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Do you think the South Wales Scene has gone quiet?

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By *f3_couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Do you think that the South Wales scene has gone quiet? We were out having fun regularly over the summer but since end of August it has tailed off. We notice that Wildpassions have closed and we are definitely getting fewer contacts on Fab. What do others think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wildpasions is still open swinging is not the same as it was when we started 15 years ago its just gone down hill to many time wasters out ther to start with and people just like to chat about it in stead of geting on with it after all we are all swingers or so people say they are but we are still having fun with the true swingers out ther so come on lets get it back as it was 15 years ago

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Not sure if its a general trend, but we did play a lot when we first joined, but found we were devoting a lot of time to swinging, and realised we had to slow down a bit, hence we play less now in order to get other things done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you both have a huge appetite and we are not keeping up with your needs!

have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definatley gone down hill. The south and west Wales scene seems so cliquie at the moment. The new couples seem to get dragged into these cliques and if you turn a couple down that's in the clique words gets around that your snobby etc and the rest suddenly stop meeting you.

The funny thing is those that think they are popular because of these cliques will crash and burn like they always do. We saw it happen in south Wales about 7 years ago and all of those involved are gone off the scene.

Too many cpls on here notching up numbers on the bedpost without having standards then they bitch when tidy cpls won't meet them.

This site has to be the worst for it by far

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By *handyshandyCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Owh! NO NO NO NO youre not correct!! its as full of life as it always has been!! believe me...house is full of um lolol....we are admittedly getting older, cough cough except me of course...taking nector of youth daily, but I think its as much a social site as it is a swinging site which is what I want as well I adore the lovely friends I have made, the mad ones, the happy ones, the quiet ones the crazy ones all in the melting elixir bubble pot of life. There are always parties adrift, and the swansea social is full to brimmming with loads of loverly people all praises go to jonlyn similarly a huge effort has been put into the cardiff social by martrhi and you should just see the list!! I hate cliques, we must all determindly make an effort to chat to others!! but not everybody is everybodys cup of tea and thats understandable. However this is not to be confused with what you refer to as 'snobbishness' just lack of time to see everybody. Let this be the season yee all make an effort with each other and see what happens!! yeah???

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By *uddsWoman
over a year ago

st athans

i totally agree with you us2933 i agree with all of whay u say

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By *uddsWoman
over a year ago

st athans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pot calling the kettle black springs to mind when reading one of the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree wiv us2933

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funandsex69, if that's aimed us please have the guts to say. We don't mind you disagreeing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on the scene over 7 years now as a single and as a cpl. Life USED to be FUN, but now is so hard to get meets because of the people mentioned by US2933, we all like to play but the Cliques in the Welsh scene are ruining the whole ethos of Swinging.

The other thing that needs to be addressed is the HUGE number of single males on site. It really is good to see so many polite and friendly guys on here and we feel they are not given enough time from alot of people. The Swinging scene is not 100% sex but a mixture of Sex, friends and socializing. We need as a scene to focus on the important things whilst not pushing out those whos ideals and plans do not suit ours.

We as a scene can do this with minimal effort and upset if we so desire, should we fail then the wales room will go the same way as the Wales room did on another site where there is often no more than 2 or 3 people chatting at any time.

Lets hope we can pull this back from oblivion before we loose the Welsh scene forever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some valid points being made here and like some of the people posting I too have been on the scene for some time as a single male out of choice I may add. This is a double edge sword for me on one hand I can pick and choose who I meet knowing that a perspective partner isn’t going to have a hissy fit, and on the other I am excluded from meeting some couples who; out of choice prefer to play with only other couples or fem’s. So if we wanted to be pedantic you could say that some couples are being clique because they will only play with other couples or fems. However it is a personal choice who they play with. Moreover I have as it has been said “standards” and there are some couples or even fems that I wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire albeit a few.

So maybe it could be a combination of several factors at work here;

1 People choose to play with whom they choose and exclude those who they want

2 People have “notched the bed post” and don’t want to go back

3 Its getting cold and the economy is fucked

If we extend this to the chat room it gets worse when I first joined fab there was a select few who frequented the chat room, over time the site has grow and with that the associated problems with duplicated accounts, deceptive accounts (male posing as female and vice versa) and an increased occupancy to the chat room. There are sadly only a limited few who actually talk openly and even few who actually engage you in a stimulating conversation. Whispers are in my opinion the biggest problem to this.

