FabSwingers.com forum: Demanding a face picture!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it that the people who have no pictures or the odd one are 2 are the most demanding of face pictures?

I am more than willing to send a face picture to anyone that asks politely and respects privacy. But what really gets me annoyed is when you send them one and they don't return the favour. Simple decency I would have thought.

The usual reply is following you sending them a picture is - "sorry not my type!"

Without them sending one in return.

Ok perhaps we aren't each others type but a picture to see the face of the person you are chatting to and have trusted with your private picture is a small token of trust and decency?

I clearly state on my profile that I have face pics in private and will happily send on request.

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Sorry all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally with you on that one dude!

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By *aninthemiddleMan
over a year ago

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Here here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more! If someone has the trust and decency to send a pic we always return even if we are not interested.

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By *areth100Man
over a year ago

hereford

Yep totally agree guys. Usually cples demand face pic or no reply. When they don't even have any pics on their profile of any type. Then they don't even reply.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Why is it that the people who have no pictures or the odd one are 2 are the most demanding of face pictures?

The usual reply is following you sending them a picture is - "sorry not my type!"

Without them sending one in return.

Ok perhaps we aren't each others type but a picture to see the face of the person you are chatting to and have trusted with your private picture is a small token of trust and decency?

I clearly state on my profile that I have face pics in private and will happily send on request.

Rant over

Sorry all"

okay see your point however.. if you have already said no thanks to a guy as hes not your type why would you send him ammo to attack you with... yes not all resort to that but sad to say alot of blokes take rejection very badly so make females and couples very cautious about giving them anything else to attack you with..if everyone could just be polite and accept a nice no thanks not my type without getting shitty and nasty and viscious then there wouldn't be a problem.

You then also get ones when guy sends pic and you think ooh no thanks.. and politely tell him not for us.. but on occasion we have done as you say and sent him our face pics anyway and he's then turned into a begging stalker type trying everything to get a meet.. so is blocked.

Yes in an ideal mentally mature world it would be face pic swap.. agree not each others type wish each other well and move on.. but reality is it isnt like that.. and people cant accept in a mature manner that they dont fit the others type and move on.. there nearly always has to be abuse etc in our experience anyway. no not all but most.. do we keep sending to all to see if they are another one whose going to be abusive or do we just say no thanks and move on... after all some twisted peeps on here and would you give them something they can plaster over the net.

However we prefer to go on cam to show face if meet is being arranged its much better that way and current...

We have sent face pics to a guy before we had his and he thought stunning apparently.. and was very keen.. funny how quick it turns into vicious insults about how ugly mrs is when we have told the guy not our type.. thats what happens..

So best thing is for both to briefly go on can to show face and then no one has to send pics..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Glad there are others that share my frustrations!

At the end of the day. We are all adults on here and generally we are here for the same thing which is adult sexual encounters.

Why else would you join a swinging website?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that the people who have no pictures or the odd one are 2 are the most demanding of face pictures?

The usual reply is following you sending them a picture is - "sorry not my type!"

Without them sending one in return.

Ok perhaps we aren't each others type but a picture to see the face of the person you are chatting to and have trusted with your private picture is a small token of trust and decency?

I clearly state on my profile that I have face pics in private and will happily send on request.

Rant over

Sorry all

However we prefer to go on cam to show face if meet is being arranged its much better that way and current...

So best thing is for both to briefly go on can to show face and then no one has to send pics.. "

Some very valid points! We have been lucky enough so far and had no abuse! We would certainly think twice if we had the kind of reactions you guys have experienced!

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Glad there are others that share my frustrations!

At the end of the day. We are all adults on here and generally we are here for the same thing which is adult sexual encounters.

Why else would you join a swinging website?

Sadly alot think they are gods gift and no one would turn them down. yes its a swinging site which by the nature of the lifestyle should be for mentally mature adults and if it was just that we wouldnt have any problems and the forums would have alot less threads if all kinds ..lol.. but sadly alot come on here that arent mature mentally thinking cant get it anywhere else so bound to get it here .. and someone turns them down .. and their childish yobbish manner just spouts abuse..

shame but if those sorts didn't join a swingers site ( as far as they are concerned they are joining a free sex site where you can get as much as you want whenever you want) as most haven't got a clue what swinging is.. (thats most of the immature idiots i mean by that) then life would be alot more trusting on here.

But i dont care who you are viscious attacking abuse for turning a guy down is not nice yes they get blocked and some reported but you shouldnt have to hear it..

This post and previous is not a moaning thread way past it bothering us.. but is just to give an idea of our experience and thoughts..

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

So, you start a thread moaning about others "demanding" pics, before doing exactly the same yourself?

You send a pic, they turn you down.... And you say they should still send you a pic as "a token of trust"?

