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By *elsh_lass74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

How many times do you do things the same way, for it to all go wrong and for you then change the way you go about things???

I'm sick of attracting the wrong guys, not sure what I'm doing wrong. So stage one is changing my age range!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many times do you do things the same way, for it to all go wrong and for you then change the way you go about things???

I'm sick of attracting the wrong guys, not sure what I'm doing wrong. So stage one is changing my age range!!! "

Changing the age range for me wouldn't work.

I attract the bad boy and always have.

So unless I go with Mr not so exciting then I will always attract the bad boys

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By *iffidusMan
over a year ago

lydney

I must admit I'm a bad boy. I never wait for the green man before I cross and once I got £5 too much change and said fuck all. Fuck all I tell you. I'm not proud x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter what you have on your profile, guys look at pics and pics only and then message you expecting you to open your door in half an hour.

Block single guys, have pics, if they 'fab' them and you like the look for them then maybe engage conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit I'm a bad boy. I never wait for the green man before I cross and once I got £5 too much change and said fuck all. Fuck all I tell you. I'm not proud x"

You devil you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are the wrong types you attract? There are some diamonds on here under all the muck, just gotta dig and polish

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By *urrsMan
over a year ago

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"Doesn't matter what you have on your profile, guys look at pics and pics only and then message you expecting you to open your door in half an hour.

Block single guys, have pics, if they 'fab' them and you like the look for them then maybe engage conversation?

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Block single guys, thanks lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't matter what you have on your profile, guys look at pics and pics only and then message you expecting you to open your door in half an hour.

Block single guys, have pics, if they 'fab' them and you like the look for them then maybe engage conversation?

Block single guys, thanks lol!"

Guys like you are the reason I don't block single guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't matter what you have on your profile, guys look at pics and pics only and then message you expecting you to open your door in half an hour.

Block single guys, have pics, if they 'fab' them and you like the look for them then maybe engage conversation?

Block single guys, thanks lol!"

It's the pests that spoil it for guys who are genuine and true.

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By *all Mid WalesMan
over a year ago

Mid Wales


"Doesn't matter what you have on your profile, guys look at pics and pics only and then message you expecting you to open your door in half an hour.

Block single guys, have pics, if they 'fab' them and you like the look for them then maybe engage conversation?

Block single guys, thanks lol!

It's the pests that spoil it for guys who are genuine and true.

"

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By *elsh_lass74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"What are the wrong types you attract? There are some diamonds on here under all the muck, just gotta dig and polish "

There are some diamonds on here I agree. But scratch the surface and they aren't so pretty!!!

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By *elsh_lass74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?"

Depends really, a week or so. Some longer than others, depending on circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?

Depends really, a week or so. Some longer than others, depending on circumstances "

Mind you don't get called a cock tease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?

Depends really, a week or so. Some longer than others, depending on circumstances

Mind you don't get called a cock tease "
really? Just a week?

I can take months to meet someone.

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By *elsh_lass74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?

Depends really, a week or so. Some longer than others, depending on circumstances

Mind you don't get called a cock tease really? Just a week?

I can take months to meet someone. "

Yeah, like I say depends on different things and how much contact! I go on gut instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't tar all single guys with the same brush! Some are alright! I would like to include myself in the "alright" category. Just got to give some a chance!

Yes the one line brigade will always float on and off the site. But maybe there are a couple of good uns amongst the crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?

Depends really, a week or so. Some longer than others, depending on circumstances

Mind you don't get called a cock tease really? Just a week?

I can take months to meet someone. "

There are some I still haven't met after a few years! But we still keep in touch and plan to sooner or later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shitbag reporting in.

Yeah, the good guys get the girl, but without us they don't look half as impressive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes me months & sometimes years to meet a guy, although there have been odd occasions, which are few n far between when I've met quickly. Of those I have met I'd say most I meet several times & have had good times with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. To me, there has to be some kind of 'spark' psychologically and I have to feel mentally stimulated by a man, both inside and outside of Fab. I'm an articulate and intelligent woman and I have to feel that somebody is on the same wavelength, or we are simply not going to get along, sexually. For me, it's not as simple as 'I fancy you, you fancy me...let's fuck.'

Now this kind of discourse usually happens over a few weeks *minimum*, even months, and by then any awkwardness has gone because by that time, I feel like I know the person better and feel comfortable around them. By this time, I am absolutely buzzing with anticipation after all of the flirting, and the build up brings out an animalistic side to me. My mind has been stimulated, and so my body has followed suit. I am attracted, and I have to have him NOW.

