FabSwingers.com forum: Starting to feel ugly

By *un72 OP Couple
over a year ago

SWANSEA

We've made so many plans to meet up and been let down on near enough every single occasion.

We were just wondering how often this happens to other beautiful swinges?

So a question we are putting out to you is...

Are we ugly? Would you meet us and have some kinky fun?

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By *ilthyjackcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

You are a lovely looking couple.

Not sure if we'd meet because ideally we're looking for a couple who are both bi or bi curious.

But yeah, sometimes it takes a while for things to align. Don't be put off though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand your frustration, but validation/messages are just poor form

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By *un72 OP Couple
over a year ago

SWANSEA

"I can understand your frustration, but validation/messages are just poor form

We are looking for realistic advise and help not criticism.

We aren't frustrated we are just looking for help from people as we know that it can take awhile to get there. We just want to know if this has also happened to others and if there is anything we can change or add to our profile.

We arent looking to be validatedone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand your frustration, but validation/messages are just poor form

We are looking for realistic advise and help not criticism.

We arent looking to be validatedone.

Xx "

Nothing wrong with either of you IMO, perhaps you should get yourselves along to a party, a good friend of mine has just posted two on this very forum, they are always relaxed, no pressure, what have you got to loose?

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By *un72 OP Couple
over a year ago

SWANSEA

"I can understand your frustration, but validation/messages are just poor form

We are looking for realistic advise and help not criticism.

We arent looking to be validatedone.

Definitely agree with you and we have been to a social before in Morriston which was good fun and we plan on going to the next one as well.

We throughly enjoy what we do on here and we when we go to sex parties (as we've also been to a few too) but it kinda gets expensive when travelling to London and places like that to have some kinky fun lol xx

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

You're only looking for single women, which in itself is trickier to get meets. I think, because it's a bi fem you want to meet, then you're going to have to accept that it's going to take a little longer. Also it's worth baring in mind that there are fakes and timewaters on here and the ones that have let you down are most likely one of those rather someone who has suddenly decided you're ugly (you're not btw) and not met you. Be vigilant with who you talk to/arrange things with.

Sassy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You both definitely aren't ugly, far from it.

In our opinion this site is very hit and miss, we get our fun mainly from visiting clubs.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Looking at your pics, which show you both to be far from ugly, I'd say, as has been mentioned, that the people who stand you up/let you down are probably fakes, fantasists or never intended to meet anyway.

It's impossible to completely avoid these people, but by tweaking your selection criteria you may be able to swing the pendulum in your favour much more often.

Socials are by far the best way to meet genuine folks, and as an added bonus they are great nights out too, a win-win situation lol.

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By *ones6Man
over a year ago

swansea

No way are you both ugly at all,anyone that turns you down for a meet are fools.not your fault some people aren't genuine enough to have fun and waste other people precious playtime,chin up you both looking good and sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking at your pics, which show you both to be far from ugly, I'd say, as has been mentioned, that the people who stand you up/let you down are probably fakes, fantasists or never intended to meet anyway.

It's impossible to completely avoid these people, but by tweaking your selection criteria you may be able to swing the pendulum in your favour much more often.

Socials are by far the best way to meet genuine folks, and as an added bonus they are great nights out too, a win-win situation lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says your looking for the elusive Female or 2 females interested in couples,that's going to be extremely difficult. You should lower your expectations of success it has nothing to do with what you look like, in fact you look like a lovely couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the Taffs state widen your search a little, as a single female in the past I would avoid couples who only sought single females, I personally preferred a more equal couple where both had fun e.g.largely met other couples. I think the majority of couples here would enjoy the single female experience do you're competing against a lot of well established, well respected couples..All the best in your search though X

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By *un72 OP Couple
over a year ago

SWANSEA

Thank you all for your advice and we are definitely going to update our profile and widen our options as you all suggested that this was a good idea and to be honest so do we.

But as it was me (Emma)the bi fem I was aprehensive of exploring with a couple as we have had a few funny encounters which put us off a little.

Will definitely let you all know how we get on in the future thanks again guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you don't have anymore funny moments & all goes swingingly well, take your time & choose wisely & I'm sure you'll have some wonderful times ahead x

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By *ardiff123Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

You are both far from ugly xx

Unfortunately there are many time wasters on here & people up their own bum!!

In answer to your question yes I would most def

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realise that you aren't looking for guys, but for the record no you are far from ugly, I'd be very happy to meet you guys.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are two sides to the story as to why people are not meeting you, I am not in anyway placing any accusation that either party is to blame (think that covered my arse). As for the "are we ugly" comment I think there is a general conclusion you as a couple are NOT ugly.

Some criticism/ advice take it as you will, your profile to me comes across as what you want not what you can give, overall it's not that bad but not great.

However I doubt it is reason you are having trouble as you appear to be getting interest and are arranging meets, so I can only assume that it is either something you have said prior to the meet which is putting people off or you are not effectively vetting.

Do socials, clubs and get invites to parties then network.

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