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By *ibidinemMan
over a year ago

carmarthen /llanelli .

think its a general thing! more people have internet and laptops especially fakers and wasters !!,joined fab when it first started ,everyone was friendly and polite and was good fun, now lately soo many wasters fakers and rude ignorant people ! even allegedly veriefied people! and they arnt all the dreaded single male ! glad i joined when i did as i have a few regular good friends ! but saying that a lot have now left ! sign of the times! ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot are leaving newnewbie. We've been very lucky over the years especially on a different site. Never expierienced anything as bad as it is now.

We were turned down by two cpls last week and we thanked them for thier honesty and that was that. If we turn a cpl down on here it's usually because we feel we ain't compatable and then they mail back and ask us 'why ain't we compatable?'.

We feel lke replying 'read our bloody profile and you'll understand why'. We feel our standard refusal reply is very polite and not too harsh but some want a detailed explanation why we won't meet them and lets be fair no one wants to say it's because we don't like you etc because thats not nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree tell them they fugly and they should simply do one that's the response I normally get

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Yes prof, but then you are fugly lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha your joking right the entire of the the wales swinging scene is quiet i find!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry us2933 if you think that was aimed at you

we actually do agree with what you said we find the welsh seen clique we worded our message wrong lol

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By *ibidinemMan
over a year ago

carmarthen /llanelli .

i know us 2933 and most who are leaving are my regulars !Grrrrr! and i find couples ( no offence|) these days are rude and arrogant as hell,even tho im the dreaded single male i get asked by couples for meets when i say no sorry i dont meet people i havnt chatted to etc they then tell me to fuck off then u time waster!!?? it seems single males ar enot allowed to be fussy or have to meet all who ask !! or if they dont there wasters ! funny that as my first 2 meetings where me on my own in a damp wet carpark ! great wot a confidence booster ! 3rd meet was a single fem and the rest is history ! think u just gota meet th eright people!

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By *ibidinemMan
over a year ago

carmarthen /llanelli .

forgot to add first 2 meetings where no shows!!! and i nearly left the swinging scene!

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By *r T Mrs TCouple
over a year ago

swansea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont think that it is really quieter -- just that people also have other things (like work and family things) that sometimes take priority. All things are cyclical and quiet periods are quickly followed by very busy periods!!

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By *handyshandyCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

I understand none of this, the swansea social is packed, so to is the cardiff social, and ive got people asking and asking to come to a party im holding soon...trouble is that is packed too. SOZ ur wrong..little bit like the neighbour who always said ive moved umpteen times and each time the neighbours are awful!!! make an effort you lot..bet none of you have attended any social events?? ive never seen you at any!! so put cynicism aside, and make an effort. As for single guys you need patience, ive got a fab couple of regular guys who come to the partys and im sure enjoy coming as we enjoy having them (no pun intended lol). You cant expect to pounce and be pounced upon. It all takes time to build relationships and make friends. Ive just had one guy mail me several times asking me to vet him through another one of my friends,,,now thats perserverence, and eventually that will gain him favour. No i dont expect single guys to beg, just be patient and when we trust you we will make friends forever.lol well summit like that. Anyway whose left?? i dont know anyone whose left, this is all propaganda the chat rooms are full!!! get a grip folks, down with cliched cliques up and onward with motivation determination and beckoned spirit xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but its a swinging site not a social site

and we spk to lots who dont get invited to these social nites

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

parties may be invite only but i'm not aware of a single social that is. they are always advertised in the forum and everyone is able to put their names down.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrote twice to this forum and found myself contradicting myself.......................TWICE !!!!

The scene has changed, evolution possibly ?

My head is buzzing tho as I remember Swinging was about sex not socials ?

Now to contradict myself................

Socials are great, fun and often lead to other things..........

Who gives a shit anyway, lets have an Orgy and all make friends at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Scene does not change .. people change and their outlook changes.

Wales i think is a brilliant room, most chat and have a good laugh even if the dreaded single guy is NOT in their criteria.

Chat rooms keep chatting keep having fun.. end result will be your desires fulfilled.

Jay xx

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

I took a few months off in the summer after having just over a year of almost constant fun on the site.

While things have slowed down for me since I came back that's more down to me returning with a slightly more circumspect and restrained attitude than before (stop laughing you lot! ). I dont see that the site or the scene has changed in any meaningful way lately.

