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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Felt the need for a bit of a dig. ... particularly aimed at some of the single females on this site.

This site is a swingers site. Swinging is a fun lifestyle in which sex is explored and shared as a social activity. This site is not a dating site. It is not designed for people who are looking for love or an emotional relationship. There are lots of dating sites around so if you are looking for Mr Right look there - here you are more likely to find many Mr Wrongs! !

A guys personal circumstances should make no difference to whether or not they will give you a good time.

So those of you who are 'only looking for single guys' should get over your hang ups or go looking on a dating site.

Some of the most respectful and horniest men on this site are married - but who are we to judge - as a swinger I am more interested in their ability to pleasure than their family history lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Felt the need for a bit of a dig. ... particularly aimed at some of the single females on this site.

A guys personal circumstances should make no difference to whether or not they will give you a good time.

So those of you who are 'only looking for single guys' should get over your hang ups or go looking on a dating site.

Some of the most respectful and horniest men on this site are married - but who are we to judge - as a swinger I am more interested in their ability to pleasure than their family history lol!

I totally agree with you, Peachy X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Felt the need for a bit of a dig. ... particularly aimed at some of the single females on this site.

Right look there - here you are more likely to find

many Mr Wrongs! !

A guys personal circumstances should make no difference to whether or not they will give you a good time.

So those of you who are 'only looking for single guys' should get over your hang ups or go looking

on a dating site.

Some of the most respectful and horniest men on this site are married - but who are we to judge - as a swinger I am more interested in their ability to pleasure than their family history lol!

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I can see why some might not as they think it not fair on the wife or partners if they don't know they on here . If they do its mutual fun, its no fun if someone might get found out and hurt ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Felt the need for a bit of a dig. ... particularly aimed at some of the single females on this site.

Right look there - here you are more likely to find many Mr Wrongs! !

A guys personal circumstances should make no difference to whether or not they will give you a good time.

So those of you who are 'only looking for single guys' should get over your hang ups or go looking on a dating site.

Some of the most respectful and horniest men on

this site are married - but who are we to judge - as a swinger I am more interested in their ability to pleasure than their family history lol!

I totally agree with you, Peachy X"

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you mean, it should be irrelevant what a persons background in terms of relationships is when you are looking for a purely sexual basis but I think it can add several issues to trying to find a compatable person. If someone is married they may be unlikely to accommodate, they may not have much time to meet and there would also be the worry of the other half finding out and calling or, even worse, turning up on the doorstep. I think it's personal preference as to whether someone wants to do this or not and it may not actually be related to wanting more than sex, just more practical and less risk.

(Just an opinion, please don't take offence)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Felt the need for a bit of a dig. ... particularly aimed at some of the single females on this site.

A guys personal circumstances should make no difference to whether or not they will give you a good time.

So those of you who are 'only looking for single guys' should get over your hang ups or go looking on a dating site.

Some of the most respectful and horniest men on this site are married - but who are we to judge - as a swinger I am more interested in their ability to pleasure than their family history lol!

I agree with this rosie...

but I've been off and on here now for years and decided I would just do party's and clubs as I got fed up of arranging meets and being let down all the time..This way now if I want to have fun I do so at either a club or a party where I don't need to no the ins and outs of his life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I am 1 of these women who states

I DO NOT MEET MARRIED OR ATTACHED MEN

it's my choice and I don't want to be on the end of abuse phone calls and texts when he gets caught out

And don't say it wouldn't happen because it did and that's why I put it on my profile

You can't sit there and say oh their all looking for a relationship because I am quite happy being single thanks just rather meet single men so when I am free to meet I have to clock watch

Plus in the past I've been cheated on and it's not exactly a nice thing so if you wanna meet married men fine do it but don't judge everyone on here who won't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Felt the need for a bit of a dig. ... particularly aimed at some of the single females on this site.

A guys personal circumstances should make no difference to whether or not they will give you a good time.

So those of you who are 'only looking for single guys' should get over your hang ups or go looking on a dating site.

Some of the most respectful and horniest men on this site are married - but who are we to judge - as a swinger I am more interested in their ability to pleasure than their family history lol!

Surely these men aren't being respectful and honest to thier wives.

It could be said they are just good liers who can keep thier mouths shut.

It is a cpls choice whether to meet them or not and we wouldn't plus it's also the cpls right to judge them if they see fit.

