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By *ubbs-68 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hiraeth Cardiff

I have heard a few stories from and about single guys over the last few weeks and I just wondered what others thoughts were.

I personally think they get given a hard time on here sometimes. Most of the ones I have met have been lovely and very respectful and a few have even become very close and dear friends.

I do understand though that its not the same for everyone and that we all have different experiences on Fab .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy myself I can't praise this site enough.

I have been lucky enough to have some fantastic meets and have also made some great friends along the way, so much so we message on other socials.

Single guys.....just be yourself!!!!!

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By *elshhung50Man
over a year ago

caerphilly

Same here be respectful I see some ladies have a lot of abuse it’s not nice I got a load of friends on here female and gents

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By *wanseaBi35Man
over a year ago

swansea


"I have heard a few stories from and about single guys over the last few weeks and I just wondered what others thoughts were.

I personally think they get given a hard time on here sometimes. Most of the ones I have met have been lovely and very respectful and a few have even become very close and dear

friends.

I do understand though that its not the same for everyone and that we all have different experiences on Fab ."

A much needed post Xxx

I think a lot of guys can be put off by the abrupt nature of some people on here, so the ones that meant well, leave, and then then the ones that cause the animosity remain... Making it a bit... Well, shite some times lol

I've been lucky enough to connect with some nice people, but also have experienced some appalling attitudes for absolutely no reason.

I think if people spoke to each other as they would face to face, this site would be a lot better for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where would us single female be if it weren't for the single guys? Yeah there's some twats about, but there's also some really lovely guys about & I've been lucky enough to meet some of them X

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By *elshhung50Man
over a year ago

caerphilly

Agree

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By *leasure and hassle freeMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Nice to hear some positive feedback for single men . Its hard when so many try and take advantage and spoil it for others . I have receive a number of messges from bloke that really paints them in a awful light and could imagine women getting it worst.

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

I met my G on here when we were both single. He made up for the abusive single men I've encounted.

I don't answer the messages now (if it's obvious they haven't read my profile when I was meeting) as some, not all, would send an abusive message if I said "no thanks".

I've socially met some lovely single fab guys at socials and the club so there some good single guys on here, they are just outweighed by the bad ones.

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By *efByOrgasmsMan
over a year ago

Heads of the Valleys

I understand that it's extremely hard on single guys when you're competing against 100s of guys.

But from what I've heard from friends who uses this site and other single women here that most men don't do themselves no favours when you abuse or send disgusting messages.

Most genuine guys understand that this is a swinging site not a guarantee fuck site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a single man, been here a few weeks and I’ve realised after speaking to a few people here how bad the ladies here actually get it. Some men are so rude, I wouldn’t dream of it as I like to think I’ve been raised right but just because it’s a swinging site it doesn’t mean you can just send dick pics willy nilly (pun intended) and assume it’ll get you anywhere!

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By *highstrokerMan
over a year ago

West Wales

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By *highstrokerMan
over a year ago

West Wales

I think there’s two types of single guys on here.

Those looking for a quick leg over; who are probably cheating, and can’t be bothered to even send a proper message. They’re the ones likely to get abusive when their “fancy a fuck” message doesn’t get answered in 30 seconds.

Then there’s those that get the scene, who realise it’s not Shagbook and understand it’s about the social side too. I’ve also made good friends, even had a relationship from here.

I can’t imagine how difficult it is fit single ladies having to sift through hundreds of messages, mostly from the detritus. No wonder we get a bad press, but thank you OP for your considered post.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"I think there’s two types of single guys on here.

Those looking for a quick leg over; who are probably cheating, and can’t be bothered to even send a proper message. They’re the ones likely to get abusive when their “fancy a fuck” message doesn’t get answered in 30 seconds.

Then there’s those that get the scene, who realise it’s not Shagbook and understand it’s about the social side too. I’ve also made good friends, even had a relationship from here.

I can’t imagine how difficult it is fit single ladies having to sift through hundreds of messages, mostly from the detritus. No wonder we get a bad press, but thank you OP for your considered post."

So lovely to see you back xx

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By *highstrokerMan
over a year ago

West Wales


"I think there’s two types of single guys on here.

Those looking for a quick leg over; who are probably cheating, and can’t be bothered to even send a proper message. They’re the ones likely to get abusive when their “fancy a fuck” message doesn’t get answered in 30 seconds.

Then there’s those that get the scene, who realise it’s not Shagbook and understand it’s about the social side too. I’ve also made good friends, even had a relationship from here.