Get real!

Do you really expect someone to trust a stranger with their face pics after turning them down?

Here's a solution.... don't send them face pics in the first place... offer to meet them in

person at a social, that way you can get to know loads of others, make friends and maybe pick up a few verifications too.

Many guys will now come up with excuses as to why that can't happen, to which our response would be... if you can't make a small effort to try, why should we bother to meet you at all? This site, despite what many of the single guys think, is not "insta-shag", you need to put in time and effort if you want ,results.

One of the most successful single males we know on here NEVER messaged anyone asking for a meet, he would attend socials, parties and clubs, chat to people and let them decide if they wanted to include him in their fun.... When people got to know him he was never short of invites!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good point well made above

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"So, you start a thread moaning about others "demanding" pics, before doing exactly the same yourself?

You send a pic, they turn you down.... And you say they should still send you a pic as "a token of trust"?

Get real!

Do you really expect someone to trust a stranger with their face pics after turning them down?

Here's a solution.... don't send them face pics in the first place... offer to meet them in

person at a social, that way you can get to know loads of others, make friends and maybe pick up a few verifications too.

thats exactly what we do if you want to meet us meet us at a social.. that way if they dont turn up our times not wasted as were are having fun anyway.. And if they cant be arsed no worries not our issue.. also alot of secret marrieds get found out as they cant get to an evening social lol has lots of benefits as well as not feeling awkward it the meeting dosent work out as more to move onto.. more should use socials in this way..stops alot if strops too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why the hell should someone return a photo if they aren't attracted back? Get real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, you start a thread moaning about others "demanding" pics, before doing exactly the same yourself?

You send a pic, they turn you down.... And you say they should still send you a pic as "a token of trust"?

Get real!

Do you really expect someone to trust a stranger with their face pics after turning them down?

Here's a solution.... don't send them face pics in the first place... offer to meet them in

person at a social, that way you can get to know loads of others, make friends and maybe pick up a few verifications too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well if there's nothing to hide why not have a face pic on your profile anyway just get to know peeps and go from there

socials are a good starting place there's always one somewhere

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

"Why the hell should someone return a photo if they aren't attracted back? Get real."

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By *appy campersCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

It states on our profile we would like a face pic sent at first contact. We are far from shallow and although we are attracted to someone's personality, it's all about the full package for us, and everyone has their own preference to looks. No doubt we are not everybody's cup of tea either, so each to their own. I'm sure if the rejection is done tactfully what harm is done? There are thousands of people on this site, so surely there is someone for everyone? To be fair, our 'looked at me' list is more often than not full of people looking with no pic available for us to have a sneaky peek. When someone puts 'hot' or 'sexy' in their write up then we would obviously like to see what is on offer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It states on our profile we would like a face pic sent at first contact. We are far from shallow and although we are attracted to someone's personality, it's all about the full package for us, and everyone has their own preference to looks. No doubt we are not everybody's cup of tea either, so each to their own. I'm sure if the rejection is done tactfully what harm is done? There are thousands of people on this site, so surely there is someone for everyone? To be fair, our 'looked at me' list is more often than not full of people looking with no pic available for us to have a sneaky peek. When someone puts 'hot' or 'sexy' in their write up then we would obviously like to see what is on offer...

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im hot and sexy in the summer cold and shrunk in the winter xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving this thread,well personally if i like someone's face,body or message on profile ill send them a inbox with an attached face picture,but if i discover they've read the message but didnt reply ill move on,but i too still dont get the point where a single male or a 'couple for matter get offended for not receiving a face picture in return...Ill probably get hurt if i receive a reply saying 'you're not my type ' or 'no thanks' lol

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

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At the end of the day. We are all adults on here and generally we are here for the same thing which is adult sexual encounters.

Why else would you join a swinging website?

If only that were true. People join swingers sites for all sorts of reasons and even those who join for all the right reasons sometimes change after unhappy experiences.

Remember, once you entrust a photograph, especially an explicit photograph to cyberspace, you have absolutely no control over what happens to it or where it ends up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really don't see why people risk meeting up with out seeing face pics. We aren't everyones cup of tea and get knocked back which is natural and that's way better than turning up and then the cpl don't like how we look etc.

There has to be a physical attraction before anything moves forward but there's many on here who 'fuck for the sake of it and will go with anyone'.

It tickles me when peoples profiles say 'love taking pictures' yet they have none.

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By *lue BelleWoman
over a year ago

Caernarfon. North Wales

"Why the hell should someone return a photo if they aren't attracted back? Get real."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well some people don't want their face on a swing site just in case they r recognised and 2 b honest some r fake profiles it's a matter of choice I myself would rather see a face but that's my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why the hell should someone return a photo if they aren't attracted back? Get real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of double standards on here lol and some crazy people! But also some very good to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that the people who have no pictures or the odd one are 2 are the most demanding of face pictures?

