FabSwingers.com forum: pseudo swingers??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

after having witnessed (and to some extent been part of) a rather heated 'discussion' in the chatroom earlier today...I was wondering what ppl's definition of a swinger was, as we clearly seem to have very differing ideas!!

My definition of swinging is the old fashioned one, I suppose...wife swapping.. and for that you need a partner..

therefore as I have no partner I don't class myself as a swinger....i'm just someone who loves sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe the correct process for swinging is to swap partners ... Otherwise its just sex or a three or foursome..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Labels are very divisive. Swinging to me is simply enjoying sharing sexual experiences with others or bringing others into our sex life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.[1] Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to "hooking up" with like-minded people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.[1] Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to "hooking up" with like-minded people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online."

I could have googled it too but I wanted some opinions off real ppl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Labels are very divisive. Swinging to me is simply enjoying sharing sexual experiences with others or bringing others into our sex life."

I think this sums it up nicely, why the need to be in or be placed in a box. We are what WE think we are & what WE think is important, not others x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Valid .. But things have names or what would be the point lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"after having witnessed (and to some extent been part of) a rather heated 'discussion' in the chatroom earlier today...I was wondering what ppl's definition of a swinger was, as we clearly seem to have very differing ideas!!

My definition of swinging is the old fashioned one, I suppose...wife swapping.. and for that you need a partner..

therefore as I have no partner I don't class myself as a swinger....i'm just someone who loves sex!!

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i dont class myself as a swinger as im single

but i do swing both ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it was mentioned that we 'singletons' were pseudo swingers and that because we weren't proper swingers we should get off the site and let the proper swingers get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it was mentioned that we 'singletons' were pseudo swingers and that because we weren't proper swingers we should get off the site and let the proper swingers get on with it

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i pay my membership just like anybody else..and now and again i add the missing ingredients 2 the proper swingers lives

if it wasnt 4 us singletons there would b no 3 sums would there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you cant be a "swinger" if your single then why the hell did they give an option on the site for single male or single females?

I think swinging means having friends "with benefits" and theres a clear understanding between all parties that its just sex. yes the old term for swinging was wife swapping, but attitudes change over time and i think the meaning of swinger has changed.

My opinion though and not going to argue with anyone else about it lol

Tidy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

King louis was a swinger! So if you're a swinger you're a monkey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say it was swinging from one lifestyle to another...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex with people who are not your partner

people who enjoy meeting many for sex, and swinging site is a good place to meet people who are happy to have sex without the complications of a meaning relationship.

So it's basicly about sex with others, without any strings atached...

or as many say on the forums, not meeting, just to chat with those who do swing....

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I would say that, these days, a more accurate definition would be that a swinger is someone who engages in recreational sex without wanting a relationship, with those of a similar mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers to us are all people who are looking for and participate in sexual activities for the fun and and sexual pleasure but who are not looking for ties or commitment. God forbid there was a site where there were no single guys or girls, we'd have to consider hanging our boots up!!!

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By *uddsWoman
over a year ago

st athans

"I believe the correct process for swinging is to swap partners ... Otherwise its just sex or a three or foursome..

I strongly agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leggy not a Swinger??? OK I have not had a drink yet but I am not believing my eyes. We are ALL members of an exclusive society, for all we care we could be the "fucktard" society as long as we continue exactly what we are already doing.

We are all Swingers, members of an exclusive society, friends, associates and fuck buddies so ultimately it is only a label. The Oxford English Dictionary, Wikipedia and Google can go to hell, we are Swingers and proud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it was mentioned that we 'singletons' were pseudo swingers and that because we weren't proper swingers we should get off the site and let the proper swingers get on with it

i pay my membership just like anybody else..and now and again i add the missing ingredients 2 the proper swingers lives

if it wasnt 4 us singletons there would b no 3 sums would there?

Too bloody right, who thinks up all this nonsense grrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rather like the term 'swingle'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll stick with it meaning you're a monkey if you're a swinger! Ya know it makes sense!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sparticus lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rather like the term 'swingle'."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I rather like the term 'swingle'."

