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By *attoodchap OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

So this is aimed at life that is more outside Fab. Is there such a thing as being too nice? We've all heard 'treat em mean & keep em keen' etc and ladies only go for red flags. Can a guy be 'too' nice?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can compare "outside" to this. It's a very different world!

I think being nice and polite are great attributes, you either are or you aren't..

Some of the things I've been asked would never be asked if I was in a bar for example..

Being hidden behind a keyboard is almost an excuse to be rude.. block button comes in handy there.!

All you can be is yourself after all you can't be anyone else

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By *rgan MorganMan
over a year ago

Morriston

My life rule, treat people well until they don't do the same then treat them as they have treated you, sometimes they realise there mistake sometimes they don't, at that point you can walk away. It's simple, and easy to follow.

There isn't such a think as being too nice, there is such a thing as being a doormat, know when to cut your losses and have nothing to do with the person.

I should say this is for everyone, not just males ot females.

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By *ory xWoman
over a year ago

Seaside

In the words of Roadhouse:

"Be nice until it's time not to be nice".

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By *adBod5Man
over a year ago

Blackwood

Just be true to yourself. Concerning yourself with how to behave to attract the attention of another is something that will exhaust you as well as attract someone who might not be suitable for who you are.

Know your worth. Just be yourself and find ways to do what you enjoy in environments you like to be in. Chances are thats where you'll find someone who's your cup of tea with similar interests.

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By *nihorn40Woman
over a year ago

Barry

You can't be too nice, nice is always welcome. You can be too boring, though.

Not suggesting that is the case for you btw but it's worth keeping in mind.

If you focus too much on being nice, you'll potentially forget to include anything unique.

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By *attoodchap OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Thankyou everyone! It's good to get other people's perspectives and experiences on dating in general. I'm just wondering if I need a red flag or 6 to bag myself a date!

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

The risk is that you can be taken advantage of. On balance though I'd rather be too nice than not nice enough.

Mr

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By *rgan MorganMan
over a year ago

Morriston


"Thankyou everyone! It's good to get other people's perspectives and experiences on dating in general. I'm just wondering if I need a red flag or 6 to bag myself a date! "

Nope just be you, no point trying to be someone else, that never works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself , that's all you do .

If you try to be someone you aren't sooner or later they'll realise that you aren't who they thought you were .

The same goes for them , are they who you thought they were .

Maybe be a bit more confident in your approach.

There's a massive difference between cockiness & confidence .

Also find out a bit about them , show you're genuinely interested in them .

Ask them questions but don't overdo it so it's like an interview .

Best of luck dude ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankyou everyone! It's good to get other people's perspectives and experiences on dating in general. I'm just wondering if I need a red flag or 6 to bag myself a date! "

Remember OP its not attractive to be down on yourself, there are lots of reasons why men aren't successful on here or in the dating game in general, it's often down to numbers. Project your genuine, humorous, engaging self (I read your veris) & something might find you, it often does once you stop seeking. All the best OP.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Treat people how you want to be treated

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By *attoodchap OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Awesome everyone! Thanks for engaging back with me. I genuinely was referring to dating off the site. Just something that was mentioned to me on a few occasions and was curious about people's take on the subject!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely be nice

In dating world its really hard to find genuine nice guys

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