I can’t imagine how difficult it is fit single ladies having to sift through hundreds of messages, mostly from the detritus. No wonder we get a bad press, but thank you OP for your considered post.

So lovely to see you back xx"

shucks thank you sweetie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my fwb here and I reached out to him. He’s fun, naughty, a gentleman and sometimes not but we embrace the friend side 100% too, chatting, enjoying vanilla time together. There are some right knobs, there are game players but the quality men are there, usually at socials!

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By *leasure-QueenWoman
over a year ago

The twilight zone

I couldn’t agree more OP. Lots of genuine single men I’ve chatted to or met over the years have been great guys.

Yeah you get the odd abusive message but it’s never made me bitter or guarded, I just do the eye roll face and press the block button.

Some messages can be misinterpreted depending on our mood, our outlook or our experiences. That’s why I prefer meeting people in socials or the clubs. If you emulated positivity that’s what you attract.

As hard as it is for single women here, I wouldn’t want to be a genuine single bloke here atm.

Those who understand the ethos of swinging are successful, those who don’t, won’t be

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By *heoriginalCJMan
over a year ago

mystic valley

Being here as long as I have, has made me realise that the real problem is that with social media and technology, people have lost the ability to interact and it has become harder for the people who do have that ability to stand out to get a positive reaction in return.

There are some great guys on here, and I'm privileged to know some of them

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By *exySiren01Woman
over a year ago

RCT

Being on this site for 10 years I've met some amazing single guys and made some great friends. It tends to be the newbies and very young crowd that can get abusive when told no thanks or send the stupid 'fancy a fuck' messages who have no understanding of the scene and just think it's dial a shag. They're easy to out. I certainly don't tar all guys with the same brush. However I've also come across females who think they are entitled and are abusive so I guess it swings both ways (no pun intended lol)

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By *rwantfunMan
over a year ago

Ammanford

The other issue is single guys get is the fake accounts probably guys trying to get videos and pics from you or the other is the women that want you to pay them which there are a lot that have been on the site for sometime that do that

I can see how some guys can get fed up on here and not think about what there doing which is no excuse for not being polite

Always find it hard myself to show how nice I am do prefer a physical social myself you can tell how a person is that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being on this site for 10 years I've met some amazing single guys and made some great friends. It tends to be the newbies and very young crowd that can get abusive when told no thanks or send the stupid 'fancy a fuck' messages who have no understanding of the scene and just think it's dial a shag. They're easy to out. I certainly don't tar all guys with the same brush. However I've also come across females who think they are entitled and are abusive so I guess it swings both ways (no pun intended lol)"

Nail on the head!!

Also the ratio of men on here is far higher than any other sex so can be brutal out there lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully this thread will give the genuine single men a bit of hope and make the twats realise that they are, well, twats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must say as a older single man I find it very hard to have fun, but if this will help to get a few fab friendships I would be grateful

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By *elsh-guyMan
over a year ago

The land of the Dragon and loads of sheep

I try to be as quenuine as I can and people I've met do see that I hope. Just be you and be true and its all about respect on this site sometimes don't think with ur dick think with your mind some single guys they don't have ruin it for themselves and the rest of us tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What winds us up, it clearly states that we are looking for a Bi experience for Dory and will find single men if we want. Why keep winking and messaging that you want a Fuck. Be respectful at least and introduce yourself and show you have understood the profile

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By *ima7893Man
over a year ago

Cardiff (Home) / London (Work)

Having been on and off here over the last ten years, I do find fab a very different place to what it used to be. It’s definitely much harder to build a positive reputation on here now as a single guy. I’ve had lots of fun from here, and great experiences, but at times feel a bit of an imposter as a single guy given the rep we have. I try really hard to read profiles and respond accordingly. Fab and swinging is my chill out space, but it’s getting harder and harder for it to be that.

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey


"I try to be as quenuine as I can and people I've met do see that I hope. Just be you and be true and its all about respect on this site sometimes don't think with ur dick think with your mind some single guys they don't have ruin it for themselves and the rest of us tho. "

You are definitely a genuine guy babes x

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By *elsh-guyMan
over a year ago

The land of the Dragon and loads of sheep


"I try to be as quenuine as I can and people I've met do see that I hope. Just be you and be true and its all about respect on this site sometimes don't think with ur dick think with your mind some single guys they don't have ruin it for themselves and the rest of us tho.

