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By *onny-n-clyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

cwmbran,

We were messed about and let down last night by not one but two single males ( both of whom display good veris). So we took a chance and invited a newby. He turned up promptly, and although a little nervous to start soon relaxed and it turned out to be up there with one of our best meets. The first two are exactly why guys like the last one find it so hard to get meets, because we are all so wary of the time wasters and pic collectors. So unfair that the genuine single guys get tarred with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a lady today who told me that out of 3 meets she had this week be it social or play I was the only one who had turned up.

It does make it hard to find decent people but we do exist.

Glad you had a good meet with the newbie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If yo arrange a meet you should turn up unless something happens which you didn't expect then you make contact and explain why you cannot meet ! If yo word is no good then what are you ???

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

Does not take much effort to send a message if unable to attend a meet and I know that the op are genuinely friendly people that are worth meeting on here and is good to see them giving new guys a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree I'm very genuine but as a single male you can be slated and you not got a leg to stand on but it has always been the same ever since sure started

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were messed about and let down last night by not one but two single males ( both of whom display good veris). So we took a chance and invited a newby. He turned up promptly, and although a little nervous to start soon relaxed and it turned out to be up there with one of our best meets. The first two are exactly why guys like the last one find it so hard to get meets, because we are all so wary of the time wasters and pic collectors. So unfair that the genuine single guys get tarred with the same brush. "

The other 2 guys must be nuts turning down such nice cpl.

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By *heep2405Man
over a year ago

Newport

I find it so hard getting meets, mainly because of this. Why does it have to be so hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people are here for their own reasons some are just here to have a wank and think about it.

Look at the singles social with I think 75% of the people who put their name down not turning up without a reason. Just using that as a basis only a 1/4 of the profiles on here will do way they say.

I can understand why couples and fems get annoyed worth single guys looking at it like that.

Doesn't mean I like it. It has made it much harder to get meets and for people to even read a message from me.

However patience and getting known on the forum and in pays off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody bonkers to turn down a meet with you both. You're great fun !

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By *onny-n-clyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

cwmbran,

Thanks for all the lovely comments it's much appreciated but I posted the thread just to let all the genuine single guys know that we sypathise and understand how tough it is for you with so many morons tainting your reputation x

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

understandably annoying when looking forward to a meet and people don't turn up, no reason given. I would feel like reporting them, there should be no excuse for not letting you know. Probably couldn't get away from their missus??

As for newbies, we all started somewhere, and they are knocked a lot, but it's all part of the fab merry-go-round. You just have to take the highs and hopefully not too many lows. Many times I've nearly packed it in, but hung in there, and the few meets I get have been worth it and met some nice people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had the same problem with lasts weeks camping event but it wasn't the single guys who messed us about it was the single fems and couples Ive got to say the guys were absolutely amazing they were the first to pay up the others just messed us about constantly ,so its not just the guys who do it women are just as bad but nobody posts about them on here !

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By *onny-n-clyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

cwmbran,


"we had the same problem with lasts weeks camping event but it wasn't the single guys who messed us about it was the single fems and couples Ive got to say the guys were absolutely amazing they were the first to pay up the others just messed us about constantly ,so its not just the guys who do it women are just as bad but nobody posts about them on here !"

I agree totally, I was only speaking from a personal point of view as we have never had the problem with single females. However I know that it isn't only single males issue.

I was just raising the point to sympathise with the genuine ones who get judged by the actions of others x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we had the same problem with lasts weeks camping event but it wasn't the single guys who messed us about it was the single fems and couples Ive got to say the guys were absolutely amazing they were the first to pay up the others just messed us about constantly ,so its not just the guys who do it women are just as bad but nobody posts about them on here !

I agree totally, I was only speaking from a personal point of view as we have never had the problem with single females. However I know that it isn't only single males issue.

I was just raising the point to sympathise with the genuine ones who get judged by the actions of others x"

I totally agree with you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us single fems get tarred with the "up their own arse" brush... Or the "total bitch" brush. Some of the childish, hypocritical comments made by silly single fems do us no favours. But some people aren't fussy who they meet, so they can behave in that manner and get away with it.

