FabSwingers.com forum: meeting without partners knowledge

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see on many profiles that they will not meet with someone who is in a relationship without their partners permission.

So my question is do your care and would you meet a person who is in a relationship and they are seeing you behind their partners back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely cheating is cheating ?

A lot depends on an individual, but I'm not here to try and fix any problems within a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a single man tells me he is in a relationship or married I will meet them. They are big enough to know what they are doing by being on here. Some men are on here for reasons of being in a marriage / relationship with no sex. I have been there myself which is how I started on the scene. Plus meeting men in relationships or married is less complicated when looking for one off meets as I am in a relationship myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see on many profiles that they will not meet with someone who is in a relationship without their partners permission.

So my question is do your care and would you meet a person who is in a relationship and they are seeing you behind their partners back"

I used to meet married men but since the break up of my own marriage i wont anymore. Dont know why really....must have changed my perspective on things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men don't tell u anyway so how would u know if they were married

U have to take there word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men don't tell u anyway so how would u know if they were married

U have to take there word "

Wedding ring tan lines have given the game away for one or two ive met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a single man tells me he is in a relationship or married I will meet them. They are big enough to know what they are doing by being on here. Some men are on here for reasons of being in a marriage / relationship with no sex. I have been there myself which is how I started on the scene. Plus meeting men in relationships or married is less complicated when looking for one off meets as I am in a relationship myself x"

I was meeting someone for 6 months and all was good until the wife turned up....

i was the single one and it was all my fault lol....now I don't meet attached guys as it just isn't worth the hassle.....

so it be ok for you or your other half to do it with out each other knowing they are doing it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men don't tell u anyway so how would u know if they were married

U have to take there word

Wedding ring tan lines have given the game away for one or two ive met

classic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was meeting someone for 6 months and all was good until the wife turned up....

i was the single one and it was all my fault lol....now I don't meet attached guys as it just isn't worth the hassle.....

so it be ok for you or your other half to do it with out each other knowing they are doing it??

o's I did not no this guy was married....so was a bit of a shock when the wife turned up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men don't tell u anyway so how would u know if they were married

U have to take there word

Wedding ring tan lines have given the game away for one or two ive met

Over my years here I've discovered that 99% of the guys I've met who claimed to be single, have in fact been attached in some way. It's not for me to work that out or to moralise, it's their relationship & like Horny, an attached guy comes with less complication. Last time I commented about this I was bombarded with mail from upset women, I gird myself in readiness X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I met a guy once was with him good few months went away for weekends and then one day he said my wife knows about u

I looked at him and said wife where did she come from and then said time for u to go so it was a nice bye bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men don't tell u anyway so how would u know if they were married

U have to take there word

Wedding ring tan lines have given the game away for one or two ive met

classic

Not all have rings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men don't tell u anyway so how would u know if they were married

U have to take there word

Wedding ring tan lines have given the game away for one or two ive met

classic

Not all have rings "

No i know that was just referring to past experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men don't tell u anyway so how would u know if they were married

U have to take there word

Wedding ring tan lines have given the game away for one or two ive met

classic

Not all have rings "

Nope & there are so many types of attachment nowadays, it's naive to think wedding rings X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess everyone has their own perspective on this and who's to judge ???

I'm not saying for a minute that it's the right thing to do but if the male is honest as to his circumstances and the woman, knowing his circumstances, is happy to play then that's a matter for them

We're all adults and we all know the pitfalls ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was meeting someone for 6 months and all was good until the wife turned up....

i was the single one and it was all my fault lol....now I don't meet attached guys as it just isn't worth the hassle.....

so it be ok for you or your other half to do it with out each other knowing they are doing it??

No I wouldn't be happy if he was doing it behind my back but then again I wouldn't know. I met Andy on fab so since the off we knew each other were swingers so that made things easy when it came to sex lol. But even now we have given each other permission to play alone not to have it done behind our backs but there are rules set in place to protect our relationship x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We now meet separately occasionally, as well as a couple. We discuss potential single meets with each other and help to organise them together. Unfortunately very few seem to believe that's our situation as so many two timing people have made it so that as a married man I am obviously going behind spooksy's back. Wrong! We are able to do this due to being through thick and thin together for over twenty years together. Total trust and good communication always.

Both of us agree that if a person meets without the partner knowing that is cheating no excuses!

Spooksy has my password to my single profile and I have hers.

Cheating men have made Shy getting a single meet almost impossible now because it is immediately presumed I am cheating.

Thanks to all the real cheaters out there for making it so hard for us real swingers. Destroy your relationships if you want but don't go dragging innocent genuine swingers into your cheating lives and making life hard for the rest of us.

