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By *ootlover133 OP   Man
46 weeks ago

CARDIFF

Need a little help if possible, when messaging on fab im dont go in with a dick pic i try to start a normal conversation! Tell them im happy to send facepic, get the odd one or two replys but other than that nothing? Isit better to just send dick pic? ?? please DM with help!!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
46 weeks ago

Leeds

A lot of people ignore profiles with a silhouette.

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By *ubyRichardsWoman
46 weeks ago

swansea

If im being honest your username would put me off. Now whilst there’s nothing wrong with having your kinks, just having that as your first impression of someone might put some people off.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
46 weeks ago

Cardiff

Unless you’re asked for a ‘dick pic’ I really wouldn’t send one

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

I rarely look at silloutte pic profiles. Plus complaining statues put me off

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By *issP69Woman
46 weeks ago

Neath

The black silhouette is an instant no

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By *coutDWoman
46 weeks ago

Pontypridd


"Need a little help if possible, when messaging on fab im dont go in with a dick pic i try to start a normal conversation! Tell them im happy to send facepic, get the odd one or two replys but other than that nothing? Isit better to just send dick pic? ?? please DM with help!!"

Being honest I've already got you blocked. So for me that is likely to mean you messaged me without a profile picture and didn't read my profile and explaining I don't reply to people that don't have one. Or that I blocked you after reading a status update that showed me you are not for me.

Yes that might seem harsh but if you consider how many people don't want to run into someone they know on here we don't have much choice and it makes us question if someone really is single.

We get so many messages and if we say no thanks it often starts a conversation we then want to get out of.

Pop a profile pic up, pay £5 to join and see how that changes anything. Oh and go find some socials to go to

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By *exy shenanigansWoman
46 weeks ago

Cardiff

Took a look at your profile.

What exactly about it am I meant to get attracted to or intrigued by?

No public photos.

Lack of information about you.

Offputting username.

No recent verifications.

Negative status.

Make an effort to appeal and you might get responses.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
46 weeks ago

Neath valley.

Your name alone would put me off as I hate my feet touched. Not even the Mr gets to touch them

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
46 weeks ago

Neath valley.

Need to have pics on show to as most will just ignore a silluette profile.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
46 weeks ago

Llanelli

Your name won't help and no public photos, my Fwb will message most people back but she's usually just being polite and not interested in meeting as we're both looking for couples

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By *orphia2003Woman
45 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

A profile pic would help (clothed torso, underwear etc). Doesn't have to show your face.

Bit more information in your profile text.

Get out to local socials and events.

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By *anontheledgeMan
45 weeks ago

milford haven

Sorry to jump in on this post but I’m in the same boat,

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By *haos GremlinMan
45 weeks ago

Pontypridd

Get some info about you and what you are looking for on your profile. People buy people. If you have nothing that is going to generate interest then it’s unlikely you’ll get a response. Women on here get thousands of messages from profiles which are all pretty generic so you need to make sure your profile/pics/message stand out.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
45 weeks ago

Neath valley.


"Sorry to jump in on this post but I’m in the same boat, "

But you have a tidy profile. It's maybe your location that's stopping you. If you were bisexual we would have met you no problem.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


"Sorry to jump in on this post but I’m in the same boat,

But you have a tidy profile. It's maybe your location that's stopping you. If you were bisexual we would have met you no problem.

Mrs"

It is very quiet out here fab wise.

Lots of lookers, not many who play unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


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It is very quiet out here fab wise.

Lots of lookers, not many who play unfortunately. "

Speak for yourself! It’s been mad for me

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


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It is very quiet out here fab wise.

Lots of lookers, not many who play unfortunately.

Speak for yourself! It’s been mad for me "

Well you’re a single lady, so that’s a totally different kettle of fish; and you’re not really out west like we are.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
45 weeks ago

Central

People always look at the profile that has sent them a message. Plus single men will be subject to the same constraints that the tens of thousands of other single men face.

Look through the many posts from them here daily. Lots of tips and ideas

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
45 weeks ago

Central


"Sorry to jump in on this post but I’m in the same boat,

But you have a tidy profile. It's maybe your location that's stopping you. If you were bisexual we would have met you no problem.

Mrs

It is very quiet out here fab wise.

Lots of lookers, not many who play unfortunately. "

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people, hence the benefits of having realistic expectations.

It's realistic to expect lots of lookers and chats but most of them won't be mutually compatible

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By *ommy trucker1Man
45 weeks ago

south wales

Read the recipients profile first see check to see if thire happy to recieve a message of someone like yourself.? Or would you answer a message from a profile like yours ?.

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By *exymarvelMan
45 weeks ago

cardiff


"Need a little help if possible, when messaging on fab im dont go in with a dick pic i try to start a normal conversation! Tell them im happy to send facepic, get the odd one or two replys but other than that nothing? Isit better to just send dick pic? ?? please DM with help!!"

Silhouette is the first impression my man, dont send dick pics unless asked and dont just randomly try to start a conversation, look at their interests, look on the forum and ask politely to chat.

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By *ev and TrevCouple
45 weeks ago

cardiff


"Need a little help if possible, when messaging on fab im dont go in with a dick pic i try to start a normal conversation! Tell them im happy to send facepic, get the odd one or two replys but other than that nothing? Isit better to just send dick pic? ?? please DM with help!!"

Let me ask you a question. Of the last, say 10 messages you sent, what prompted you to message?

Was it the photos, their bio explaining who they are or their veris? Have you messaged anyone who has been on the site for 2 plus years that had no pics and no bio?

You clearly haven't updated your profile in 2 years as your age is 32 but your bio states 30.

The line about no pics for professional purposes is a poor excuse. We are all professional in our field but that doesn't stop us having body pics. If you have any distinguishing features such as tattoos, take a clothed pic that covers them.

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By *heoriginalCJMan
45 weeks ago

mystic valley


"Need a little help if possible, when messaging on fab im dont go in with a dick pic i try to start a normal conversation! Tell them im happy to send facepic, get the odd one or two replys but other than that nothing? Isit better to just send dick pic? ?? please DM with help!!"

I'll be honest and say you will get nowhere sending messages on here.

The most popular way that people now meet is via socials and clubs.

People like to see what they are getting in person, if they like you, they will engage with you.

Another bonus is getting far more verifications that tell people what sort of person you are. However verifications are never negative, and who would put a negative one up anyway?

If you say you can't get to socials or a club then it suggests you are lazy and unprepared to make any effort to meet people.

This is the best place to meet some amazing people and unless you put effort in, you will just be one of the thousands of guys who get nowhere, and meet nobody

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