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest


"Thanks for all the lovely comments it's much appreciated but I posted the thread just to let all the genuine single guys know that we sypathise and understand how tough it is for you with so many morons tainting your reputation x"
fortunately on here there are good people such as yourselves who can understand that but it is never good news when genuine poke get messed bit or let down by those only thinking of themselves

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

can't beat a genuine poke

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By *onny-n-clyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

cwmbran,


"Some of us single fems get tarred with the "up their own arse" brush... Or the "total bitch" brush. Some of the childish, hypocritical comments made by silly single fems do us no favours. But some people aren't fussy who they meet, so they can behave in that manner and get away with it. "

Absolutely 100% agree with this. I know this is definitely a woman's world where we have all the control and choice but there is absolutely no excuse for rudeness or disrespect. Unfortunately some women are beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of us single fems get tarred with the "up their own arse" brush... Or the "total bitch" brush. Some of the childish, hypocritical comments made by silly single fems do us no favours. But some people aren't fussy who they meet, so they can behave in that manner and get away with it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread this guys! Yes it is tough, even to just get a conversation going let alone anything else. I realise that it must be hard for the girls and couples on here and a lot of the blokes don't help themselves. Hopefully perseverance and patience will pay off eventually!

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By *onbon7Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Thanks for all the lovely comments it's much appreciated but I posted the thread just to let all the genuine single guys know that we sypathise and understand how tough it is for you with so many morons tainting your reputation x"

Thanks for posting this, I was going to post something similar. We went to a small party last weekend, the 3 single guys turned up on time, well dressed and looking good. 2 couples didn't show. 1 text 10mins before saying "something had come up" (after being up for it all day) the other didn't bother showing, no message!! Couples can be timewasters as much as singles. Hats off to all you genuine single guys out there, you don't deserve to be tarred with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the lovely comments it's much appreciated but I posted the thread just to let all the genuine single guys know that we sypathise and understand how tough it is for you with so many morons tainting your reputation x

Thanks for posting this, I was going to post something similar. We went to a small party last weekend, the 3 single guys turned up on time, well dressed and looking good. 2 couples didn't show. 1 text 10mins before saying "something had come up" (after being up for it all day) the other didn't bother showing, no message!! Couples can be timewasters as much as singles. Hats off to all you genuine single guys out there, you don't deserve to be tarred with the same brush."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a lucky one, was a random message to say hi and ended up in meeting, was so shocked as everyone I've ever passed seems to ignore me or don't bother due to no veris or new, thanks to so many single guys messing around has caused a vicious circle for others. No veri no conversation no conversation no possible meet no meet no veri, I am honoured to be lucky enough to meet someone, especially these guys who are amazing people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was a lucky one, was a random message to say hi and ended up in meeting, was so shocked as everyone I've ever passed seems to ignore me or don't bother due to no veris or new, thanks to so many single guys messing around has caused a vicious circle for others. No veri no conversation no conversation no possible meet no meet no veri, I am honoured to be lucky enough to meet someone, especially these guys who are amazing people "

Well done and welcome to the site.

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By *onny-n-clyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

cwmbran,


"Thanks for all the lovely comments it's much appreciated but I posted the thread just to let all the genuine single guys know that we sypathise and understand how tough it is for you with so many morons tainting your reputation x

Thanks for posting this, I was going to post something similar. We went to a small party last weekend, the 3 single guys turned up on time, well dressed and looking good. 2 couples didn't show. 1 text 10mins before saying "something had come up" (after being up for it all day) the other didn't bother showing, no message!! Couples can be timewasters as much as singles. Hats off to all you genuine single guys out there, you don't deserve to be tarred with the same brush."

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By *onny-n-clyde OP   Couple
over a year ago

cwmbran,


"I was a lucky one, was a random message to say hi and ended up in meeting, was so shocked as everyone I've ever passed seems to ignore me or don't bother due to no veris or new, thanks to so many single guys messing around has caused a vicious circle for others. No veri no conversation no conversation no possible meet no meet no veri, I am honoured to be lucky enough to meet someone, especially these guys who are amazing people "

Give this guy a chance ladies he is seriously HOT!

Mwaaaaahh see you soon sexy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the lovely comments it's much appreciated but I posted the thread just to let all the genuine single guys know that we sypathise and understand how tough it is for you with so many morons tainting your reputation x

Thanks for posting this, I was going to post something similar. We went to a small party last weekend, the 3 single guys turned up on time, well dressed and looking good. 2 couples didn't show. 1 text 10mins before saying "something had come up" (after being up for it all day) the other didn't bother showing, no message!! Couples can be timewasters as much as singles. Hats off to all you genuine single guys out there, you don't deserve to be tarred with the same brush."

