FabSwingers.com forum: Replies to messages

By *ingleMingle OP Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Do you not think that if you've taken the time to write a non pervy or creepy message to folks inquiring about fun that the least they could do is reply with a yay or nay or are people just simply too ignorant to even bother ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

damned if they do and damned if they don't

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

It actually states in the site FAQ that its not rude not to reply.

Do you reply to every spam email, text or mail you get in real life?

Plus, if you do reply to tell them you aint interested, you either get abuse or them whining about why you wont meet them.

We just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on whether the person has read your profile or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most don't read a profile we have found lol most just boom straight to "wanna fuck?"

him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on whether the person has read your profile or not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hasn't this been done to death, try doing a forum search & you'll find all the views there, can't be arsed justifying x

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Do you not think that if you've taken the time to write a non pervy or creepy message to folks inquiring about fun that the least they could do is reply with a yay or nay or are people just simply too ignorant to even bother ????"
. If they have no interest seems a bit pointless replying to say no.Ijust assume no reply means no interest and concentrate on the positive replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you've written a decent opening message then it deserves a "sorry, no thanks" or whatever response. If I were to make a simple copy/paste shite I'd expect a number of my messages to be deleted as they often would be directed at that person

But saying that many people have had the experience of guys overthinking things, then getting overly offended when they're turned down politely, and the guy responds abusively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive given no response to a couple of "he sexy" messages because they don't suit me. I don't get aggro back. Guys need to understand that it's not a personal attack.

People might not like me because I'm bi, or because my pictures aren't interesting, or because I don't show my cock. You cannot please everyone despite how much you like them. It has to be a mutual thing.

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By *STAXxMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

i did used to think "i should atleast get a no thanks" if i messaged but have seen how many messages some of the ladies get so guess you cant really blame them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's common courtesy. I've had s few replies and just said thanks for theor honesty and a friendship has been struck up.

Others just block you and move on. Each to their own and it's everyone's choice to chat or not.

Advice I was given early on - just live with it and move on its not the end of the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get junk mail (or addressed to you by name) through the post, do you reply, if it's of no interest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you get junk mail (or addressed to you by name) through the post, do you reply, if it's of no interest?"

I chuck it in the bin, take this morning, I post a meet for SUNDAY & I'm inundated with messages ofering to lick n fuck me this morning, now if I sit here & reply nicely to them all I'm unlikely to get to work, so I bin them in the block bin X

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

"If you get junk mail (or addressed to you by name) through the post, do you reply, if it's of no interest?

Fair dinkum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hasn't this been done to death, try doing a forum search & you'll find all the views there, can't be arsed justifying x"

Careful I said that about another thread last week and got abusive mail from someone, not even the OP.

Mike

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By *ingleMingle OP Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

My point is guys that you've got single fems n cpls that put up adds looking for meets today so you reply in the politest way poss as I myself is naughty in person enuff so I don't have to write filth in messages and for those idiots that do I don't blame not replying but wen your being clean and tidy via inbox surely there's no harm in a polite yay or nay now I can understand the flack that single ladies get off men keeping on but we ain't all like that I just think it's very rude not to reply as the message you sent was very polite spesh wen they have put a play date up asking for folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's arrogant to expect a reply.

So you take time to write a carefully constructed yet polite message and your expectation is they must reply to you even if you do not measure up to their requirements.

I put the lottery on last Friday I won nothing at least they could have said thanks for swelling the pot some more. Yes my comment is ridiculous but no more so than yours.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Pretty rude not to read the site rules etc

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By *wenandAmyCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

OP - do you not think it's ignorant to join a site without familiarising yourself with the FAQ's and posing a question that's been asked and answered countless times before? For your convenience I have taken the liberty of copying and pasting the relevant information.

"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!"

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

No need to thank me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stop posting on these forum posts and it will soon disappear off the list !!!

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By *w72Man
over a year ago

swansea

"Just stop posting on these forum posts and it will soon disappear off the list !!!"

Good idea. Dam! I just did

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By *ingleMingle OP Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Guys I don't need to be enlightened as to the rules of this n that of fab I've been on n off here for 7 yrs as a cpl and now a single tho it still dosnt alter the facts that amongst the time wasters ,fake profiles ,pick collectors ,no shoes and complete idiots on here we also have pure ignorance to get froo too now,if ppl are so adamant about YOU MUST READ PROFILE or NO PIC NO REPLY if the message isn't horrid or vulgar then a thanks or no thanks would be nice beens as they've clearly taken time to read the message , now I dont need to sort out my messaging skills or my profile just voicing something that I think is an ussue so if you want to whip be for it HARDER PLSSSSSS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys I don't need to be enlightened as to the rules of this n that of fab I've been on n off here for 7 yrs as a cpl and now a single tho it still dosnt alter the facts that amongst the time wasters ,fake profiles ,pick collectors ,no shoes and complete idiots on here we also have pure ignorance to get froo too now,if ppl are so adamant about YOU MUST READ PROFILE or NO PIC NO REPLY if the message isn't horrid or vulgar then a thanks or no thanks would be nice beens as they've clearly taken time to read the message , now I dont need to sort out my messaging skills or my profile just voicing something that I think is an ussue so if you want to whip be for it HARDER PLSSSSSS

after 7 years you still havnt figured out whinging about it isnt gonna change anything? if they dont reply they arent interested simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hate posting on shit like this ffs will all single guys plz stop posting about not getting replies it will not change and it will not help your cause !!!!

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By *ingleMingle OP Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

gone

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By *w72Man
over a year ago

swansea

I do own shoes. I also make sure they are clean if I'm lucky enough to get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear

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