FabSwingers.com forum: Why doesn't anyone answer messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
44 weeks ago

I have been on this site a good few weeks now and have sent multiple messages to women but they always seem to be unread or deleted. I have even put a face pic on profile to help (which i have now taken down). Any advice on this would be great new to fab scene but can't get started if nobody replies.

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By *oves2please2021Man
44 weeks ago

cardiff

Your not owed a reply from anyone

Take it as a polite NO THANK YOU.

Yes it can be frustrating or disappointing but as a single male the odds are stacked well against you.

There’s not a lot on your profile for anyone to relate to,

A few general pics and say something about yourself that people can engage with.

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
44 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
44 weeks ago

I understand nobody owes me anything in the way of a reply but as you said it does get frustrating. Maybe its because I'm new to all of this and lack of experience. Thanks for the reply

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By *ental monkeysCouple
44 weeks ago

caerphilly

Sorry to be rude but I wouldn’t look at your profile because there’s no profile photo!

It doesn’t need to be your face photo and it should never be your dick!

Your profile is basic.

You need to add comments to the forum posts and get to organised socials! That’s what successful single men do to get noticed or a reply!

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By * and R cple4Couple
44 weeks ago

swansea

"I understand nobody owes me anything in the way of a reply but as you said it does get frustrating. Maybe its because I'm new to all of this and lack of experience. Thanks for the reply"

You are new like you said . There has been a lot of posts like yours over the years and only thing we can say to anyone joining the lifestyle .get your self to the social meetings and talk to real people you’ll find it much easier to understand that there are many different parts and dynamics it’s not just about sex it’s about a connection first. and that is hard to do over a message. Good luck and hope you enjoy your time . (Male half )

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By *r WhispererMan
44 weeks ago

brynmawr

There’s probably several hundred of us single guys to each single woman or couple.. I struggled to get any response until I started attending some of the social events, they’re a great way not only to meet like minded people but for everyone else to see I’m genuine.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
44 weeks ago

All over the place

As people have said nobody owes you a reply.

Are you reading the profile of the people you are messaging to make sure you are what they are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

If you do a search of the forum you find many posts like this, some with useful information, that you may choose or not choose to follow. There's already some good advice here.

What hasn't yet been explained, is the site rule, a non response is to be considered a 'not interested'. No more & no less than that, its very often not personal but more a reflection of the volume of mail some women get.

Look at your profile & think of it as your shop window, how do you wish to promote yourself, maybe look at the profiles of some popular males & see what makes them stand out.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
44 weeks ago

Thank you all for the valuable feedback. Going to a social is definitely on my my list as this isn't just a sex exercise would like to make new connections too.

I have only recently taken down my profile pic as I'm hoping to put a new one up soon

Thanks again all i really appreciate the advice

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
44 weeks ago

Neath valley.

If they didn't reply try not to take it personally. It might be you are not what they are after or the shear number of mail they are getting they can't reply to everyone. As others have said always read the profile as you might not be what they are looking for so messaging after that proves you are ignoring their preferences.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
44 weeks ago

"If they didn't reply try not to take it personally. It might be you are not what they are after or the shear number of mail they are getting they can't reply to everyone. As others have said always read the profile as you might not be what they are looking for so messaging after that proves you are ignoring their preferences.

Mrs"

I always read the profiles as im not wanting to waste my own or their time. Maybe its a patience thing on my behalf as i didn't realise how many fish was in this sea. Thank you again for the advice

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By *heoriginalCJMan
44 weeks ago

mystic valley

and....POOF ! hes gone

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By *all me missWoman
44 weeks ago

South Wales

"and....POOF ! hes gone

He’ll be back soon lol

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By *xmcdTV/TS
44 weeks ago

Wrexham

"Your not owed a reply from anyone

Take it as a polite NO THANK YOU.

Yes it can be frustrating or disappointing but as a single male the odds are stacked well against you.

There’s not a lot on your profile for anyone to relate to,

A few general pics and say something about yourself that people can engage with.

Hope this helps"

This

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By *elshdevil70Man
44 weeks ago

Swansea

"Your not owed a reply from anyone

Take it as a polite NO THANK YOU.

Yes it can be frustrating or disappointing but as a single male the odds are stacked well against you.

There’s not a lot on your profile for anyone to relate to,

A few general pics and say something about yourself that people can engage with.

Hope this helps

This"

save your ink as he's disappeared into the darkness but know doubt will be back with a shiny new profile

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

He's probably back already with a shiny new name X

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By *oves2please2021Man
44 weeks ago

cardiff

Whoops someone couldn’t handle criticism

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By *adBod5Man
44 weeks ago

Blackwood

Bles, this is both polite and helpful xx

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By *aigressMan
44 weeks ago

Cardiff

"User no longer on site"

Shame, gone too soon...

I reckon he was in for a mercy mfffffffff for sure...

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By *oves2please2021Man
44 weeks ago

cardiff

""User no longer on site"

Shame, gone too soon...

I reckon he was in for a mercy mfffffffff for sure..."

I might give that a shout lol

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