That said we respect the choice of those who prefer to meet married guys as it's thier preference.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

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"I understand what you mean, it should be irrelevant what a persons background in terms of relationships is when you are looking for a purely sexual basis but I think it can add several issues to trying to find a compatable person. If someone is married they may be unlikely to accommodate, they may not have much time to meet and there would also be the worry of the other half finding out and calling or, even worse, turning up on the doorstep. I think it's personal preference as to whether someone wants to do this or not and it may not actually be related to wanting more than sex, just more practical and less risk.

(Just an opinion, please don't take offence) "

I have to agree although not a single fems I know but meeting married guys or not has nothing to do with wanting more than sex.. and for very local meets married means they got more to lose than we have so they will keep mouth shut.. However the major risk of a guy telling his wife and her turning up at our door is not good. Also we like the social side etc and that is not possible with a married guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Felt the need for a bit of a dig. ... particularly aimed at some of the single females on this site.

A guys personal circumstances should make no difference to whether or not they will give you a good time.

So those of you who are 'only looking for single guys' should get over your hang ups or go looking on a dating site.

Some of the most respectful and horniest men on this site are married - but who are we to judge - as a swinger I am more interested in their ability to pleasure than their family history lol!

Surely these men aren't being respectful and honest to thier wives.

It could be said they are just good liers who can keep thier mouths shut.

It is a cpls choice whether to meet them or not and we wouldn't plus it's also the cpls right to judge them if they see fit.

That said we respect the choice of those who prefer to meet married guys as it's thier preference."

I was about to say exactly the same thing but you've beaten me to it !!!!

I would not want to meet a married woman unless the husband knew

( couples ) and that's my choice

There are many things or decisions that we all make or do that aren't right for somebody else so live and let live is my motto

And use the 3 golden rules

Fuck

Marry

Or avoid

Happy swinging everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I am 1 of these women who states

I DO NOT MEET MARRIED OR ATTACHED MEN

it's my choice and I don't want to be on the end of abuse phone calls and texts when he gets caught out

And don't say it wouldn't happen because it did and that's why I put it on my profile

You can't sit there and say oh their all looking for a relationship because I am quite happy being single thanks just rather meet single men so when I am

free to meet I have to clock watch

Plus in the past I've been cheated on and it's not exactly a nice thing so if you wanna meet married men fine do it but don't judge everyone on here who won't

that's what I think lush happy in my relationship but life has a way of biting you on the ass and worse if you put yourself in some hornets nest . If the wife knows it's mutual consent if not its cheating , simples xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Felt the need for a bit of a dig. ... particularly aimed at some of the single females on this site.

There are lots of dating sites around so if you are looking for Mr Right look there - here you are more likely to find many Mr Wrongs! !

A guys personal circumstances should make no difference to whether or not

they will give you a good time.

So those of you who are 'only looking for single guys' should get over your hang ups or go looking on a dating site.

Some of the most respectful and horniest men on this site are married -

but who are we to judge - as a swinger I am more interested in their ability to pleasure than their family history lol!

Surely these men aren't being respectful and honest to thier wives.

It could be said they are just good liers who can keep thier mouths shut.

It is a cpls choice whether to meet them or not and we wouldn't plus it's also the

cpls right to judge them if they see fit.

That said we respect the choice of those who prefer to meet married guys as it's thier preference."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I agree in part with all of the views it needs to be considered that lots of "single" men on here are not actually single at all and it would be naive to think that they were!

Plus I have noticed some hypocritical views on here but then maybe I know something you don't! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst I agree in part with all of the views it needs to be considered that lots of "single" men on here are not actually single at all and it would be naive to think that they were!

Plus I have noticed some hypocritical views on here but then maybe I know something you don't! Lol

Hit the nail on the head there Boobs, I know of several 'single' guys who meet some of the fems who don't meet married & attached guys & they are none the wiser to the true situation & then you have the guys why use the 'she knows & she's happy' ploy. I think if you're going to meet 'single' guys on here you have to accept most aren't x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is you'll never know what someone's marital status is, unless you know that person in real life

There's nothing to indicate "relationship" on a person's profile details.