You are definitely a genuine guy babes x"
spanks you mama x x

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By *ubbs-68 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hiraeth Cardiff


"Being on this site for 10 years I've met some amazing single guys and made some great friends. It tends to be the newbies and very young crowd that can get abusive when told no thanks or send the stupid 'fancy a fuck' messages who have no understanding of the scene and just think it's dial a shag. They're easy to out. I certainly don't tar all guys with the same brush. However I've also come across females who think they are entitled and are abusive so I guess it swings both ways (no pun intended lol)"

Think most have come across females like that. Princess Syndrome I think its called.

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By *ondeed93Man
over a year ago

north wales

I try to be nice and not full on, but think it’s prehaps too plain. I know not much on my profile but I lack confidence. Iam always happy to chat and just see where it goes and even put this in messages. Think people see a plain message and think time waster or just no interest and I get that people receive a lot of messages and don’t want to reply so if I don’t hear back I block so I don’t bother them again. Some people been great and met some new friends if Iam honest. So good luck to everyone haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy I find it difficult and frustrating to not even get a reply. I put thought into messages to try and make them original and after sending so many and just having them deleted with a reply is disheartening and then I can't be bothered, so I just do a generic hey, how are you? (The usual bollocks) that ladies receive every minute of everyday. I get the ladies probably have 100s of messages a day but I'd like to get even 1 reply in a day and chat from there then I can answer any question. I don't want my face in display for personal reasons but I'm happy to exchange when chatting. Any advice from the ladies? I'm always respectful and courteous in messages and in life too

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By *ord and LilliaCouple
over a year ago

Newport


"As a single guy I find it difficult and frustrating to not even get a reply. I put thought into messages to try and make them original and after sending so many and just having them deleted with a reply is disheartening and then I can't be bothered, so I just do a generic hey, how are you? (The usual bollocks) that ladies receive every minute of everyday. I get the ladies probably have 100s of messages a day but I'd like to get even 1 reply in a day and chat from there then I can answer any question. I don't want my face in display for personal reasons but I'm happy to exchange when chatting. Any advice from the ladies? I'm always respectful and courteous in messages and in life too"

The problem is that you are doing exactly what everyone else is doing. You even justify it. And I can accept that you may be genuine, but so is every other Tom, Dick and Harry that also says the exact same thing for the exact same reasons why even when they aren't being genuine (and what does that word "genuine" mean anymore?). It's easy to justify it the way you have done.

I am and always have been saying, get along to a social or club and be the person you are face to face. If you can't, or won't, then you will continue to be disappointed with your experiences as you are currently.

I am aware this singles you out but it is a common theme for everyone in your position and I do not intend to make it personal to you.

I was once single on here too and remember all too well what that was like.

-Lord.

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By *heoriginalCJMan
over a year ago

mystic valley


"As a single guy I find it difficult and frustrating to not even get a reply. I put thought into messages to try and make them original and after sending so many and just having them deleted with a reply is disheartening and then I can't be bothered, so I just do a generic hey, how are you? (The usual bollocks) that ladies receive every minute of everyday. I get the ladies probably have 100s of messages a day but I'd like to get even 1 reply in a day and chat from there then I can answer any question. I don't want my face in display for personal reasons but I'm happy to exchange when chatting. Any advice from the ladies? I'm always respectful and courteous in messages and in life too"

you dont need to message women or couples if you go to events or clubs

everyone sees you for who you are then and it snowballs from there.

9/10 times i message as a reply to a status a woman puts up or a message to a wink recieved. be yourself and be bold ! get out there an talk to people

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By *ierced_VikingMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

Unfortunately we've all had a mixed bag of results on here as there are more than a few fakes and rude individuals floating around! But, in general its a Fab place to be and meet people!

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By *elsh guy 75Man
over a year ago

NEWPORT

I find it really hard I'm never disrespectful to any one at any time if no reply I just move on be nice to have a woman's point of view x

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By *elshman52Man
over a year ago

North Wales

As a single guy, it is very frustrating that 99% of messages are ignored. In 7 years, I have not met a single woman on here. I often think what could be wrong and put it down to a combination of age and smallish dick. Single men on the other hand are constantly messaging me despite being straight! I occassionally go to clubs and that is definitely a better way of meeting.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

My take is that a small minority spoil it for the rest

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By *iscreetman09Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Be happy if they replied no thanks after reading my messages and attaching a face pic

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place


"Be happy if they replied no thanks after reading my messages and attaching a face pic"

I know a few woman on here in "real life" and they get hundreds of messages dude

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By *iscreetman09Man
over a year ago

cardiff


"Be happy if they replied no thanks after reading my messages and attaching a face pic

I know a few woman on here in "real life" and they get hundreds of messages dude "

I get that but personally think if they willing to take the time to open a message and look at the face picture's be polite and respond.

