FabSwingers.com forum: How to move on from Fabbing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I haven't really been happy on here for a while now. I love the social side of the lifestyle which is why I stay but the whole one of nsa meets aren't scratching my itch anymore. I have thought about going back to dating and am on the usual dating sites but am stuck in the Fab habit if you like and find it hard to say what I really want as I am so used to the nsa sex thing. Plus a lot of men on said sites immediately recognise me from Fab and then assume I only on there for a quick rub

I don't really want a full on relationship but I miss regular male company (i.e not just in bed), if you get me. Due to being a single parent and working shifts I don't have the time to go out and meet men in the conventional way on nights out on the weekends or whatever. Any advice gratefully received as the whole thing is starting to get me down

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By *iiich3TV/TS
over a year ago

swansea

Hi..perhaps stay on fab, but make it absolutely clear what you require.. Yes, you adore sex, but explain that if the persons you are arranging to meet, you wouldn't mind meeting that person as a friend as well, obviously, if both parties agree and genuinely want the same thing if you click..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree & it is possible to find, I've got that with Ch3wy & because we're both not long out of long term relationships this type of friendship suits us nicely. The lack of pressure to formalize things makes it very relaxed & go with the flow, it took work in the beginning to learn about each other & be honest about what we want but it's been worth it because now it just works X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain so will watch this thread with interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think that there should be a category stating looking for more and if so what FB, full relationship or other.

This is not a dating site but there are a lot of people on here who are looking for more than fwb or nsa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think that there should be a category stating looking for more and if so what FB, full relationship or other.

This is not a dating site but there are a lot of people on here who are looking for more than fwb or nsa"

Spot on, give that man a prize lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is where I seem to fall flat on my face

I don't want a relationship but I don't want nsa one off either

I want something in between, not sure exactly what and probably won't know until I find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont want a relationship at all but worry completely how will i go from fab to dating its a hard one really, hope you get what your after x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's hard to move on from fab once you've experienced it. What is ideal is to find a partner with the same / similar likes / kinks as yourself. Stay on the dating sites and also on here and maybe give yourself a timescale to make a decision whether to leave for good or not. Many people use fab for a variety of reasons there's no reason why you couldn't solely use it for the social side of things anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buck here.i have met caz off the site.and we are very happy. I don't think either of us could go back to vanilla lifestyle.

You have more of a chance of meeting someone compatible with you here.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Buck here.i have met caz off the site.and we are very happy. I don't think either of us could go back to vanilla lifestyle.

You have more of a chance of meeting someone compatible with you here.x"
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I agree with you Buck. I met my current partner here too and we are also very happy. Also agree with your comment re comparability too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Buck here.i have met caz off the site.and we are very happy. I don't think either of us could go back to vanilla lifestyle.

You have more of a chance of meeting someone compatible with you here.x"

Thankyou it is reasurring to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met andy on here.been together 3 years this year. 2 fur babies lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is where I seem to fall flat on my face

I don't want a relationship but I don't want nsa one off either

I want something in between, not sure exactly what and probably won't know until I find it

This is what I want also miss P

And really don't think your alone on this subject

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single person this is where the trouble starts !!! When you meet as a swinger for fun but the other person wants more !!

You then end up in a situation that is awkward and not what you wanted

That's the reason I only meet couples or singles at parties or clubs .

After a short time and a couple of meets people who want more read too much into things and it causes unnessary stress??

I still believe the post that I put up earlier would help everyone know where we all stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't really been happy on here for a while now. I love the social side of the lifestyle which is why I stay but the whole one of nsa meets aren't scratching my itch anymore. I have thought about going back to dating and am on the usual dating sites but am stuck in the Fab habit if you like and find it hard to say what I really want as I am so used to the nsa sex thing. Plus a lot of men on said sites immediately recognise me from Fab and then assume I only on there for a quick rub

I am with you on this one and can totally understand what you're saying x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've known several couples over the years who met in the scene, I agree with Buck you're more likely top to find someone with a similar mindset here than anywhere else. Maybe stop looking & something will find you, I wasn't looking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've known several couples over the years who met in the scene, I agree with Buck you're more likely top to find someone with a similar mindset here than anywhere else. Maybe stop looking & something will find you, I wasn't looking

This is it though, I haven't been looking

I've hardly met this year because it just isn't doing it for me atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get this.

In a way i'm in a similar position (single parent, young family etc) so i don't get out much.

