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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Unsure how my profile comes across but im hardly getting any replies if i message and rarely get messaged first. Am i off putting? Any positive advice most welcome be nice please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I notice you'd viewed my profile earlier so I went for a nosy.

The only thing that stands out (not in a good way) to me on your profile (which on the whole is very good) is the 420 bit. I and I expect a lot of others would pass you by because of that.

Others would say get yourself to a social

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Thank you so should i leave out the 420? Id rather be honest about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all a bit subjective but…

For me, deffo leave the 420 part out. Unless you plan on doing it on a meet then there’s no need to mention it as it’s your own business.

Again, a very subjective observation… you have more pics on your profile of you cross dressing than anything else. Now there’s nothing wrong with CD… but maybe add a few more photos to balance out for those who are more vanilla?

Good luck x

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"It’s all a bit subjective but…

For me, deffo leave the 420 part out. Unless you plan on doing it on a meet then there’s no need to mention it as it’s your own business.

Again, a very subjective observation… you have more pics on your profile of you cross dressing than anything else. Now there’s nothing wrong with CD… but maybe add a few more photos to balance out for those who are more vanilla?

Good luck x"

Same as above you need more of you in non cd dress. We would prefer balanced pics of you in normal dress and cd.

Mrs.

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I did think about showing less to be honest and now you havepointed it out i will show less and leave just 1 pic of that.thank you for kind advice x

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I did think about showing less to be honest and now you havepointed it out i will show less and leave just 1 pic of that.thank you for kind advice x"

You're welcome.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Looks much better hun. Jo

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Thanks Jo x

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By *oxy babeWoman
over a year ago

gower

The fact you don’t have safe sex in your interests would put people off too

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey


"The fact you don’t have safe sex in your interests would put people off too"

That turns me off too. I assume that if people haven't got safe sex ticked as an interest then they bareback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact you don’t have safe sex in your interests would put people off too

That turns me off too. I assume that if people haven't got safe sex ticked as an interest then they bareback."

I feel bad that I didn't even notice that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite common here, keep on the forums & get chatting and you'll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You come to the right place for advise and most guys will say they are not getting any messages or interest. I would say like some have said in the past the socials are the best way to start.

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Shite!! Didnt realise id not put safe sex omg so sorry. Thanks again for pointing it out...see glad i posted for advice now thanks all x

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By *nky666Woman
over a year ago

Bridgend

Maybe cause you haven’t got it on your profile either

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Updated now x

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By *nky666Woman
over a year ago

Bridgend


"Updated now x"
sorry didn’t mean your profile. Meant the woman who felt bad cause she hadn’t noticed

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

lol so sorry inky my bad x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Updated now xsorry didn’t mean your profile. Meant the woman who felt bad cause she hadn’t noticed "

I've no interests as I'm not currently meeting but when I was, I had the safe sex bit ticked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to look at your CD pics & was disappointed to see none, OP you won't please everyone, your profile just needs to reflect you & your interests X

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I know im on here to find similar interests so want to show im genuine but having hidden everything i dont feel comfortable. I wznt people with cd interests to be able to see. I do however offer to add me to browse my pics to see if im for them .youve hidden your profile but please feel free to add me and i wont mind if you unfriend me after x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my messages don't get opened, when they do some just get deleted and some block me! I'm not after sympathy but it does hurt a little! Just a quick message back would be nice! I have verifications on my profile that prove I'm a genuine guy but it's really hard work to convince ladies and couples that I am especially in the first message!

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By *reen EyesMan
over a year ago

Wales

Love to know how.mine comes across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my messages don't get opened, when they do some just get deleted and some block me! I'm not after sympathy but it does hurt a little! Just a quick message back would be nice! I have verifications on my profile that prove I'm a genuine guy but it's really hard work to convince ladies and couples that I am especially in the first message! "

Unfortunately for you, no one owes you a reply. Anyway you've had a verification recently so you're obviously not doing too bad on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair enough, thank you for your comment.