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By *aughty40guyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Be happy if they replied no thanks after reading my messages and attaching a face pic

I know a few woman on here in "real life" and they get hundreds of messages dude

I get that but personally think if they willing to take the time to open a message and look at the face picture's be polite and respond. "

It’s not just me then

Countless times I’ve been polite, sent a face pic, referenced something mentioned in the profile and still no reply. Met some nice ladies years ago here and if we click a FWB would be fantastic.

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By *inky and discreetMan
over a year ago

Neath

I'm a single dad and have been on this site near 2 years now I think.

Never had the chance to meet from here yet despite constantly trying.

Its really disheartening sometimes when you try so hard and get nowhere.

I'm kind, respectful open minded and understanding of everyone and their personal situations yet it often feels like people just wanna be treated like crap.

My personal experiences has lead me to struggle with a few things, I get that people won't know that right off the bat but I do feel people should give more chance and get to know someone before making a decision.

Anyways I'm happy to chat with anyone and actively looking for new friends(and advice) so feel free to dm anytime and ama ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be happy if they replied no thanks after reading my messages and attaching a face pic

I know a few woman on here in "real life" and they get hundreds of messages dude

I get that but personally think if they willing to take the time to open a message and look at the face picture's be polite and respond. "

It might be with checking the Fab rules regarding no reply, it's too be accepted as a not interested.

I've enjoyed much of this thread but it's also been useful in terms of ing out those with the wrong mindset. Thanks guys X

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff


"I have heard a few stories from and about single guys over the last few weeks and I just wondered what others thoughts were.

I personally think they get given a hard time on here sometimes. Most of the ones I have met have been lovely and very respectful and a few have even become very close and dear friends.

I do understand though that its not the same for everyone and that we all have different experiences on Fab ."

Thank you, not all us guys are nut cases some of us are normal and love a little banter. Happy fabbing x

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By *elshgentleman79Man
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I have heard a few stories from and about single guys over the last few weeks and I just wondered what others thoughts were.

I personally think they get given a hard time on here sometimes. Most of the ones I have met have been lovely and very respectful and a few have even become very close and dear friends.

I do understand though that its not the same for everyone and that we all have different experiences on Fab ."

Really insightful read, thanks for bringing it up Bubbs-68, that‘s appreciated

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By *ikingCymraegMan
over a year ago

Caerdydd

From what I've seen in terms of status' from women since I've joined, I can totally understand why they wouldn't reply back even to the messages with a pic. The vile messages they get just for saying "no thanks" is just disgusting.

If we message and they either don't read or don't reply, then we just have to take it as a rejection and move on. Learning to be able to deal with rejection is a very valuable life lesson to learn, we don't always get our way

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

Single guy (silhouette profile) messaging me today, completely ignoring my profile, when I told him no he got very abusive. Its these guys who are making it difficult for you genuine guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guy (silhouette profile) messaging me today, completely ignoring my profile, when I told him no he got very abusive. Its these guys who are making it difficult for you genuine guys. "

I really hope they are few and far between but from reading this thread it doesn't sound like.

We aren't all the same I promise

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey


"Single guy (silhouette profile) messaging me today, completely ignoring my profile, when I told him no he got very abusive. Its these guys who are making it difficult for you genuine guys.

I really hope they are few and far between but from reading this thread it doesn't sound like.

We aren't all the same I promise "

I stopped saying "no thanks" due to the abuse I get sent but this guy messaged over and over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guy (silhouette profile) messaging me today, completely ignoring my profile, when I told him no he got very abusive. Its these guys who are making it difficult for you genuine guys.

I really hope they are few and far between but from reading this thread it doesn't sound like.

We aren't all the same I promise

I stopped saying "no thanks" due to the abuse I get sent but this guy messaged over and over "

Block and report- you don't deserve that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be so daunting meeting someone for the first time as that person could be anyone especially on a site like this!!! Sometimes us ladies need a bit of time to get to know them and maybe a social in public to put at ease!!!

There are bad people out there unfortunately and it's those that ruin it, I personally have had good and bad, cant judge everyone exactly the same but unfortunately experiences can put your guard up. After all if I am going to play meet in a hotel somewhere or in my own home they have to respect everything.

