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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Soz to all but I've got to say this, What is it that is so off putting about me and my profile I've been on here a while now and it's like as if I'm f#$@ing invisible or something, Every message deleted, Totally ignored in chat?????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who said that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet another one of these? Seriously these posts are boring me. Soph.

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

You have been on here 6 weeks and you have a veri!! Good going for a single male. Why are you complaining!?!?

Plus you are 26, under a few people's age range.

Relax, go with the flow and get to some socials

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Mate, it's not rocket science.

There are gazillions of single men on this site and women/ couples can afford to be ultra ultra choosy.

The two women I've met off here are professional, intelligent types. They look for extremely well written profiles (which mine certainly isn't - but I'm not trying for meets these days). To be honest, yours doesn't really say much about you.

Believe it or not, it's profiles and chat that reveals a nice personality to go with a nice body that they like. Humour and having a laugh is far more attractive - most of the stuff blokes write in chat is just laughable and cringeworthy - as if "do you fancy this cock" is going to work. Just because they are on this site, it doesn't mean they're going to jump in the sack with any old bloke.

Also - nice photos. They're bombarded with ones of cocks from blokes and be sociable, have a laugh etc.

A woman I know on here gets a about 30 messages a day, including at times she has no intention of meeting. By the time she's replied to the 8 that are from people she knows and wants to engage with, would you really expect her to send 22 messages saying "no thanks"? Of course not - it'd be tedious in the extreme.

Also, most just of these just say "fancy a fuck". Useless - and it makes looking at her messages a bit of trial. Not surprising she has a jaundiced view of this site and men.

Everyday the forums have messages from blokes wondering why it's like this. Get a feel for the site and the women on here and it's obvious why that's the case. It ain't rocket science

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soz to all but I've got to say this, What is it that is so off putting about me and my profile I've been on here a while now and it's like as if I'm f#$@ing invisible or something, Every message deleted, Totally ignored in chat????????? "
u asked this the other day 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smiling pictures might help though it is nice to see face pictures as opposed to dozens of cock ones. Consider some more pictures; bum ones as us ladies like those and torso shots

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Mmmm - should point out I was talking generally about men on here when saying about cock pics, the style of messages people send etc. Sorry if it seemed otherwise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate, it's not rocket science.

There are gazillions of single men on this site and women/ couples can afford to be ultra ultra choosy.

The two women I've met off here are professional, intelligent types. They look for extremely well written profiles (which mine certainly isn't - but I'm not trying for meets these days). To be honest, yours doesn't really say much about you.

Believe it or not, it's profiles and chat that reveals a nice personality to go with a nice body that they like. Humour and having a laugh is far more attractive - most of the stuff blokes write in chat is just laughable and cringeworthy - as if "do you fancy this cock" is going to work. Just because they are on this site, it doesn't mean they're going to jump in the sack with any old bloke.

Also - nice photos. They're bombarded with ones of cocks from blokes and be sociable, have a laugh etc.

A woman I know on here gets a about 30 messages a day, including at times she has no intention of meeting. By the time she's replied to the 8 that are from people she knows and wants to engage with, would you really expect her to send 22 messages saying "no thanks"? Of course not - it'd be tedious in the extreme.

Also, most just of these just say "fancy a fuck". Useless - and it makes looking at her messages a bit of trial. Not surprising she has a jaundiced view of this site and men.

Everyday the forums have messages from blokes wondering why it's like this. Get a feel for the site and the women on here and it's obvious why that's the case. It ain't rocket science "

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Ok.

On the plus side, you already have one nice veri, and you have face pics up.

On the down side, the pics aint exactly welcoming, your profile text is a bit "cold", and the big one for us is that you cant accomodate, there may be a good reason but people see that and think "attached", you may want to mention why you cant accom.

If you really want to enhance your chances on here, get to one or two of the numerous socials advertised in the forums, get to know folks, get your face out there and show people the kind of guy you are.

And remember, this isnt "Instashag", time and patience are required.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to all for advice I'm down for my first social on the 25th in newport so see what happens after that then. Cheers all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi tango and welcome. Its early days yet so dont despair. Add a few interesting pics as op have said. And smile. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just chill out!

Be yourself and don't try too hard, socialise in messages and do not ask for sex, play it cool.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just chill out!

Be yourself and don't try too hard, socialise in messages and do not ask for sex, play it cool.

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I always start with (Hey/Hi how are you) so I think that's most probably where I'm going wrong but it's nice to be nice thou not just hi fancy a fuck lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a bit more inventive with your messages, and funny, don't be pushy or creepy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be a bit more inventive with your messages, and funny, don't be pushy or creepy "

Ok will try my best cheers lol

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