FabSwingers.com forum: Cheating

By (user no longer on site) OP
7 weeks ago

Just curious to know why people on here cheat on their partners? If you love them that much then why?Is it the thrill of not being caught?

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By *3xymamaWoman
7 weeks ago

Uptown Top Ranking

"Just curious to know why people on here cheat on their partners? If you love them that much then why?Is it the thrill of not being caught?"

I often wonder that too. Especially when they say they love them,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
7 weeks ago

"Just curious to know why people on here cheat on their partners? If you love them that much then why?Is it the thrill of not being caught?

I often wonder that too. Especially when they say they love them, "
exactly ..or they say things are great at home ..we just have no sex life like that makes it acceptable

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By *exy shenanigansWoman
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

I find it funny that they show more respect to women who are strangers, than their wives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
7 weeks ago

"I find it funny that they show more respect to women who are strangers, than their wives.

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most definitely it's the pure and utter cheek ..no remorse either

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By *aximillian PowerMan
7 weeks ago

Swansea

It’s not just men who cheat on here

That’s a fact.

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By *ilthybisquirtwhoresCouple
7 weeks ago

caerphilly

I’m not condoning or condemning but why are people so concerned with what others do when you don’t know their circumstances or situations ?

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By *arriet54Woman
7 weeks ago

Newport

Im not condoning either but it's a sad fact, I don't think it's a case of if you love someone, more that we allow them to do this or hear what we want to hear?

For example.. you meet at a party, social or club I'm not sure the first question you ask is "are you single?

If this a boundary or a no for you then maybe the first question you should ask is ... are you single, based on that you can decide before chatting/meeting/getting intimate.

Forearmed is forewarned so they say...

I'm sure there are a lot of opinions on this, that's just mine..

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By *avid for comfortMan
7 weeks ago

belfast

It's about need and adventure. Trying to get something that's out of bounds.its a craving

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By *exy shenanigansWoman
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

"I’m not condoning or condemning but why are people so concerned with what others do when you don’t know their circumstances or situations ?"

For me, I don't agree with cheating, full stop. Whether that's a woman or a man. I do my best to avoid cheaters on here as I would in real life. My standards don't drop because I'm on a sex site.

Other people can do as they please, just respect my stance.

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By *leep walkerMan
7 weeks ago

Newbridge

I've been totally single for years so I'm not cheating on anyone.

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By *hyguy9iMan
7 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

To me cheaters are people who have issues with themselves and that's why they cheat on the partners.

I've been in the spot when I caught my ex in bed with another guy after I came back from a mate birthday drinks.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
7 weeks ago

Llanelli

No idea, had it happen to me and it's not something I would do as communication is key

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By *alcon43Woman
7 weeks ago

Paisley

I presume you mean people where the OH doesn’t know about Fab or do you mean one half of a Fab couple who cheats?

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By *igboyxxxxlMan
7 weeks ago

here

Tbh I don’t really understand why people are on a sex site that’s full to the brim with self proclaimed sluts … looking for someone they can trust and settle down with… but then again, it’s none of my business.

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By *aigressMan
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

"I find it funny that they show more respect to women who are strangers, than their wives.

I day this as a man who has done a lot of work on himself in the last few years...

This is the truest and saddest statement.

Not even through cheating. A lot of men are brought up staying boys in thier heads and as a result take people for granted.

When the penny drops it drops like a stone.

I've no time for cheaters tbh.. because ultimately they are disrespecting someone they are supposed to care about.. and they are also kidding themselves

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By *rs Twisted1Woman
7 weeks ago

neath

Sadly men and women always want more when it's offered and selfishly never considers the consequences

I've never cheated and will never do so either because I have too much respect for myself and the other person

You have to be one very selfish person to do so

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By *rs Twisted1Woman
7 weeks ago

neath

"Tbh I don’t really understand why people are on a sex site that’s full to the brim with self proclaimed sluts … looking for someone they can trust and settle down with… but then again, it’s none of my business. "

This is a swingers site so many people will come on here to meet someone who is also interested in the swinging lifestyle

You say you don't understand why people are on here with self proclaimed sluts

Yet your on here ??

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By *rs Twisted1Woman
7 weeks ago

neath

I also personally don't believe if your with a fwb and they sleep with someone else is cheating ?

That's what fwb is all about and what swinging is

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By *nique_GymMan
7 weeks ago

Cardiff

The things that i often wonder at are, if the people (let’s be blunt it’s mainly the chaps) put as much effort into making their female partner feel desired and wanted as they do on sneaking around on here, simply put lol they would not be on here!

Observation number 2 is say one of these chaps (sorry lads) was browsing fab and happened apon a profile for a single female. Excitedly looked at the profile and then recognised his own house. Not only that but pictures of his wife in every room getting fucked senseless by various hunks who have left verifications saying how amazing she is. Then he looks at her verifications and sees they number over 30 all from men who have shagged her, how would he feel lol

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By *hisismeXXXMan
7 weeks ago

Welsh Wales

I’m single. But….

