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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just me, or am I being over sensitive to this, but I find it totally off putting just before I meet a new guy, when he asks if I have a female 'friend'. Since when has this become a starting point?

How would guys feel if they were asked, just before that all important 1st meet, do you have a male friend to join?

I'm interested in what people think about this because I find it happens 99% of the time & its the reason why almost all new meets don't go ahead X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had this asked to me

And I don't think its nice either

I just make my excuse and don't meet if this happens

If I wanted a ffm I'd ask not assume it would just happen

These things need planning

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you're being sensitive at all.

Has this/does this happen a lot?

Men that ask this must be lacking social skills or something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Happens to me almost all the time & guys don't seem to get why it offends me. I just block & move on now, but it's a shame when I'm looking for fun x

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"Happens to me almost all the time & guys don't seem to get why it offends me. I just block & move on now, but it's a shame when I'm looking for fun x"

I also get it too. I think it's because they may have read our profiles and seen that we enjoy having fun with females. They are just greedy guys.

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By *aws28Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Well tbh if a girl asked that question id say its well within the margins of what this site is all about . Sone people are alot more open than others what some people make of a question may not be answer that you think they after . You cant second guess people and be right all the time . Im very sure the peraon who asked you what ever they did didn't intend to offend you !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be mightily pissed off

They're there to meet you, and not to fulfil some other fantasy they might have

The mff can be sorted out on another occasion

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

I have it too and really winds me up. If I was asked after the first meet then fair enough bit not before we've even met the first time.

Had one guy asked me to sort a meet with one of my fem friends for him cause I couldn't. Felt like I was being treated like a pimp and my fem friends were pieces of meat! Needless to say he got blocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have it too and really winds me up. If I was asked after the first meet then fair enough bit not before we've even met the first time.

Had one guy asked me to sort a meet with one of my fem friends for him cause I couldn't. Felt like I was being treated like a pimp and my fem friends were pieces of meat! Needless to say he got blocked!"

Ive had it. Agree with you though, if after a meet then not so bad, but before a meet its not the best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get it all the time too. Find it really annoying ... Its a roundabout way of saying 'oh btw your not good enough by yourself'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it all the time too. Find it really annoying ... Its a roundabout way of saying 'oh btw your not good enough by yourself'. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get it all the time too. Find it really annoying ... Its a roundabout way of saying 'oh btw your not good enough by yourself'. "

That's exactly how it leaves me feeling & then, no matter how much I was looking forward to meeting that person, I can't. I feel too inferior, knocks my confidence right back to zero again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it all the time too. Find it really annoying ... Its a roundabout way of saying 'oh btw your not good enough by yourself'.

That's exactly how it leaves me feeling & then, no matter how much I was looking forward to meeting that person, I can't. I feel too inferior, knocks my confidence right back to zero again x"

Peachy, don't take it personally, their just a bunch of thoughtless morons....

Remember most men have only enough blood to work one organ....it's either their dick or their brain.... And guess which one wins every time....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it all the time too. Find it really annoying ... Its a roundabout way of saying 'oh btw your not good enough by yourself'.

That's exactly how it leaves me feeling & then, no matter how much I was looking forward to meeting that person, I can't. I feel too inferior, knocks my confidence right back to zero again x

Peachy, don't take it personally, their just a bunch of thoughtless morons....

Remember most men have only enough blood to work one organ....it's either their dick or their brain.... And guess which one wins every time....

"

In other words only pick guys with limp dicks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get it all the time too. Find it really annoying ... Its a roundabout way of saying 'oh btw your not good enough by yourself'.

That's exactly how it leaves me feeling & then, no matter how much I was looking forward to meeting that person, I can't. I feel too inferior, knocks my confidence right back to zero again x

Peachy, don't take it personally, their just a bunch of thoughtless morons....

Remember most men have only enough blood to work one organ....it's either their dick or their brain.... And guess which one wins every time....

In other words only pick guys with limp dicks "

You putting yourself forward there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get it all the time too. Find it really annoying ... Its a roundabout way of saying 'oh btw your not good enough by yourself'.

That's exactly how it leaves me feeling & then, no matter how much I was looking forward to meeting that person, I can't. I feel too inferior, knocks my confidence right back to zero again x

Peachy, don't take it personally, their just a bunch of thoughtless morons....

Remember most men have only enough blood to work one organ....it's either their dick or their brain.... And guess which one wins every time....

In other words only pick guys with limp dicks

You putting yourself forward there? "

Unfortunately I've never had that problem, but I must have enough blood to keep my big brain functioning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me, or am I being over sensitive to this, but I find it totally off putting just before I meet a new guy, when he asks if I have a female 'friend'. Since when has this become a starting point?

How would guys feel if they were asked, just before that all important 1st meet, do you have a male friend to join?

I'm interested in what people think about this because I find it happens 99% of the time & its the reason why almost all new meets don't go ahead X"

That's real shallow... I wouldn't dream of asking "to phone a friend" ..

Mr limp signing off . (You can tell that was the brain side messaging cause I got a 7 letter word in ! ).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe becouse you have bisexuality down, they think you have a mate.

In my experience, men want just sex, women want nsa love sex. I don't mean the rmobtinal love, but the think about her sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time....yawn yawn!! X

And yes it is offensive but often I reply that they need to find their own female whom I approve then I have to meet her socially and then I will make my decision!! I find this works a treat ;-D

Most cant be bothered after that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well sounds like your agreeing to meet the kind of bloke on here that starts his conversation with "hey fancy a fuck?!?!" Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time....yawn yawn!! X

And yes it is offensive but often I reply that they need to find their own female whom I approve then I have to meet her socially and then I will make my decision!! I find this works a treat ;-D

Most cant be bothered after that!"

This!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got to be honest - I have never been asked this before a first meet. Never! How weird is that?

Agree with last comment - suggest they find a hot fem for you to screen

Every man in the world - even non-swinging ones - wants FFM. It is crass to ask though before a first meet though. Men don't think the same way as women I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All the time....yawn yawn!! X

And yes it is offensive but often I reply that they need to find their own female whom I approve then I have to meet her socially and then I will make my decision!! I find this works a treat ;-D

Most cant be bothered after that!"

I do all that but I still find it off putting before the 1st meet, I then can't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me, or am I being over sensitive to this, but I find it totally off putting just before I meet a new guy, when he asks if I have a female 'friend'. Since when has this become a starting point?

How would guys feel if they were asked, just before that all important 1st meet, do you have a male friend to join?

I'm interested in what people think about this because I find it happens 99% of the time & its the reason why almost all new meets don't go ahead X"

Drives me mad lol

And I say find me the fem and I will happily do it

Funny tho I don't hear anymore off them

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