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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that married women "playing away" doesn't seem to be a problem, yet so many profiles i read are incredibly anti-married men playing without their wives knowledge?

Just find it intriguing...

Perhaps it's just to do with sheer numbers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that married women "playing away" doesn't seem to be a problem, yet so many profiles i read are incredibly anti-married men playing without their wives knowledge?

Just find it intriguing...

Perhaps it's just to do with sheer numbers? "

seems that us females are so perfect we can ha ha joking aside i dont know love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its because married women are usually honest about being married and state it on thier profile, and married men dont seem to be as open. but this isnt always the case i know, there are men on here that have it on their profile for all to see. but you are right,there are people on here that are biased and give the married guys a hard time but its quite ok for a married woman to be on here. my attitude is cheating is cheating, no matter if your a man or a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its because married women are usually honest about being married and state it on thier profile, and married men dont seem to be as open. but this isnt always the case i know, there are men on here that have it on their profile for all to see. but you are right,there are people on here that are biased and give the married guys a hard time but its quite ok for a married woman to be on here. my attitude is cheating is cheating, no matter if your a man or a woman"

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my attitude is your private life should remain just that...private so whether you are single or married is your business. It's not as if you use a swingers site to form a loving and lasting relationship it's just for fun. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that,s just mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my attitude is your private life should remain just that...private so whether you are single or married is your business. It's not as if you use a swingers site to form a loving and lasting relationship it's just for fun. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that,s just mine"
here here lol...i was in a boring marriage and so wish id of found fab 2 add a bit of spice 2 my life...if fab as taught me one its not 2 judge we all have our own reasons 4 b in here.....as long as ur honest from the start then its my choice if i meet or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't judge anyone for being on here married or not, but that's my attitude, if your doing it behind your husbands/wifes back then it's cheating plan and simple, whether you have a sexless marriage or whatever way its justified. What I said it's that there are people who seem to be biased whether it's a married man or a married woman and that's wrong.

Not putting anyone down at all, can do what ever you want but cheating is cheating. not even going to say that I disapprove of it because I don't. And full respect for the ones that are honest and straight with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice arse giggles fairplay xx

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By *r and mrs bangerboobsCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

When I was here many years ago I was married, never hid that fact on here, but didn't tell my husband for various reasons. I was berated up hill and down dale on numerous occasions for cheating on my hubby ....mostly by women funnily enough! Unless you are in the 'cheaters' shoes you cannot possibly judge them, all this 'talk to you spouse' 'leave them if it's you're not happy' is fine for them to say - unless you're on that exact position and know the full facts you cannot judge

Mrs BB x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my attitude is your private life should remain just that...private so whether you are single or married is your business. It's not as if you use a swingers site to form a loving and lasting relationship it's just for fun. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that,s just mine"
totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am married and don't hide it, I do find the moral outrage to be distasteful.

I won't go into the why's and wherefore's of why I brought myself here, but suffice to say, I didn't take my vows with the intention of having this lifestyle.

Fundamentally though, swinging is a breach of traditional marriage vows, so those who get quite militant about a married guy/woman doing this could perhaps use a bit of a reality check. I have found the swinging scene to be generally accepting of all circumstances, but it does tickle me a little that a subculture that is defined by its permissive and liberal nature, is populated by some individuals who have puritanical conservative views.

Part of the rich tapestry of life I guess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair one and it had to be said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nice arse giggles fairplay xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married and don't hide it, I do find the moral outrage to be distasteful.

I won't go into the why's and wherefore's of why I brought myself here, but suffice to say, I didn't take my vows with the intention of having this lifestyle.

Fundamentally though, swinging is a breach of traditional marriage vows, so those who get quite militant about a married guy/woman doing this could perhaps use a bit of a reality check. I have found the swinging scene to be generally accepting of all circumstances, but it does tickle me a little that a subculture that is defined by its permissive and liberal nature, is populated by some individuals who have puritanical conservative views.

