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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, lately I have upped the anti with my sex life and have had what can only be described as incredible experiences.

Pushing boundaries and looking for a new high is what I am constantly looking to achieve

What I want to know is, if anyone is in the same boat, do you ever worry about how far you will go to get that next high, and do you ever worry you will reach the point were it just can't get any better and it will leave you feeling unsatisfied?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, lately I have upped the anti with my sex life and have had what can only be described as incredible experiences.

Pushing boundaries and looking for a new high is what I am constantly looking to achieve

What I want to know is, if anyone is in the same boat, do you ever worry about how far you will go to get that next high, and do you ever worry you will reach the point were it just can't get any better and it will leave you feeling unsatisfied? "

Know what you mean, what I've found though is it can go full circle and back to basics, think if you love sex you'll never end up unsatisfied, some nights group sex does it for you....another night someone you know you have great sex with is needed.

As long as no-ones getting hurt just keep on feeding your addiction I say! Ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, how much can my body take? Will normal sex ever do it for me again? Extreme sex comes with all sorts of worries like this, but inevitably normal life resumes & it becomes a fond, distant & very horny memory. Until the next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, lately I have upped the anti with my sex life and have had what can only be described as incredible experiences.

Pushing boundaries and looking for a new high is what I am constantly looking to achieve

What I want to know is, if anyone is in the same boat, do you ever worry about how far you will go to get that next high, and do you ever worry you will reach the point were it just can't get any better and it will leave you feeling unsatisfied? "

I had to come off here last year and deleted my profile because my moral judgement had gone and was constantly looking for more/the next buzz.

I think everyone needs a break from this site every so often, just to re-centre yourself, and pull yourself into check.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Miss Mav, it's funny because I don't find its anything to do with being on here for me. If anything, I would tend to keep things more in check being on here....away from here im more likely to take risks and be wreckless.

My sex drive is a huge issue for me, so high to the point I can't go 3 days without starting to lose the plot, mood swings, temper, lack of concentration. And before anyone asks, I have tried medication- which didn't decrease my want, just made it impossible to cum- it was a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Miss Mav, it's funny because I don't find its anything to do with being on here for me. If anything, I would tend to keep things more in check being on here....away from here im more likely to take risks and be wreckless.

My sex drive is a huge issue for me, so high to the point I can't go 3 days without starting to lose the plot, mood swings, temper, lack of concentration. And before anyone asks, I have tried medication- which didn't decrease my want, just made it impossible to cum- it was a nightmare.

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Women after my own heart..

I didnt think it was an issue..but in last relationship and others it has been noted that i become a mare without it...cause rows..tearful..moody... and evrrytime izs because i didnt have sex the night before haha...

Defo need a break every now n then..have a blast on here for a bit chasing buzzes and pushing boundaries then ill go on pof..calm the fk down.and settle with vanilla for a few months xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, lately I have upped the anti with my sex life and have had what can only be described as incredible experiences.

Pushing boundaries and looking for a new high is what I am constantly looking to achieve

What I want to know is, if anyone is in the same boat, do you ever worry about how far you will go to get that next high, and do you ever worry you will reach the point were it just can't get any better and it will leave you feeling unsatisfied? "

I do think that most find a natural ceiling at which they are fulfilled, though some do stray into " 2 girls one cup" territory in a continual search for the next sexual high.

Why worry?, just enjoy the delicious journey and see where it takes you, but as Miss Mav pointed out, be true to your moral compass and if it starts to go a bit haywire take a step back for a while till you get back on the right path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found I am always chasing that buzz at the moment I can't get enough of it. Until one day I find the right women I may stop chasing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Why worry?, just enjoy the delicious journey and see where it takes you, but as Miss Mav pointed out, be true to your moral compass and if it starts to go a bit haywire take a step back for a while till you get back on the right path.

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I suppose it's just that important to me to get the buzz that I worry some stage it will stop. It's the bane of my life, the reason most of my relationships have failed, it's controlling.

It's great when im getting that new high, but leaves me feeling numb when I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is controlling you then it sounds very much like you may have a sex addiction, that is the addiction to the way that sex makes you feel rather than the sex its self.