I love getting to know new people, I prefer well verified and a good profile read and of course I have a type (doesn't everyone)

Happy and safe fabbing people

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By *AZTASTICMan
over a year ago

Barry

Nice to hear this from a lady. I guess like everywhere, Fab is just a reflection of society. So will have its share of idiots. But rest assured lots of us chaps are nice and respectul. I've met loads of lovely people on here. Not all naughty but it's also nice knowing like-minded people too .

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

There are good and bad like with everything. We always like a social first due to some not so good experiences I’ve had in the past. By doing that, we’ve found it works better. Pushy messages, just gets someone blocked. It’s a red flag.

Meeting in clubs makes it easier, as you can watch how someone behaves in that kind of environment. Most single men are respectful there.

Red

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By *rwantfunMan
over a year ago

Ammanford

Problem is like anything we all like different things and can’t always like the same thing there are a lot of women now they seam to use it more as a daiting site but 10years ago it was never like that the site has changed over the years is it for the better I don’t know I’ve had plenty of good meets and a few bad ones they are mainly the ones you turn up and are asked to pay myself I always reply with a polite no if I’m not interested

You will never please everyone and far too many are vague in what they are looking for

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon


"As a single guy I find it difficult and frustrating to not even get a reply. I put thought into messages to try and make them original and after sending so many and just having them deleted with a reply is disheartening and then I can't be bothered, so I just do a generic hey, how are you? (The usual bollocks) that ladies receive every minute of everyday. I get the ladies probably have 100s of messages a day but I'd like to get even 1 reply in a day and chat from there then I can answer any question. I don't want my face in display for personal reasons but I'm happy to exchange when chatting. Any advice from the ladies? I'm always respectful and courteous in messages and in life too

you dont need to message women or couples if you go to events or clubs

everyone sees you for who you are then and it snowballs from there.

9/10 times i message as a reply to a status a woman puts up or a message to a wink recieved. be yourself and be bold ! get out there an talk to people "

CJ has been on here for years, and is the standard against which we measure other guys.

He's not the only decent guy on here, we have made quite a few single male friends, all of whom are like him, respectful, charming, fun, and cheeky in equal measure.

As he says, get out to the organised events, let people see you, and get a feel for the "real you", and you will find your Fab experience improves a lot. Basically, to stand out from the crowd, you need to be "seen in the scene".

Unless you do that, you risk drowning in the quagmire of the "fancy a fuck" merchants, of whom there are sadly too many out there.

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By *KXXXWoman
over a year ago

swansea

I always try to be honest and respectful, but if guys read my profile , rather than just look at my pictures, they would see my preferences, and a lot of time would not be wasted.

Ive also spoke to a couple of really lovely single guys who are having trouble getting to join at Chams , it's a shame they would be very very popular with couples and single ladies .

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Sometimes I find it doesn't matter how much you read a profile and are polite as a single man I can just bee ignored, messages go unread and just lost never to be seen or replied to.

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By *inky drinksCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Sometimes I find it doesn't matter how much you read a profile and are polite as a single man I can just bee ignored, messages go unread and just lost never to be seen or replied to. "

If a single guy has read my profile adhered to it and been polite I will reply

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By *ougar1966Couple
over a year ago

Newport

95% don't read my profile and even some of the 5% that do, just ignore it and message anyway. So they get deleted unread. Some usernames are an instant turnoff and delete as are any messages asking to fuck or any stupid childish requests or questions.

I have and do see some wonderful single guys on here, so FAB can work for single guys with the right attitude and something to offer.

You can't always get it right and I am sure a few good guys slip through my net but that is just life on FAB!!

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire


"Sometimes I find it doesn't matter how much you read a profile and are polite as a single man I can just bee ignored, messages go unread and just lost never to be seen or replied to.

If a single guy has read my profile adhered to it and been polite I will reply "

Oh there are some lovely ladies and couples that do and uve had some lovely chats, even if we all know there's not chance of meeting.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire


"95% don't read my profile and even some of the 5% that do, just ignore it and message anyway. So they get deleted unread. Some usernames are an instant turnoff and delete as are any messages asking to fuck or any stupid childish requests or questions.

I see a few people mention usernames, what's your opion on mine? I'll admit it was a rushed decision.

I have and do see some wonderful single guys on here, so FAB can work for single guys with the right attitude and something to offer.

