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By *riveu2distraction OP   Man
over a year ago

Nr Bridgend

Think fab admin should be thinking of ways to root out fake time wasting guys. Personally fed up of reading the rants from single women and couples. Us genuine guys don't stand a chance at the moment cos everyone's so sceptical of every single guy. There must be a better way to verify guys and out those that don't get veris within say a three month period of joining?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a report button for those who don't show up to meets, if couples/single fems decide not to use it then nothing else can be done by the site or its Admins.

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By *riveu2distraction OP   Man
over a year ago

Nr Bridgend

But what happens once reported? I think 3 months no veris is long enough then out and the verification summary at least should be mandatory for all.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But what happens once reported? I think 3 months no veris is long enough then out and the verification summary at least should be mandatory for all.?"

3 months for a single guy to get a meet? That is harsh. I think the average for a first meet is between 3 and 6 months.

Personally, I won't meet anyone who isn't meet verified after a year. But that said, I'm sure I have turned down genuine guys who aren't time wasters using that approach, but that is my call.

Also, the verification summary and published verifications gpwa choice. Not everyone is comfortable with everyone seeing who or how often the meet etc. So no, it can never be compulsory.

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By *riveu2distraction OP   Man
over a year ago

Nr Bridgend

Agree with the last point made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time wasting is when you set up a meet and don't turn up it has nothing to do how long you been on here for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time wasting is when you set up a meet and don't turn up it has nothing to do how long you been on here for "

no, but there is a correlation. . . . If someone has been here over a year and haven't been verified, why? There is a higher chance they have arranged meets and not showed/ backed out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple of reasons maybe they like to chat or they been unlucky to get a meet. Some op got personal reasons and don't want to create new profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal opinion is a lot of single guys on here like the thought of meeting but when it comes to the crunch they won't and a lot just like to w**k off on cam.....I wont meet anyone that I haven't met at a social....there again there are a lot of single guys posing as single fems/couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that nothing m8 ive been trying to meet a nice friendly couples for 8 weeks now upto now they just wanna chat ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that nothing m8 ive been trying to meet a nice friendly couples for 8 weeks now upto now they just wanna chat ??? "
ps how do we get socializing if wont give us a chance ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to attend socials which are held regulary in Cardiff,Swansea,Newport,Bridgend etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try to attend socials which are held regulary in Cardiff,Swansea,Newport,Bridgend etc "

There are five in south Wales over five weeks. I will be at all. If I can get to them by train then any other single man can get to at least one. see list on my profile. Then contact the organisers on the formum instead of complaining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that nothing m8 ive been trying to meet a nice friendly couples for 8 weeks now upto now they just wanna chat ??? ps how do we get socializing if wont give us a chance ???"

There are five in south Wales over five weeks. I will be at all. If I can get to them by train then any other single man can get to at least one. see list on my profile. Then contact the organisers on the forum instead of complaining

SORRY SAPPHIRE SHOULD HAVE GON THE ONE ABOVE STILL LIKED YOUR ADVICE.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that nothing m8 ive been trying to meet a nice friendly couples for 8 weeks now upto now they just wanna chat ??? ps how do we get socializing if wont give us a chance ???

There are five in south Wales over five weeks. I will be at all. If I can get to them by train then any other single man can get to at least one. see list on my profile. Then contact the organisers on the forum instead of complaining

SORRY SAPPHIRE SHOULD HAVE GON THE ONE ABOVE STILL LIKED YOUR ADVICE. "

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By *riveu2distraction OP   Man
over a year ago

Nr Bridgend

To get back to the original point there needs to be some way to distinguish the reliable guys from all the pic collectors and wankers out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There won't be because they will just set up another account,new name.......same pics seen it so many times So we just have to put up with it and use our initiative.A year on site no veris means to me he's just a w**k cam lover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally think when it comes to veri's.. There should be a plus and minus button.. A yay or nay in other terms.. If someone organises a meet and doesn't show.. Click on the minus and let everyone know they didn't.. That way it would show whos the timewasters..

Just my opinion..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My personal opinion is a lot of single guys on here like the thought of meeting but when it comes to the crunch they won't and a lot just like to w**k off on cam.....I wont meet anyone that I haven't met at a social....there again there are a lot of single guys posing as single fems/couples "
yes to many time wasting fuckers about but couples also fuck about at end of it they all gutless cyber freaks lol my moto get real or jog on pmsl shame as it spoils it 4 the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time wasting is when you set up a meet and don't turn up it has nothing to do how long you been on here for "

No being verified either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally think when it comes to veri's.. There should be a plus and minus button.. A yay or nay in other terms.. If someone organises a meet and doesn't show.. Click on the minus and let everyone know they didn't.. That way it would show whos the timewasters..

Just my opinion.. "

Sorry but manually could lead to abuse.

Why not have two counters.. One site members click to say yes they attend.

One admin click if reported for not attending. This would give people the chance if there is a justifiable reason for non attendance. Three clicks by admin then their discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think single guys should be vetted by a moderater first

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By *ynonvalleyboyMan
over a year ago

merthyr

So only those who brown nose mods gets the meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its defo not just the single guys theres lots of ppl on here just hide behind there screen im gonna do the socials see if that sorts the boys from the girls only takes an hour from here to crdff so thats the way forward irekon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To get back to the original point there needs to be some way to distinguish the reliable guys from all the pic collectors and wankers out there"

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By *inky BunnyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Think fab admin should be thinking of ways to root out fake time wasting guys"

Think you should be thinking of ways to spot timewasters yourself early on, to use discernment & to stop playing footsie with them in your hope of getting a meet. Instead get yourself known and meet up with established

swingers.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"My personal opinion is a lot of single guys on here like the thought of meeting but when it comes to the crunch they won't and a lot just like to w**k off on cam.....I wont meet anyone that I haven't met at a social....there again there are a lot of single guys posing as single fems/couples "

Agree.

