requirements to what you choose to do, you choose to message a profile it's not within your power of choice to require a reply, that's the receivers choice. I fail to see how you're entitled to have a choice but those of us who block are judged for exercising our right to choose. To be honest our method has no effect on the development of many positive relationships over the years, those who we do choose to communicate with know us to be nice, polite & very articulate people. Me, Peachy, is just a little intolerant & doesn't give much of a fuck about the sensibilities of strangers X | |||
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"Have to say we seem to have been lucky with offensive messages. If someone takes the time to write a decent message, if we have the time, which is not all that often. We will reply . Even if to say sorry no. Generally not replying to the usual effortless message does the trick. But if it doesn't then we block. We also block anyone who messages us who has made themselves appear an obvious idiot/waste of space on the forum. But we agree with some of the comments. It's your profile block who you want. Haven't seen any legislation to say otherwise.
Surely those who use this site are primarily here to meet others and that takes COMMUNICATION skills . . simply blocking those who invest some of their time in contacting you "because you can" truly sends them, and others, a clear message as to the quality of YOUR communication skills . . doesn't it?
When we said there should be a specific reason for using the block it's interesting that those whose communication skills including blocking have mistaken this as some kind of rule? No . . never said that.
Those who enjoy using the blocking feature should note clearly that it takes only the same effort to hit DELETE instead . . and you don't even need to read the message that has offended you. Most enquirers will note your actions and not try again . . .
. . . but if they do, and we've had them too, then you still have the option to sin bin them by blocking?"I have used the delete button on many occasions but that does not deter the majority of resending or sending several messages after deletion. The block button sends a clear message.... not interested and that is a form of communicating that I am not interested in someone. I don't see why it is such a big deal. The fact I won't be interested in someone won't change, so to avoid confusion, I block them  | |||
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"I jave just sent a mail to a female whom i found very interesting and very sexy. I took the time to type a decent mail (not copynpaste) and without a single word of a reply she blocked me? I didnt say anything defamatory infact i was complimentary! What chance do guys here have if after taking time to contact women they dont even bother to reply. I thinks its rude and very very ignorant! " What chance do guys get with women who don't fancy the look of them? Same as men in the real world. Fuck all chance. If she liked you she'd have responded. Pretty obvious to me. If she didn't respond, and just deleted the message I reckon I'd be able to work out that she is clearly not interested in my ding a ling going anywhere near her.... What's also revealing is you think you are entitled to someone's time because you typed out a message. | |||
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"I jave just sent a mail to a female whom i found very interesting and very sexy. I took the time to type a decent mail (not copynpaste) and without a single word of a reply she blocked me? I didnt say anything defamatory infact i was complimentary! What chance do guys here have if after taking time to contact women they dont even bother to reply. I thinks its rude and very very ignorant! What chance do guys get with women who don't fancy the look of them? Same as men in the real world. Fuck all chance. If she liked you she'd have responded. Pretty obvious to me. If she didn't respond, and just deleted the message I reckon I'd be able to work out that she is clearly not interested in my ding a ling going anywhere near her.... What's also revealing is you think you are entitled to someone's time because you typed out a message. " I have also found that when I politely reply to a message, the recipient automatically assumes that I want to fuck them. Then I get abuse for leading them on.... we cannot win!! Reply or don't reply, it's always wrong depending on the individuals opinion. | |||
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"I jave just sent a mail to a female whom i found very interesting and very sexy. I took the time to type a decent mail (not copynpaste) and without a single word of a reply she blocked me? I didnt say anything defamatory infact i was complimentary! What chance do guys here have if after taking time to contact women they dont even bother to reply. I thinks its rude and very very ignorant! What chance do guys get with women who don't fancy the look of them? Same as men in the real world. Fuck all chance. If she liked you she'd have responded. Pretty obvious to me. If she didn't respond, and just deleted the message I reckon I'd be able to work out that she is clearly not interested in my ding a ling going anywhere near her.... What's also revealing is you think you are entitled to someone's time because you typed out a message. I have also found that when I politely reply to a message, the recipient automatically assumes that I want to fuck them. Then I get abuse for leading them on.... we cannot win!! Reply or don't reply, it's always wrong depending on the individuals opinion." Omg are you telling me that the polite thanks but no thanks isn't a coded message saying Cum fuck all my holes NOW  I'm devastated, that means sexy Miss P really doesn't want me  | |||