So you're just relying on the honesty/ integrity of whoever is posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other thing to take in to account is how much or how often you are going to see them and how you see the relationship with them as this is a swingers site it is safe to say that everyone will be meeting different people and spending a lot of time away from even their regular meets

If that's the case then to a point it shouldn't matter however I for one am happy not to meet people if someone else may get hurt !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is you'll never know what someone's marital status is, unless you know that person in real life

There's nothing to indicate "relationship" on a person's profile details.

So you're just relying on the honesty/ integrity of whoever is posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The other thing to take in to account is how much or how often you are going to see them and how you see the relationship with them as this is a swingers site it is safe to say that everyone will be meeting different people and spending a lot of time away from even their regular meets

If that's the case then to a point it shouldn't matter however I for one am happy not to meet people if someone else may get hurt !!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I worded my last comment wrong as my inbox is now going mad with attached men

So to rephrase. ..

i very rarely meet off her now as the majority are married or attached..i was meeting some1 a while ago 4 around 6 months and then out the blue the wife turned up...Needless 2 say I was made out 2 be the slut and so on and I was the single one....He didn't have any grief and she took him back

it's my choice Wether I choose to sleep with a attached guy or not but I choose not to if told he is

i dont look 4 a relationship but sometimes things happen...

i meet now at clubs and partys as if I want fun it is definitely nsa as I very much doubt I will see that individual again

I'm here 2 add that little bit of sparkle and fantasy 2 couples relationships...

I'm one of them very rare unicorns lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I worded my last comment wrong as my inbox is now going mad with attached men

So to rephrase. ..

it's my choice Wether I choose to sleep with a attached guy or not but I choose not to if told he is

i dont look 4 a relationship but sometimes things happen...

i meet now at clubs and partys as if I want fun it is definitely nsa as I very much doubt I will see that individual again

I'm here 2 add that little bit of sparkle and fantasy 2 couples relationships...

I'm one of them very rare unicorns lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spot on!!! Its a sex site not a find a love of my life site!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I am 1 of these women who states

I DO NOT MEET MARRIED OR ATTACHED MEN

it's my choice and I don't want to be on the end of abuse phone calls and texts when he gets caught out

And don't say it wouldn't happen because it did and that's why I put it on my profile

You can't sit there and say oh their all looking for a relationship because I am quite happy being single thanks just rather meet single men so when I am

free to meet I have to clock watch

Plus in the past I've been cheated on and it's not exactly a nice thing so if you wanna meet married men fine do it but don't judge everyone on here who won't

No ur a swinging couple let's not get it confused here

We meant when a single guy on here is actually married and his wife knows nothing about him being on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh n 1 last thing I have to say on this matter due to a few ppl who have made certain comments I stated I have done in past but it's not nice when you get the wife ringing you up or even the husband shows her where you live because in his view your only friends so what's the problem

At which point I decided enough was enough and single only !!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i only meet single guys, except in a group or club environment, because i am a single lady.

when i initiate a meeting it has to be in a public and social environment, for my own safety. and i dont want to waste my time with a guy who is nervous and wants to sit in the corner in case someone sees him. there is no fun in that.

but.... once i have met a couple and know their relationship, then i am happy to meet with said chappy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I am 1 of these women who states

I DO NOT MEET MARRIED OR ATTACHED MEN

it's my choice and I don't want to be on the end of abuse phone calls and texts when he gets caught out

And don't say it wouldn't happen because it did and that's why I put it on my profile

You can't sit there and say oh their all looking for a relationship because I am

quite happy being single thanks just rather meet single men so when I am

free to meet I have to clock watch

Plus in the past I've been cheated on

and it's not exactly a nice thing so if you wanna meet married men fine do it but don't judge everyone on here who won't

that's what I think lush happy in my

relationship but life has a way of biting you on the ass and worse if you put yourself in some hornets nest . If the wife knows it's mutual consent if not its cheating , simples xx

No ur a swinging couple let's not get it confused here

We meant when a single guy on here is actually married and his wife knows

nothing about him being on here "
that's what I meant too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I am 1 of these women who states

I DO NOT MEET MARRIED OR ATTACHED MEN

it's my choice and I don't want to be on the end of abuse phone calls and texts when he gets caught out

And don't say it wouldn't happen because it did and that's why I put it on my profile

