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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guys, this is mostly for you, but girls, chime in if you've experienced this and have any advice.

I've met some great people here. Not just socially, but for nights of fun too.

However, I've been dogged by performance issues. The girls I've been with (from here and vanilla life) have all been beautiful in their own right, and I've had no problems getting aroused with any of them.

However, i can't 'finish'. The sex, the foreplay, the kissing, hell, even the cuddling after have been great, but i cannot, for the life of me, cum.

Guys, have you experienced this? Any advice?

Girls, what about you? Also, i have an awful feeling the girls feel bad for not making me cum, and I'm not sure they believe me when i tell them it doesn't matter and i enjoyed all of it (which i genuinely do). What can i do to convince them of this.

I love the sex, love the company. But i can't seem to release?

Any advice?

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

Learn to relax and not rush things, if you have the time

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town

I also suffer with this fella your not on your own, I can be very hit and miss either cum to quick or go for hours. there appears to be no happy medium ,I do find when a lady starts asking me to cum it has the oppersite effect I can't for the life of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ch3wy used to be like this he could only finish if he did it himself & he was always a one hit wonder but since going to clubs it's all changed & on our last visit 5 different women made him Cum during our evening there. He reckons it's the relaxing into it & not stressing himself thinking he must Cum everytime he plays with a woman that's made the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I don't care if a guy cums or not just as long as I've had a great time

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By *uby and RavenCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Chelmsford

We never orgasm at meets. Definitely agree it's a relaxation issue.

To be honest most parties we go to, the men rarely cum anyway! too much chopping and changing and excitement I think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely cum on meets, especially new ones, kind of treat it more as foreplay! That said if I relax and have no expectations I find I normally do then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I orgasm if the meet is good but hubby rarely cums when we meet but still enjoys it. I'm not complaining as I get it when we go home

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This way gents....I hate spunk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This way gents....I hate spunk "

This brings me back to that hilarious story in Swansea in a hotel room...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This way gents....I hate spunk

This brings me back to that hilarious story in Swansea in a hotel room... "

I'm still receiving counselling for that

Haven't been the same since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll have the spunk you ladies don't want, face, bum, boobs mmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This way gents....I hate spunk

This brings me back to that hilarious story in Swansea in a hotel room...

I'm still receiving counselling for that

Haven't been the same since "

Oh, you can't tease like that and not give details

Thanks for the comments all, good to know I'm not the only one. Proves that sex isn't just about the last bit.

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By *ilthyjackcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea


"This way gents....I hate spunk

This brings me back to that hilarious story in Swansea in a hotel room...

I'm still receiving counselling for that

Haven't been the same since "

Oh we need details!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No details

I thougt I had managed to move on from night that but no.... someone always drags up my past haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My spelling is shocking....sorry

I blame the cider

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's mostly nerves. When I'm relaxed with people it comes far more naturally and the fun is that more exciting. I just take my time getting into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No details

I thougt I had managed to move on from night that but no.... someone always drags up my past haha "

Aww you clearly have such a legendary past, sorry dear

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also suffer with this fella your not on your own, I can be very hit and miss either cum to quick or go for hours. there appears to be no happy medium ,I do find when a lady starts asking me to cum it has the oppersite effect I can't for the life of me."

apart from me lol X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also suffer with this fella your not on your own, I can be very hit and miss either cum to quick or go for hours. there appears to be no happy medium ,I do find when a lady starts asking me to cum it has the oppersite effect I can't for the life of me."

apart from me lol X

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town


"I also suffer with this fella your not on your own, I can be very hit and miss either cum to quick or go for hours. there appears to be no happy medium ,I do find when a lady starts asking me to cum it has the oppersite effect I can't for the life of me.

apart from me lol X "

I was a very lucky man.you got skills sweetiexx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers all. Cool to know its a common thing.

See you at the social if you're going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also glad to hear it's common. I've had this happen on extended play meets.

First feel the urge to cum within a few minutes but can normally delay it for a short while.

Then after the first time can spend hours playing and get to a point where it won't happen. Even if I try to finish things myself.

Can lead to questions about if I'm enjoying the play ... which of course I am. Just wish the orgasm ratio was better than 1 to 5!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to finish to have a good time ^.^

A lot of people enjoy that part but not everyone, we frequently don't because it leaves us really wound up and excited for the next time, and then when we do its outstanding!

Some people will say it's down to nerves which we both have had our experiences with, you shouldn't feel pressured just enjoy yourself!

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

can find it harder to cum when wearing a condom, so if that happens, usually whip it off and ask to put my cock between her boobs and hey presto! Cum over boob fest!

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