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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all

Is it just me or do some verifications (espec those from single guys to single women) just lack a modicum of respect and just seem sleazy and rude.

and then they are published and you think - that they must agree with the description - low self esteem issues????

I know what this site is about (and have been around the scene for a long time) but seems to me that people need to learn respect for others and themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree! If someone left me a veri that was too detailed I wouldn't display it. But if that's the way someone spoke about me I hope I'd have worked it out and not met them in the first place!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think thats what worries me

Self esteem and respect issues!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree.

Also most of them seem to start "Well, what can I say? ..." Before saying an awful lot.

Plus they seem to want to reflect personal glory, like "OMG this woman can gush for Wales..." which translates into "Yes I made her gush, thank you, thank you, what's that? Yes I am avaiable for weddings and children's parties"

Urgggh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree completely.. I don't think people need to know the ins and outs of a meet.. Only that they met and that it was positive.. Lets face it, no one is going to display a negative verification anyway are they!

Its all too much about ego flattering and I don't see the point in them at all..

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree completely.. I don't think people need to know the ins and outs of a meet.. Only that they met and that it was positive.. Lets face it, no one is going to display a negative verification anyway are they!

Its all too much about ego flattering and I don't see the point in them at all.."

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By *arah n LeeCouple
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Agree completely.. I don't think people need to know the ins and outs of a meet.. Only that they met and that it was positive.. Lets face it, no one is going to display a negative verification anyway are they!

Its all too much about ego flattering and I don't see the point in them at all.."

Very nice veri on your profile chick xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree completely.. I don't think people need to know the ins and outs of a meet.. Only that they met and that it was positive.. Lets face it, no one is going to display a negative verification anyway are they!

Its all too much about ego flattering and I don't see the point in them at all..

Very nice veri on your profile chick xx"

thanks I think

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By *arah n LeeCouple
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Agree completely.. I don't think people need to know the ins and outs of a meet.. Only that they met and that it was positive.. Lets face it, no one is going to display a negative verification anyway are they!

Its all too much about ego flattering and I don't see the point in them at all..

Very nice veri on your profile chick xx

thanks I think"

But on the note of veri's We've been debating this a while... We are fairly active on the site... how many is too many? Does too many veris put ppl off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally more than 3 put me off, I also look at who gave them the veri.. If they look rough I won't go near the guy!

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By *arah n LeeCouple
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Personally more than 3 put me off, I also look at who gave them the veri.. If they look rough I won't go near the guy! "

That's cool, I guess every one has there own vetting systems in place on here...

I only object to threads like this - when its suggested they are listed because of low self esteem as suggested by the op...We have displayed all up to this point more as a courtesy thing.. I mean these people spent there time to right a veri... seemed rude to pick and chose who we displayed.

Feel a potential edit coming on mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it has anything to do with low self esteem more the fact that they agree with what is written, you could argue that they are confident and happy enough to display them.

You do however run the risk of allowing your verifications to project a personality others will interpret as either negative or positive. So if someone shows verifications that only state how great the sex was or how much a lady gushed then people will build a picture based on the information available.

Verifications are there to allow me to gauge how the person/persons have presented themselves to the other party and if I would like to get to know them and or a potential meet with them.

Some people have every verification on display some only one it is a personal choice on what information they give.

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By *arah n LeeCouple
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"I don't think it has anything to do with low self esteem more the fact that they agree with what is written, you could argue that they are confident and happy enough to display them.

You do however run the risk of allowing your verifications to project a personality others will interpret as either negative or positive. So if someone shows verifications that only state how great the sex was or how much a lady gushed then people will build a picture based on the information available.

Verifications are there to allow me to gauge how the person/persons have presented themselves to the other party and if I would like to get to know them and or a potential meet with them.

Some people have every verification on display some only one it is a personal choice on what information they give. "

As always prof..a fab way with words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show mostly social veris, anything else does not get shown lol. I perve them for a giggle now and then xxxx Not every single female can be the best cock sucker etc., on fab he he. Some veris are good beacause at least you can gauge the personality a bit of the person they verify lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people get thier heads up thier arses if they are too detailed some if they are not.you cant win really. some wont meet if they are too many veris and what the fuck is a hardened swinger???

you either swing or you don't ffs.

now waiting for the barrage of negative comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree completely.. I don't think people need to know the ins and outs of a meet.. Only that they met and that it was positive.. Lets face it, no one is going to display a negative verification anyway are they!

Its all too much about ego flattering and I don't see the point in them at all.."

just read your veri???? very confused dot com lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said it before and i say it again..I putting them all up and if you don't like it don't meet us .just cos someone's got three veries doesn't mean thats what they got they could have three hundred .i rather meet people who don't hide them .it is a shagging site after all not pof .i going for two hundred now . lol.xxbad poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well said it before and i say it again..I putting them all up and if you don't like it don't meet us .just cos someone's got three veries doesn't mean thats what they got they could have three hundred .i rather meet people who don't hide them .it is a shagging site after all not pof .i going for two hundred now . lol.xxbad poppyxx"

Number of veris wouldnt put me off but content which leaves nothing to the imagination does

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well glad i started a good debate!!!

None of us are nuns but you want to leave somethings to the imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well said it before and i say it again..I putting them all up and if you don't like it don't meet us .just cos someone's got three veries doesn't mean thats what they got they could have three hundred .i rather meet people who don't hide them .it is a shagging site after all not pof .i going for two hundred now . lol.xxbad poppyxx"

good bad poppy aim high

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

Always wonder if people, who don't like to see to many veri's, put it in relation to how long the person/s been on here If no timescale been given on the profile itself than Fabs'over a year' could mean quite a few years !!

Active Swingers who not only have private meets but go to socials,partys and Clubs will by nature(if they sociable/friendly)have a higher no.of Veri's.

We prefer to meet people who like us have a variety of nice veri's.Less chance they timewasters/dreamers or fantasists

Fabsters who think we have to many will simply pass us by and that's a good thing since they'll have to few for us

(susie)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well said it before and i say it again..I putting them all up and if you don't like it don't meet us .just cos someone's got three veries doesn't mean thats what they got they could have three hundred .i rather meet people who don't hide them .it is a shagging site after all not pof .i going for two hundred now . lol.xxbad poppyxx

good bad poppy aim high"

would be 8 off now buck lol.using the new verification summary .we met 192 people lol.some have left the site booo.poppy.bad poppy .where did i get te one o shag them.poppyxx

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

Oh i only just noticed this new feature!Think it can help singles who only had 1 or 2 veri's displayed but lost them due to their meets no longer on site if they show the summary at least others can see they have met and not just Cam verified

(susie)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me loves the verifys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having just a few quality veris seems far better than a complete anthology of them...

My main reason for wanting to see veris is to know that someone has actually met the site member in person and found that they are not an axe murderer etc....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having just a few quality veris seems far better than a complete anthology of them...

My main reason for wanting to see veris is to know that someone has actually met the site member in person and found that they are not an axe murderer etc.... "

well you won't get that reading veries Hun.we met quite a few wired wild and wonderful people that had veries on here .however there mental health and stalking abilities left a lot to be desired .obviously we never met them again.still be careful even if they got veries .poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally more than 3 put me off, I also look at who gave them the veri.. If they look rough I won't go near the guy! "

Have to agree here. If he meets right stinkers then it's guaranteed to put me off instantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally more than 3 put me off, I also look at who gave them the veri.. If they look rough I won't go near the guy!

Have to agree here. If he meets right stinkers then it's guaranteed to put me off instantly. "

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