I too found the men on conventional dating sites just want the same thing as men here want, only they were just not as upfront about it.

It does get a bit soul destroying. So i gave up and i'm currently looking for a FWB and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab dating.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy through fab back in june 2014, and we were in a relationship for a while, sadly it didn't work out for us...but have spoken to loads who it has worked out for....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't want a proper relationship

I just want something a little bit more than random nsa one offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean missp

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be on here

As said above no this isn't a dating site

But if you meet someone and you click does it even matter where or how you met as long as you get on with each other X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this just a female thing or do men feel the same ?

I by the way don't as I enjoy the swinging and the freedom of both swinging and being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you have never met a single or couple more then once ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you have never met a single or couple more then once ?

Of course I have as you know but it's swinging not dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you have never met a single or couple more then once ?

Of course I have as you know but it's swinging not dating "

To me there's a difference and no confusion or illusion of anything more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you have never met a single or couple more then once ?

Of course I have as you know but it's swinging not dating "

Well there you go

And I'm sure you became friends rather then just blow and go

It's not dating it's sex with a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want a proper relationship

I just want something a little bit more than random nsa one offs"

My idea of heaven....and someone I could see a few times a week, to do random stuff with plus the extra benefits, then leave me in peace until I'm ready again....preferably a part, part time bf who has his own house and car lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you have never met a single or couple more then once ?

Of course I have as you know but it's swinging not dating

Well there you go

And I'm sure you became friends rather then just blow and go

It's not dating it's sex with a friend

I have and its swinging lol

Maybe some people want and need more but this needs to be stated the same way as sexual preferences or any other interests as its as big a turn off as other things to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want a proper relationship

I just want something a little bit more than random nsa one offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I'm here just for an intimate best friend, someone who I'd happily see a couple of times a week, rather than daily, but know well enough that intimate times could be safely shared without a full on relationship.. Maybe this is why fab isn't working for me locally as most are just looking for blow and go.. Hmmm.. Thinking now about my purpose here lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Atm it's to catch out all the fakes and weirdos..

only thing I seem to be doing atm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you on this missp but it's really hard finding that happy medium. Lines can get crossed.

More than just a fuck but not a relationship. So is that just a friend with benefits??? Because the benefits could be the company and cuddles and nights out too?? Benefits could mean a lot, it's just working out what those are between you!

I agree though! Hard to find x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know what you mean missp

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be on here

As said above no this isn't a dating site

But if you meet someone and you click does it even matter where or how you met as long as you get on with each other X "

Bang on, my English friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you have never met a single or couple more then once ?

Of course I have as you know but it's swinging not dating

Well there you go

And I'm sure you became friends rather then just blow and go

It's not dating it's sex with a friend

I have and its swinging lol

Maybe some people want and need more but this needs to be stated the same way as sexual preferences or any other interests as its as big a turn off as other things to me "

I have no interest in you so don't worry, you're quite safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you have never met a single or couple more then once ?

Of course I have as you know but it's swinging not dating

Well there you go

And I'm sure you became friends rather then just blow and go

It's not dating it's sex with a friend

I have and its swinging lol

Maybe some people want and need more but this needs to be stated the same way as sexual preferences or any other interests as its as big a turn off as other things to me

I have no interest in you so don't worry, you're quite safe

Phew !!! That's a relief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interested to know people's definition of both swinging and dating and where the lines are drawn or get blurred !! ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would say dating has the aim out an outcome of exclusivety

That isn't what I want

If I were to find a regular "friend" or whatever then what they did and with who when they weren't in my company would not interest me one bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging for some is a lifestyle where the social side is as important as the sex but more open to other partners etc.

Dating is trying to find the one..

For us swinging is just the sex bit as we don't really do the lifestyle social bit.

Everyone I guess sees it differently but as long as everyone enjoys themselves that got to be the goal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

of** an outcome

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By *nique_GymMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think the difficulty is our emotions are like a pendulum we swing (apologies for that) from one side to the other. We all need to feel desire and to be desired I guess. So by joining here we get that 'instant hit' of passion and lust which becomes quite addictive. We bypass the whole does he does she like me thing that comes with dating, not to mention the potential for rejection. So here is a quick fix but then as you say I/we miss the intimacy of being 'with someone'. For me my problem is I get bored so I like having female friends who play, but not necessarily with me, I like them to be confident in their needs or choices. As such a conventional dating thing for me won't work as she will be looking for monogamy which I don't want. The benefit we have of being here is that we are all pretty liberal and open minded so I hope we can all find the friends with benefits to suit our needs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it me or are most missing the point of this thread? Missp ain't looking for a full time boyfriend just someone who ain't gonna fuck n go.

