FabSwingers.com forum: What would men prefer??

By *elshdragon900 OP Woman
10 weeks ago

Swansea

If a man sends a message and it doesn’t interest me, (read my profile) I am quite specific, would men prefer it to be deleted or a reply to say “no thanks” and blocked to stop repeat messages??

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By *vonladMan
10 weeks ago

warwick

Either works for me as it means the same… No Thanks.

I just get confused when it’s opened read and never a reply.

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By *bk1979Man
10 weeks ago

Penarth

Unfortunately I think it varies from person to person. Some guys will be happy with a deleted message and others would happily take a “no thank you”.

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By *nly4fun76Man
10 weeks ago

cardiff

Happy with either, it’s when they’re left unread as you don’t know if they’re not interested or just haven’t read it

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By *reamcaramelWoman
10 weeks ago

wonderland

If I'm honest with regards to this.. it depends on my frame of mind.. if I have received loads of shite and rudeness then I just can't be arsed to be polite, read or ignore.. I normally log off and do Hitt circuits..

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Read, delete, forget about it. 👍🏼

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By *ature4fun300Man
10 weeks ago

Willaston

Id much sooner have a thanks but no thanks

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By *smithukMan
10 weeks ago

cardiff

Whatever works for you but I’d prefer not to be blocked so that I can continue to enjoy your lovely pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

100% would rather a no thank you. then a block I don't mind being blocked

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By *elNRoobsCouple
10 weeks ago

Swansea

When we first set up the profile, we always tried to answer back anyone who messaged, but quickly found a lot of people were not very good with rejection, thus we put a note on the profile about if not responding then take it as a polite no. Unfortunately, this doesn't deter some, who can get extremely persistent or personal. So we just ignore messages from a lot of people who have ignored reading our profile now, and those who persist we end up blocking as a last resort.

Hence why we tend to stick to people we either have known socially for a while, or meet at events. We know they are genuine (and generally will turn up), so a big tip from us, if you are single blokes get yourself to a local event and get yourself verified by people socially, it makes a huge difference on whether an initial message will also be answered too.

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By *elNRoobsCouple
10 weeks ago

Swansea

As for a response to a single man. Del used to like a polite no thank you if someone isn't interested, but now understands fully why women/couples ignore, due to some people spoiling it for others.

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By *entleman FrolicerMan
10 weeks ago

Abergele

A block is best, they can't see you again, and message you again. Men also use the block to hide profiles they have zero interest in. All leaves a better list of people.

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By *otyouraverageguyMan
10 weeks ago

n wales

Not sure there is a one size fits all approach here

If no effort has been put into the message, then why bother in return

If it's clear that someone has read the profile, sent a polite message etc, then I think it at least warrants a "thanks but no thanks" reply.

I've had those and always appreciate it, and it will get a "best wishes etc" response and that draws a nice line under everything

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By *reenleavesCouple
10 weeks ago

North Wales

'thanks for your message but we're not going to meet' *block*.

Any kind of reply is always nice. This shows you've read the message, given it at least a second of consideration and then shutsdown any further chat.

You could go further and have a copy paste response that summarises your profile and says that their message failed to meet one or more of the points. If nothing else this should encourage them to read profiles in future

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By *lint25Man
10 weeks ago

newport

Personally a no thanks is preferable as a response, certainly if the message was responding genuinely to preference and desire and sent with the intention of a connection. It is actually quite hard to craft messages to start a conversation even if you feel you meet anothers likes, as fickle as it is, they fancy you or they dont, although i find it hard to comprehend how in a single text you assess whether someone is unsuitable or not. This said given the raft of shit people seem to message i.e. come fuck me, look at my dick, etc. and the entitled behaviour of many who think a message equates to a right to response or more, I would say either option is probably acceptable behaviour and I would favour the delete and block!!

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By *ing-louisMan
10 weeks ago

Brixham

"If a man sends a message and it doesn’t interest me, (read my profile) I am quite specific, would men prefer it to be deleted or a reply to say “no thanks” and blocked to stop repeat messages?? "

I'd prefer just a delete. Sends quite a clear message in itself

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
10 weeks ago

All over the place

No thanks is always good, as know lots of women on here in the real world who are so bombarded they don't even get to read all there messages

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
10 weeks ago

All over the place

"If I'm honest with regards to this.. it depends on my frame of mind.. if I have received loads of shite and rudeness then I just can't be arsed to be polite, read or ignore.. I normally log off and do Hitt circuits.. "

I really do feel for the ladies as I myself get some vile messages despite clearly stating I'm straight - can only imagine the sheer crap you have to sift through

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By *CBoyTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Rhondda

I'd prefer a No Thanks. And I think you are right about blocking because I get annoyed when people respond asking "why?". Just accept the other person isn't interested and move on.

