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By *ouple4funwales OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

Hengoed

Hey Guys …..after some advice ? What does everyone do with time wasters ? We seem to spend all week messaging people and arranging a meet then last minute there’s no reply . Understandably things come up but when there no response its sooo frustrating .

Have you guys had the same issues ? Single men seem to be by far the worst offenders for us ……..but why ?

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By *anza2024Man
2 weeks ago

CF

Everybody gets them, I've been stood up more times than I dare to remember

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By *onesyf50Man
2 weeks ago

mid wales

Probably the most irritating thing is to cancel last minute with no explanation. I normally just block people who do this, if something comes up it only takes 1 min to send a txt

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By *elshdevil70Man
2 weeks ago

Swansea

In my opinion it mainly due to so many 'single ' guys on the site who are already in a relationship in the real world, and only get limited time when it suit them to meet with someone off here.

So when something arranged that doesn't fit into their personal life free time they simply ghost, don't turn up or come up with an 'excuse', in hope you'll believe and rearrange another time

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By *arri54Woman
2 weeks ago

Newport

Albeit infuriating, just block!

This happens all the time and it's just bad manners...

I always meet socially its clear from the start, the ones that go along with it thinking they will change my mind, then don't show really annoy me, just block and move on...

The genuine ones do outweigh the time wasters though

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By *lower SergeMan
2 weeks ago

near you

It’s why I keep leaving the site (well that and the rudeness of some people)

I don’t understand what sort of kick these people get from just wasting everyone’s time 🤷🏼‍♂️

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By *arri54Woman
2 weeks ago

Newport

I think you've the keyboard warriors who talk the talk but shit out last minute, the ones that throw out their toys because they think it's a fuck site, that's not what swinging is!

Its totally disrespectful and I haven't time for it..

Block, don't need those people around

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By *aralluWoman
2 weeks ago

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This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…

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By *assionfruit_ParadiseWoman
2 weeks ago

Newport

Had this yesterday. Meant to meet but communication died. Then when I went to block him he’d already blocked me. Go figure!!!

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By *rofMan
2 weeks ago

Around

Socials, clubs only way to out potential no shows. Although that doesn't stop them either, does give you a fighting chance

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By *reamcaramelWoman
2 weeks ago

wonderland

Ohhh don't get me started on this topic... ..

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By *orphia2003Woman
2 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Get it all the time. That's why I only meet socially and local, so I'm not wasting time if they don't show.

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By *rs Twisted1Woman
2 weeks ago

neath

We get it all the time even to the point that they will say their outside the door !!

We block them straight away never a 2nd chance

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By *aralluWoman
2 weeks ago

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I did have an even odder one. We actually met, then he left me a veri and before I even got a chance to read it he blocked me! 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *ovis and GreeneyesCouple
2 weeks ago

Swansea


"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…"

Same here, makes life simpler

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By *rSircumsizedMan
2 weeks ago

Risca

I've given up trying to arrange meets, instead I use this site like I used the books at school and just look at the pictures.

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By *ouple4funwales OP   Couple
7 days ago

Hengoed

So strange ! Surely there should be a way of stoping it

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By *rikTheVikingMan
7 days ago

Swansea

I've lost count the amount of times women have messed me about.

I've also had the female side of a couple blow me out to.

In terms of single guys blowing out couples/singles it could be a number of things, could be in a relationship already and they may not be able to get the time, could be nerves, erectile dysfunction etc..

Still no excuses, I always carry out my meets when I plan something..

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By *rManyhandsMan
5 days ago

Narberth

It's why I ask for a phone call, the good ones are happy to speak before meeting for social or fun. That voice call makes it genuine.

Have text/chat for a while, they ask for more pictures of my partners, ask to speak first, then ghosted.

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS
4 days ago

FRANCE, Pau not in

I had two last week, and mostly I put it down to bad manner and lack of respect/consideration for others. People now being in a me me mentality.

First guy stopped communicating 1 hour before the meet time after chatting all day. Came up with a lame excuse 24 hrs later.

Second one, I was at a local dogging spot and he said he was 30 min away and would drive. Even messaged saying leaving now. He didn't turn up. Next evening he said he had broken down and had to wait 2 hours for the breakdown truck, not a single apology for not letting me know.

I will not block them, I will just let them keep on asking for a meet, as they had already been doing, but strangely I will be busy every day they are free. I find that more rewarding than blocking!

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By *uicy and wetCouple
4 days ago

swansea

Had it happen so many times, they should have a button you click to say time wasters for others to know.

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By *lessing2016Woman
4 days ago

Cardiff


"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…"

Same here!

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By *lessing2016Woman
4 days ago

Cardiff


"So strange ! Surely there should be a way of stoping it "

I'm not sure there is, it's mainly down to crappy, indecent behaviour, but that's not always easy to spot from the off. I use to just block if they stood me up, now I only meet in clubs, that way if they don't show, I'm already in a safe space with decent folk

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By *lessing2016Woman
4 days ago

Cardiff


"Had it happen so many times, they should have a button you click to say time wasters for others to know."

This would be handy if there was a way of policing/monitoring it so it wasn't abused

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By *ixi n DogCouple
4 days ago

Pembrokeshire

Best off using the site to find the organised socials and clubs to attend we find.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
4 days ago

Manchester / Cardiff

My bestest ever friend here cancelled on me three times before we finally met. If I'd have given up on her we wouldn't have had all the amazing times that then followed. The difference was she was communicative and apologetic, so I guess what I'm saying is, every time needs consideration based on it's own circumstances.

Radio silence and ghosting mind; unforgivable.

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By *Silver-Man
4 days ago

Flintshire

Its happened to me, mainly couples, I just brush it off and tell myself not to judge as I dont know what the reason is for no show.

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By *onwelshMan
3 days ago

Where the Dragons Live

Believe it or not us guys experience the same issues.

I had been speaking to a girl for a few months and last week we arranged to meet. She went quiet on here and another messaging platform, then all of a sudden I'm blocked.

The weird bit is, she had good veris and a good _rofile and seemed extremely genuine, I just don't get it.

If there are genuine couple or women reading this, I am a genuine guy and would love to hear from anyone that actually follows through with what they say.

Heres hoping haha x

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By *ust P3achyWoman
3 days ago

Over the Rainbow


"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…

Same here!"

Me as well X

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By *ev257Man
3 days ago

cardiff

Constantly get no shows as a single male, but expect that.

But when meeting as a couple we expected single males to show up, but it's exactly the same.

With our couples meets we have around 50% no shows, that is after we get past the messages back n forth n then get blocked or just ignored.

I find nothing more insulting than to offer another man to join us n then they block you or don't turn up.

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By *exy shenanigansWoman
2 days ago

Cardiff

Yep, I think there's a lot of guys who are just here for dirty talk and to get their kicks. That's why I rarely indulge in chat. Happy to exchange a few messages but no interest in being penpals. Clubs all the way or those I've had socials with.

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