FabSwingers.com forum: Would you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are an awful lot of people on here that protect their anonimity without reserve, then there are others that dont. I guess what I am asking is would it really bother you if all information of the adventures you've had in the swinging scene became public knowledge? I myself wouldn't, I'm not ashamed of it, my family know anyhow, and there is at least one other couple I can call to mind that are open with all about their lifestyle choice, and others that would cringe at the thought altough they are not ashamed of swinging either. So where do you sit, and why?

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By *iggers4uCouple
over a year ago

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Dont think that its embarrassment makes us want to remain anonymous; its just the ignorance of 'vanilla's' who assume that swingers are the deviants......... yet they find it socially acceptable to cheat on their partners etc etc. Its easier for them not to know rather than make incorrect assumptions and treat us as lepers.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dont think that its embarrassment makes us want to remain anonymous; its just the ignorance of 'vanilla's' who assume that swingers are the deviants......... yet they find it socially acceptable to cheat on their partners etc etc. Its easier for them not to know rather than make incorrect assumptions and treat us as lepers.....

But don't you find swinging becomming more socially acceptable? There has definatley been an increase of telivised discussions on it, personaly I believe that it's the secrativeness that makes anything appear sleazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are televised discussions of child abuse and serial killers, amongst other things. That doesn't make them socially acceptable.

Most of my pals and younger family members know what I get up to. I don't see any point in possibly distressing older folks with such info.

That said, if I were asked outright - I wouldn't lie about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'd be interesting and informative if anyone responding to this thread from a couples profile indicated whether they're the male or female half.

I suspect there's still a difference in how the genders will respond.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are televised discussions of child abuse and serial killers, amongst other things. That doesn't make them socially acceptable.

Most of my pals and younger family members know what I get up to. I don't see any point in possibly distressing older folks with such info.

That said, if I were asked outright - I wouldn't lie about it."

Bit of a bizzare leap equating swinging with child abuse or serial killers, I dont think either of these will ever become socially acceptable. I can see swinging getting there though, may be me rose tinted specs I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was using those two as examples of the fact that merely having been discussed on tv doesn't automatically bring respectability.

I used child abuse and serial killing as examples because a lot of people see swinging in an similarly deviant light.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It'd be interesting and informative if anyone responding to this thread from a couples profile indicated whether they're the male or female half.

I suspect there's still a difference in how the genders will respond."

Now there lies an interesting factor, I started the thread as it was a matter Nessa and I were discussing, I wont dare to illustrate her views simply because I value my testicles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people are happy to be open about it with people they know are accepting and positive about such things, or even with strangers who's view/oppinionated arnt important. But they wouldn't want it to become an issue that needed discussing with parents / kids / family / or friends that might not be of same views. What goes on behind closed doors (or in certain car parks lol) is just the business of those partaking, and those who have same interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We as time went on and being regulars in a very nosey pub lol decided best thing was too stop any gossip too tell who needed too know from the start ,most were gutted coz cdnt make anything up coz we never denied it lol ,only prob was we cdnt meet or take any of our meets too our local for a drink coz people would assume if they were with us then they were swingers lol.Most our friends know only really close family members dnt but we deff not ashamed ,in fsct we envied by some who,d love too try but havnt got the nerve lol

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By *handyshandyCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

sniff...youre scaring me lolol!!!!!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Jayne and I have discussed this on a number of occassions, so I am sure I can speak for both of us on this subject.

We prefer to keep our swinging life and our real life seperate, and we would much prefer it if none of our friends, family, or work colleagues knew, especially in Jaynes case.

Why? Because Jayne works with kids, and we all know what uproar there would be if it was to become known that a "sexual deviant" were working with children.

People are very quick to judge in situations like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"sniff...youre scaring me lolol!!!!!"

Supposed to be thought provoking Mandy

Besides I already sent the dosier on you to all the tabloids, they dismissed it as a work of pure fiction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree exactly with swalescpl

I am lucky enough to be god father to 3 very nice young kids, but I fairly sure that in at least 2 cases, the parents wouldn't look on my activities as suitable. I don't think people have any right to judge us who indulge in such things, but that doesn't stop them from doing so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

none of my familly know we are swingers and im going to keep it that way mind you i think my brother has his supissions as he keeps mentioning swinging ,or maybe he is a swinger himself

half his mates are on here mind so it wudnt suprise me

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

We don't discuss our sex life with family or friends, so there is no need for us to discuss that we meet others for sex either.

We like privacy so wouldn't give out too much info on these type of sites either, just so it does stay secret for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't discuss our sex life with family or friends, so there is no need for us to discuss that we meet others for sex either.

We like privacy so wouldn't give out too much info on these type of sites either, just so it does stay secret for us.