Oh, and no it's not just a female thing as I often see statuses and profiles of guys asking for FWB/regular playmates.

Ok, it's not a dating site but isn't having a social meet 'a date'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose we are one of the lucky ones, we met via another site some 5 years ago now. H joined fab a couple of month later then we formed a joint profile as hpsaucycouple.

It hasn't been easy all the time, we've had our ups and downs like any other couple, but we do make time for each other...sadly real life intrudes and we have to go back to reality and our own partners.

Personally we hate the term "fuck buddies" We are more than friends with benefits, we're friends, lovers, confidants.

What ever you do MissP we wish you all the luck and love in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone should be happy

Whether you want a blow and go

Or a friend who you can have amazing sex with

With a friend you have the added bonus of trust I've heard a few story's lately of people being hurt or unwillingly having their boundary lines crosses

So you can experiment and go Wild without the worry of that

Plus actually have a laugh and enjoy at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or are most missing the point of this thread? Missp ain't looking for a full time boyfriend just someone who ain't gonna fuck n go.

Oh, and no it's not just a female thing as I often see statuses and profiles of guys asking for FWB/regular playmates.

Ok, it's not a dating site but isn't having a social meet 'a date'? "

Having read miss p's original post again it states she doesn't really know what she wants but is looking for more than blow n go

Surely meeting the same person 3 times a week for a period of time constitutes a commitment and some sort of relationship or it does in my book

As for a social meet I don't consider it a date but just a quick meet to see if we are genuine and look like our photos

If that goes well then see where it goes but after that swinging is about a lifestyle and fun not commitment and a relationship

People all have different views and wants but surely there is a difference between swinging and dating and both are separate with completely different sets of rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it me or are most missing the point of this thread? Missp ain't looking for a full time boyfriend just someone who ain't gonna fuck n go.

Oh, and no it's not just a female thing as I often see statuses and profiles of guys asking for FWB/regular playmates.

Ok, it's not a dating site but isn't having a social meet 'a date'?

Having read miss p's original post again it states she doesn't really know what she wants but is looking for more than blow n go

Surely meeting the same person 3 times a week for a period of time constitutes a commitment and some sort of relationship or it does in my book

As for a social meet I don't consider it a date but just a quick meet to see if we are genuine and look like our photos

If that goes well then see where it goes but after that swinging is about a lifestyle and fun not commitment and a relationship

People all have different views and wants but surely there is a difference between swinging and dating and both are separate with completely different sets of rules "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone should be happy

Whether you want a blow and go

Or a friend who you can have amazing sex with

With a friend you have the added bonus of trust I've heard a few story's lately of people being hurt or unwillingly having their boundary lines crosses

So you can experiment and go Wild without the worry of that

Plus actually have a laugh and enjoy at the same time "

After how long of doing this does then constitute a relationship

How often would you meet them

Would they meet your kids, family

Be invited to family get togethers

When or if would that become a relationship

Nothing wrong if it developed into a relationship but when one or the other is actively looking for a relationship I think any profiles should have it stated that they are and want more than the normal swing and go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we didn't have a relationship

But you met my kids

And a few of my friends

You came to my home and painted while I was away

Yet we was only friends or am I wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well we didn't have a relationship

But you met my kids

And a few of my friends

You came to my home and painted while I was away

Yet we was only friends or am I wrong ? "

Yes we are friends and we have been for a while but we don't see each other 3 times a week and haven't played for a long time

I have many friends who are singles and couples who I would help and see as this is a lifestyle but I don't want to see them every week as I'm sure they wouldn't want to see me

It's all in the interpretation of what constitute swinging and what is considered dating

If the lines get blurred that's when the problems arise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss p do what you want sod anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say dating has the aim out an outcome of exclusivety

That isn't what I want

If I were to find a regular "friend" or whatever then what they did and with who when they weren't in my company would not interest me one bit

Totally get you sexy Miss P, he's out there somewhere x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss p do what you want sod anyone else

Totally agree just make it clear so that potential meets can decide to do what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss p do what you want sod anyone else

Totally agree just make it clear so that potential meets can decide to do what they want "

Yep couldn't agree more.