I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My definition of swinging is the old fashioned one, I suppose...wife swapping.. and for that you need a partner..

therefore as I have no partner I don't class myself as a swinger....i'm just someone who loves sex!!

in the 60s we called it free love where the peeps had multi partners

throughout time it has always been there the Romans called it orgies but the nitty gritty is its like minded peeps having fun doing what they want with each other without cheating single or married we all have a common goal sex some of us deviate from the core and add kinks to our lives but its a good life and i have enjoyed the ride and will stay on the horse as long as i can i have met some fantastic friends on the way and introduced lots of peeps to the scene long gone are the days of meeting at the house and swapping partners its a lot more open and social these days just be safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My definition of swinging is the old fashioned one, I suppose...wife swapping.. and for that you need a partner..

therefore as I have no partner I don't class myself as a swinger....i'm just someone who loves sex!!

in the 60s we called it free love where the peeps had multi partners

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By *ld skool swingerMan
over a year ago

Abertillery

why label it anyway , swinging , free love , its all retrospective anyway .

i meet singularly or as couple on here.

we all like sex with strangers or someone who is not our partners ( those of us who's partners know we are here otherwise its called cheating) thats a different ball game

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By *ickablecoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Glamorgan

I think you are all dirty fuckers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why label it anyway , swinging , free love , its all retrospective anyway .

i meet singularly or as couple on here.

we all like sex with strangers or someone who is not our partners ( those of us who's partners know we are here otherwise its called cheating) thats a different ball game "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it was mentioned that we 'singletons' were pseudo swingers and that because we weren't proper swingers we should get off the site and let the proper swingers get on with it

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. Oh! And if the single ladies left I'm absolutely positive they would be missed... I'm single absolutely enjoy being single, miss intimacy... I was directed to thie site by a male friend who suggested it was perfect for what I was looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you are all dirty fuckers!"

go and feed your llamas!!

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By *ts_all_gravyMan
over a year ago

Newport

So if singletons are pseudo swingers!!! what about cpls who were here as partners before, then separated divorced or whatever, but stay on here to keep in contact with like minded friends etc, are we to all get off the site as well because we no longer have partners....seems like a load of purist bollix to me we are what we are, swingers/swappers normal/abnormal whatever.... we are just horny sods who like to share...... imho anyway lol

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By *ickablecoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Glamorgan

"I think you are all dirty fuckers!

go and feed your llamas!!

Only feed then at night! They are shy little buggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you are all dirty fuckers!

go and feed your llamas!!

Only feed then at night! They are shy little buggers"
you ain't got no llamas mr lick.poppyxxi let them all out ,bad poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you are all dirty fuckers!

go and feed your llamas!!

Only feed then at night! They are shy little buggersyou ain't got no llamas mr lick.poppyxxi let them all out ,bad poppyxx

bad poppy???????

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

It's simple for me:a single who calls him/herself a Swinger is exactly that, a Swinger

....the term swingle is lovely,too

This site is a swinging site:therefor all it's members are part of the Swinging community.Due to the variety as to how fabsters use this site:some just chat,some just watch,some just play next to others,some just 'swap' oral,some fullswap,some only 1 half of cpl swaps add all the kinksters + fetishist as well as naturist and may be the term LIFESTYLERS fits us all just nicely.

Enjoy the naughty lifestyle in whichever way you prefer

(susie)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My definition of swinging is the old fashioned one, I suppose...wife

swapping.. and for that you need a partner..

therefore as I have no partner I don't class myself as a swinger....i'm just someone who loves sex!!

Well the site owners think that singles are swingers as well obviously.

its a way of life .I have been a single man on here but now a couple. I

I've been swinging since 1987 and throughout have been on swinging sites and used swinging magazines,even before the tinternet.

pof is more a site for non swingers where people want a sex meet but swinging is so much more with partys , group sex etc.so yes singles on a swinging site are swingers in my mind .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if singletons are pseudo swingers!!! what about cpls who were here as partners before, then separated divorced or whatever, but stay on here to keep in contact with like minded friends etc, are we to all get off the site as well because we no longer have partners....seems like a load of purist bollix to me we are what we are, swingers/swappers normal/abnormal whatever.... we are just horny sods who like to share...... imho anyway lol

Exactly.I have been on here as a couple and a single and back as a couple.Its a way of life and loved it .

I have never been on a site to meet just single women for sex why limit yourself swingers meet in all situations and long may it continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

networking services online.

I would say that, these days, a more accurate definition would be that a swinger is someone who engages in recreational sex without wanting a relationship, with those of a similar mindset."

Well said. Live and let live .... I take what I want from this site and am happy to let others do the same without applying labels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it was mentioned that we 'singletons' were pseudo swingers and that because we weren't proper swingers we should get off the site and let the proper swingers get on with it

Have you noticed there are more people in the world generally who spend all their time finding reasons why something shouldn't be done?

I look for reasons why they can be.

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