FabSwingers.com forum: Members with over a year on site and no meets

By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

Should they always be avoided or can they sometimes be a Gem inside a lump of coal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should they always be avoided or can they sometimes be a Gem inside a lump of coal?"

I believe everyone deserves a chance. Unfortunately, you give them the option and they tend to always have an excuse.

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

I've tried one or two and they always dissappear and go cold. Wondering if I should just igore them from now on? What do other people do?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I'm all for giving someone a chance to settle in, get a feel for Fab, and decide if swinging is something they want to do, but 12 months is excessive.

For some, shift work, childcare, illness and cost may be an issue, but even then 12 months is still too long.

If we get contacted by a profile like this, we give them 1 chance to prove they are genuine, by offering them my number so they can ring and withhold theirs, no risk to them, .... to date, in 7 years I've probably made this offer three or four times a year.... only one person has rung.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore. If they're not proactive on the site, then they won't be proactive in bed, that's my view.

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By *orgie_GavinCouple
over a year ago

Rhondda Fach

"I ignore. If they're not proactive on the site, then they won't be proactive in bed, that's my view."

I like that, made me lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ignore. If they're not proactive on the site, then they won't be proactive in bed, that's my view."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ignore. If they're not proactive on the site, then they won't be proactive in bed, that's my view."

So very true x

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

"I ignore. If they're not proactive on the site, then they won't be proactive in bed, that's my view."

That's the way I feel about it. But im still left with that feeling that I'm passing over a Gem

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By *rsbrooksandjohnCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Both been here now for over a year and to be honest have had a few meets at socials but not really found what and who we are looking for. So no play meets

Happyto chat with people but it seems necause we haven t played people are not interested or is our opinion wrong

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

"Both been here now for over a year and to be honest have had a few meets at socials but not really found what and who we are looking for. So no play meets

Happyto chat with people but it seems necause we haven t played people are not interested or is our opinion wrong "
you do have good verifications from genuinely good people who are on here so I don't think you should have to worry about what others think , after all it is only an opinion

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By *handi83Man
over a year ago

Right here

I think it depends as a single male, it's a lot of hard work to get a meet, I've arranged a few and had couples and single females just go cold.

It is about effort. Its about patience. It is a bit tiresome to. However it's all worth the wait. I've had more meets than my current veris say or suggest. But it's not the scouts. It's about the whole experience.

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By *onzo101Man
over a year ago

Talbot Green

All depends I guess. I was a registered member on here for ages before I even thought about seeking a meet with anyone. It just takes someone to take a leap of faith to get you verified and then it all works out ok.

On the other hand...damn lurkers !

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By *elsh and welsherCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

I was on hear a while b4 I became Welsh and welsher with Jules.. Always polite etc, Didant have one meet , few chats etc .. Just so hard for single male!!

( I not a bad lad I don't think)

I had this conversation with a single male up Chams other week saying how hard it is for him ..

We have met few new single males..

We all human X

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town

"I was on hear a while b4 I became Welsh and welsher with Jules.. Always polite etc, Didant have one meet , few chats etc .. Just so hard for single male!!

( I not a bad lad I don't think)

I had this conversation with a single male up Chams other week saying how hard it is for him ..

We have met few new single males..

We all human X "

Even me with all the veri's and the socials i go to find it very hard to get a meet i very rarely even send msgs anymore because hardly anyone reply's and as for getting msg's well i normally get that one that says thank you for renewing lol

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By *unnynbugs OP Couple
over a year ago

Neath

"I was on hear a while b4 I became Welsh and welsher with Jules.. Always polite etc, Didant have one meet , few chats etc .. Just so hard for single male!!

( I not a bad lad I don't think)

I had this conversation with a single male up Chams other week saying how hard it is for him ..

We have met few new single males..

We all human X

Awwww that's so sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can be hard for singles to get veri's, not nice going to a social alone, no one wants to meet you because you've no veri's, there is people on here that dont want to meet, I seen some who just use fab to moan about things or just to have a go at people in forum and on status, just to make themselves look wounded, wanting people to feel sorry for them, and thats just the women lol

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By *itrightnowMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Yeah its hard to meet girls and couples us good guys just need a chance to prove we are good and nice. Cross my fingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on here for sometime now still no veries reply to meets get no reply post meets for socials no replys.there is just nobody who are interested in meeting males with no veries. I not nocking that but a simple no thanks would be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The normal advice would be to get along to one of the many socials you need no veris for....all posted in forums ie the SINGLES and DAYTIME socials.

