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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So many people on this site state in there profile that they will not reply to one liner messages like, hi how are you or things like introducing yourself and asking how's they finding the site! I understand that women or couples get so many messages of single men and a lot of them a waste of time at that but not all of us are the same and therefore shouldn't be branded that way! My problem is with this is that you could go putting a lot of effort into the message and then they bulk delete half the time anyway. So how are genuine single males supposed to get a chance?

Answers on a post card please ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very good point.

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By *elsh14Man
over a year ago

swansea

And women who ask 4pic and they avent got 1 ov themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many people on this site state in there profile that they will not reply to one liner messages like, hi how are you or things like introducing yourself and asking how's they finding the site! I understand that women or couples get so many messages of single men and a lot of them a waste of time at that but not all of us are the same and therefore shouldn't be branded that way! My problem is with this is that you could go putting a lot of effort into the message and then they bulk delete half the time anyway. So how are genuine single males supposed to get a chance?

Answers on a post card please ??

i think they mean the one liners like "how are you" or wanna fuck a nice few line message might get luckier

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And women who ask 4pic and they avent got 1 ov themselves "

I know that does my swede in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Answers on a post card please ??

i think they mean the one liners like "how are you" or wanna fuck a nice few line message might get luckier

Well any knob end who asks straight away do you fancy a fck deserves to be deleted but I think one liners are the start of a conversation. For instance if i receive a message asking hi how are you! I first look at there profile and then if I like I would reply! However most people just delete without even opening?

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

Well written profile, some nice photos, face ones if you are able to show them and a nice first message. Humour is also good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

basically women can be much picker on here than (if they are truely honest) they can be in real life, some obvs like this power or sense there of soo they generally expect us gus to work a bit harder.

now each to there own but im not one to jump through hoop so i send whatever message im in the mood to write (some long - some short) and as you say some never get read some get deleted some i get meets from

i tend not to over think it im not desperate so i will leave it to the swinging gods and a given womans ego on the day wether i hear back

my only gripe is the hypocrisy of manners or lack there of

i get you get loads of messages but seriously manners and respect cost fuck all and work both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be pretty weird though, I suppose some of them are getting "chatted up" hundreds of times a day. Clichés must get very boring VERY quickly.

Agreed though, it doesn't leave much common ground to work with to try to open a conversation.

It's great that fab is free, but everything has a price... In this case it's the likelihood of idiots to create multiple accounts, do weird stalker shit, hide behind their keyboards etc. Which ruins it for everyone.

(I'm not arguing in favour of the site going paid only here, btw - just making an observation)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

paid for sites do tend to have a much better ratio of active and engaging users ...

but pay peanuts get monkeys... er or middle aged valleys birds with wizards sleeves hanging between their legs

still its a free wank and a giggle

most people arnt worth talking to anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of cockiness and banter from the off works for me. Rugby talk (from someone who actually knows what they're talking about ) is also another winner for me. Yes I know I'm sad but I don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"paid for sites do tend to have a much better ratio of active and engaging users ...

but pay peanuts get monkeys... er or middle aged valleys birds with wizards sleeves hanging between their legs

still its a free wank and a giggle

most people arnt worth talking to anyway"

You seem very negative towards the site, that's a shame, as a positive attitude is usually a plus point aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

naah not negative it is what it is ... i used to mod some paid sites and some other freebies back in the day so you see the spectrum good and bad on both sides

tbh im mostly on when im distracting myself from other things so dont take it very seriously

but i feel for the single guys that never get a look in... and the women who get grief

but back whan i was a profile mod ... it kinda takes the fun outta it a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BTW, posting in the forums has earned me more profile views, and female initiated contact than any amount of "cold calling". (Hi, girls

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I think it's because there's always something to discuss, people to bounce off etc, and because it's a public discussion there isn't that pressure to entertain (or entice) one specific person.

People get much more of a gauge of someone's sense of humour, general personality, and crucially, can see how your and their friends react to you with you, which is all important "feedback" in determining whether they think you're a twat and if they feel safe/attracted.

Basically the forums can sometimes act like a bloke showroom for women, in a good way. And vice versa of course. Just my 2p.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agreed mike

same with socials for those with the inclination to go

i have most of my better meets from non solicited mail

still a bit of "fancy a shag" spam doesnt hurt the averages if you dont mind a numbers game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"naah not negative it is what it is ... i used to mod some paid sites and some other freebies back in the day so you see the spectrum good and bad on both sides

tbh im mostly on when im distracting myself from other things so dont take it very seriously

but i feel for the single guys that never get a look in... and the women who get grief

but back whan i was a profile mod ... it kinda takes the fun outta it a bit"

Just because you see it as a giggle and free wank doesn't mean that "is what it is"

A lot of men are very successful on here so it certainly isn't the case for all guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thinking about it I might just be putting the wrong thing down on my messages ? So here's an example of one of mine for you to critique ?