You can't always get it right and I am sure a few good guys slip through my net but that is just life on FAB!! "

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By *oveyou2Couple
over a year ago

somewhere Kerry

Hi

We completely agree with your post. We find there are so many single guys on fab, when we log on, the messages are relentless, free now want fuck…. I’ve got a big cock for you. I’ve got a free house now come round for fun. You can get so many messages with the same old shit, it’s unbelievable and what we end up doing is deleting them. Single guys out number single girls and couples together on Fab by probably 50 to 1, maybe more. Some guys realise this but most don’t. We have found it quite hard to meet single guys . It’s just too much trouble. We have even made appointments/dates to meet single guys and they haven’t turned up. I know as a couple, we are getting older now, but Trust me , my wife is a really good looking brunette in great shape and I hate to see her humiliated like that. No girl deserves that so we have lost faith in Fab in general. It’s not what it was.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I can totally understand some of the frustrations and the angst harboured by women and couples on here. There's no denying the relentless and insurmountable messages that fill up their inboxes.

Ultimately it's a numbers game; the disparities between single men versus women/couples doesn't help their cause.

However, it's not all men.

I've had nothing but positive experiences on here.

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By *heExcommMan
over a year ago

Llantrisant

I do struggle to get meets, even replies to messages, but I often have struggles getting to socials and events due to work.

However since joining some telegram groups, things have been looking up

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

There absolutely are nice, respectful, decent single guys on here (I’d like to think I count towards this)….

but unfortunately there is a large proportion of single guys on here that really aren’t or just don’t have any idea how they should behave.

It may even be close to a majority.

I don’t blame anyone for having single guys blocked

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By *ove to exploreMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I’m also one of the good guys! I tend to believe I am anyway and I’ve been told that by others as well.

Mindfulness goes along way for me with traversing the challenges of FAB, but unfortunately is rarely a consideration of other site members, of any group type to be fair; but single men specifically who’d be the biggest beneficiaries.

It’s must be recognised that FAB is a minefield of mental health risks for the vast majority of single guys who come into this environment unprepared.

I think we all understand the idiots are always going to be idiots, but there’s a potential for exacerbation that could put people at risk.

But the more ‘normal’ men for the lack of a better term; who underestimate the rejection, objectification, body negativity, grouping, devaluation etc struggle noticeably which often results in negative changes in character.

Please don’t go to straight to micro aggressions with the character changes either; as arguably that would take them out of the ‘normal’ group anyway. There’s other things to consider such as the decreased self worth it fosters, the increased desperation to seek approval and validation, which forces lowering of standards, humiliation, making riskier decisions etc

I think it’s something that should be considered more within the community as ultimately it helps everyone. I’m sure we can all agree that the more sane single men we have on FAB and in the wider scene will only benefit all.

A link on the site for a men’s mental health support charity would be as good a way as any to start, and surely wouldn’t be that difficult to do.

I do recognise the irony of the mirroring of social norms trust me; but neither do two wrongs make a right nor should it devalue the FAB and wider community making steps to create a better and more enjoyable place to experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m also one of the good guys! I tend to believe I am anyway and I’ve been told that by others as well.

Mindfulness goes along way for me with traversing the challenges of FAB, but unfortunately is rarely a consideration of other site members, of any group type to be fair; but single men specifically who’d be the biggest beneficiaries.

It’s must be recognised that FAB is a minefield of mental health risks for the vast majority of single guys who come into this environment unprepared.

I think we all understand the idiots are always going to be idiots, but there’s a potential for exacerbation that could put people at risk.

But the more ‘normal’ men for the lack of a better term; who underestimate the rejection, objectification, body negativity, grouping, devaluation etc struggle noticeably which often results in negative changes in character.

Please don’t go to straight to micro aggressions with the character changes either; as arguably that would take them out of the ‘normal’ group anyway. There’s other things to consider such as the decreased self worth it fosters, the increased desperation to seek approval and validation, which forces lowering of standards, humiliation, making riskier decisions etc

I think it’s something that should be considered more within the community as ultimately it helps everyone. I’m sure we can all agree that the more sane single men we have on FAB and in the wider scene will only benefit all.

A link on the site for a men’s mental health support charity would be as good a way as any to start, and surely wouldn’t be that difficult to do.

I do recognise the irony of the mirroring of social norms trust me; but neither do two wrongs make a right nor should it devalue the FAB and wider community making steps to create a better and more enjoyable place to experience."

You have a nice mind X

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By *ove to exploreMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


" You have a nice mind X"

Thank you, I do appreciate that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" You have a nice mind X

Thank you, I do appreciate that x"

You're welcome, it's refreshing X

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By *torminnormanMan
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Have been on here for many years as a couple,and for the last 12years as a single guy.

