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By (user no longer on site) OP   
9 weeks ago

Anyone else finding this?

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By *oGDomMan
9 weeks ago

Barry


"Anyone else finding this? "

It's simply a numbers game, mate. There are 100 real women for every man on here. Chances are slim so your best shot at getting people's attention is to make your profile stand out and go to socials

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Standing out and giving yourself a unique selling point is a good start. Follow it up with being polite and interesting and you never know!

I live in a rural area, but I've managed to arrange meets in my years on and off fab

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By *eroLondonMan
9 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Anyone else finding this?

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It's simply a numbers game, mate. There are 100 real women for every man on here. Chances are slim so your best shot at getting people's attention is to make your profile stand out and go to socials "

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This is good advice... ... ⬆️

Also, in fairness OP, you've only been here 3 weeks. That really isn't that long at all. Patience is key. A •lot• of patience.

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By *unSeekeeMan
9 weeks ago

Pembroke

Get yourself to some of the local social meets too.

People tend to be more interested in the actual person rather than the profile.

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By *ackieSteveCouple
9 weeks ago

Newbridge

100% go to a social event.

Like the Blackwood social, self promo here, but great for newbies and you'll get verified and meet some great people.

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By *9alMan
9 weeks ago

Bridgend


"Anyone else finding this?

It's simply a numbers game, mate. There are 100 real women for every man on here. Chances are slim so your best shot at getting people's attention is to make your profile stand out and go to socials "

I think you have got that the wrong way round its 100 men for every real woman

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By *issP69Woman
9 weeks ago

Neath

Hi OP

Your profile says you're looking for TV/TS but says you're straight

You expect someone to send you a face picture with a first message when all you have is photos of your penis

Not sure who you are trying to attract but if it's single females you're not getting yourself across well in your profile

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By *za dragon ladyWoman
9 weeks ago

the twilight zone nr swansea

The best way for single guys to get a meet is to attend socials get your face out there meet and mingle get veris from socials so females know your a genuine swinger..and a honest profile helps I have had msgs from SINGLE guys who by the fifth msg are announcing they are married...nope not good ..rant over lol

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By *angbang_ChaperoneMan
8 weeks ago

Bangor ish


"Anyone else finding this?

It's simply a numbers game, mate. There are 100 real women for every man on here. "

I think you mean 100 guys for every real woman!

Plus add to that the fact that many single guys behave like dickheads spoiling it for the genuine ones and making many of the females and couples "gunshy" and it becomes a vicious circle.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I wouldn't even say it's just acting like dickheads that ruin it. I've heard messages can be pretty blunt, like "Hi" or "U up for meet tonight". And that's it.

Multiply that by the tens and hundreds, and you'd be lamenting a single guy message in your inbox too

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By *elshhorseMan
8 weeks ago

ogmore valley

Be polite when sending message.

Address both if it's a couple.

Look at their information what they are Looking for at that moment.

Look at their interests see if yours are the same.

Go to socials and talk to people there introduce yourself but don't be a arse.

Just be yourself and enjoy yourself.

Hope this is OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago


"Anyone else finding this?

It's simply a numbers game, mate. There are 100 real women for every man on here. Chances are slim so your best shot at getting people's attention is to make your profile stand out and go to socials "

Yes but I have seen socials on here that u need to be meet verified

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By *ORDERMANMan
8 weeks ago

wrexham

Guy evidently thinks folk should be forming queue at his door...

4 weeks on.

Winging no meets..folk since thread opened have offered courteous suggestions..yet no decency to response..

Like London buses no doubt another one will come along soon sobbing 'I can't get a meet'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
8 weeks ago


"Guy evidently thinks folk should be forming queue at his door...

4 weeks on.

Winging no meets..folk since thread opened have offered courteous suggestions..yet no decency to response..

Like London buses no doubt another one will come along soon sobbing 'I can't get a meet'"

Am I windging? No I'm not. Just purely asking a question.

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By *ORDERMANMan
8 weeks ago

wrexham

Slight critism and you've replied..other good folk have offered advice you can't be bothered saying thank you.

