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"Never have I heard of a man pretending to be bisexual for more attention on Females and couples! That’s been said to try and change your mind H. The only thing he will be getting be pretending to be bisexual is Men message him. He either Lying to you or In self-denial about his true bisexuality." I think it's disrespectful to genuine bi people, and lying I can't do! My mind is too old to be changed so that's a waste of time 
Its not been just one, had a few like that over the time I've been here.
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"It's usually other way around - being bi but saying straight on profile to "raise chances" with women who say no bi guys. Ive lost count of messages ive had from men showing as straight but then saying they actually bi but dont show ot for reasons above. I dont buy it though" Same here, think it's the first time I've seen it used the other way around. He was definitely trying to get you to change your mind about him, OP. | |||
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"I have been told by guys on here, the same as you Op. In the past to see if they are telling the truth I've said they have to play first with a male fwb before us playing. These guys have admitting they put bisexual on their accounts just so they can play with only the lady half of the couple. I immediately block
Dory"Glad I'm not the only one that's had this. Like I said it's disrespecting genuine bi folk.. | |||
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"Bizarre! I wouldn't pretend to be bi just to get a meet. Some folk are strange" I doesn't surprise me. Some men create couples profiles then make excuses the wife is out. Comes across a bit ted bundyish to me. | |||
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"Bizarre! I wouldn't pretend to be bi just to get a meet. Some folk are strange I doesn't surprise me. Some men create couples profiles then make excuses the wife is out. Comes across a bit ted bundyish to me. " Definitely! Trust your gut is always the way. | |||
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"I don't understand why someone being bisexual would put anyone off" Exctally it's funny that you can see it more with couples that are interested in bi females but not bi males Bi males. Bi males are probably more likely to have safer sex & be tested more than "stright" males. | |||
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"I don't understand why someone being bisexual would put anyone off" This exactly but don't pretend to be something you aren't to get more sex. Just be yourself in whatever shape or form that takes | |||
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"I think that you could end up in a rather sticky situation. ‘Pretending to be bi’. What if a meet happens and the fake bi person was in a position where they had to perform???? embarrassing!!!!! "No one has to perform. They would just say no. It's so easy to see through lies on here it's a shame people feel need to | |||
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"So I've had a few males message recently,then check out the profile to see bisexual, I politely decline. To be told they write it to get more meets with women and couples and aren't "really". This annoyed me a bit because I'm sure bisexual folks have/are struggling with this at some point in their lives (please correct me if I'm wrong) Just seems to make a mockery of everyone who isn't straight? I'm a straight woman, but it's like saying im only a woman on a Wednesday.. when i just am a woman! So surely its a case of you are or you aren't? Love to hear any opinions on this.... H x x " Im truthful. We cant all be the same and/or into the same things. How boring would life be right x | |||
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"Never have I heard of a man pretending to be bisexual for more attention on Females and couples! That’s been said to try and change your mind H. The only thing he will be getting be pretending to be bisexual is Men message him. He either Lying to you or In self-denial about his true bisexuality." We had a guy doing exactly that, fortunately the meet is only a social one at first and I figured hum out very quickly, Rachel and I had planned for such an event so Rachel led him on into believing he was gonna meet with her alone, she pulled it of perfectly | |||
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"I find just be honest on the profile is best. I do see a lot of I don't play with Bi men on ladies profiles and on some couples.😥" When my wife and I were on a few sites year's ago we encountered the same problems a few time's. IMO in this lifestyle you must be honest. We were only ever seeking the one guy to befriend so that we could build up trust too. Some 20yrs later, we are still friends despite my wife losing her libido due to the menopause. That is what my gf and I are seeking now..a couple or single to befriend for a longterm relationship. Hard to find the right person or couple. | |||
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"We’ve had the opposite issue where men want to play with Mr but have straight on their profile. We get “I’m mostly straight” whatever that means? I think the whole issue in both our experiences is that people aren’t being transparent" | |||