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By *oxy babeWoman
over a year ago

gower

I tend to look at a profile before reading the message to decide if I want to reply or not, a bareback pic and safe sex added as an interest would be contradictory and I would not be interested and I’d delete the message without a reply and add a private note

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of my messages don't get opened, when they do some just get deleted and some block me! I'm not after sympathy but it does hurt a little! Just a quick message back would be nice! I have verifications on my profile that prove I'm a genuine guy but it's really hard work to convince ladies and couples that I am especially in the first message! "

No reply is to be taken as a no, there is no requirement to message back & it's not considered impolite. Most of us just get insults in return. If you said hello to me in the street & I didn't know you, I would walk on by, it's no different here X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's me told.

Guess it's a learning curve for me on fab! I shall overcome and adapt so as not inadvertently offend anyone.

Thank you for your comments, they are appreciated.

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By *leefMan
over a year ago

Swansea


"Most of my messages don't get opened, when they do some just get deleted and some block me! I'm not after sympathy but it does hurt a little! Just a quick message back would be nice! I have verifications on my profile that prove I'm a genuine guy but it's really hard work to convince ladies and couples that I am especially in the first message!

No reply is to be taken as a no, there is no requirement to message back & it's not considered impolite. Most of us just get insults in return. If you said hello to me in the street & I didn't know you, I would walk on by, it's no different here X"

Your last sentence sounds like living in London to me, I know because I spent several years living there. People didn't want to know their neighbours or have any interaction with them. But this is Wales and I like to think we're a friendlier lot in the most part. I often say hello to strangers in the street and make a point of it if they are elderly, just in case they think they are forgotten.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often smile and say hi to ladies if I feel it's appropriate, to be honest I nearly always get a smile or hi back! Yes, Wales is friendly!

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By *leefMan
over a year ago

Swansea


"I often smile and say hi to ladies if I feel it's appropriate, to be honest I nearly always get a smile or hi back! Yes, Wales is friendly!"

My grandfather died when I was seven but I recall him doffing his hat to every woman he passed in the street and a verbal exchange with every man.

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By *un696999Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

"So boring here" Are you aiming to insult everyone on this site? I don't find this site boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if I'd experienced more gentlemanly responses to a polite hi back, I'd be more friendly. But no, it's generally taken too far with his thinking a polite response is an invite to flirt & that's just my experience as an elderly person. I would prefer to be forgotten & have the choice who I speak or respond too. You may see it as rude, I see it as saving myself from unwanted attention X

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By *leefMan
over a year ago

Swansea

My daughter often teases me by saying that I am a 'Boomer' rather than my actual 'Generation X'. Sometimes I think she has a point as I was born closer to the end of the second world War than I was to her 1999 birth date.

Tonight we were drinking wine and brandy and playing Buzz....when she thought she was losing she wrote the word 'cunt' on my leg in biro despite her actually beating me in the end (I took a pic if you want to see it). Now some might say that is not very polite or classy but in my circles that is a term of endearment, she knows. But if someone I didn't know called me that I'd be properly offended.

Sorry, random....its the wine or brandy I think.

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I was referring to where i was at when i wrote that status not about fab

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By *leefMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Sorry, was a bit worse for wear last night

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

No cross dressing pics on your profile but on your interests, Op you need to show who you are with your interests

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By *un696999Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend


"I was referring to where i was at when i wrote that status not about fab "

Ahh OK.

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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago

GONE/TIMEOUT (No DMs please)

Positives, Pics are decent, and profile good saying what you want.

Ref the 420 thing. I didn't see it but

I would prefer it is in the profile, yes it may put others off but that's the point.

Some may say you were too honest in your first draft, but least people can scroll on if it is a deal-breaker. It is for me...

Assuming it wasn't a statement that you eat brownies, so I would be able to smell it.

You've got "non smoker" on your profile?

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Yes only 420 but i will put it back on my profile thank you x

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By *nternational Velvet OP   Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Its bugging me too but i dont know what pics to show or how many.if you or anyone would like to add me to browse and make suggestions im fine with that and you can always unfriend once your done and i might not be required to you as a friend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d never ever ask for advice I appreciate those who do and respect everyone’s mentality my profile is me and if people like it great if not I respect that but I’ll always be me regardless and I love the fact that when someone likes me or I meet them it’s for who I am and how they see me

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