I wanted regular fun and a club buddy and found it when I wasn't even looking.

We do now have a joint profile and I for one enjoying swinging far more with someone to do it with.

We also have a date night on a Wednesday where we meet for a meal.

It doesn't make us exclusive to each other as we still have our single profiles and can meet who ever we want when we want.

And we are very open with each other as I for one feel communication is the key.

Miss p he is out there someone and it will come when you least expect it to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Missp69 i do feal your pain and the reson im single is im yet to finde a lady on the street and freak in the sheets i like the hole lighting the fire go get on the same wave lenth for grate sex an who dont like nice meals evan if its a cafe job aftre nights while the kids are in school lol . Can i chalenge you to a round of bowling and my be a bit of food lol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds as if you want a (or a select few) fuck buddy(ies). It could take a while and might have a few failures but I think that you are right to look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm getting married to my fb that I met on here

I honestly think that there should be a category stating looking for more and if so what FB, full relationship or other.

This is not a dating site but there are a lot of people on here who are looking for more than fwb or nsa

Spot on, give that man a prize lol

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By *all Mid WalesMan
over a year ago

Mid Wales

There is no right way Miss P... especially if you dont know what exactly you want.

I didnt want to be in a relationship and was happy on my own everything coming together in my life, then just over 3 months ago sat in pub on my own when a few ladies walked in celebtlrating a birthday. I only spoke 2 sentences as i walked past to bar and boom we been happy together since.

You never know what or where things happen just be ready to embrace it when it does. Dont put pressure on yourself to find anything but same time dont be fearful of opening up and enjoying it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be

I agree with you all ladies.....

I'd like something regular with someone I can hang out with and maybe do stuff like cinema etc

But not ready for a full on relationship atm. All the guys I've spoken to on normal dating sites seem too timid....

I think I'd scare them if we went to bed!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be

I agree with you all ladies.....

I'd like something regular with someone I can hang out with and maybe do stuff like cinema etc

But not ready for a full on relationship atm. All the guys I've spoken to on normal dating sites seem too timid....

I think I'd scare them if we went to bed!!"

It all sounds more like dating than swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be

I agree with you all ladies.....

I'd like something regular with someone I can hang out with and maybe do stuff like cinema etc

But not ready for a full on relationship atm. All the guys I've spoken to on normal dating sites seem too timid....

I think I'd scare them if we went to bed!!

It all sounds more like dating than swinging "

Well don't do it then, simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be

I agree with you all ladies.....

I'd like something regular with someone I can hang out with and maybe do stuff like cinema etc

But not ready for a full on relationship atm. All the guys I've spoken to on normal dating sites seem too timid....

I think I'd scare them if we went to bed!!

It all sounds more like dating than swinging

Well don't do it then, simple

What swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be

I agree with you all ladies.....

I'd like something regular with someone I can hang out with and maybe do stuff like cinema etc

But not ready for a full on relationship atm. All the guys I've spoken to on normal dating sites seem too timid....

I think I'd scare them if we went to bed!!

It all sounds more like dating than swinging

Well don't do it then, simple

What swinging

Whatever you said sounds more like dating

Painting people's houses for them doesn't sound much like swinging either

But each to their own of course

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over a year ago

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be

I agree with you all ladies.....

I'd like something regular with someone I can hang out with and maybe do stuff like cinema etc

But not ready for a full on relationship atm. All the guys I've spoken to on normal dating sites seem too timid....

I think I'd scare them if we went to bed!!

It all sounds more like dating than swinging

Well don't do it then, simple

What swinging

Whatever you said sounds more like dating

Painting people's houses for them doesn't sound much like swinging either

But each to their own of course

I've been away with swingers on holidays and have friends in my life who are swingers but maybe that's dating them even though there married !!

As you say each to their own just wish that those wanting more put it on their profiles and statuses but you never see that on here

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over a year ago

If it's any help . When I've taken breaks away from the site it has always helped me to think a little more clearly about what I want and what I'm looking for !!

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over a year ago

The blow and go is boring at times

It would be nice to have someone you can do normal shit with

Watch a film, have a drink maybe even cuddle up with

But without the actually full time bf part

I'd be happy seeing someone twice a week maybe 3 times if your bored and both free

But I couldn't handle someone here all the time it would annoy me

I've been on my own too long to have a man here full time now

But I also know it's hard you go on dating sites and people instantly know who you are and think oh yes she wants sex

But if you meet someone vanilla how long before you tell them about little kinks you have

I can't go back to having boring sex all the time

that would be worse then not having sex at all

Who knows mr right could be

I agree with you all ladies.....