It can be very destructive and if it gets worse can also be dangerous as you may put yourself in risky situations just for the next buzz.

There is help out there and like any addiction it can be controlled, I know this from personal experience.

Feel free to message me if you would like to talk more privately about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Why worry?, just enjoy the delicious journey and see where it takes you, but as Miss Mav pointed out, be true to your moral compass and if it starts to go a bit haywire take a step back for a while till you get back on the right path.

I suppose it's just that important to me to get the buzz that I worry some stage it will stop. It's the bane of my life, the reason most of my relationships have failed, it's controlling.

It's great when im getting that new high, but leaves me feeling numb when I don't. "

I know this feeling all too well. In lucky that mine peaks then dips thankfully. But yes this is why I'm on fab, disregard for risks and safety previously. I just worry that I'll never go back to normal again lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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As long as no-ones getting hurt just keep on feeding your addiction I say! Ha x"

In the end someone always gets hurt. Chasing the next buzz can lead to someone living a secret life and ultimately end up costing all everything. Any addiction can be dangerous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the responses so far.

It's not something at this stage I feel I want or need help for. Providing I can keep getting the high from what I am currently doing and can keep thinking of new scenarios to achieve this, I am happy.

End of the day, yes it does control and is a big part of my life, but I love that. I don't love when I can't have it. Luckily I have a few good friends I can call on to help for now.

Kgirl- I felt like you for a while until I realised this is me- I am 'normal' ( whatever that is) and those closest to me accept that.

Like I said I think my main worry is that I get to a point where I can't do anything more fun or extreme to get that new buzz. Thankfully I have a wild and kinky imagination and a high regard for my own safety x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having been doing this on and off for 14 yrs i don't think i can go back to a normal sex life that sexual high when you push boundaries there is nothing like it. I think i need a sexual therapist sometimes but sod it just enjoy it and go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you cross the line your never going to enjoy vanilla again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once you cross the line your never going to enjoy vanilla again "

Pros and cons like everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it will happen to everyone on here at some point.

It happened to me, it was magical and I can honestly say I doubt I will ever get it that good again.

What I took away from it was how incredible and privileged I was to experience the "High".

As long as your safety is not compromised and you are happy with the journey you are on then does it really matter how often you get that high. I do suspect that you will reach a plateau and you will then start chasing the next big one. Good luck on your journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the responses so far.

It's not something at this stage I feel I want or need help for. Providing I can keep getting the high from what I am currently doing and can keep thinking of new scenarios to achieve this, I am happy.

End of the day, yes it does control and is a big part of my life, but I love that. I don't love when I can't have it. Luckily I have a few good friends I can call on to help for now.

Kgirl- I felt like you for a while until I realised this is me- I am 'normal' ( whatever that is) and those closest to me accept that.

Like I said I think my main worry is that I get to a point where I can't do anything more fun or extreme to get that new buzz. Thankfully I have a wild and kinky imagination and a high regard for my own safety x "

O.K

Think back to the best meal you have ever had in your life, it was amazing right? given the opportunity you would go back and eat it again.

You may think about it, remember how great it was, but it doesn't stop you enjoying other good food nor do you feel the need to chase the perfect meal.

If you are in control of your desires, you may in fact reach a plateau, but it won't be a terrible thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U need a new hobbie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Miss Mav, it's funny because I don't find its anything to do with being on here for me. If anything, I would tend to keep things more in check being on here....away from here im more likely to take risks and be wreckless.

My sex drive is a huge issue for me, so high to the point I can't go 3 days without starting to lose the plot, mood swings, temper, lack of concentration. And before anyone asks, I have tried medication- which didn't decrease my want, just made it impossible to cum- it was a nightmare.

Women after my own heart..

I didnt think it was an issue..but in last relationship and others it has been noted that i become a mare without it...cause rows..tearful..moody... and evrrytime izs because i didnt have sex the night before haha...

Defo need a break every now n then..have a blast on here for a bit chasing buzzes and pushing boundaries then ill go on pof..calm the fk down.and settle with vanilla for a few months xx"

Settle for vanilla tut tut lol

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