FabSwingers.com forum: Help

By *ontypool 53 OP Man
over a year ago

Abertillery

Can someone give me some direction please ? I appear to be going about this the wrong way. I am trying to get to know people for meets and I am getting nowhere. Any tips or advice about what I'm doing wrong / how I can improve my chances are welcome. I know you've heard it before but I really am 100% genuine and refuse to lie to try and get what I want.

Thanks guys and gals x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself to the daytime socials as you don't need verification's this way you get to meet genuine people and get verified for evening events x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone give me some direction please ? I appear to be going about this the wrong way. I am trying to get to know people for meets and I am getting nowhere. Any tips or advice about what I'm doing wrong / how I can improve my chances are welcome. I know you've heard it before but I really am 100% genuine and refuse to lie to try and get what I want.

Thanks guys and gals x"

there's also the singles social that's an evening event and don't need verification for that good luck

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By *ontypool 53 OP Man
over a year ago

Abertillery

Thanks for both suggestions Milly, really do appreciate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for both suggestions Milly, really do appreciate it. "

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Your profile text paints you as a cheating, angry jerk to be honest. We wouldn't reply to you having read that, sorry.

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By *ontypool 53 OP Man
over a year ago

Abertillery

Thanks for your honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks guys and gals x"

The fact you are married is a big no no for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These guy's who claim to "Love their wife dearly" unyet are prepared to meet and fuck ????.......Let's just hope your wife isn't on here.....

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

Married and the wife doesn't know? Playing behind her back? That's absolutely not what swinging is about.

Swinging is about clear, open communication between partners, able to talk about anything and everything, not just about sexually related things. It's also very much a social thing, where couples and singles can interact with or without having sex.

I have a single profile, but since joining last year, got back with my ex from 5 years ago. We always did have a very open and honest relationship and we do now. I haven't changed my profile to a couple's one because we won't always meet as a couple. I will create one soon though. I have not and will not go behind my partner's back. We tell each other everything and that's a big turn on for us both. Not telling a partner and doing it in secret is just wrong and understandable why you, the OP, aren't getting anywhere and getting blocked.

Having said that, I admire the honesty in admitting it, at least.

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By *ontypool 53 OP Man
over a year ago

Abertillery

I absolutely agree with you. I would love her to get involved but after ten years her sexual interests do not extend past the bedroom with the lights off. I have had affairs during my first marriage and refuse to go down that road again. Count your blessings your partner has the same sexual interests as you. It's really hard when you don't have that but thanks for the post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I absolutely agree with you. I would love her to get involved but after ten years her sexual interests do not extend past the bedroom with the lights off. I have had affairs during my first marriage and refuse to go down that road again. Count your blessings your partner has the same sexual interests as you. It's really hard when you don't have that but thanks for the post. "

But isn't sleeping with someone without her knowledge having some sort of affair????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile puts you across as a spoilt child

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Majority of people say there genuine on here but infact there not, your figure it out for yourself mate,

Stay on here long enough and you can figure who's genuine, who's full off shit and those that just enjoy or get upset when guys msg them, the genuine ones are genuine and will actually meet as for most the others that are in here 24/7 just chat amongst themselves! As I said your figure it out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the married bit

but to be fair there is and was people on this site that don't admit there attached till after you've met them several times

as happened to me

So honesty is a thing on here that lots don't always practice what they preach ?

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over a year ago

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

I agree with others on the thread. I don't meet that often but that doesn't mean I'm not genuine. However, I wouldn't meet you after reading your profile text. I'm not judging you for meeting other people and being intimate with them. Your own conscience, and the devil on your shoulder can do that. But think about it, you will be cheating on your wife by going against your marriage vows..

"Forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live"..... Aren't those part of the marriage vows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This for you maybe just "physical" & not match.com but it is respectful to expect those women to only have intimate times with people they fancy, that doesn't have to mean love or relationship just plain old chemistry. I read your profile thinking I'd find that people here we're judging harshly as they often do but one thing your profile screams to me is, any holes a goal. I know I've been judged harshly in the past for openly stating that a person's relationship status is not my concern if I fancy meeting them, but yours is a profile I'd never respond to. Maybe re thinking your mindset about swinging & your approach to others could be a start X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile puts you across as a spoilt child"

my thoughts exactly!

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By *ontypool 53 OP Man
over a year ago

Abertillery

Thanks

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By *ontypool 53 OP Man
over a year ago

Abertillery

I take on board all the comments you make and thank you for your honesty. I will revisit my profile. It was updated in a fit of pique as I was (and to some extent still am) frustrated by people on here not having the decency to reply when you message them or state in profiles a face pic is a must when the vast majority of their own public pics do not show faces (I've always struggled with hypocrisy).

That said I do want to meet people and my profile clearly isn't helping

However I will not lie on here and state falsehoods to get what I want.

Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about lying it's about being respectful, this isn't a site you come to just to unload, although a lot of single guys have that idea tbh. To be successful you need to develop patience & an appreciation of what it's like to be a single female on this site, hundreds of messages, mostly disrespectful, daily abuse when you say thanks but no thanks. We don't have the time nor the inclination after the first few weeks to be replying to every message, some of us have lives beyond this site, it's not a slight against you personally it's a reflection of the shit guys who tend to overrun the site at times. Take a step back & enjoy the site for what it is, a swinging site, Google the definition because it might help X

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