Typical of many in South Wales full of your own self importance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
8 weeks ago

To the folk that's given me good advice. Thank you all. I have inquired about a social and will attend when there's one near me well providing its on my night off.

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By *eroLondonMan
8 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Guy evidently thinks folk should be forming queue at his door..."

How did you come to that conclusion?


"4 weeks on. Winging no meets.."

How did you come to that conclusion?


"...folk since thread opened have offered courteous suggestions..yet no decency to response.."

Perhaps he's been busy pondering and ruminating about the advice he's been given? Who knows — maybe he hadn't logged in for a few days. I haven't followed his profile. Have you?


"Like London buses no doubt another one will come along soon sobbing 'I can't get a meet'"

Clearly you have no appetite for male solidarity on here, or any leeway or support to offer to a newbie.

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By *eroLondonMan
8 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"...Typical of many in South Wales full of your own self importance "

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Xenophobic remarks aren't going to do your credibility on here any favours. Rise above it. Be a gentleman.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
8 weeks ago

Nerolondon. Thank you mate

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By *ORDERMANMan
8 weeks ago

wrexham

I have offered advise previously to newbies..

Also being a Cockney you're missing the north v south Welsh dynamic..

For the op...suggest going to lounge or swingers forum and reading 1st time on fab thread..it may offer some helpful tips..

Occasionally folk need a kick up atse...not your wishy washy don't do that you might hurt them approach..

You will note kick worked it prompted a thank you to those who had been sympathetic..

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By *ORDERMANMan
8 weeks ago

wrexham


"...Typical of many in South Wales full of your own self importance

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Xenophobic remarks aren't going to do your credibility on here any favours. Rise above it. Be a gentleman."

This is a Welsh forum and you need to understand north south Welsh dynamics

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By *ORDERMANMan
8 weeks ago

wrexham

Op..

Just checked

Go to lounge

View '1st time on fab' thread

Pretty close to top

As said may find it a useful read..

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By *ORDERMANMan
8 weeks ago

wrexham


"...Typical of many in South Wales full of your own self importance

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Xenophobic remarks aren't going to do your credibility on here any favours. Rise above it. Be a gentleman."

The irony of you offering advise to a Welsh debate giving your profile address is stated as 'Mayfair' the epicentre of wealth in London..

Wealth that in past decades would have been built on the extortion of Welsh grit and low wages...

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By *vaRose43Woman
8 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

OP

At the risk of the wrath of another member here because I’m also not Welsh… I thought I’d reply.

The organised socials, clubs and other events might be a better bet to get your face out there and make some connections.

If you are amenable to some profile advice. 2 dick pics would immediately put me off as there’s no other photos for me to gauge if I might find you attractive or not. I’m not saying out your face public but body pics, clothed and otherwise are always good. Think about composition and lighting. Good pics take a bit of time and effort.

Your bio asks people to message if they like what they see or read but it actually tells me very little. A long paragraph about how you were a member and have returned, and the reason you don’t accommodate tells me nothing about you. What are your liked and dislikes? What turns you on? What do you want? What are the types of people you want to meet? What is fun to you?

As you can’t accommodate does that mean you don’t use hotels either?

Good luck

Eva

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By *io--Man
8 weeks ago

Near Blackpool

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By *anontheledgeMan
8 weeks ago

milford haven

Finding it impossible lately, Pembs is a very small place

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By *rhugesMan
8 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Standing out and giving yourself a unique selling point is a good start. Follow it up with being polite and interesting and you never know!

I live in a rural area, but I've managed to arrange meets in my years on and off fab"

So why can't I see any on your profile?

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By *leep walkerMan
8 weeks ago

Newbridge

To be realistic OP, you've only been on here a matter of weeks. Some people join with the expectations of it being Instafuck where they'll get meets immediately. But it just doesn't work like that. I've chatted to some people for as long as you've been on here before even being near meeting. You just have to have patience and be willing to talk to people awhile 1st is all. It's a percentage game for sure. There are so many single men on here that single women and couples can afford to be choosy.

I wish you good luck for the future though. If you persevere, you can have a lot of fun here with the right people.

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