Hi how's things, how are you? How you finding the site? Just read your profile and it looks great so I was wondering if you would be interested in doing a few things for me in return for me paying you in great sex. All I'm looking for is someone to do all my ironing, cleaning, cooking and putting the black bag rubbish out on a Sunday night ready for a Monday morning. Also you must be a keen recycler and ensure everything is recycled even food to do our part for the environment. If your interested get in touch!

No pressure

James

What you think guys haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bit of cockiness and banter from the off works for me. Rugby talk (from someone who actually knows what they're talking about ) is also another winner for me. Yes I know I'm sad but I don't care

Yeh but no point talking rugby to women as they don't know anything about it

lol

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

"Well written profile, some nice photos, face ones if you are able to show them and a nice first message. Humour is also good "
I think that you do need a bit of humour on here and try not to take it too seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit of cockiness and banter from the off works for me. Rugby talk (from someone who actually knows what they're talking about ) is also another winner for me. Yes I know I'm sad but I don't care

Yeh but no point talking rugby to women as they don't know anything about it

lol "

Na course we don't. Only good for the housework us bitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think with most things online - it gets diluted thats the beauty and curse of access

hence me agreeing that some paid sites have advantages

beyond that if you get from it what your after then more power to you

ive had rich veins from here in the past when i used the site differently and i always come back when i leave

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By *atty_loves_curvesMan
over a year ago

South Wales

"Thinking about it I might just be putting the wrong thing down on my messages ? So here's an example of one of mine for you to critique ?

No pressure

James

What you think guys haha

That should be your match.com profile lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thinking about it I might just be putting the wrong thing down on my messages ? So here's an example of one of mine for you to critique ?

No pressure

James

What you think guys haha

That should be your match.com profile lol."

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Thinking about it I might just be putting the wrong thing down on my messages ? So here's an example of one of mine for you to critique ?

No pressure

James

What you think guys haha

Yeah exactly that. Should work every time for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only good for the housework us bitches

Well, a couple of other things come to mind..

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By *tsallaroundMan
over a year ago

merthyr

Sent face pics get blocked

Dont sent face pics get blocked

Be funny get blocked

Be nice get blocked

Lol

There are some really nice people on here. Not up their own arses. Some I categorised as wall flowers . Disco last chance make a move. Saddly with all the male idiots on here the wall flowers have the choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been talking to a guy but the recent message he sent me was basically.... shut the fuck up !!!! hmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Receiving 'hi how are you' a hundred times a day gets really old really fast.

If a guys message doesn't stand out, I won't take the time to read it and reply. I don't have the time or the inclination! However if its a fun, sparky message, it's a winner

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

"Thinking about it I might just be putting the wrong thing down on my messages ? So here's an example of one of mine for you to critique ?

No pressure

James

What you think guys haha

I would reply to this type of message lol.... it's funny and at least you've thought about what you're writing. I'm not saying I'm up for the job tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinking about it I might just be putting the wrong thing down on my messages ? So here's an example of one of mine for you to critique ?

No pressure

James

What you think guys haha

Yeah exactly that. Should work every time for you

If I still had my single profile that would have been a read and delete message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all mine

Even if it's a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I reply to all mine

Even if it's a no thanks

But yaour lovely though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thinking about it I might just be putting the wrong thing down on my messages ? So here's an example of one of mine for you to critique ?

No pressure

James

What you think guys haha

Yeah exactly that. Should work every time for you

If I still had my single profile that would have been a read and delete message."

That's the thing, one person above said she would reply and you said you would delete!!! I suppose it depends on your sense I humour ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bit of cockiness and banter from the off works for me. Rugby talk (from someone who actually knows what they're talking about ) is also another winner for me. Yes I know I'm sad but I don't care

Yeh but no point talking rugby to women as they don't know anything about it

lol

Na course we don't. Only good for the housework us bitches

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

I reply too what ever I can but when we bombarded with messages and do you fancy fuk message that delete I try to answer reply but if I get message stating fancy fuk.or can I gave head its delete not good messaging back but get too many like most women yeah like abite humour in message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah now and then inbox just goes mad

I find I have to delete messages due to fact I've started noticing again I reply no thank you for whatever reason and get

Why so I reply then can I change your mind followed by a load more messages

But I do try and answer people where I can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I reply too what ever I can but when we bombarded with messages and do you fancy fuk message that delete I try to answer reply but if I get message stating fancy fuk.or can I gave head its delete not good messaging back but get too many like most women yeah like abite humour in message."

Yeh I agree with yar first bit about a fck!! But personally I think your first message is just a simple hi! Just to show your interest ? Then it's up to them to check out your profile ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply to all mine

Even if it's a no thanks

But yaour lovely though

Shhhhh don't tell no one mind lol

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