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Fab terminology - men who are happy to do as they are asked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Toying with the idea of inviting a man to join us to help me spoil Saffa.

This is a huge step for us so as a starting point we'd only be comfortable with someone who is happy to do only what they are asked. We've done this a few times in a club and loved it and yes the 'control' was a buzz (just being honest)

Is there a fab term for such a man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Toying with the idea of inviting a man to join us to help me spoil Saffa.

This is a huge step for us so as a starting point we'd only be comfortable with someone who is happy to do only what they are asked. We've done this a few times in a club and loved it and yes the 'control' was a buzz (just being honest)

Is there a fab term for such a man?

"

Other than “Rare” you mean?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I should have added that this is about fun and not any kind of humiliation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know if there’s any particular Fab terminology for this, although Obedient would possibly cover it, or Voyeur depending on what was being asked?

Either way, there are genuine men here who would be very interested in this and happy to follow instruction. I count myself in this.

Good luck in your search

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By *irtywildsideMan
over a year ago

Barry

Other than ‘sub’ which is a very broad term I would go with Obedient . You will get a good idea if the guy knows what you want from the first message or whether he is a chancer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks both for the replies.

I didn't want it to come across as anything super controlling. It's just that when we have involved another man in our dynamic in the past we didn't really know how far things would go until we were in the situation. It totally depends on both our moods and what we are comfortable with at a given time.

It has ranged from just watching to full sex but we aren't comfortable offering that from the off. More like come around and be happy to go with what we are comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks both for the replies.

I didn't want it to come across as anything super controlling. It's just that when we have involved another man in our dynamic in the past we didn't really know how far things would go until we were in the situation. It totally depends on both our moods and what we are comfortable with at a given time.

It has ranged from just watching to full sex but we aren't comfortable offering that from the off. More like come around and be happy to go with what we are comfortable with."

I’ve had meets like this in the past.

As long as expectations are set early on as to what IS on offer and then with regards to what you want and how you want to control the situation, then it’s definitely achievable.

Ultimately, the guy in question should be sticking to whatever was agreed, so if you say you’re only guaranteeing them watching then that is the most they should expect… anything more is a bonus!

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By *ichaeltontineMan
over a year ago

SWANSEA

I have done this twice... so far

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By *ayronfeetMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Toying with the idea of inviting a man to join us to help me spoil Saffa.

This is a huge step for us so as a starting point we'd only be comfortable with someone who is happy to do only what they are asked. We've done this a few times in a club and loved it and yes the 'control' was a buzz (just being honest)

Is there a fab term for such a man?

"
yes .. . Its called me 👋😜🤣😉

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By *irtywildsideMan
over a year ago

Barry


"Thanks both for the replies.

I didn't want it to come across as anything super controlling. It's just that when we have involved another man in our dynamic in the past we didn't really know how far things would go until we were in the situation. It totally depends on both our moods and what we are comfortable with at a given time.

It has ranged from just watching to full sex but we aren't comfortable offering that from the off. More like come around and be happy to go with what we are comfortable with."

It’s always a fine line between trying not to plan out a meet minute by minute and keeping the excitement of the unknown . From personal experience I always find that being a bit blunt and straight to the point with the first message and then being open about being ready for everything but prepared for nothing other than a conversation on the first meet. If the other guy is the right fit for you he will be on the same wavelength straight away

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By *ourbon1Man
over a year ago

the beach

had meets like this is the past. what man wouldn’t be happy just getting to watch such a sexy couple! of more great if not then all good. also switch and very much enjoy helping to please a lady any way a couple would like x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is absolutely possible. We have had meets similar.

Like your profile, ours spells out exactly what we are looking for & one someone messages, the first thing I do is check they've read the whole profile.

It's pretty easy to get a read of people within the first couple of messages.

As long as you set the expectation from the off, you'll be fine.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Respectful would cover it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to watch and do as I'm told within reason not into pain or men lol but clean decent and single guy ready and willing. Major fantasy to be in same toom as a couple watching

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By *ensual and PrimalMan
over a year ago

Near Narberth

I enjoy sticking to the rules.. My veri's might guide you.

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By *each BenMan
over a year ago

swansea

Hi, I’d love to join you to spoil saffa and I’m happy to only do what I’m asked!

Mike

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your input. Have noted those who would be interested and will contact you if we go down this road

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

Revisiting this as we are currently looking to meet a straight white VWE male for a social with a view to playing. Please include pics with any message

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By *exymarvelMan
36 weeks ago

cardiff

All men should be like this. Im sorry if u cannot respect boundaries you shouldnt be here

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By *heoriginalCJMan
36 weeks ago

mystic valley


"All men should be like this. Im sorry if u cannot respect boundaries you shouldnt be here"

Unfortunately most men here don't have boundaries so they don't have to respect them.

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

a great starting point for couples is to invite a male to watch them only and after this becomes comfortable and confidence grows add little extras ie having both males cum on her or a simple masturbating of both men at the same time the choice is yours i wish you every success in your future opportunities and I'm open to correspondence

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By *urse123Couple
36 weeks ago

cardiff

Id say lucky man to be invited

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Been married so used to being told what to do.

In the end I got to A level standard

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I've tried to contact you but sadly you have blocked single men ?

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

Definitely me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

Yeah we only open it up to men when we want a meet, which was yesterday. Not looking further at the moment thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago

Sorry that was meant as a direct reply to Tommy. There's just too many messages to leave it open and as said above it's a huge thing for us to do. If we do this again we'll contact anyone Saffa has interest in. Thanks everyone for your comments

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago

I’d really be up for this, drop me a message if you’re off chams tonight x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
36 weeks ago


"I’d really be up for this, drop me a message if you’re off chams tonight x "

Thanks but as said above we aren't looking to meet single men at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
36 weeks ago


"Sorry that was meant as a direct reply to Tommy. There's just too many messages to leave it open and as said above it's a huge thing for us to do. If we do this again we'll contact anyone Saffa has interest in. Thanks

everyone for your comments "
I understand thanks for making that clear all the best Tommy x

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By *AZTASTICMan
36 weeks ago

Barry

No shortage of offers

But im happy to do as ordered if your interested. M

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