Part of the rich tapestry of life I guess x"

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By *ndy_mandyCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

We have been asked by so many married men to meet but we will not help anyone cheat on their wives, goes the other way as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was here many years ago I was married, never hid that fact on here, but didn't tell my husband for various reasons. I was berated up hill and down dale on numerous occasions for cheating on my hubby ....mostly by women funnily enough! Unless you are in the 'cheaters' shoes you cannot possibly judge them, all this 'talk to you spouse' 'leave them if it's you're not happy' is fine for them to say - unless you're on that exact position and know the full facts you cannot judge

Mrs BB x x"
. Agreed ... Never done it as I wouldn't feel comfortable but each to their own... As long as the people/person ur meeting know that's fine...for both men and woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married and don't hide it, I do find the moral outrage to be distasteful.

I won't go into the why's and wherefore's of why I brought myself here, but suffice to say, I didn't take my vows with the intention of having this lifestyle.

Married or not is not the issue, CHEAATING married guys and gals are a PROBLEM. Basically if your spouse doesn't know then you are cheating and we wont be a part of the pain and upset this may cause. To have a "wronged" wife or husband beating down MY door is not something I want to happen. If you are married, your spouse knows you are on here and you have the genuine good grace to allow playmates to know this information then there is no problem. We will not cheat on each other, we do play alone and we do have fun, just our point of view

Fundamentally though, swinging is a breach of traditional marriage vows, so those who get quite militant about a married guy/woman doing this could perhaps use a bit of a reality check. I have found the swinging scene to be generally accepting of all circumstances, but it does tickle me a little that a subculture that is defined by its permissive and liberal nature, is populated by some individuals who have puritanical conservative views.

Part of the rich tapestry of life I guess x"

Lots of big words, all used un necessarily

No issues if you are married and honest. If you have nothing to hide then you will inform potential playmates that your spouse knows and let the fun begin. If your spouse doesn't know then you are cheating and this has the potential to cause pain, upset and anger and we don't want the injured party to be banging on our door. It is all personal points of view and ultimately at the end of the day besides getting dark we also have free choice of whom we will or will not play with

Please note this isn't directed at the quote above, but is just our point of view

Happy Honest Swinging the way ahead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of men are not fussy and will shag anyone,

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married and don't hide it, I do find the moral outrage to be distasteful.

I won't go into the why's and wherefore's of why I brought myself here, but suffice to say, I didn't take my vows with the intention of having this lifestyle.

Married or not is not the issue, CHEAATING married guys and gals are a PROBLEM. Basically if your spouse doesn't know then you are cheating and we wont be a part of the pain and upset this may cause. To have a "wronged" wife or husband beating down MY door is not something I want to happen. If you are married, your spouse knows you are on here and you have the genuine good grace to allow playmates to know this information then there is no problem. We will not cheat on each other, we do play alone and we do have fun, just our point of view

Fundamentally though, swinging is a breach of traditional marriage vows, so those who get quite militant about a married guy/woman doing this could perhaps use a bit of a reality check. I have found the swinging scene to be generally accepting of all circumstances, but it does tickle me a little that a subculture that is defined by its permissive and liberal nature, is populated by some individuals who have puritanical conservative views.

Part of the rich tapestry of life I guess x

Lots of big words, all used un necessarily

No issues if you are married and honest. If you have nothing to hide then you will inform potential playmates that your spouse knows and let the fun begin. If your spouse doesn't know then you are cheating and this has the potential to cause pain, upset and anger and we don't want the injured party to be banging on our door. It is all personal points of view and ultimately at the end of the day besides getting dark we also have free choice of whom we will or will not play with

Please note this isn't directed at the quote above, but is just our point of view

Happy Honest Swinging the way ahead "
upfront honesty is the way ahead, As long as all parties know including all partners then there is absolutely no problem

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By *sprey6Man
over a year ago

Here!


"I am married and don't hide it, I do find the moral outrage to be distasteful.