I'd like something regular with someone I can hang out with and maybe do stuff like cinema etc

But not ready for a full on relationship atm. All the guys I've spoken to on normal dating sites seem too timid....

I think I'd scare them if we went to bed!!

It all sounds more like dating than swinging

Well don't do it then, simple

What swinging

Whatever you said sounds more like dating

Painting people's houses for them doesn't sound much like swinging either

But each to their own of course

I've been away with swingers on holidays and have friends in my life who are swingers but maybe that's dating them even though there married !!

As you say each to their own just wish that those wanting more put it on their profiles and statuses but you never see that on here "

I'm kidding

What you do is no interest to me

And my profile does state what I want

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Sounds like you want a FWB, and I'm sure you'll find one on here, despite what people think, there are quite a few guys on here who would love to settle into a "no strings" relationship of sorts.

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over a year ago

Sounds like you want a FWB, and I'm sure you'll find one on here, despite what people think, there are quite a few guys on here who would love to settle into a "no strings" relationship of sorts."

I agree and that's why I think the site should cater for them and put an option along with all the other boxes that you can tick !!!

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By *iffidusMan
over a year ago

lydney

Missp you have felt like this for a long time unless I'm mistaken. You said as much when we first met up. I'm in a similar situation in as much as I hardly ever come on here now I never look for meets and I'm only interested in the socials and even then quite infrequently. You will find what you're looking for as long as u don't eat in front of em to start with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or talk while eating ha ha X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Or spit chicken in some fitties face

FML

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By *iiich3TV/TS
over a year ago

swansea

Firstly, explain on your profile that ypur preference is to meet a person with thr possibilty of it becoming a sexual relstionship and friendship. That should out the juzt want to bonk you persons..Filtered down your chances will be more positive if two people desire the same tbing. Play safe- No rush!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should people have to put this on their profile

I've had a few fwb in the past

It wasn't planned it just happened as we got on so well and enjoyed each other's company

Plus I like a guy who is happy to make me coffee and bacon roll in bed

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By *iffidusMan
over a year ago

lydney

"Why should people have to put this on their profile

I've had a few fwb in the past

It wasn't planned it just happened as we got on so well and enjoyed each other's company

Plus I like a guy who is happy to make me coffee and bacon roll in bed

Using a grill in bed is very dangerous. Cmon people safety first and last

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over a year ago

"Why should people have to put this on their profile

I've had a few fwb in the past

It wasn't planned it just happened as we got on so well and enjoyed each other's company

Plus I like a guy who is happy to make me coffee and bacon roll in bed

Using a grill in bed is very dangerous. Cmon people safety first and last

Naked cooking is very dangerous too make sure they comply to HSE guidelines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You people have no sense of adventure lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You people have no sense of adventure lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a little hot splash of oil compared to the satisfaction on the women's face when you hand her that bacon roll lol

I thought people liked playing with oil and some are into a little pain lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MissP it will come when you least expect it. Stick on in there

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"What's a little hot splash of oil compared to the satisfaction on the women's face when you hand her that bacon roll lol

I thought people liked playing with oil and some are into a little pain lol

I'll skip it thanks, heard of wax play, but hot oil... nah!

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over a year ago

"What's a little hot splash of oil compared to the satisfaction on the women's face when you hand her that bacon roll lol

I thought people liked playing with oil and some are into a little pain lol

A little pain yeah, but not hot bacon fat dripped on ur working parts lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sometimes it's all a little bit of fate/right time and right place. I was seeing someone from the Fish dating site but it didn't work as he was too vanilla. In the ensueing 18 months he dabbled in a more alternative scene and we stumbled across each other on the other popular fetish site.... 7 months down the line we're engaged, living together and running our own business.

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over a year ago

"I think sometimes it's all a little bit of fate/right time and right place. I was seeing someone from the Fish dating site but it didn't work as he was too vanilla. In the ensueing 18 months he dabbled in a more alternative scene and we stumbled across each other on the other popular fetish site.... 7 months down the line we're engaged, living together and running our own business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to hear you are doing well k, pleased for you xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lovely news

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mrs p hun if you enjoy the social side you can still do the social things lotrs of ex fabbers still go to the socials etc., maybe have a little break just do the socials and who knows might be someone at one that presses the right buttons for you xxxx

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