On a website/in a lifestyle, which is built on casual sex between consenting adults, what difference does it genuinely make to any other site users if someone is cheating on someone to play with people they meet on here?

If you were looking for something more than a one off play then I get it, but one off?

And why does it seem more of an issue to people on here than it does in clubs? I’m not sure people in clubs are insisting on declarations of single ness before playing with someone, are they?

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By *3xymamaWoman
7 weeks ago

Uptown Top Ranking

1: I don't class myself as a self proclaimed slut. In fact it's not a term I like.

2: I'm not looking for 'one offs' I prefer to meet someone regularly and get to know them. I feel the intimacy is better.

That is why I prefer to know whether someone is 'attached'

I can't contact said attached guy for a booth call can. All I ask for on here is honesty, that why I can make an informed decision

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"1 All I ask for on here is honesty, that why I can make an informed decision

Exactly this! Everyone is here for their own reasons and I’m defo not here to judge anyone else’s choices. But honesty when getting to know someone the opportunity to make that informed decision is important.

Fab is a hive for some erm

Unusual behaviour and expectations from people.

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By *ewYoungFun321Couple
7 weeks ago

South Wales

There's women here cheating on their husbands with men cheating on their wife's.

Unfortunately it's a swinging site. This is going to happen wether we like it or not.

For me, I think if they're gonna cheat anyway, I'd rather them do it on a swingers site than in a pub or with a colleague from work lol

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By *inkyCakeWoman
7 weeks ago

Nearby

I take offence when they lie about being single.

I have been approached by at least one claiming to be single. They were a face I recognised and it was not his gf in his pics.

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By *heekychappy8888Man
7 weeks ago

wales

That’s a fact women do it as well

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By *urious-couple33Couple
7 weeks ago

Wales/ Tenerife

"There's women here cheating on their husbands with men cheating on their wife's.

Unfortunately it's a swinging site. This is going to happen wether we like it or not.

For me, I think if they're gonna cheat anyway, I'd rather them do it on a swingers site than in a pub or with a colleague from work lol"

Hmmmm I’d rather than not cheat at all to be honest. What difference does it make who it’s with? In a pub it could be on a wim and maybe a one off.. swinging site it’s planned and could get so sucked into it it becomes part of life.. my opinion… we are all different..

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By *leasure you firstMan
6 weeks ago

cardiff

Left out ?

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By *j74Man
6 weeks ago

near

Don't agree with cheating one bit, but each to their own

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By *assageb4funMan
6 weeks ago

Bridgend

Not a man if you cheat on your woman. No way is that acceptable.

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By *ed-ReeceMan
6 weeks ago

Blackwood

I once went out with a woman who was separated from her husband, I found out the reason they had separated was she had cheated. I asked her and she said it was the thrill she got from having sex with someone who wasn’t her husband, it was the thrill of knowing she was doing something wrong, she had been brought up in a religious household and she said cheating on her husband gave her the same thrill as she had when she had sex outside of marriage. The thrill for her came from the feeling of rebellion.

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By *antwinjoininnMan
6 weeks ago

Cardiff

I only discovered this site through a friend who spotted the mother of my children on here having a whale of a time, no shame at all. So hopefully it brought me to this site for a reason now that ship has sailed.

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By *arysueCouple
6 weeks ago

West Wales

My husband knows exactly what i get up too even helping me get ready for others and approves in every way

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By *r and Mrs SexploitCouple
6 weeks ago

Pontypridd

Same here

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By *WB1984Man
6 weeks ago

Cwmbran

For me, the Lance Armstrong controversy stands out the most. All those wins. All the cancer charity stuff, and he was cheating all along. It just hurts.

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By *hattome80Man
6 weeks ago

Newport !!!!

Personally I'm a fan of cheating ...Diego Maradona's 1986 " Hand of God " is some of the finest cheating man has ever witnessed.

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By *andomAccessMemoryMan
6 weeks ago

Usk

I agree, Lance Armstrong really took the fairness out of sport with the whole blood dopeing but I suppose you have to admire the lengths and the will to win that he took to cheat, in a sense this was the competitive spirit just perhaps mis directed. The whole ball cancer thing muddies the waters in respect of how I feel about the cheating on the charity partners, the live strong message he promted surely goes some way to justify his intentions however misguided.

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By *igNick1381Man
6 weeks ago

BRIDGEND

"I agree, Lance Armstrong really took the fairness out of sport with the whole blood dopeing but I suppose you have to admire the lengths and the will to win that he took to cheat, in a sense this was the competitive spirit just perhaps mis directed. The whole ball cancer thing muddies the waters in respect of how I feel about the cheating on the charity partners, the live strong message he promted surely goes some way to justify his intentions however misguided."