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By *hyxxxMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Totally agree with Shy ^^^^

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

many thanks for the replies some interesting view.

Shame the poor men get a bashing again as the ladies can be just as bad lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly,I've met many a woman on here doing just what you guys are slated for, but to be fair some of views on this thread would disapprove whatever the gender of the cheating party, so it seems to be an inclusive thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"many thanks for the replies some interesting view.

Shame the poor men get a bashing again as the ladies can be just as bad lol

I can agree on that I was one of them. Like I said that's how I got involved in swinging. I was with a partner 15 years older than me and wasn't interested in sex so I went looking else where. My last 2 relationships though both cheated on me so I have been the receiving end as well x

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By *hyxxxMan
over a year ago

Swansea

In response to the anonymous message I received earlier. That was a very pathetic effort to make problems where there are non.

Better luck next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agree with Shy ^^^^

totally agree with both shys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"many thanks for the replies some interesting view.

Shame the poor men get a bashing again as the ladies can be just as bad lol

What's that saying....

don't do what you don't like having done to yourself?????

you of all people should no what it's like to be cheated on...

so why say you would meet married men???

i dont get any of it....

and that's just my opinion...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we meet alone, adds spice to our sex lifexx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exactly,I've met many a woman on here doing just what you guys are slated for, but to be fair some of views on this thread would disapprove whatever the gender of the cheating party, so it seems to be an inclusive thread

I tend to think each to their own. Not disapprove as such but just opt out of getting involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In response to the anonymous message I received earlier. That was a very pathetic effort to make problems where there are non.

Better luck next time."

I'm curious how you can get an anon message here x wasn't me btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"many thanks for the replies some interesting view.

Shame the poor men get a bashing again as the ladies can be just as bad lol

What's that saying....

don't do what you don't like having done to yourself?????

you of all people should no what it's like to be cheated on...

so why say you would meet married men???

i dont get any of it....

and that's just my opinion..."

I am only saying i would meet married men because it is less complicated when you are just looking for a one off meet. I am not looking for a fb or even someone I can meet more than once. So someone who is married or attached are on here just for that reason. Some men or women are on here for the wrong reasons and are looking for more than just sex.

Yes I know what it is like to be cheated on especially as I was due to be getting married in 2 months and have a wedding dress sitting under my bed and I was faithful to him. If someone is going to cheat they will.

So I am not condoning what married or attached people do but they are here for their own personal reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like meetin married.men no hassel or fuss they grown men know wat they doin i got a lot of married men regulars.im single not in the wrong and doin them a favour.

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By *hyxxxMan
over a year ago

Swansea

"In response to the anonymous message I received earlier. That was a very pathetic effort to make problems where there are non.

Better luck next time.

I'm curious how you can get an anon message here x wasn't me btw"

Anonymous as in send the message then delete the profile. Twice in one night. They must be running out of email addresses lol.

Someone who has a grudge I presume but also someone who doesn't know us very well. Sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married, but ain't getting any sex at home. Wife went in the change a few years ago and just went off it. I suggested that we see a doctor to see if he could put it right. She wasn't interested.

I even suggested swinging, try a different man or woman. Called me a pervert.

A friend of mine suggested I try this site, I'm not after a relationship or an affair just good old horny sex. Yes I do love my wife, may sound a hypocrite but I do , can't keep wanking I'm going g blind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm married, but ain't getting any sex at home. Wife went in the change a few years ago and just went off it. I suggested that we see a doctor to see if he could put it right. She wasn't interested.

I even suggested swinging, try a different man or woman. Called me a pervert.

I wouldn't say your a hypocrite like I said earlier married or men in a relationship are here for a number of reasons. Men that are here for genuine reasons as like yourself a medical condition or where your partner just won't have sex with you I understand. The men who are married in a relationship who have an amazing sex life and an amazing partner I don't understand why they would want to risk everything being on here.

I am happy to meet married or men in a relationship where they are in your situation and I generally ask questions to establish why they are on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm married, but ain't getting any sex at home. Wife went in the change a few years ago and just went off it. I suggested that we see a doctor to see if he could put it right. She wasn't interested.

I even suggested swinging, try a different man or woman. Called me a pervert.

