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By *he first Gentleman OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Fab

I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming.

The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together.

Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation.

So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience.

What do you think, would you be up for something like this?

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By *rMrsTwistedCouple
10 weeks ago

Neath


"I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming.

The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together.

Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation.

So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience.

What do you think, would you be up for something like this?"

Good luck and hope all goes well , but I think the chemistry and pleasure can never be instant and needs to built even for an hour or 2 not focused straight into it ,

My opinion only and not looking to discourage you or anyone ,

Looking to possibly do a similar kind of night ourselves but certainly won't insist on people playing as soon as they walk in ,

Like I say good luck and hope it goes well , we would have been interested in attending if it wasn't so ... straight into it

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By *lessing2016Woman
10 weeks ago

Cardiff


"I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming.

The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together.

Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation.

So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience.

What do you think, would you be up for something like this?"

A lot of ppl are on fab for community and social experiences just as much as sex. So, while I'm sure you didn't mean to, you've not only come across as a little short sighted, but also potentially offended those who currently run successfully house parties.

But by all means, if you are able to find a location to cater to needs, safety, parking, control alcohol and drugs, ensure there is a safe space for anyone who needs to take a break, look out for abusers then have at it.

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By *rMrsBiCardiffCouple
10 weeks ago

Roath

Having a chat isn't "pretending" it's enjoyable.

Getting to know people is a key part of what swinging is for the majority of people.

Not to say that there aren't people who are comfy with playing right away, absolutely nothing wrong with that either.

It's just that many could feel pressured knowing that the host sees them as a downer for wanting to socialise first

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By *3xymamaWoman
10 weeks ago

...., Wales


"Having a chat isn't "pretending" it's enjoyable.

Getting to know people is a key part of what swinging is for the majority of people.

Not to say that there aren't people who are comfy with playing right away, absolutely nothing wrong with that either.

It's just that many could feel pressured knowing that the host sees them as a downer for wanting to socialise first"

This ^^^

I don't attend house parties to "just get down to it" as others have said, I expect some attraction and chemistry to want to be intimate with someone

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By *hadowSirenWoman
10 weeks ago

Near

I’ve been to 4 house parties now and only played at one (the last one). I’ve gone primarily to socialise, chat with other like minded individuals and if a connection is evident then it can be taken forward, either on the night or at a later date.

I never did ONS in my younger days like my friends because I’m a person who needs a mental and physical attraction to someone. Therefore going to a house party to ‘just get down to it’ would never be something I’d attend personally, but I’m sure there’d be plenty of people (mainly single guys) who have zero interest in any other aspect of the swinging scene and who use Fab solely for sex and nothing else

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By *.manMan
10 weeks ago

Cardiff

I totally agree with all the ladies responses to this. I think you haven't taken into consideration that .People want to talk and chat .it makes the connection better and easier you feel comfortable then with that person. Who wants to jump on someone and half way through u might feel uncomfortable and intimidated by that person or couple what are u supposed to do then get up and walk out i think you should reconsider how you go about holding an event or even put post up asking people for some suggestions on party's or events get some input some feedback first

Just my opinion as a single guy I struggle to meet ladies and couples on here as there are so many single males on here who are bad mannered disrespectful and time wasters I would love nothing more than to meet a nice lady or couple but this is what ruins it not thinking about others

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Can share my feelings as a part of couple now and someone who has attended as a single male , if you are solely going to do one thing your really undervaluing the scene and not making the most of what a brilliant social outlet it is. Really good for feel good factor more than a blow and go, love the social element so much it makes the sex better if that comes naturally

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By *ischievous ElfWoman
10 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

Personally find this disrespectful to all those that put time and effort into arranging events.

If people weren't interested, they wouldn't attend and events would fall flat, the reality is very different.

If they don't suit you, thats fine, you don't have to attend, we are all different. But not everyone shares your view. The social scene is a bit part of why I'm on the scene..I use it as platform to make connections. I wouldn't attend an event where I'm expected to play just because I'm there.

Good luck with it

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By *B GamesCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol/Cornwall

I think your post is poorly worded.

There is no such thing as "proper" swingers, people live this lifestyle how they choose.

We prefer the action side of things but I (Minky) wouldn't want to attend a party where socialising was discouraged, I wouldn't want to feel pressured to play.

