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Branded a 'time waster'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think this is fair?

Single guy messaged me this morning and included his 'shag phone' number in his message as he likes early phone contact. Fine, but I don't!

He doesn't have a face photo for his own reasons, which I respect.

I wrote back sending a face pic but not my mobile number as I don't give it out to men I've not met yet.

He suggested a meet for a coffee, but due to bad meets in the past, I won't meet without a face pic! He did suggest sending a face pic via mms, but I don't give out my number!

Stalemate! So he labelled me a timewaster and one of those on here because we 'couln't pull in a pub'!

He then promptly blocked me!

Am I a timewaster for this? He contacted me first after all and there's nothing stopping him uploading a face pic and sending it privately........ I had the courtesy to send him a face pic and despite his protestations, I can pull in a pub! Easily! lmao At least I can see their faces! ........! Rant over!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

No, you are not a timewaster hun.

He sounds pushy and arrogant, you did more than most would in such a short space of time, many dont send face pics until they have chatted for a while.

As a single female, you have to be careful about what contact details you give out, so I think you were being very sensible.

And as for his comment about pulling in a pub, I have seen you in a pub hun, and he's so wrong lol!

He blocked you.... saves you the effort of blocking him, his loss. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awwww thank you both........ I saw it as being pushy too and I agree, as a single fem you have to be very careful

I blocked him in return of course! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he must have something to hide,his loss not yours.xxxx

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By *istressandslaveCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

We have had the same! We have specific tastes and needs and when straight guys contact us that can't accommodate (according to their profiles) saying I want some, fancy a shag, nice tits and all that rubbish, I'll message back, if I'm not too annoyed! (It does say on our profile what we want, etc) asking for more detail on how they think they fit our requirements..... the shitty replies have been amazing! But how on Earth am I supposed to see what we have in common if they haven't had the decency to say ANYTHING about how they fit our scenario?! And we're accused of being time wasters?!

Other times, we've had great chats that have gone on for too long because either they have commitments or we have and then suddenly it all looks set and they ask for a face pic...... it clearly states that we don't have face pics on here and nor will we, as we know too many people who wouldn't appreciate our tastes and refuse to risk it! (Although we offer to two way cam before a meet!)

I find it really irritating, especially considering we have a few verifications and have no problem with them being contacted beforehand if need be!

Glad you blocked him, babe! He deserved it!

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By *erekduvallCouple
over a year ago

swansea

No you are not a timewaster, we send face pics by e-mail, not through this site(our reasons/decision) and expect the sme from them, also we wont meet at a car park, to follow to their home!!!!

Keep to your rules not any one elses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timewaster? Definitely not. Sensible? Absolutely.

It is he who has the problem and not you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your input and kind comments. I feel a bit better about it now as I was begining to think I was one of 'THEM'..... the timewaster troup! Phew! xx

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By *uddsWoman
over a year ago

st athans

i absolutely refuse to meet anyone who does not supply a face pic before the meet-i have face pix on my profile so if they cant show face then no meet-i had a right row on here one time with a so called single guy who is cheating behind his wifes back-he was adamant abt not sending a face pic because of his 'job' and his 'home life' ie wife

he wanted to meet in a car park 1st to see if i liked him so my question to himn was this "when we meet in car park are u gonna put a bag over your head so i cant see your face" i then got a lot of abuse from him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are definatily not a timewaster you are a very wise woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hot just ignore hun, you not a timewaster, some fellas just get up their own arse, his loss hun

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By *ldbut_shagableMan
over a year ago

Pembroke Dock

Dont worry about it hun,some on here are a complete waste of time and just so you know I'd waste time on you any day of the week xxxx mike

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By *he WabbitsCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

No way are you a timewaster. You acted perfectly sensibly. Its his loss, and very likely he's the one who couldnt pull in a pub. Love you hun xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had the same where our 'spider senses' were going and because we called his/them!!! On the lie we were the timewasters and fakes, but good on you for being you and not giving in to his demands\suggestions as even though this is fun and a bit of relief from normal life, your safety is always paramount and as for fake!!! Erm don't think so hun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive seen her pull in a pub lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aw your not a timewaster and obviously he knew this or wouldnt have been such a twat! look at it this way he wanted you, couldnt have u and threw his toys out of his pram lol

But i HATE it when your blocked when u know that you havnt done a thing wrong, a difference of opinion maybe but when they block u grrr it really bugs me, cause why the hell didnt i block them first!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres nothing stopping him from uploading a face pic on to his friends only... if hes scared of his wife findin out..somehow ..i agree he sounds arrogant and pushy and may i add DODGY an a right dick ED

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your not a time waster, nearly 20 others have given you Verified as Genuine, forget this idiot and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No your not a time waster, nearly 20 others have given you Verified as Genuine, forget this idiot and move on.

"

Forgotten him already!!

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By *hris2468Man
over a year ago

swansea

you are certainly not a time waster and as you well know only the select few get through so dont stress over it!!!

you are mighty fine girl and can pick and choose so f**k him off lol!!!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

one of the golden rules of the art of pulling is that the guys needs to build a feeling of trust and comfort with the woman before a location change - in this case from internet to real life location - he failed to do this - so he in fact wasted your time hotips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi hun, It is difficult and can be dangerous arranging meets as a single woman ( I would personally know ) spoken to a few men who are like that aswell as so called couples. There loss indeed and dont let them drag u down! safety ALWAYS comes FIRST!

xx

K xx

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By *nnie1978Woman
over a year ago

swansea

your not a time waster hunni i wont evan speak to anyone that i haven't already met at a party or social and know is real if they haven't got a face pic!!! iv'e been called all sorts of names for this but it's their problem and you have to see who your speaking to at the end of the day this is a swinging site and you have to see if your attacted to someone phyically so you dont waste your time ping ponging message's you rant away hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think you acted purfectly. You have to stick to your guns and if others don't like your rules then that's thier problem. People are mad if they do blind dates because it can be so much of a let down.

We were branded timewasters and pic collectors by a cpl on here because we asked for facial pics. They didn't even have a validation and a very poor bum and boob pic.

Just stick to your guns xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldn't pull in a pub???from meeting you last night you could have pulled us in minutes lovely,mmm

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