I can sympathise sir. I too am in a sexless relationship. We have been together almost 20 years, we have a good relationship, good lifestyle, both have good jobs, no kids and get on well together. She just does not like sex and whenever we do have it, which can be counted on the fingers of one hand this year, she does not enjoy it. I have also suggested doctors, relationship counselling, things to spice up our life, but at the end of the day she does not want to have sex with me or anyone else. So I have 95% of a great relationship. I'm 43 in quite good nick for my age so does that mean I should a) never have sex again or b) give up everything I have just to do so with someone else but possibly (and probably) end up with a much worse relationship or c) try something else. Coming on this site was not an easy decision to make, pretty heartbreaking in fact but as my profile shows, I'm totally 100% honest with my situation. I know there are women out there who are in the same situation as I, it can happen to either partner, it is women in such relationships I have tried to contact where possible (though not exclusively). If people in two similar circumstances can be of benefit to each other to keep their relationships intact, well it's not ideal and can cause a lot of hurt if found out, but can also help improve those relationships. Or so I hope. I read others profiles and envy those who have full and rich sex lives. You are incredible people who place a lot of trust and faith in each other, but not everyone can be as fortunate. I'll probably get shot down in flames but I just wanted you to know not every guy is on here just to fuck his way through half of South Wales.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. As long as its not just for greed or spiteful reason.

James signed up on here without my knowledge, he was on here 2 days before coming open with me. Only then did we realise we both should of started this a long time ago lol. We have made our rules and boundaries and we are happy with that. I will admit if he did meet soneone on here behind my back it would be a completely different story. But I know he hasn't.

I would meet attached singles, but I would prefer if they didnt say or they give a very understandable reason why they are going behind their partners back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of them threads where no one is right I guess...cheating is cheating at the end of the day for what ever reasons...thats your business..but from where I have been standing and being the back lash of a wife who knew nothing it's not a nice place to be...

I'm not being naive or stupid to think that I don't sleep with married or attached people at clubs or party's...

but on here if someone messages me and says they are attached I decline....

i just think it's a little bit hypocritical that people say they have had it done to them and then there willing to do it to someone else????didnt it hurt you when it happened????

and before I get hounded and abused lol this is my opinion...

i just can't see how a divorce isn't easier than the partner finding out you have been fucking behind there back

if you all love them like you say you do surely a divorce is so much easier...and yeah I know no divorce isnt easy but is he/she find out you have been shagging a easier way...i for one would be devasted

that goes for any attached relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can it be anonymous on here there must have been a user name?

Saphire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that a person who plays away from home totally believes that A) they are in control of their situation B) the partner will never find out and therefore will never hurt... And the most important one c) they won't fall for anyone else.... The knock on effect when it all goes wrong is devastating.... All though its done for many reasons and sometimes understandable reasons...truely difficult this one... Each to their own but I personally wouldn't want to cause devastation for anyone

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town

i go by the rule don't do to others what you wouldn't want done to yourself it's all about morals lol i guess that sounds funny on a site like this but i am very moralistic so will not meet anyone who is playing away i'm a good catholic boy i will have you know lols

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i go by the rule don't do to others what you wouldn't want done to yourself it's all about morals lol i guess that sounds funny on a site like this but i am very moralistic so will not meet anyone who is playing away i'm a good catholic boy i will have you know lols

Yes you are ain't you lol

can't believe they taught me to...

everyone laughs when I say I'm Catholic girl lol

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By *hyxxxMan
over a year ago

Swansea

"How can it be anonymous on here there must have been a user name?

Saphire

He deleted the profile after sending the message but I now know who it was anyway.

A short ass hehe

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town

Yes you are ain't you lol

can't believe they taught me to...

everyone laughs when I say I'm Catholic girl lol

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i will vouch for you giggs she is defo a good Catholic girl peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We as a race are not genetically predisposed for monogamy, we are programmed at the base level to procreate and expand the gene pool with the strongest genetic material available, this ensuring the continuance of our race. Therefore we are going against our very natures in order to maintain a societally held belief in 'one man for one woman'. A construction of man created in order to control women, and ensure the continuance of a patriarchal society. It was so much better when women were in charge.

Just sayin...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We as a race are not genetically predisposed for monogamy, we are programmed at the base level to procreate and expand the gene pool with the strongest genetic material available, this ensuring the continuance of our race. Therefore we are going against our very natures in order to maintain a societally held belief in 'one man for one woman'. A construction of man created in order to control women, and ensure the continuance of a patriarchal society. It was so much better when women were in charge.

Just sayin...

Perfectly put & I for one won't buy into that societal construct, I can't see me ever settling for a monigamous relationship, it doesn't fit for me. Not that I'm actively condoning us all cheating on our partners, but it is a valid point x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Procreate with the strongest gene pool. Thats could explain why the serial poster on her (no need to mention names) struggles for a meet

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