I try to be as decent and respectful towards others at all times,but as a single guy,for the most part you are pigeonholed as bad news because of the morons on here who don't take the time ,or can't be arsed to read and absorb what is written in profiles.

Unfortunately the bad guys appear to outnumber the good on here,and that can't help the decent guys like myself.

Trouble is,it's a problem that's not going to go away in the near or distant future.

I will say though,that I always send a respectful message to ladies and couples,and on occasion have had some unwarranted abusive responses also,so it's not just a "single guy" thing,all the time.

Norm....

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We chatted to more tidy guys than bad ones. But it's the bad ones who make us take a break from meeting single guys every now and again. But the tidy ones make it worth meeting them.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire


"We chatted to more tidy guys than bad ones. But it's the bad ones who make us take a break from meeting single guys every now and again. But the tidy ones make it worth meeting them."

Why did I read that as if Nessa was saying it. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very well said hun.

Some of us single guys are playing away, without permission - lol x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very well said hun.

Some of us single guys are playing away, without permission - lol x. "

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By *arbardMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Happily single and really respectful guy here, but I have no luck on this website .

This doesn’t stop me checking it regularly though.

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By *asper707070Man
over a year ago

Penarth

Been here just over a year, been myself and made a few 'friends'... on message only. They tell me I'm 'nice', 'considerate' and that they 'like' me. Then they stop responding to messages, or read with replying. Think I'd rather be told to f*ck off - at least I know where I stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been here just over a year, been myself and made a few 'friends'... on message only. They tell me I'm 'nice', 'considerate' and that they 'like' me. Then they stop responding to messages, or read with replying. Think I'd rather be told to f*ck off - at least I know where I stand"

It would be far more helpful for single guys if women were just open & honest. If the profile isn't for the just block it. If after chatting it still doesn't feel, say goodbye & block. There's no point leaving guys hanging X

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By *imeforfun2023Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Lets face it there are twats in every walk of life. Male, female, couples, everyone. Add to that the strength of hiding behind a keyboard and some think they are invincible and forget manners cost nothing.

If someone takes the time to read a profile and compose a message, the least they deserve is a reply, even a 'no thanks' is nice to get and I always send thanks in return. And I dont care how many messages anyone receives, if they read a message, check out my profile then a reply is the least to expect.

Also in terms of time wasters they are also out there i every form.

However, what Id say to everyone is take your time, read and filter out the idiots because there are some great people on here. X

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By *coutDWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

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By *coutDWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"I’m also one of the good guys! I tend to believe I am anyway and I’ve been told that by others as well.

Mindfulness goes along way for me with traversing the challenges of FAB, but unfortunately is rarely a consideration of other site members, of any group type to be fair; but single men specifically who’d be the biggest beneficiaries.

It’s must be recognised that FAB is a minefield of mental health risks for the vast majority of single guys who come into this environment unprepared.

I think we all understand the idiots are always going to be idiots, but there’s a potential for exacerbation that could put people at risk.

But the more ‘normal’ men for the lack of a better term; who underestimate the rejection, objectification, body negativity, grouping, devaluation etc struggle noticeably which often results in negative changes in character.

Please don’t go to straight to micro aggressions with the character changes either; as arguably that would take them out of the ‘normal’ group anyway. There’s other things to consider such as the decreased self worth it fosters, the increased desperation to seek approval and validation, which forces lowering of standards, humiliation, making riskier decisions etc

I think it’s something that should be considered more within the community as ultimately it helps everyone. I’m sure we can all agree that the more sane single men we have on FAB and in the wider scene will only benefit all.

A link on the site for a men’s mental health support charity would be as good a way as any to start, and surely wouldn’t be that difficult to do.

I do recognise the irony of the mirroring of social norms trust me; but neither do two wrongs make a right nor should it devalue the FAB and wider community making steps to create a better and more enjoyable place to experience."

I’ve got some local and national info I’ll try and remember to dig out and post it

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By *ougar1966Couple
over a year ago

Newport


"95% don't read my profile and even some of the 5% that do, just ignore it and message anyway. So they get deleted unread. Some usernames are an instant turnoff and delete as are any messages asking to fuck or any stupid childish requests or questions.

I have and do see some wonderful single guys on here, so FAB can work for single guys with the right attitude and something to offer.

You can't always get it right and I am sure a few good guys slip through my net but that is just life on FAB!! "

And then you get guys that you bend your own rules for 'cos they seem to be genuine and fun, agree to a hotel meet up, chat for weeks, they book a hotel and on the day before meeting they delete their account!!