As for cliques, I pay no attention to them so I honestly couldnt say if they exist or not, if they do I'm probably a part of most of them which makes me a member of none of them.

swinging is jut like life - there's good times and bad, and what goes around comes around sooner or later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree tobes. I have returned after bieng away for a year, and found nothing much has changed. Yes, there does seem to be more single males than ever, and from personal experiance 90% of all the people who I meet, do want to socialise first.

The socails are much bigger than they have ever been, and I think thats great.

As far as the Wales room goes, I like to have a good chat and banter on there with everyone. Just because your in chat and talking about all sorts of things, does not mean your not swinging ffs.

whispers are a good thing and bad, but in the new chat they are replaced with private messages. so in no way are people going to feel left out, as they will not know in chat who is whispering.

In the past I myself, have not felt the need to stick to one group of people. At all social events I try to talk to as many others as possible (when not dancing lol). It has got me a long way on here and made me so many friends and given me so much fun.

So if you think its slowing down, perhaps start actually talking to others instead of waiting for them to come to you ? In no way am I saying that people who are posting meets are non socail, as it is an important part of the site.

At the end of the day we are all here to have fun and enjoy ourself. Everyone has their own oppinion and everyone can decide for themself what they want and how they want it.

Right ! ive had my gripe lol and lets all have fun xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

welsh scene going quiet ? fook noooo i aggree with mandy there,we had a party last week couldnt bloody move here and i had to turn down loads of people as i just didnt have the room for them ,and my party wasnt invite only it was posted in the forums for people to put there names down and same goes for the socials they are open to every one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think sometimes it seems quiet because our family life has to take priority. I must admit I have had my regular playmates since I joined fab, I still play with them and occasionally a new one, maybe it works like that ppl get friendly with a few couples and are happy with just those for the moment, I dont know but in way life is like that, sometimes our family lives and work lives are so bliddy hectic and then oops everything goes quiet maybe its the same on the internet.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with some what that has been said but if your genuine wouldnt be any arguing and for this divide why ?? We all from god dam Wales hence the chat room name! Parties and socials are always busy and all the people involved should have a lot of praise for bringing all us sexy welsh swingers together this should be a social united front where we should be able to create an environment for all I think since been on the site I think it's generally more quite at this time of year due to family etc but we all here for fun meet new people made some great friends so plz let's get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been at it 6mnths now & have been welcomed by most people from cardiff,swansea & birmingham,lol

can't see the problem,or are we green

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same old peeps banging on about some so called click zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz it seems a post is made and a few find any excuse they can to go on about there being a click of some kind ?? ..if there is so what who cares all sounds like sour grapes to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

old peeps..... bit harsh there! Definitey no sour grapes from us if that's what you are implying.

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By *istressandslaveCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

We took a time out for a bit and came back and have had really good fun! We've met even more lovely people and have both socialised and played and enjoyed it all!

All we can say is.....

Happy New Year to All and may it bring all the sexy, fun people back into your lives along with loads more new ones!!!!!

And Wild passions is now Wild Desires and run by Paul and Julie who are both stunning, great fun, great hosts and do their best to ensure that all have the fun they're after! Well worth a visit!

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By *tefanCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

There's a couple we know saying its sad that peeps don't want to know them on here but when they attended Chams it was a different story. We got to admit though we don't get much luck on here either compared to other sites. Message box can be empty for weeks on end and its not without trying, changing pics and rewording profiles. It seems if your face don't fit then you don't get anywhere. At least we have met some great friends through socials on here which counts a lot.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

This is in no way a dig at anyone.....

There has been some chat about the supposed "cliques", and also some people mention how no-one talked to them at a social, or moan they cant get meets etc.

IMHO, if you go to a social, or party, and sit in the corner, then its unlikely people will seek you out.

If you come onto a site like this, establish a profile and then sit back and wait.... same thing will happen.

There are no cliques, just groups of friends, if you speak to them, they will speak to you.

Be pro-active, if you wait..... well, you'll still be waiting next New Year lol!

Chat in the chatrooms, post in the forums, mingle at the socials, and before you know it, you will be playing in meets!!!

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By *tefanCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Prof's earlier posting the economy is fucked could quite well be a valid one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

old peeps is just a figure of speech ! why would you think i was implying anythig against you us293??

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