FabSwingers.com forum: Time Wasters

By *ouple4funwales OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Hengoed

Hey Guys …..after some advice ? What does everyone do with time wasters ? We seem to spend all week messaging people and arranging a meet then last minute there’s no reply . Understandably things come up but when there no response its sooo frustrating .

Have you guys had the same issues ? Single men seem to be by far the worst offenders for us ……..but why ?

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By *anza2024Man
12 weeks ago

Everybody gets them, I've been stood up more times than I dare to remember

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By *onesyf50Man
12 weeks ago

mid wales

Probably the most irritating thing is to cancel last minute with no explanation. I normally just block people who do this, if something comes up it only takes 1 min to send a txt

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By *elshdevil70Man
12 weeks ago

Swansea

In my opinion it mainly due to so many 'single ' guys on the site who are already in a relationship in the real world, and only get limited time when it suit them to meet with someone off here.

So when something arranged that doesn't fit into their personal life free time they simply ghost, don't turn up or come up with an 'excuse', in hope you'll believe and rearrange another time

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By *arri54Woman
12 weeks ago

Highway to Hell

Albeit infuriating, just block!

This happens all the time and it's just bad manners...

I always meet socially its clear from the start, the ones that go along with it thinking they will change my mind, then don't show really annoy me, just block and move on...

The genuine ones do outweigh the time wasters though

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By *lower SergeMan
12 weeks ago

near you

It’s why I keep leaving the site (well that and the rudeness of some people)

I don’t understand what sort of kick these people get from just wasting everyone’s time 🤷🏼‍♂️

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By *arri54Woman
12 weeks ago

Highway to Hell

I think you've the keyboard warriors who talk the talk but shit out last minute, the ones that throw out their toys because they think it's a fuck site, that's not what swinging is!

Its totally disrespectful and I haven't time for it..

Block, don't need those people around

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By *aralluWoman
12 weeks ago

Near Newport

This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…

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By *assionfruit_ParadiseWoman
12 weeks ago

Newport

Had this yesterday. Meant to meet but communication died. Then when I went to block him he’d already blocked me. Go figure!!!

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By *rofMan
12 weeks ago

Around

Socials, clubs only way to out potential no shows. Although that doesn't stop them either, does give you a fighting chance

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By *reamcaramelWoman
12 weeks ago

wonderland

Ohhh don't get me started on this topic...

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By *orphia2003Woman
12 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Get it all the time. That's why I only meet socially and local, so I'm not wasting time if they don't show.

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By *rs Twisted1Woman
12 weeks ago

neath

We get it all the time even to the point that they will say their outside the door !!

We block them straight away never a 2nd chance

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By *aralluWoman
12 weeks ago

Near Newport

I did have an even odder one. We actually met, then he left me a veri and before I even got a chance to read it he blocked me! 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *ovis and GreeneyesCouple
12 weeks ago

Swansea

"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…"

Same here, makes life simpler

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By *rSircumsizedMan
12 weeks ago

Risca

I've given up trying to arrange meets, instead I use this site like I used the books at school and just look at the pictures.

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By *ouple4funwales OP Couple
11 weeks ago

Hengoed

So strange ! Surely there should be a way of stoping it

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By *rikTheVikingMan
11 weeks ago

Swansea

I've lost count the amount of times women have messed me about.

I've also had the female side of a couple blow me out to.

In terms of single guys blowing out couples/singles it could be a number of things, could be in a relationship already and they may not be able to get the time, could be nerves, erectile dysfunction etc..

Still no excuses, I always carry out my meets when I plan something..

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By *ensual and PrimalMan
11 weeks ago

Nearby

It's why I ask for a phone call, the good ones are happy to speak before meeting for social or fun. That voice call makes it genuine.

Have text/chat for a while, they ask for more pictures of my partners, ask to speak first, then ghosted.

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS
11 weeks ago

FRANCE, Not in

I had two last week, and mostly I put it down to bad manner and lack of respect/consideration for others. People now being in a me me mentality.

First guy stopped communicating 1 hour before the meet time after chatting all day. Came up with a lame excuse 24 hrs later.

Second one, I was at a local dogging spot and he said he was 30 min away and would drive. Even messaged saying leaving now. He didn't turn up. Next evening he said he had broken down and had to wait 2 hours for the breakdown truck, not a single apology for not letting me know.

I will not block them, I will just let them keep on asking for a meet, as they had already been doing, but strangely I will be busy every day they are free. I find that more rewarding than blocking!

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By *uicy and wetCouple
11 weeks ago

swansea

Had it happen so many times, they should have a button you click to say time wasters for others to know.

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By *lessing2016Woman
11 weeks ago

Cardiff

"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…"

Same here!

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By *lessing2016Woman
11 weeks ago

Cardiff

"So strange ! Surely there should be a way of stoping it "

I'm not sure there is, it's mainly down to crappy, indecent behaviour, but that's not always easy to spot from the off. I use to just block if they stood me up, now I only meet in clubs, that way if they don't show, I'm already in a safe space with decent folk

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By *lessing2016Woman
11 weeks ago

Cardiff

"Had it happen so many times, they should have a button you click to say time wasters for others to know."