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By *aarv80Man
over a year ago

Crumlin

Hello all, relatively new guy here. I tend to agree that it is hard for single guys to find someone willing to take the chance on them, I have felt a little of that pain myself, but it is a pure numbers game.

No matter how well thought out, polite or well written your initial contact is, when you end up lost in a pile of 100 messages every day there's a damn good chance your getting missed...

Just the nature of the beast when it comes to the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be disappointing for me with no meets, I get it’s mostly couples on here but I get no replies from any messages I send, a simple no thanks be nice…

Clearly doing something wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really?

After all this time are some of us men still bleating on about getting an actual no thanks reply.

If your msg is read and not replied to or deleted there's your no thanks.

Suck it up and move on.

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By *oasterMan
over a year ago

Sth Wales


"I have heard a few stories from and about single guys over the last few weeks and I just wondered what others thoughts were.

I personally think they get given a hard time on here sometimes. Most of the ones I have met have been lovely and very respectful and a few have even become very close and dear friends.

I do understand though that its not the same for everyone and that we all have different experiences on Fab ."

Thank you for posting this. It is very difficult for single gut to meet with women or even couples on this site.

I have only ever been to one social. This is due to work commitments. Have to pay bills lol. But seriously. At the social was nervous. Told as I do many times I don’t look my age.

I can accomodate as I live alone. Yet there’s a lack of commitment. I’m asking to get married live together just to be able for some pleasurable meets.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

There are some really great guys on here, and I've made some wonderful friends and play partners. Most have expressed how hard it can be to get meets sometimes.

But I've had my share of time wasters too, as have many, and it is really discouraging sometimes.

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By *wansplaymateMan
over a year ago

swansea

Even when times are tough for us single guys , the awesome replies in posts like this from you filthy buggars reminds us that there are some very horny people on here so even we should be able to get laid lol

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By *ayray2269Man
over a year ago

newport

We get a very hard time as single men usually don’t get to play unless you get to know someone I’ve been on this site for a while now and tbh I’ve had more from the club than this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I single guy I personally think this apps rubbish, no one wants to talk no couples nothing. Or they message you reply then you hear nothing back

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By *elshdevil70Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"As I single guy I personally think this apps rubbish, no one wants to talk no couples nothing. Or they message you reply then you hear nothing back "

Well delete the app and go then instead of moaning

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By *oves2please2021Man
over a year ago

cardiff

And that’s what gives singles guys a bad reputation

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"As I single guy I personally think this apps rubbish, no one wants to talk no couples nothing. Or they message you reply then you hear nothing back "

And this attitude is why no one replies to your messages

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By *laytonAMan
over a year ago

Newport

I honestly don't have an issue as a single guy, never been abused or recieved any crap. 100% would love to chat to more or meet more people who doesn't want yo be desired!!! at same time I dont help myself going to socials and clubs to meet more people in the scene. Cant lie I don't like it went things go dead if a convo starts or people just delete a message. And when I re-joined here I think I thought it was going to be non-stop fun. However reality is everyone has a preference and most actually want to swing not just shag. Having been on lots of dating platforms too. I know fab isn't one before anyone comments!! Its pretty clear from those I meet thougg, there are those who are just interested in fun and fucking about and those that want something more meaningful. Whats true on all is the more effort you make as you not somebody you pretend to be the more success you get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry can’t I have an opinion on this app? I’m talking from experience so if you have nothing nice to say don’t say it thanks.

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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I have heard a few stories from and about single guys over the last few weeks and I just wondered what others thoughts were.

I personally think they get given a hard time on here sometimes. Most of the ones I have met have been lovely and very respectful and a few have even become very close and dear friends.

I do understand though that its not the same for everyone and that we all have different experiences on Fab ."

I’ve spoken to and met some lovely single men. Unfortunately there are some that tend to ruin it for everyone but you can usually tell pretty much straight away which ones to avoid. I’m sure there are just as many women on here that are a bit questionable too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have heard a few stories from and about single guys over the last few weeks and I just wondered what others thoughts were.

I personally think they get given a hard time on here sometimes. Most of the ones I have met have been lovely and very respectful and a few have even become very close and dear friends.

I do understand though that its not the same for everyone and that we all have different experiences on Fab .

I’ve spoken to and met some lovely single men. Unfortunately there are some that tend to ruin it for everyone but you can usually tell pretty much straight away which ones to avoid. I’m sure there are just as many women on here that are a bit questionable too "

Spot on X

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