Some guys bottle it, they spend loads of time chasing a meet, get all excited, then when the chance comes they run for the hills.

Some, of course, never intend to meet, they get their jollies from the pics and chat.

And then we have those "single" guys who are up for a meet, but the wife wants to go shopping, or visiting relatives, thus eating into their spare time lol!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

There are plenty of socials running in the area now, all it takes it to stick your name down, turn up, chat and make friends, and come away with an armload of veries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ow us single guys have alife too you know actually work and have asocial life we fit meets around our lifes

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By *ittleBitOfFunCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We don't meet anyone who hasn't been verified or photo verified. There are a lot of timewasters on here but don't think much can be done about that unless they make it mandatory to get photo verified, but a lot of people wouldn't be happy doing that.

It is frustrating but luckily there are a lot of decent genuine people on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally fed up of reading the rants from single women and couples."

Actually there are very few posts, posted by single women and couples complaining about single guys and in fact they sometimes defend them.

It is the single guys who post and highlight the issue about other single guys messing things up for the "genuine ones" that are the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well from recent experience, the most timewasters ive come across are verified couples. Just goes to show that verifications mean little on their own. And trying to judge if someone is a timewaster, is down to a combination of things. Its almost an art form, and until recently i thought i was pretty good at it. Time wasters and pic collectors are always going to be part of a free site like this. Other sites that are not free, seem to have a better "signal to noise ratio" but still have a problem. The thing to do is to not get your knickers in a twist and try to ignore the issue and have fun regardless. Xx

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By *ostrings2Couple
over a year ago

newport

look the only way to sort these time wasters out is to ...oh hang on theres the door stay there be back in a min

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

18 months of active swinging and not encountered a timewaster,single or couple ....thats not down to luck

Pic colectors,cyber wankers,fantasists and fakes are easy enough to spot.Some right away just by their proile or 1st message and the rest after some chatting!!!

To all the single guys blaming timewasters for not getting a meet:

WRONG,you only got yourselfs to blame.FACT:loads of fabsters look for and meet single guys.All those guys do obviously something right.They make an effort with their profile,pics + their messages and are pro-active!!! They also got the valued attributes of respect and patience.

(susie)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just get on with it and stop complaining guy's ! Veris or not if you are genuine meets will come you're way ! When and how often doesnt make any difference

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By *ostrings2Couple
over a year ago

newport

sorry bout that next wanted to lend a hammer now where was we oh yes what you want to do is when fooking ell smothing just went bang in the kitchen look talk amongst yer self for a min while i put the fire out

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By *ostrings2Couple
over a year ago

newport

bloody ell you know what its like you start things and you never get round to finish it off i will tell you how to sort them out but ive got to try and get mrs strings off the firemen now shes got 3 of them locked in the bedroom a nd the others wont get out of the waggon .last time she started a fire she ended up with a asbo for what she did to the fire men god have you ever seen 6 men begging for mercy not a nice sight i can tell you ooh shit shes got hold of anoverone now oh i dont think thats legal

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By *nice44Man
over a year ago

swansea

Having just wasted my time and tried to arrange meets

Guys who are genuine dont always get a chance to meet because of a number of reasons not just because they are not verified or timewasters it may be because they are not anyones cup of tea

If you dont come up to anyones preference just a no thanks will do

Dont just ignore people

Sometimes shit happens but just message or text to let the other party know and not to waste thier time its easy enough

And the word will get out who you can trust not to waste your time

All parties are prone to timewasting single male ,f , mf,mm,ff all can be just as guilty

It wont stop the fantasists and the talkers if you are just here to talk put it on your profile

Things wont change so just get on with it

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By *ostrings2Couple
over a year ago

newport

hang on just got to sort the riot squad out then l can sort it all out for you shes let 2 of them go now but the pepper spry is makeing my eyes water .give her about 2 weeks and if she hasnt let the others go by then well send the sas in again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally think when it comes to veri's.. There should be a plus and minus button.. A yay or nay in other terms.. If someone organises a meet and doesn't show.. Click on the minus and let everyone know they didn't.. That way it would show whos the timewasters..

Just my opinion.. "

^^^^^^^^ best solution ive ever heard

also name and shame should have post in forum where ppl can warn about timewasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think fab admin should be thinking of ways to root out fake time wasting guys

Think you should be thinking of ways to spot timewasters yourself early on, to use discernment & to stop playing footsie with them in your hope of getting a meet. Instead get yourself known and meet up with established

swingers. "

how do new ppl ever get varified? its a very difficult situations but after being here for a while u should be able to tell who the timewasters are or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally fed up of reading the rants from single women and couples.

Actually there are very few posts, posted by single women and couples complaining about single guys and in fact they sometimes defend them.

It is the single guys who post and highlight the issue about other single guys messing things up for the "genuine ones" that are the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally think when it comes to veri's.. There should be a plus and minus button.. A yay or nay in other terms.. If someone organises a meet and doesn't show.. Click on the minus and let everyone know they didn't.. That way it would show whos the timewasters..

Just my opinion..

^^^^^^^^ best solution ive ever heard

also name and shame should have post in forum where ppl can warn about timewasters "

Its against the rules to name and shame and besides, what is time wasting to you may not be to others

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