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By *ynonValleyBullMan
10 weeks ago

Aberdare

I just assume that no reply means it’s a no and I leave it at that.

I don’t expect anybody to message me to let me know or to justify themselves. Of course a reply is nice but I’m very aware of how many messages couples and single women get on here and to keep up with replying to every single message would be a full time job.

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

I prefer it to be deleted. I have no desire to aggravate a woman further by expecting her to send a personal "no thank you". It's an administrative task that she doesn't really need.

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By *rDoubleTroubleDeluxeMan
10 weeks ago

medway

I always try to say no so people know, it takes 2 mins and is polite m. Rather than the unknowns

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By *irtywildsideMan
10 weeks ago

Barry

I know how bombarded single ladies and couples get with messages so I don’t mind if any message I send is either deleted, left unread, read and not replied to or read with a courteous ‘no thanks’ as a reply . Unless it is to attach a face pic which I forgot to do with my initial message I won’t send further messages without a reply as I prefer to make a note for future reference without being blocked so I can at least enjoy their photos/vids

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I do like the not for us sorry message (the perlite f-off ) it's in my book better than a deleted message some responses is better than none ?

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By *eviationMan
9 weeks ago

Brynamman

I like a "no" or no thanks or even a block

Least you know where you stand

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By *hewankinmanMan
9 weeks ago

wales

An acknowledgment that the message has been read really. I’ve messaged people a few times in the thinking the message has been missed….. being that women in particular get so many messages

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By *imply mikeMan
9 weeks ago

Barry

"When we first set up the profile, we always tried to answer back anyone who messaged, but quickly found a lot of people were not very good with rejection, thus we put a note on the profile about if not responding then take it as a polite no. Unfortunately, this doesn't deter some, who can get extremely persistent or personal. So we just ignore messages from a lot of people who have ignored reading our profile now, and those who persist we end up blocking as a last resort.

100% agree with your reply regarding message saying about no answer means no sorry. Though a no thanks would be nice. We men should appreciate and understand why couples dont reply much due to large numbers of mail.

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By *adbod451000Man
9 weeks ago

cardiff

I think either is fine because if I ever message someone and it shows deleted then thats my answer and I leave it there.

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By *efByOrgasmsMan
9 weeks ago

Heads of the Valleys

Doesn't matter I'm used to rejection 😆 😅

But if they take the time out to say no thanks I always politely respond saying thanks and good luck.

But the left on read is the grey area 😆

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By *aydream63Man
9 weeks ago

Flint

For me a return 'thanks, but no thanks' is what I'd prefer

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By *ommy trucker1Man
9 weeks ago

anywhere near you

Well I'm out of your age range so I wouldn't message on that basis alone. However If I did then a simple thanks but not for reply is sufficient and a block would be more plausible. But to straight block I think is harsh especially if the message had context.

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By *issP69Woman
9 weeks ago

Neath

The guys who are saying they like to have X Y Z so they know where they stand....why would you consider anything other than a reply as potential interest? If I messaged anyone on here, I wouldn't give it a second thought unless they replied, for those of you saying you would prefer a reply so to not message them again, it will show if you have previously messaged etc when you view their profile .

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Mayfair

"The guys who are saying they like to have X Y Z so they know where they stand....why would you consider anything other than a reply as potential interest? If I messaged anyone on here, I wouldn't give it a second thought unless they replied, for those of you saying you would prefer a reply so to not message them again, it will show if you have previously messaged etc when you view their profile . "

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I'm still not quite clear on what you're saying here or the point you're making (probably my shortcoming).

I mentioned higher up that, for me personally, I don't expect a reply of regret (i.e. a "no thank you" or something similar) and that my message being deleted is sufficient enough. It's all academic really**: I rarely send a first message and if I do I immediately delete it from my Sent Folder. I don't need to know about its fate.

**Most of my engagements, socials, dates etc have been on the back of receiving an introductory message from women.

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By *ornballs82Man
9 weeks ago

Newport

Personally I’d prefer a thanks but no thanks reply but completely understand why most don’t respond due to volumes of messages I guess. I think as a newbie I’m just trying to find where I’m going wrong but again completely understand it’s not up to the people I’m messaging to educate me

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By *alahadLadMan
9 weeks ago

Pembs

Just a "No thank you" does it for me!

Deleting the message is more abrupt, but I understand if you've got hundreds of men messaging you that it's much quicker.

Blocking does hurt sometimes, even though you shouldn't take it personally. Always hits harder if a block happens after sharing a face pic 🥺

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
9 weeks ago

All over the place

"Just a "No thank you" does it for me!

Deleting the message is more abrupt, but I understand if you've got hundreds of men messaging you that it's much quicker.

Blocking does hurt sometimes, even though you shouldn't take it personally. Always hits harder if a block happens after sharing a face pic 🥺"

Yeah I've had that a few times must be my ugly mug ha

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