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By *inx300Woman
10 weeks ago

SWANSEA

Agree with all the other comments. Jumping straight into it is not even expected at a designated sex club.

True swingers are into making connections and building chemistry.

Sounds like you just want an instant orgy.

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By *estWalesSocialsCouple (FF)
10 weeks ago

West Wales


"I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming.

The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together.

Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation.

So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience.

What do you think, would you be up for something like this?"

Just to say, this should have been captured as an orgy or play party - not a 'proper swingers party'.

I think everyone's definition of what should/shouldn't happen at a HP or any other play event, usually involves a little bit of banter, boundary setting and general consent. If you don't have those things...well, I imagine you, as host, may open yourself up to all sorts of trouble. Which is probably not your intention.

As others have said, probably poorly worded.

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By *he first Gentleman OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Fab

Really appreciate everyone’s input, it’s actually helpful to hear different perspectives.

I definitely didn’t mean to disrespect anyone who enjoys or hosts social-style parties. I completely understand that for many people, chemistry and comfort build through conversation first, and that’s a huge part of the lifestyle.

What I was trying to describe is simply a different type of event, one that’s more play-forward in atmosphere rather than primarily social. Not pressured, not mandatory, and always consent-led but with a crowd who attend already knowing they’re open to engaging sooner rather than later.

Of course there would always be space for conversation, boundaries, comfort and consent. That’s non-negotiable.

Maybe ‘proper’ was the wrong word, every style of event has its place. This would just be aimed at people who prefer a more direct, sexually charged environment rather than a heavily social one.

Appreciate the feedback,it’s good to refine the idea properly.

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By *ellie49Woman
10 weeks ago

Notts, Birmingham, Cardiff


"Really appreciate everyone’s input, it’s actually helpful to hear different perspectives.

I definitely didn’t mean to disrespect anyone who enjoys or hosts social-style parties. I completely understand that for many people, chemistry and comfort build through conversation first, and that’s a huge part of the lifestyle.

What I was trying to describe is simply a different type of event, one that’s more play-forward in atmosphere rather than primarily social. Not pressured, not mandatory, and always consent-led but with a crowd who attend already knowing they’re open to engaging sooner rather than later.

Of course there would always be space for conversation, boundaries, comfort and consent. That’s non-negotiable.

Maybe ‘proper’ was the wrong word, every style of event has its place. This would just be aimed at people who prefer a more direct, sexually charged environment rather than a heavily social one.

Appreciate the feedback,it’s good to refine the idea properly."

I attend house parties to play, never expect to , but that is the reason I personally attend , maybe not everyone’s thing but it’s mine. Always consent and always with guys who I want to play with, I won’t play with just anyone. The socialising side is good to network

But most parties have some form of chat before hand so can get the vibe from that and start to make connections. If I wanted to just socialise I could go down local pub. I know everyone is different and life would be very boring if we were all the same. Life is short , live life to the max. Stay safe and enjoy.

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
10 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Really appreciate everyone’s input, it’s actually helpful to hear different perspectives.

I definitely didn’t mean to disrespect anyone who enjoys or hosts social-style parties. I completely understand that for many people, chemistry and comfort build through conversation first, and that’s a huge part of the lifestyle.

What I was trying to describe is simply a different type of event, one that’s more play-forward in atmosphere rather than primarily social. Not pressured, not mandatory, and always consent-led but with a crowd who attend already knowing they’re open to engaging sooner rather than later.

Of course there would always be space for conversation, boundaries, comfort and consent. That’s non-negotiable.

Maybe ‘proper’ was the wrong word, every style of event has its place. This would just be aimed at people who prefer a more direct, sexually charged environment rather than a heavily social one.

Appreciate the feedback,it’s good to refine the idea properly.

I attend house parties to play, never expect to , but that is the reason I personally attend , maybe not everyone’s thing but it’s mine. Always consent and always with guys who I want to play with, I won’t play with just anyone. The socialising side is good to network

But most parties have some form of chat before hand so can get the vibe from that and start to make connections. If I wanted to just socialise I could go down local pub. I know everyone is different and life would be very boring if we were all the same. Life is short , live life to the max. Stay safe and enjoy."

I also go to play (also never expect to, of course), I like to socialise too but I can find it a bit awkward to approach groups of people to talk to. I also unfortunately am not great about talking about sex (something I'm working on) so this concept does appeal to me to be honest. Obviously it wasn't worded the best but I understand the thinking behind it.