This would be handy if there was a way of policing/monitoring it so it wasn't abused

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By *ixi n DogCouple
11 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

Best off using the site to find the organised socials and clubs to attend we find.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
11 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

My bestest ever friend here cancelled on me three times before we finally met. If I'd have given up on her we wouldn't have had all the amazing times that then followed. The difference was she was communicative and apologetic, so I guess what I'm saying is, every time needs consideration based on it's own circumstances.

Radio silence and ghosting mind; unforgivable.

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By *Silver-Man
11 weeks ago

North Wales

Its happened to me, mainly couples, I just brush it off and tell myself not to judge as I dont know what the reason is for no show.

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By *onwelshMan
11 weeks ago

Where the Dragons Live

Believe it or not us guys experience the same issues.

I had been speaking to a girl for a few months and last week we arranged to meet. She went quiet on here and another messaging platform, then all of a sudden I'm blocked.

The weird bit is, she had good veris and a good _rofile and seemed extremely genuine, I just don't get it.

If there are genuine couple or women reading this, I am a genuine guy and would love to hear from anyone that actually follows through with what they say.

Heres hoping haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"This is why I’ve made the decision to mainly meet at clubs because I’m so fed up with the time wasters. Plus if they don’t want to meet for a social first either, it’s not gonna happen…

Same here!"

Me as well X

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By *ev257Man
11 weeks ago

cardiff

Constantly get no shows as a single male, but expect that.

But when meeting as a couple we expected single males to show up, but it's exactly the same.

With our couples meets we have around 50% no shows, that is after we get past the messages back n forth n then get blocked or just ignored.

I find nothing more insulting than to offer another man to join us n then they block you or don't turn up.

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By *exy shenanigansWoman
11 weeks ago

Cardiff

Yep, I think there's a lot of guys who are just here for dirty talk and to get their kicks. That's why I rarely indulge in chat. Happy to exchange a few messages but no interest in being penpals. Clubs all the way or those I've had socials with.

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By *harly Sexy CDTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Bridgend

You mean the wife turning up last minute is not real 🤔😂

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By *ikesfun1Man
10 weeks ago

around and about

There are so many on here which makes it so hard for genuine single guys , I just block them now as soon as they start to play games

I find the _rofiles with no _rofile pic or no effort are generally the ones or the people that open a _rofile then close it a day later

Best bet is read verifications and decide after a few messages as you can work out the time wasters easily

We all have lives outside but people need to be respectful and not waste peoples precious time

The worst is when they get you to drive to a postcode then don’t answer or say sorry I can’t now or block you after you driven 30 mins

Unfortunately we will not get rid of them

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By *ikesfun1Man
10 weeks ago

around and about

100% there are lots of these types

Just be open and honest from start so many time wasters

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By *ikesfun1Man
10 weeks ago

around and about

Is genuine are few and far between these days though and because of the idiots the genuine miss out on a good meet then 🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️

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By *ikesfun1Man
10 weeks ago

around and about

I think the only way was if admin changed site rules so that you can only message people after you have a verified picture uploaded

I love the people that won’t put any sort of picture up and say it’s because of my job I have to be careful !!! Do does your Boss know what you look like naked or can they tell it’s you from a pic of your dick or vagina ??? Ummmm I doubt it

Idiots all of them

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By *ikesfun1Man
10 weeks ago

around and about

100% this same as verification tick it shows a big red X

So it would show a green verified by 20 as it does now then under it a big X with the number of no shows

Only issue is some could abuse the button just to make others look bad

But the genuine swingers on here would be the ones that use it properly

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Hey Guys …..after some advice ? What does everyone do with time wasters ? We seem to spend all week messaging people and arranging a meet then last minute there’s no reply . Understandably things come up but when there no response its sooo frustrating .

Don't count me in on that one. If i say I'm meeting. I always turn up.

Have you guys had the same issues ? Single men seem to be by far the worst offenders for us ……..but why ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Have you guys had the same issues ? Single men seem to be by far the worst offenders for us ……..but why ? "

I always turn up. Could be the ones you ask to meet are married or they have had a better offer. Rude i know but theres loads on here the same. Including couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Generally, we have a tick list.

Site verified, at least 1 public pic, a _rofile that actually says something & can accommodate (especially single guys).

Meet verified is also good but we will meet for a social if not.

We also exchange phone numbers if arranging a meet too.

If they are serious (& not married!) It's generally not a problem

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By *ikesfun1Man
10 weeks ago

around and about

I always accommodate for females and couples

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By *ltcouple40Couple
9 weeks ago

Gwent

We just block them! Had a few couples mess us around a few hours before so now we only do club meets / socials .

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I was chatting to a couple. We arrange for me to drive to them I told them I would be about 40 min. I messaged again before I left to say I was on my way. when I got to there place they where no longer online so I could not get a door number. Over half hour traveling and nothing

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By *hiversMan
9 weeks ago

Dinas Powys

Block and move on. It's shitty when it happens, but that's about all that can be done.

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