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swingers different views and honesty!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having now done a few socials it's amazing how peoples views differ on swinging terms. Such as "soft swing". Our view is everything up to and not including penetration. Having chatted with a few people on this site different people have different views as to what is "soft swing". No doubt there are other areas or terms which have blurred lines on this site.

Another one is body types (we state ours is average) other people have told us we are slim lol. Then we meet people who describe themselves as athletic and no way are they athletic more like average. Then others describe themselves as curvy when really we would describe them as ample.

Then theres peoples pictures (ours are current i.e in the last couple of months)when you meet them they bare no resemblance at all to their pictures i.e. those pictures are years old.

Honesty is in short supply here lol.

Are we being picky or should we just bed anybody?

Answers on a postage stamp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would have to agree with this. That is why we discuss boundaries with potential meets before we arrange anything as we have also found that soft swing means different things to different people. Best to have a frank discussion beforehand to save any awkwardness/confusion.

As for the size thing, it depends how people see themselves. Its not always easy to put yourself into a box or under a label. I chose curvy as there isn't a fat option. Hopefully our pics say more than a tick box does anyway.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.s. No you aren't being picky. We have experienced the same as you. Up to you who you bed but there is nothing wrong with being selective.

It is really hard to find four way attraction isn't it but when you meet the right couple and you all click it can be so good.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm the whole size description for women will always be a difficult one to call as some ladies with their various shapes and sizes can carry a larger dress size better than others (no offence intended) blokes your either skinny, athletic, beer belly(curvy) or large.

The whole pic thing will never change on here u will always have chancers who think u will fuck them even if they don't look like their pictures because you have turned up so u just as well anyway lol

I'm with you on the soft swing thing thought it meant everything except penetrative, but then you can have full swing meets with no kissing, there are so many grey areas in swinging just set clear rules before any meet and everyone knows where they stand

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So will be worth the wait then?

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By *onbon7Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So will be worth the wait then?"

Definitely worth waiting for the right person/couple.

A piece of advice we were given when we first joined was 'Don't take one for the team' i.e you both have to be attracted to the other person/s for it to be a satisfying experience for everyone.

Even when we meet single guys (not often) Mr has to like them and get on with them before Mrs plays, that's really important for us

The wait will be worth it and you'll be glad you did

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for that Bonbon, by the way your on our hotlist

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By *onbon7Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Thanks for that Bonbon, by the way your on our hotlist "

Flattered xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is very subjective on a site such as this...

obviously all the old adages apply such 'as beauty is in the eye of the beholder'...and 'one mans meat is another mans poison' but a general rule of thumb is don't even bother arranging to meet someone whose photos weren't taken in the last 6 months or so and likewise with verifications: if they have them but are more than a year old then it's syonara!

Obviously the criteria for describing yourself as someone who is vaguely decent looking on here is a bit hit and miss so I tend to update my photos every couple of months plus I do go on cam occasionally so others know I'm really who I say I am

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Hello both,

Very much as we said in our conversation, you will find as many different views inside the world of swinging as outside.

Only do what you feel comfortable with, explain your understanding of soft swing with prospective playmates prior to play, only change if/when you both want to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good advice again welsh, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a difficult one, I take pics all the time they're always up to date, but I don't reckon I look like my pics, it's not that I'm misleading just lucky in pics. I totally agree with the whole don't take one for the team view, if the click, the fancy, the connection isn't there you might as well call it a day cos it's not going to be a satisfactory time & what harm does the waiting do, good things do come to those who wait. Much rather sit back & enjoy the quality rather than dive in for quantity. You have to manage the Fab journey the way that suits you best, it'll be fun however you do it X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt wrong with being picky and fussy.

Agree on the pictures but im always honest and say im bigger in real life to what my pictures portray.

We can't all be to everyone's liking and I find being honest saves wasting everyone's time x

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By *uriousldCouple
over a year ago

rct

I was always under the impression that soft swing was just having sex with the Mr alongside another couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was always under the impression that soft swing was just having sex with the Mr alongside another couple "

This is why we specify our limits with other couples as everyone has their own interpretation of what soft swing is. To us soft swap means no full sex/penetration with opposite partners. Oral, masturbation, kissing etc is what we see as soft swap.

What you describe we would say is watching and being watched or fucking own partners in the same bed as another couple.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never rely on people's own descriptions of themselves.

Verify for yourselves at a social meet.

Its not rocket science!?

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

Nothing wrong at all with being choosy/picky. As others have said the attraction and chemistry needs to be there for it to be a great experience for all concerned. That's why social meets are top of the agenda for me. I'd say take your time in choosing and getting to know someone before agreeing to any intimacy

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