Nicely said you must know some right dodgy singlies if they let you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the lovely comments it's much appreciated but I posted the thread just to let all the genuine single guys know that we sypathise and understand how tough it is for you with so many morons tainting your reputation x

Thanks for posting this, I was going to post something similar. We went to a small party last weekend, the 3 single guys turned up on time, well dressed and looking good. 2 couples didn't show. 1 text 10mins before saying "something had come up" (after being up for it all day) the other didn't bother showing, no message!! Couples can be timewasters as much as singles. Hats off to all you genuine single guys out there, you don't deserve to be tarred with the same brush.

Nicely said you must know some right dodgy singlies if they let you down"

Agree 100% with ropey- although did mess up dates with this lovely couple- won't happen again if I'm lucky enough to be invited back

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By *ewie3Man
over a year ago

Neath


"Thanks for all the lovely comments it's much appreciated but I posted the thread just to let all the genuine single guys know that we sypathise and understand how tough it is for you with so many morons tainting your reputation x

Thanks for posting this, I was going to post something similar. We went to a small party last weekend, the 3 single guys turned up on time, well dressed and looking good. 2 couples didn't show. 1 text 10mins before saying "something had come up" (after being up for it all day) the other didn't bother showing, no message!! Couples can be timewasters as much as singles. Hats off to all you genuine single guys out there, you don't deserve to be tarred with the same brush."

I think it's the majority not the majority that spoil it as always and it is hard to turn up somewhere on your own but if your unsure don't even say or put your name to a meet,party,etc as people who make the effort to arrange and invite others to these get togethers need the numbers to accomadate for others attending and you wouldn't cancel in vanilla life so why here ? I've been to several parties,socials and events on my own it is hard but I've always attended and not left those people who had the decency to invite me in the 1st place and given my the opportunity to attend and meet new people as it's very rare singles males get invited to parties or meets with couples so at least have the decency to turn up who ever you are or don't even arrange to go as it spoils it for other genuine people on here who want to meet others and have fun

More fool the people who don't turn up as they miss out and they don't realise from one meet,party,etc leads to another and another and this is how you get to meet others

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By *onbon7Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Haha! Not all dodgy and some actually turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had 2 meets since coming back onto the site and both have let me down , both were couples and I turned up in the area to await further instructions to meet venue but no further contact only to find myself blocked ... someone playing silly buggers with people on here ... so it's not just single guys that do it but across the board .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not all like that.

If something does come up then at least have the courtesy to send a message.

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By *ewie3Man
over a year ago

Neath


"Haha! Not all dodgy and some actually turn up"

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By *nighthood75Man
over a year ago

Rhondda

I have to say im fed up! As a genuine guy looking for fun i hate that soo many guys do things badly and create others to knock us genuine guys. Ive had many couples and single females think im just "another guy looking for a quickie" or guy here to waste peoples time. Guys get a grip and stop with all the bullshit. Its not fair and its not right to let people down. If you cant meet then dont arrange to. Its not rocket science!

Available to meet anyone thats interested. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thank you one and all we genuine single guys aren't a myth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight but net a guy Lol

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By *elshhorseMan
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Hi all I have been to parties socails etc and meet great people, and have traveled to meet couples, females, and message them I'm 5 mins from them only to be told can't make it, or no reply to message or text, so it is hard for gen males to meet others when they get messed about.

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By *20 And ChillMan
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Want a tip guys ? Stop crying and just get on with it

If someone doesn't want to take the time to find out what you're like because it's easier to assume you're like the 90% of dickhead guys out there then that's fine - they didn't deserve your time in the first place. Just suck it up and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were messed about and let down last night by not one but two single males ( both of whom display good veris). So we took a chance and invited a newby. He turned up promptly, and although a little nervous to start soon relaxed and it turned out to be up there with one of our best meets. The first two are exactly why guys like the last one find it so hard to get meets, because we are all so wary of the time wasters and pic collectors. So unfair that the genuine single guys get tarred with the same brush. "

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I think it's the majority not the majority that spoil it "

How does that work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thank you bonnynclyde thats why everyone deserves at least one chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a fair few cancel and not turn up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You guys have been lucky and learnt to sift through the single guys profiles but we all get let down at some point

It's all part of swinging but lovely to hear you openly putting in a good word for us single guys

See you both again soon I'm sure xxx

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