You need no veris for Chams either ( just £100 or so).

And some private parties will also allow to to pop along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can be hard for singles to get veri's, not nice going to a social alone, no one wants to meet you because you've no veri's, there is people on here that dont want to meet, I seen some who just use fab to moan about things or just to have a go at people in forum and on status, just to make themselves look wounded, wanting people to feel sorry for them, and thats just the women lol"

So, so true X

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By *uttytrukerMan
over a year ago

newport

"Should they always be avoided or can they sometimes be a Gem inside a lump of coal?"

was on here for about 5 years before i got any meets even after going to socials and chams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's me but still trying x

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We only have 1 veri. We tend to meet in clubs as it's not easy sorting through people who wish to genuinely meet privately and those who are messing about for whatever reasons. We are very willing to meet if asked nicely.

Just because a person has few/no veris doesn't mean they are fake. Some of us have busy lives and don't do this full time, week in week out

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

I dont think that many do this full time week in/out.. but as someone who has tried to get to know the types being discussed, I've never found there to be much point. If you want something bad enough then you make time for it, busy life or not.. most of us have that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well to be honest.. i have more trouble on here than anywhere.. if i go out ill get something.. on here, like trying to get shit out of a rocking horse lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bunnyhugs.. id say yeah you could be passing a gem.. because if they anything like me they would be horny as fuck.. i prob got one of the highest sex drives on here, this shits sex addict.. n i only been here a week.. so a year fuck me.. :S lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We only have 1 veri. We tend to meet in clubs as it's not easy sorting through people who wish to genuinely meet privately and those who are messing about for whatever reasons. We are very willing to meet if asked nicely.

Just because a person has few/no veris doesn't mean they are fake. Some of us have busy lives and don't do this full time, week in week out

This so true i been on here for about a year with this profile and another one that i had. But its so hard when you work alot hours and you have personal life it gets in the way. But its so much harder for men on here as there are so many on here. And the ones that are fake spoil it for the people who genuine. Most of the women i msg tend to delete your message without even looking at your profile. Or dont even read your message.

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

"well to be honest.. i have more trouble on here than anywhere.. if i go out ill get something.. on here, like trying to get shit out of a rocking horse lmao"

So why stay on here then? Swinging isn't only about the sex and having as much as you can get. It's about friendship, being sociable and connecting with people. The majority of us on here work and have other commitments which can put constraints on our time. That's why we take our time when we consider who we would like to meet when we do have time away from our everyday life

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

"well to be honest.. i have more trouble on here than anywhere.. if i go out ill get something.. on here, like trying to get shit out of a rocking horse lmao

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very well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has a person who did meet Ive now gone into a new phase of my life.... There need to have something more and find a new partner is stronger than the need of meaningless sex.... Im always honest and explain that Im not currently meeting just like the forums... Even my profile says retired... Does this mean I dont have a place on fab? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No dont think anyones saying that babe, if its on your profile, no one can say anything..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has a person who did meet Ive now gone into a new phase of my life.... There need to have something more and find a new partner is stronger than the need of meaningless sex.... Im always honest and explain that Im not currently meeting just like the forums... Even my profile says retired... Does this mean I dont have a place on fab? X

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yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont agree.. that would be like saying all the women that turn men down on here, have no place on here, for being time wasters, :S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh i didn't realise that mesage was to me.. no need of that is it, tell me what part of my message i said it was just about sex, and any part of the message i was moaning.. i weren't i was giving an opinion that is all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look on the bright side you already have your partner and from your profile you are happy today.... Now imagine if you were on your own with no one to come home too... Would it be the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as they have already so kindly put it.. its about friends not just sex :S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont agree.. that would be like saying all the women that turn men down on here, have no place on here, for being time wasters, :S"

there's a huge difference in someone turning down a meet and being on here and having no intention to meet .If you don't meet you are NOT a swinger .why be on here? there's loads of places to go for a chat. be it real life eg pubs. or cyber but if more people use the site as a way of meeting for dare i say it sex! the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are lots of people on here who have met people before.. an no longer meet, i only been here just over a week, an iv met a good few.. not mentioning names, an some are regulars..

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