FabSwingers.com forum: When you was a Newbie.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Did you dive right in and start meeting people? Did you take a while to take the plunge so to speak? I'm going at this alone and not knowing what to expect I'm kind of nervous truth be told.

I'm not a nervous guy in person but reading some of the profiles here I know I'm way out of my depth. Did you know what you was looking for or did someone just take your fancy?

Just another newbie asking questions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started as part of a couple first & that made it all easier, when I first put my single profile up it took me ages to meet & lots of chat, weeks sometimes months of chat. Still take time to meet but that's ok now because I've made so many good friends x

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

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Some people are more successful with meeting others for a variety of reasons but attending social events with a polite and respectful attitude towards others will get you known on this scene and make others aware of you and other possibilities may develop from that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I threw myself right in and boy did I learn some lessons these days I am a lot more cautious and truth be told I hardly meet to play unless I really feel it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hardly met and still hardly meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is that mate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

went to a social many many years ago, and never looked back

you get out what you put in. make an effort and you will do fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"went to a social many many years ago, and never looked back

you get out what you put in. make an effort and you will do fine."

Top man, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took a few weeks before my first meet. Came on and off a few times last year. Then attended a social last August and haven't looked back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first ever experience was a sexual one with a couple then a MFF club trip with two people. I'm not the shy type though.

Just find what suits you comfortably and don't compare yourself to others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice folks. I think one of these socials is the way forward.. I may be able to pop to the Swansea gig.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was not on here that long so did not know what to expect but a lovely couple were really helpful, we had many a meeting and they came to mine over many weeks, shame now they are not together because I loved that fun. wish they would get back together lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you dive right in and start meeting people? Did you take a while to take the plunge so to speak? I'm going at this alone and not knowing what to expect I'm kind of nervous truth be told.

I'm not a nervous guy in person but reading some of the profiles here I know I'm way out of my depth. Did you know what you was looking for or did someone just take your fancy?

Just another newbie asking questions...

The basics, by Mike Hock, class 3B.

1. Be clean

2. Remember people is people, not sex robots. Just because you're horny when you're typing, the other person might be halfway through beans on toast when they read it.

3. Communicate. If you can't make it or just plain change your mind, tell the others. Nobody likes opening empty Christmas presents.

4. Wash.

5. Respect other people's shit. If they don't want single guys, no matter how fucking gifted you are and what skills you think you have, they don't wanna know. Leave em alone.

That should see you right. Happy swinging, fella. Welcome to Fab. M.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I become a full member was in the welsh room in chat for a month or 2 then when i new a few people i went to a few socials first. It helps trust me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you dive right in and start meeting people? Did you take a while to take the plunge so to speak? I'm going at this alone and not knowing what to expect I'm kind of nervous truth be told.

I'm not a nervous guy in person but reading some of the profiles here I know I'm way out of my depth. Did you know what you was looking for or did someone just take your fancy?

Just another newbie asking questions...

The basics, by Mike Hock, class 3B.

1. Be clean

2. Remember people is people, not sex robots. Just because you're horny when you're typing, the other person might be halfway through beans on toast when they read it.

3. Communicate. If you can't make it or just plain change your mind, tell the others. Nobody likes opening empty Christmas presents.

4. Wash.

5. Respect other people's shit. If they don't want single guys, no matter how fucking gifted you are and what skills you think you have, they don't wanna know. Leave em alone.

That should see you right. Happy swinging, fella. Welcome to Fab. M. "

3.1 - Yes, even if you're scared and chicken out, people will still respect you if you tell them. We've all been there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I threw myself right in and boy did I learn some lessons these days I am a lot more cautious and truth be told I hardly meet to play unless I really feel it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mike that was beautiful man...

Haha..

I feel like I'm ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been a little while but when I started I went to a few socials and slowly met a few people !!!!

Then went to the masquerade ball and a few parties ??

You will eventually get to know a few people and hopefully make friends as well as having fun

There's no short cut and you should treat the site and people like you would anywhere else ..... With respect !!

Good luck and who knows our paths may cross at a party or an event in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Troll the forums lol and should someone take your fancy, send them a tidy message!

Avoid:

Fancy a fuck

Meet now

Remember there is a person at the other end, manners cost nothing, just have fun with it and it will happen soon enough! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went straight in balls deep... Just be a decent person and let yourself be known (socials and stuff) and you'll do yourself ok.

Just don't take the site serious, whatever you do!

You won't be everybody's up of tea and expect some knock backs.

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By *iffidusMan
over a year ago

lydney

Take a van with a mattress in the back. Chicks dig class

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

Get some lovely people to take you under their wing. There are a few angels here, Just treat everyone with respect. Unless they deserve to be treated otherwise by their dreadful behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get some lovely people to take you under their wing. There are a few angels here, Just treat everyone with respect. Unless they deserve to be treated otherwise by their dreadful behaviour

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Take a van with a mattress in the back. Chicks dig class

Crying laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr Moon you Lil bugga if you see me at any socials pretend you don't know me k

Haha..

You soon get to know what your up for and what you aren't .. you may think clubs ...couples ..etc then attend a club..meet a couple and realise it isn't for you..

Just have fun along the way dude .defo get to some socials though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm going to show my face at the Swansea gig I think to kick things off. Busy as fek until then with work/family etc. Roll on September.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Newport one this Saturday mind .. great bunch of people..good laugh x

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By *onny-n-clydeCouple
over a year ago

cwmbran,

"Been a little while but when I started I went to a few socials and slowly met a few people !!!!

Then went to the masquerade ball and a few parties ??

You will eventually get to know a few people and hopefully make friends as well as having fun

There's no short cut and you should treat the site and people like you would anywhere else ..... With respect !!

Good luck and who knows our paths may cross at a party or an event in the future

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By *onny-n-clydeCouple
over a year ago

cwmbran,

We took it very very slowly at first with valued and genuine guidance from another member who we now consider a trusted friend. Now after a year of slowly slowly we have become confident enough to up the anti. We are having an absolute blast and are hopefully passing on the guidance we had to other Newbys. Do it at whatever pace you are comfortable with and never feel pressured to be like anyone else. We are all different and want different things from Swinging. So long as you respect that and treat others how you would like to be treated you can't go far wrong x

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By *aydee65Man
over a year ago

Near Merthyr

Started chatting with a 'single' fem and was invited to her house for a meet. I nervously knocked on the door and it was answered by a fella...!!! I stuttered, "I'm sorry, I must have the wrong house!" but then spotted her all kitted up behind him. "Oh no you haven't!" she said and in I went. After that baptism of fire the rest were a doddle.

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