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"I jave just sent a mail to a female whom i found very interesting and very sexy. I took the time to type a decent mail (not copynpaste) and without a single word of a reply she blocked me? I didnt say anything defamatory infact i was complimentary! What chance do guys here have if after taking time to contact women they dont even bother to reply. I thinks its rude and very very ignorant! What chance do guys get with women who don't fancy the look of them? Same as men in the real world. Fuck all chance. If she liked you she'd have responded. Pretty obvious to me. If she didn't respond, and just deleted the message I reckon I'd be able to work out that she is clearly not interested in my ding a ling going anywhere near her.... What's also revealing is you think you are entitled to someone's time because you typed out a message. I have also found that when I politely reply to a message, the recipient automatically assumes that I want to fuck them. Then I get abuse for leading them on.... we cannot win!! Reply or don't reply, it's always wrong depending on the individuals opinion." That's the things with opinions; they can be discarded.. I reply to those that me and Cath are interested in m, which isn't many seeing as 99% are really unappealing..Most get a delete without even reading the message unless there's a pic attached. We are not here to worry about the feelings of those we have zero interest in meeting or chatting with just because they took some time to write something . Fuck em, I ain't got the time to reply to everyone , and even if I did I wouldn't as I have much better things to do. | |||
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"Im surprised by the response to be honest. Im here to make friends aswell as swinging so im going to carry on replying to every mail i recieve cos i like to be friendly. Thats just me. I appreciate we arent all the same." But you are also a single male so you probably get one message a month if you are lucky as opposed to hundreds a day. If you want I'll hire you to politely say no to99.9% of the ugly fuckers who message us. I have to go to work and stuff.. it gets in the way of being friendly | |||
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"Im surprised by the response to be honest. Im here to make friends aswell as swinging so im going to carry on replying to every mail i recieve cos i like to be friendly. Thats just me. I appreciate we arent all the same." I'm friendly too. Just I'm not a sympathy service, I'm here to chat to and meet people who interest me not just any fucker who messages. My free time is very limited and is precious to me. Doesn't make you any better or more of a friendly person | |||
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"Like I've said before, I wish I didn't have to go to work everyday because then I'd have the time to be a polite, considerate, give a fuck about the whole world population kind of person. But sadly it's not an option so that's my defense for being a poor comminicating, lazy, inconsiderate, impolite person with no manners. You know what? If a stranger approached me in the street with half the drivel they ask here I'd call the police & they'd be arrested, I certainly wouldn't be expected to politely reply & let them down gently. Think on that one you over sensitive needy fabsters. Have a good day now X" Meanie  | |||
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If the answer is yes to any of those then that's probably why they blocked you without replying. If the answer to the above is no then maybe you're not their type and they wanted to save the hassle of explaining as stated above a few times. Either way I wouldn't let it play on your mind too much. Just enjoy your time with someone else  | |||
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"Like I've said before, I wish I didn't have to go to work everyday because then I'd have the time to be a polite, considerate, give a fuck about the whole world population kind of person. But sadly it's not an option so that's my defense for being a poor comminicating, lazy, inconsiderate, impolite person with no manners. You know what? If a stranger approached me in the street with half the drivel they ask here I'd call the police & they'd be arrested, I certainly wouldn't be expected to politely reply & let them down gently. Think on that one you over sensitive needy fabsters. Have a good day now X Meanie "Grumpy.harumph | |||
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"I totally agree with you buddy. After taking time to send a nice , complimentary message, the very least they could do is say a polite NO THANKS....at least then you wouldnt have to mail them again ....May like yourself, my expectations are too high.... I disagree!! The amount of times I have politely replied a no thanks. Then 2/3 days later that same person sends another message asking to meet again. I just find it easier to block!! Saves time for us both!! " I quite happily accept a 'sorry not interested' A delete with no reply, meh! Wasn't too happy with the 'no fucking chance' Well that was just rude, I didn't lose any sleep though  | |||
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