Agrees with rugby, also we live on a small estate which is rather narrow minded, and I worked in the school on our estate for a few years. My kids had abuse because I chose to wear goth clothes, could you imagine what would happen if they found out about us swinging

Also my son has a disability that means his mind is younger than his body, my daughter is being tested for the same thing, they wouldn't understand so no, we don't want them know, as far as they are concerned when they go to their fathers house me and zxr have " couple time " and we go out to see friends. They have met a couple of our swinging friends but we tell them that zxr knows them through his work.

The less people that know about this lifestyle, the better for us and the kids.

Vampy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been ashamed of my lifestyle although I do not go out and shout that I swing from the rooftops however if someone asks me I won't lie to them about it!! I am lucky as all my family know mum dad brother sister and they are all ok with it although with the exception of my brother not their lifestyle choice. I do think that swinging is becoming more socially acceptable and I think that as long as we all enjoy ourselves as tiggs said we are doing no harm unlike the people who are cheating!!!!.....and on that note who fancies a shag??? mwah xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on you introduced me as your godfather to family members lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely don't see swinging becoming more acceptable, in fact among vanillas I think they look more favourably on control freak jealous green monsters that beat each other up, and have domestics all the time than an open couple having the no strings sexual fun we all do. That said we find life far too short to worry about being embarrassed of our fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think a lot of couples want to swing but are scared that ppl may think that there is something wrong with them[i mean normal ppl]..what is normal were normal just want to spice up our sex life's thasts why they like to keep it a secret not like me if it moves feck it...

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Jayne and I have discussed this on a number of occassions, so I am sure I can speak for both of us on this subject.

We prefer to keep our swinging life and our real life seperate, and we would much prefer it if none of our friends, family, or work colleagues knew, especially in Jaynes case.

Why? Because Jayne works with kids, and we all know what uproar there would be if it was to become known that a "sexual deviant" were working with children.

People are very quick to judge in situations like that."

We are by no means ashamed of what we do, we enjoy it immensely, we have made some great friends through swinging, our relationship is stronger for it and many (vanilla) friends are jealous of how close and secure we are together.

In an ideal world, we would like to be open about what we do, its not in our nature to be furtive. However, there is something delightfully naughty about having this "secret" life, it does tend to lend an edge to our otherwise fairly mainstream "vanilla" life!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After much thought maybe we should consider what it is like for a single female to have a letter delivered to her work telling them what she had been up too, and also threatening to go to her family if she didnt leave this site by a single male!!!! needless to say I think everyone should have the option to keep things discreet...

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By *elshdishWoman
over a year ago

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most peeps know im a mad one and i think nothin would suprise them when it comes to me , but as for tellin them well no way. it has nothin to do with anyone. my sex life is kept away from my family and friends and thats the way i like it , only couple of my closest friends no i go on mad ones and they just dont ask , as they know i would tell them the truth and they dont wanna know really lol this works just fine for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am a nurse so i have to keep the swinging side hush hush but have told close friends but would never tell my family tho

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

"most peeps know im a mad one and i think nothin would suprise them when it comes to me , but as for tellin them well no way. it has nothin to do with anyone. my sex life is kept away from my family and friends and thats the way i like it , only couple of my closest friends no i go on mad ones and they just dont ask , as they know i would tell them the truth and they dont wanna know really lol this works just fine for me lol "

Yep dishy we would agree fully with you there,the avrage jo would never understand and living in a small close nit community what we do just wouldent sit right with ppl ,they be thinking that everytime we out aving a drink with someone or having ppl round ours that they would automatically be swingers so yes no need to shout it from the roof tops as ppl wouldent like it 1 bit so as for the original post we would deffenatly disagree ,swinging has still a certain taboo surrounding it and its deffo not becomming more socially acceptable at all .Its ok to watch shit on telly and the odd programme bout it but having ppl who activly particapate in the sceene living nextdoor to you is a completely different story and we think that the magority would find it a problem and would make up lots of different lies as they dont or cant understand and they simply wouldent ask they would rather just make up they own crap and spread roomers and in our local area our names would be muck for sure so for us wi 2 lil children and with kats profession its better to keep some things out of public light

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By *handyshandyCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

"sniff...youre scaring me lolol!!!!!

Supposed to be thought provoking Mandy

Besides I already sent the dosier on you to all the tabloids, they dismissed it as a work of pure fiction

lolol sniff...owh i do luv you lolol...sokay when asked at work what u doing for the weekend..I say..."usual stuff sex drugs rock and roll party"" ..they all laugh lol...hugs my darlings sniff n ness...cya soon me hopes xxx u need to get divorced now to get married and have another raving party agen lolol..such is your popularity..u roofed the place lol xxx

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