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"I don't understand why someone being bisexual would put anyone off" Completely agree. There seems a lot of prejudice in this respect on this site. I see a lot of bi/bi-curious women on here and no heterosexual man is going to bat an eyelid about that. But the amount of times I see "no bi men" in a woman's profile is ridiculous, especially in this day and age. A person's sexual preference, be they man or woman, is their own choice and should not subject to prejudice. And if anyone, man or woman, is bi or bi-curious but is not open about it, that's their business, not anyone else's. Perhaps it's something they'd prefer to keep private or maybe struggling to come to terms with. Obviously if someone is lying about their sexual preferences (which sounds very unlikely) then that's a bit odd. But you would think on a site such as this which promotes sexual freedom and self-expression, we might be past such negative and antiquated prejudices by now. | |||
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"I don't understand why someone being bisexual would put anyone off Completely agree. There seems a lot of prejudice in this respect on this site. I see a lot of bi/bi-curious women on here and no heterosexual man is going to bat an eyelid about that. But the amount of times I see "no bi men" in a woman's profile is ridiculous, especially in this day and age. A person's sexual preference, be they man or woman, is their own choice and should not subject to prejudice. And if anyone, man or woman, is bi or bi-curious but is not open about it, that's their business, not anyone else's. Perhaps it's something they'd prefer to keep private or maybe struggling to come to terms with. Obviously if someone is lying about their sexual preferences (which sounds very unlikely) then that's a bit odd. But you would think on a site such as this which promotes sexual freedom and self-expression, we might be past such negative and antiquated prejudices by now." The double standards are ridiculous. Unfortunately it's often due to extremely harmful and untrue stereotypes whereas bisexual women are often fetishized, often in the media and by straight men. If someone is repulsed by the idea of two men having sex, that reeks of homophobia. Even if you are a bi woman, you can still be homophobic. | |||
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"I don't understand why someone being bisexual would put anyone off Completely agree. There seems a lot of prejudice in this respect on this site. I see a lot of bi/bi-curious women on here and no heterosexual man is going to bat an eyelid about that. But the amount of times I see "no bi men" in a woman's profile is ridiculous, especially in this day and age. A person's sexual preference, be they man or woman, is their own choice and should not subject to prejudice. And if anyone, man or woman, is bi or bi-curious but is not open about it, that's their business, not anyone else's. Perhaps it's something they'd prefer to keep private or maybe struggling to come to terms with. Obviously if someone is lying about their sexual preferences (which sounds very unlikely) then that's a bit odd. But you would think on a site such as this which promotes sexual freedom and self-expression, we might be past such negative and antiquated prejudices by now." We lost some good friends after Rob came out as bi a few years ago. We met them at one of our first club visits and really hit it off. Met up for dinner a few times just to hang out with them. Then, after Rob had finally accepted his sexuality and was happy to be open about it, they blocked us. There'd never been any hint of guy on guy play when we met up and the lady was happy to soft play with Steph.  | |||
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"We’ve had the opposite issue where men want to play with Mr but have straight on their profile. We get “I’m mostly straight” whatever that means? I think the whole issue in both our experiences is that people aren’t being transparent Exactly, I totally agree with the transparency bit. " | |||
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" We lost some good friends after Rob came out as bi a few years ago. We met them at one of our first club visits and really hit it off. Met up for dinner a few times just to hang out with them. Then, after Rob had finally accepted his sexuality and was happy to be open about it, they blocked us. There'd never been any hint of guy on guy play when we met up and the lady was happy to soft play with Steph. " | |||
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"Sorry, but I would be the same. I'm not into men, and if you said you were straight then say bi, sorry, block physically. More than happy for you to be honest with yourself and your path, but not for me in a physical sense. But would still have a pint We lost some good friends after Rob came out as bi a few years ago. We met them at one of our first club visits and really hit it off. Met up for dinner a few times just to hang out with them. Then, after Rob had finally accepted his sexuality and was happy to be open about it, they blocked us. There'd never been any hint of guy on guy play when we met up and the lady was happy to soft play with Steph. "Really? Even if we'd become actual friends outside of swinging? | |||
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"All these comments have been interesting. Seems like this happens a lot, it wastes so much time and seems like a lot are just hedging their bets. Whatever your orientation is just be honest about it when looking for meets that way everyone knows the score. " | |||
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