FabSwingers.com forum: Knowing your limits

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

pmsl yes its me again!!! lol but i have need of some input from u guys lol.

While we are not new to the site pmsl we are still learning how we are in certain play situations.... wat i am trying to get to in my duhhhh way is how do u know wat ur limits are??

The one thing i am worried about is getting into a situation and playing shagging wateva lol and then u end up arguing about it after (alway kiss and make up after mind u mmmmm lol ) but it is my one concern.

I want us to experience and enjoy as much as possible but worried about any after affects. Axxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

okay bit worried now i put that on!!!!! pmsl be nice please i am a softie lol xxx

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By *aidinwalesWoman
over a year ago

Rainbows End

I think your limits start when you start to feel uncomfortable about something and then is the time to stop and take time to think through what makes you uncomfortable. You may find you can push these limits and boundaries - you may feel you cant - thats personal choice and everyone is different. In a couple I think you both need to talk to each other about what your own limits are and what each of your expectations are and see if you can find a middle ground. Its no good going like a bull at a gate because its what you want if its going to cause a rift between you - at the end of the day your relationship is far more important than that.

Anyway - thats my thoughts on the matter lol

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Easy one this.

Talk.

Just chat about what might transpire in play situations, and how you both feel about it.

Only you know how you might feel about certain things... some couples will not kiss others, some dont let male play partners cum in the female's mouth, others keep anal for their own play, and the list goes on lol.

This subject has come up in the other forums, and by far the biggest cause of falling out between couples during play is if one partner does something with someone else that they never do with their own partner, for example if the female has always refused to try anal with her partner, but lets a male playmate do it.

We had "rules" when we started, but as time has past, they have become more like guidelines, and how we play is more dependant on the general "mood" of the party or meet.

Bottom line, you two will know what you like and dont like, and between you it should be easy to narrow down those "red flags" that might cause problems.

And, if you are playing and a situation arises that gives you cause to pause, then if necessary stop play and go and chat about it, no amount of swinging is worth risking your relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You must be sure of each others limits and abide by them at that time as it is meant to be fun , if you want to do more do it next time after agreeing

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