The idea of going to a house party and doing something like a group game (non-sexual) or something is something I think could work well at getting people to talk to others they wouldn't normally talk to

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By *9alMan
10 weeks ago

Bridgend


"I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming.

The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together.

Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation.

So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience.

What do you think, would you be up for something like this?"

I would be up for that sort of party but I suspect many women & couples would not be .personally I find chatting very difficult & boring , its very easy to say the wrong thing & offend someone without meaning to

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By *rMrsBiCardiffCouple
10 weeks ago

Roath

Perhaps a party with the primary focus on play would be better communicated with a strong concept for the activities and setting?

Rather than an apparent judgement on how other events run.

Focusing the wording on how your event runs rather than how it doesn't run the same as others?

Not really sure how exactly, but a clear communication of a sex focused setting without any pressure being presented for guests could work well for people looking for a play focused event.

As others have mentioned a game of some sort, a warm up, and clear communication of the kinds of group areas and activities available could work.

It would definitely be a fine balance though. Communicating the sex focused nature of the event without making people feel pressured to play just because they attended seems like a tricky balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended.

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By *B GamesCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol/Cornwall


"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended. "

I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events.

5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details.

We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago


"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended.

I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events.

5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details.

We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys!

"
Great idea. Let's it flow quicker. Nobody really can be offended if left out

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
10 weeks ago

Cardiff


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I would be up for that sort of party but I suspect many women & couples would not be .personally I find chatting very difficult & boring , its very easy to say the wrong thing & offend someone without meaning to "

Ngl it's really easy to not offend people, just don't be rude or pushy and respect their boundaries

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By *B GamesCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol/Cornwall


"

I would be up for that sort of party but I suspect many women & couples would not be .personally I find chatting very difficult & boring , its very easy to say the wrong thing & offend someone without meaning to

Ngl it's really easy to not offend people, just don't be rude or pushy and respect their boundaries "

Equally, some people can and will be offended by anything.

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By *3achyBWoman
10 weeks ago

Aberpennar

I prefer a play focused party & like the feeling of freedom that comes with that environment, but I would expect attendees to understand the need for respect & the ability for us all to say no without feeling bad.

I for one would welcome a safe space to be free with other like minded, handpicked people.

I like the idea you're suggesting, but have to agree that a bit more thought on the wording or maybe doing some research before posting, might have helped. In the swinging scene, there are so many diverse views & approaches, which is what makes it so appealing to many of us.

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By *he first Gentleman OP   Man
10 weeks ago

Fab


"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended.

I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events.

5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details.

We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys!

That's a good idea 🤔

"

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I’m not sure why such a post offends anyone!

Each party runs to their own dynamic and obviously work for those that attend as they keep running and keep having full guest lists

If you want something different for your parties, then it is your perogative to do that and good luck to you!

Too many people worry about what others do. When ultimately the lifestyle has enough room for everyone! And people will vote with their feet. If they like what you have to offer, they will come. If they don’t that’s their choice and nobody needs to worry about it!

As long as expectations are clear from the start, then I’m sure you’ll attract the right people for what you are looking for!

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By *B GamesCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol/Cornwall


"I’m not sure why such a post offends anyone!

Each party runs to their own dynamic and obviously work for those that attend as they keep running and keep having full guest lists

If you want something different for your parties, then it is your perogative to do that and good luck to you!

Too many people worry about what others do. When ultimately the lifestyle has enough room for everyone! And people will vote with their feet. If they like what you have to offer, they will come. If they don’t that’s their choice and nobody needs to worry about it!

As long as expectations are clear from the start, then I’m sure you’ll attract the right people for what you are looking for! "

I believe the way it was written, (He very much mentioned what others do) caused some of the comments. I am not sure anyone was offended, but the OP did ask for feedback.

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By *inx300Woman
10 weeks ago

SWANSEA


"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended.

I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events.

5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details.

We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys!

"

Filth club used to do this once a month in Swansea. It was a fantastic night!

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By *lessing2016Woman
10 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended.

I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events.

5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details.

We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys!

"

This sounds fun, I'd be down for this.

I know Filth Club do something similar, but it's mostly standing and I appreciate due to volumes and space can be a little awkward to navigate.

But with seating and cards etc, it would be awesome 😊

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