I mean, Lance just got caught, they're all doping

You think Lance, with enough juice in him to technically qualify him as a horse, was on it but the other guy's keeping up with him were natural

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By *ardcore henryMan
6 weeks ago

South Wales m4 corridor

Personally I’m attracted to women with partners playing away from home in secret. It adds to the thrill, and has nothing to do with humiliating the partner who doesn’t know. I also like sharing my own partners and playmates. Life’s too short, some people cheat some people don’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

Reading these posts is amusing I do not agree with any poor excuse for cheating ..you either be single or stay faithful..the grass is only greener when you water the side you are on ,the fact you are willing to break your partners heart is wrong ,where is the thrill of getting caught ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"Personally I'm a fan of cheating ...Diego Maradona's 1986 " Hand of God " is some of the finest cheating man has ever witnessed. "
you are only a fan because you are also in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"Not a man if you cheat on your woman. No way is that acceptable."
agreed a real man is loyal

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By *ilthybisquirtwhoresCouple
6 weeks ago

caerphilly

"Personally I'm a fan of cheating ...Diego Maradona's 1986 " Hand of God " is some of the finest cheating man has ever witnessed. you are only a fan because you are also in a relationship "

That joke went over your head a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP
6 weeks ago

"Personally I'm a fan of cheating ...Diego Maradona's 1986 " Hand of God " is some of the finest cheating man has ever witnessed. you are only a fan because you are also in a relationship

That joke went over your head a little "
clearly didn't see the joke

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By *odonCouple
6 weeks ago

Exactly. This is meant to be a site for swingers. It's like a dating site for singles and cheaters these days

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By *hatgymthiccgirlWoman
6 weeks ago

x curvykgirl

"Personally I'm a fan of cheating ...Diego Maradona's 1986 " Hand of God " is some of the finest cheating man has ever witnessed. you are only a fan because you are also in a relationship "

He’s definitely not cheating. I’m his girlfriend.

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By *mber SkiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Cwmderi

I think it’s just to see if they can still pull

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Just curious to know why people on here cheat on their partners?"

Until the cosmos slows down and the stars cease to coalesce we will never know.

"If you love them that much then why?"

They only love them marginally.

"Is it the thrill of not being caught?"

It's the joy and thrill of being rinsed by divorce lawyers.

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By *ackman2018Man
6 weeks ago

Has anyone looked at it from a different angle and ask what would it take for you to cheat? What set of circumstances would it take you to do it?

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By *hattome80Man
6 weeks ago

Newport !!!!

I think for Maradona it was the pressure of a world cup in south America the expectations of the home media and fans . And when he saw Shilton in no man's land the opportunity was too tempting.

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By *elNRoobsCouple
6 weeks ago

Swansea

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By *elNRoobsCouple
6 weeks ago

Swansea

"I think for Maradona it was the pressure of a world cup in south America the expectations of the home media and fans . And when he saw Shilton in no man's land the opportunity was too tempting. "

And a metric fuck ton of in his system haha

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By *elNRoobsCouple
6 weeks ago

Swansea

My god, you can't even mention the make of a popular cola drink in jest on here, Mumsnet comes to the adult world

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By *WB1984Man
6 weeks ago

Cwmbran

"My god, you can't even mention the make of a popular cola drink in jest on here, Mumsnet comes to the adult world"

Think of how much faster Lance Armstrong would have been if he was doping and enjoyed an alternative to Pepsi!

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By *andC1000Couple
5 weeks ago

Ashford

"Reading these posts is amusing I do not agree with any poor excuse for cheating ..you either be single or stay faithful..the grass is only greener when you water the side you are on ,the fact you are willing to break your partners heart is wrong ,where is the thrill of getting caught ?"

This

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By *allad1Man
5 weeks ago

Gilwern

I’m a single divorced man on here who can accommodate to prove that I am single

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By *hilmeup85Man
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

From personal experience of being cheated on by ex wife when we were swingers, it wasn't the sex or talking to other guys as I actually wanted to hear about it.

It was the fact she wasn't open to me about it, but the blow that hit the hardest was when she had let me see one of the conversations and it was one topic that killed me.

The gentleman asked more than once if she was still with me, she completely ignored the question and through out just referred to me as the kids dad.

It's the lying the hurts, being in this world the sex and scenarios we discussed were hot and a turn on, even now I wish I knew why she acted how she did but it's all in the past now. I value my morals and couldn't do that to someone.

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By *azuser2kMan
2 weeks ago

Wales

"I’m not condoning or condemning but why are people so concerned with what others do when you don’t know their circumstances or situations ?"

Absolutely love this perspective! It’s so true that many partners hide their desires out of fear, leading to emotional strain. Open communication is essential, especially around sensitive topics like swinging or consensual non-monogamy. Society often oversimplifies cheating, but if all parties are informed and consenting, it can redefine what intimacy means.

Sometimes, partners may be uninterested in sex due to religious or conservative beliefs, prompting the need to seek like-minded connections. People changes all the time, some depends on their circumstances - we just don't know. I don’t see a problem with that! Needs are needs whether it's a mental or physical. Cheating can even parallel how big corporations navigate tax systems by hiring CFOs to handle their numbers—widely accepted yet still controversial.

Let's be practical here

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