I won't go into the why's and wherefore's of why I brought myself here, but suffice to say, I didn't take my vows with the intention of having this lifestyle.

Fundamentally though, swinging is a breach of traditional marriage vows, so those who get quite militant about a married guy/woman doing this could perhaps use a bit of a reality check. I have found the swinging scene to be generally accepting of all circumstances, but it does tickle me a little that a subculture that is defined by its permissive and liberal nature, is populated by some individuals who have puritanical conservative views.

Part of the rich tapestry of life I guess x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of big words, all used un necessarily

really, which ones did you struggle with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my attitude is your private life should remain just that...private so whether you are single or married is your business. It's not as if you use a swingers site to form a loving and lasting relationship it's just for fun. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that,s just mine"

your so rite untill an irate spouse starts knocking your door then it gets complicated honesty is the best policy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my attitude is your private life should remain just that...private so whether you are single or married is your business. It's not as if you use a swingers site to form a loving and lasting relationship it's just for fun. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that,s just minetotally agree "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am married and don't hide it, I do find the moral outrage to be distasteful.

I won't go into the why's and wherefore's of why I brought myself here, but suffice to say, I didn't take my vows with the intention of having this lifestyle.

Fundamentally though, swinging is a breach of traditional marriage vows, so those who get quite militant about a married guy/woman doing this could perhaps use a bit of a reality check. I have found the swinging scene to be generally accepting of all circumstances, but it does tickle me a little that a subculture that is defined by its permissive and liberal nature, is populated by some individuals who have puritanical conservative views.

Part of the rich tapestry of life I guess x "

And this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My humble opinion on this thread is that at the end of the day, its a preference, a choice.

I choose not to meet marrieds who are playing away, in a sexless marriage or whatever reason they give for being on are here.

Some people will meet with a married person, maybe its the thrill, I dont know. Its just not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of men are not fussy and will shag anyone, "

Just wondering what this has to do with the thread? , seems to be a pointless man bashing statement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly off the subject , bit it's no secret that's lots of members of fab are escorts as well , I know of at least 4 local couples who have ads on an escort website , ( they've used sane pics for both profiles) strangely they have the usual " no married men , I'm not helping u to cheat on your wife etc" on their profiles yet they have no qualms about accepting money for sex from married men , double standards or not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slightly off the subject , bit it's no secret that's lots of members of fab are escorts as well , I know of at least 4 local couples who have ads on an escort website , ( they've used sane pics for both profiles) strangely they have the usual " no married men , I'm not helping u to cheat on your wife etc" on their profiles yet they have no qualms about accepting money for sex from married men , double standards or not ? "

I have always said, people's morality is governed by what they will get out of a situation

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By *onkers 76Man
over a year ago

pontypool

I am a married guy on here without my wife's knowledge , I'm in a sexless marriage although we love each other and I have had a few random messages just having a go at me. Luckily I have skin like a rhinos arse so it don't bother me in the least but it does piss me off when cheating wives have a go. I know what I'm doing is wrong but it would be nice to be let down gently or left alone. That said a few more nice messages would be a plus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slightly off the subject , bit it's no secret that's lots of members of fab are escorts as well , I know of at least 4 local couples who have ads on an escort website , ( they've used sane pics for both profiles) strangely they have the usual " no married men , I'm not helping u to cheat on your wife etc" on their profiles yet they have no qualms about accepting money for sex from married men , double standards or not ? "

Hear hear. Lots of double standards......

Hope the don't hide it as a commercial decission. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my attitude is your private life should remain just that...private so whether you are single or married is your business. It's not as if you use a swingers site to form a loving and lasting relationship it's just for fun. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that,s just minehere here lol...i was in a boring marriage and so wish id of found fab 2 add a bit of spice 2 my life...if fab as taught me one its not 2 judge we all have our own reasons 4 b in here.....as long as ur honest from the start then its my choice if i meet or not "

My thoughts exactly I'm in a boring marriage and looking for sex that's it !!

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