The usual reply is following you sending them a picture is - "sorry not my type!"

Without them sending one in return.

Ok perhaps we aren't each others type butpicture to see the face of the person you are chatting to and have trusted with your private picture is a small token of trust and decency

I clearly state on my profile that I have face pics in private and will happily send on request.

Rant over

Sorry all

okay see your point however.. if you have alreadysaid no thanks to a guy as hes not yourtype why would you send him ammo toattalyou with... yes not all resort to that but sadto say alot of blokes take rejection very badly

so make females and couples very cautious about giving them anything else to attack youwith..if everyone could just be polite anaccept a nice no thanks not my type without gettinshittyand nasty and viscious then there wouldn't be a problem.

You then also get ones when guy sends pic and you think ooh no thanks.. and politely tell him notfor us.. but on occasion we have done as you

say and sent him our face pics anyway and he's then turned into a begging stalker type trying everything to get a meet.. so is blocked.

Yes in an ideal mentally mature world it would be face pic swap.. agree not each others type wish each other well and move on.. but reality is it isnt like that.. and people cant accept in a mature

manner that they dont fit the others type and

move on.. there nearly always has to be abuse etc in our experience anyway. no not all but most.. do we keep sending to all to see if they are another one whose going to be abusive or do we just say no thanks and move on... after all some twisted peeps on here and would you givethem something they can plaster over the net.

However we prefer to go on cam to show face if meet is being arranged its much better that way and current...

So best thing is for both to briefly go on can to show face and then no one has to send pics.. "

Except if you don't have a cam or on I pad.i think we should all be open to the fact we are not everyones cup of tea.if its not just the female it might be the man.i think there are too many men out there though that get nasty hearing no and we have had stackers in our time from. People we never met.so much so I reported them as they kept joining the site and I would have to re block them after they started stalking me again,I agree itsvannoying the amount of friends requests and pic requests from people who have no pics themselves makes me mind boggled.who the hell meets anyone without seeing what they look like .even for a social you want to see what someone looks like.i think we should all man up and realise your not going to meet everyone on this site sexually but at least you can all be nice and have friendship too.

Poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should remain positive in the face of rejection and concentrate your energies on people who think you are sexy and want to meet you.after all one persons Quasimodo might be another persons esmerelda .negativity will not get you meets it will just make you seem more interactive,so go out get your pulling pants on and concentrate ion the people ,guys,woomen or couples that think your sexy and want to shag you.poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Negative not interactive bloody iPad.

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By *kyplusCouple
over a year ago

bridgend

"So, you start a thread moaning about others "demanding" pics, before doing exactly the same yourself?

You send a pic, they turn you down.... And you say they should still send you a pic as "a token of trust"?

Get real!

Do you really expect someone to trust a stranger with their face pics after turning them down?

Here's a solution.... don't send them face pics in the first place... offer to meet them in

person at a social, that way you can get to know loads of others, make friends and maybe pick up a few verifications too.

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By *ynonvalleyboyMan
over a year ago

merthyr

i have face pics. i will not send them with initial messages ( been there done that) quite happy to send them after a few messages or chat on cam

it is quite suprising that the certain fems who demand a face pic never supply one in return. but then i suppose they have multiple choices. i for one never judge on a pic even the most beautiful fem can have bad breath and an appalling attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well some people don't want their face on a swing site just in case they r recognised and 2 b honest some r fake profiles it's a matter of choice I myself would rather see a face but that's my opinion

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they may have a top secret job .lots of us have good jobs but we only chose to share our face pics with people we are really intrested in meeting and to avoid meeting someone you know personally.it does happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree about face pics and peeps jobs, however there is nothing wrong with a polite email of thanks very much but your not my type etc. Some peeps are just plain rude lol like I said minority. Overall I love the site just some people don’t have any manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that the people who have no pictures or the odd one are 2 are the most demanding of face pictures?

The usual reply is following you sending them a picture is - "sorry not my type!"

Without them sending one in return.

Ok perhaps we aren't each others type but a picture to see the face of the person you are chatting to and have trusted with your private picture is a small token of trust and decency?

I clearly state on my profile that I have face pics in private and will happily send on request.

Rant over

Sorry all"

This is a hot potatoe

Been there hance i no longer send face pic.

I would rather meet socially in public place if no attaction we walk away no harm done

I know it is not for everyone and means only meet once in a while but would rather that than they get my face and nothing in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been asked for a face pic and then turned down doesn't bother me. I'm not to every ones taste and would much rather be told straight away rather than turn up to a meet only to be told then.

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