For me, these are the most intense encounters. I'm not saying that my way of doing things will work for others, but OP, maybe give yourself time to build that all-important anticipation up. The best guys (and women ) are worth the wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. To me, there has to be some kind of 'spark' psychologically and I have to feel mentally stimulated by a man, both inside and outside of Fab. I'm an articulate and intelligent woman and I have to feel that somebody is on the same wavelength, or we are simply not going to get along, sexually. For me, it's not as simple as 'I fancy you, you fancy me...let's fuck.'

Now this kind of discourse usually happens over a few weeks *minimum*, even months, and by then any awkwardness has gone because by that time, I feel like I know the person better and feel comfortable around them. By this time, I am absolutely buzzing with anticipation after all of the flirting, and the build up brings out an animalistic side to me. My mind has been stimulated, and so my body has followed suit. I am attracted, and I have to have him NOW.

For me, these are the most intense encounters. I'm not saying that my way of doing things will work for others, but OP, maybe give yourself time to build that all-important anticipation up. The best guys (and women ) are worth the wait."

Had a similar experience myself and it was great. I suppose the familiarity of getting to know someone on a more platonic/intellectual level before meeting addresses a need we all have, and that is to feel comfortable with another individual (or to put it more plainly, to feel safe) before we are willing to make ourselves potentially physically vulnerable.

Once a person feels safe, then it's much easier to be caught up in the moment and let themselves go than if there are residual fears lingering...

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By *elsh_lass74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

I hear what you are saying Ava and totally understand where you are coming from.

I do get to know guys, and will only meet when I feel happy that I know them enough. If that takes days, weeks or months then so be it.

But you will get guys that will tell you what they think you want to hear. Those that lie about the simplest of things. And those that are completely different online and face to face.

Sometimes you need to take a chance, sometimes the niggle in the back of your head proves you to be right.

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By *urrsMan
over a year ago

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"Doesn't matter what you have on your profile, guys look at pics and pics only and then message you expecting you to open your door in half an hour.

Block single guys, have pics, if they 'fab' them and you like the look for them then maybe engage conversation?

Block single guys, thanks lol!

Guys like you are the reason I don't block single guys... "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?

Depends really, a week or so. Some longer than others, depending on circumstances "

I was thinking it would normally be pretty easy for them to tell you what you wanted to hear in a short space of time rather than taking a longer time to speak to them, as either they'll get impatient and not bother so you find out what they're really like, or you keep chatting and find out how genuine they are.

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By *elsh_lass74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?

Depends really, a week or so. Some longer than others, depending on circumstances

I was thinking it would normally be pretty easy for them to tell you what you wanted to hear in a short space of time rather than taking a longer time to speak to them, as either they'll get impatient and not bother so you find out what they're really like, or you keep chatting and find out how genuine they are. "

Not really as if there are lies, they slip up sooner or later!! Plus if they get pushy I know they aren't for me!!

Even the ones I've chatted to loads over a number of months have been a waste of time!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long do you generally chat to guys before meeting?

Depends really, a week or so. Some longer than others, depending on circumstances

Mind you don't get called a cock tease really? Just a week?

I can take months to meet someone.

There are some I still haven't met after a few years! But we still keep in touch and plan to sooner or later. "

This I've got a first date/social planned Saturday with someone I've been talking to here and plenty of for over a year.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"I hear what you are saying Ava and totally understand where you are coming from.

I do get to know guys, and will only meet when I feel happy that I know them enough. If that takes days, weeks or months then so be it.

But you will get guys that will tell you what they think you want to hear. Those that lie about the simplest of things. And those that are completely different online and face to face.

Sometimes you need to take a chance, sometimes the niggle in the back of your head proves you to be right. "

The longer you chat to them, the more likely they are to trip themselves up if they are telling porkies to try to get into your knickers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to chat and I will always have a phone call before any meet. Only twice have I had a social meet before a play meet and both were with single women, for the obvious safety reasons.

Normally if I message people first it will be a long process before a meet but if women or couples message me they tend to want it there and then. My quickest meet was within an hour of the first message! We did meet in a pub and had at least one drink before retiring lol

I don't view fab as a dating site so as long as I can hold a conversation and relax in their company then that's enough for me.

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