You can't sit there and say oh their all looking for a relationship because I am

quite happy being single thanks just rather meet single men so when I am

free to meet I have to clock watch

Plus in the past I've been cheated on

and it's not exactly a nice thing so if you wanna meet married men fine do it but don't judge everyone on here who won't

that's what I think lush happy in my

relationship but life has a way of biting you on the ass and worse if you put yourself in some hornets nest . If the wife knows it's mutual consent if not its cheating , simples xx

No ur a swinging couple let's not get it confused here

We meant when a single guy on here is actually married and his wife knows

nothing about him being on here that's

what I meant too xx

Exactly and it's not worth the hassle anymore

Risk some women turning up at ur house ain't fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst I agree in part with all of the views it needs to be considered that lots of "single" men on here are not actually single at all and it would be naive to think that they were!

Plus I have noticed some hypocritical views on here but then maybe I know something you don't! Lol

Hit the nail on the head there Boobs, I know of

several 'single' guys who meet some of the fems

who don't meet married & attached guys & they are none the wiser to the true situation & then you have the guys why use the 'she knows & she's happy' ploy. I think if you're going to meet 'single' guys on here you have to accept most aren't x"

Well said my wise friend

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By *itts1977Woman
over a year ago

somewhere

This is a swinging site yes! But a lot of meets aren't about swinging when it comes to single fems or men!

To be fair I've met a few "single" fems on here that are married too so it's not just the guys!

Not everyone on here is going to be honest & tell you everything thing about them when you meet we all run the risk of getting our fingers burnt by meeting as it starts with a message from someone sitting at a keyboard or phone typing!

If I know someone is married it's my choice to meet them & their risk I have been on both sides of this before both the one cheated on & the one involved with the cheater it doesn't take this site for this stuff to happen it happens daily without fabs help!

The whole point of this site is for like minded people to meet & share their enjoyment & for no judgements to be made lol

So here's to everyone making their own choices, having fun & not taking it all a little to seriously after all most of is are here to experience our fantasy's & enjoy ourselves!

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would only ever meet single guys, if and when I chose to meet them. I don't think this gives me 'hang ups' at all, and neither am I looking for a relationship of any sort. Neither are many other single women, I bet.

If you're willing to invite drama to your life, good luck to you, but don't criticize others with ridiculously silly generalisations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would only ever meet single guys, if and when I chose to meet them. I don't think this gives me 'hang ups' at all, and neither am I looking for a relationship of any sort. Neither are many other single women, I bet.

If you're willing to invite drama to your life, good luck to you, but don't criticize others with ridiculously silly

generalisations.

well said ! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suppose what I was trying to say was that I don't see the need to disregard all married men as potential meets - ie not to generalise. And perhaps I have inadvertently been guilty of generalising myself in the process lol!

At the end of the day, I was sticking up for my gorgeous sexy hubby who loves to have some female company when I am working but who often seems to be ignored by women - perhaps because he is honest on his profile and says openly that he is a married guy!

We don't invite drama into our lives - we invite horny, sexy fun and we don't judge the people who choose to share some fun with us. Their vanilla life is not our concern - their life their conscience!!

And on another note - I am so pleased to have created a genuine discussion here today - I only usually check out the forum messages for events etc! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose what I was trying to say was that I don't see the need to disregard all married men as potential meets - ie not to generalise. And perhaps I have inadvertently been guilty of generalising myself in the process lol!

And on another note - I am so pleased to have created a genuine discussion here today - I only usually check out the forum messages for events etc! x

Good thread, as a newbie it was a nice change from reading about people sniping at each other. Was getting kinda put off.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

(Just an opinion, please don't take offence) "

I agree with this totally.

To the OP we are all able to use the site as we see fit. Concentrate on what you like and want and ignore the rest.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

And on another note - I am so pleased to have created a genuine discussion here today - I only usually check out the forum messages for events etc! x

And the difference is with your hubby is that he can play with your full knowledge. I certainly would happily meet married men under those circumstances. I've have seen the fall out however where that wasn't the case.

Oh and good for you on a post that has provoked good debate and no side swiping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The freedom for any person on here to meet whoever they choose to meet.

That's what its all about.

Simple

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We prefer not to meet "singles" who aren't, of either sex.

It comes down to trust and honesty... how can you trust someone who is lying to their partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the kind of discussion I'd like to see more of DEFINATELY

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"The freedom for any person on here to meet whoever they choose to meet.

That's what its all about.

Simple

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