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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So - I’ve been married for 10 years now, and suddenly, sex has almost disappeared. It started with weeks, and now that has turned into months, with no affection at all. I’ve tried being romantic, whisking away for nights away alone, role playing, but nothing is working. Has anyone had experience with this, and what did you do to resolve?

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By *ookinglocal888Man
over a year ago

barry

Could be million things. 10 years can be stale no matter what you do.

Getting elsewhere

You not satisfying her so she like what the point

Over keen

I know if she was into she be all over you if it was doing the job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This describes what led up to my divorce, turned out to be the best thing ever, so take it as a good sign that things are on the up!

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By *oGDomMan
over a year ago

Barry


"Could be million things. 10 years can be stale no matter what you do.

Getting elsewhere

You not satisfying her so she like what the point

Over keen

I know if she was into she be all over you if it was doing the job

"

I don't know what any of this means

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By *ookinglocal888Man
over a year ago

barry

It is stale. She is fucking someone else. After days/weeks of hounding her. When he does finally get a bit. All she gets is needing a shower. Probably drinks and therefore stinks of it. Lots of smelly blokes out there. Unshaven smelly blokes

Could be a million things but agree with the other guy. Fuck her off.

You clearly can understand

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By *ookinglocal888Man
over a year ago

barry

Fuck 10 years of that lol. I get my women by the daily

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Sounds like you are doing you bit mate. Have a conversation with her and lay it all on the table, if things don't get better soon it's time to call it a day

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By *ookinglocal888Man
over a year ago

barry

Unshaven meaning non trimmed down below. Bush bigger than what they got going on.... smelly. just to confirm lol

Guessing a drinker from username. John smiths stinks lol

She could just know he on here talking about her marriage. Maybe doing things. No clue. Don't look at blokes profiles....

But generally to sum it all up. Leave her as hard as may be after 10 years. Is good for your mental health. Your wasting your life whether can get someone new or not..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fuck 10 years of that lol. I get my women by the daily "

I bet you got them falling at your feet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers

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By *ookinglocal888Man
over a year ago

barry

Generally yeah. Hustle here and there for new but yeah. I have.

Don't hate the guy that brings you the facts off the info you provided.

Personally from the married women or divorced women I have spoken to. Once they get a taste elsewhere you toast. Game over

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By *illy_BoboMan
over a year ago

Blackwood


"Sounds like you are doing your bit mate. Have a conversation with her and lay it all on the table, if things don't get better soon it's time to call it a day "

This will be the best piece of advice you will get on here.

You have been on here for a year was this with your wife's consent or together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was the woman in this scenario.

I felt like sex was just another job that was expected of me. It became a chore, clean house, cook dinner,have sex and didn't enjoy it...

Thought I'd lost my sex drive, turns out I just didn't find my husband attractive in any way.

Soon found my sex drive once I was divorced

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"I was the woman in this scenario.

I felt like sex was just another job that was expected of me. It became a chore, clean house, cook dinner,have sex and didn't enjoy it...

Thought I'd lost my sex drive, turns out I just didn't find my husband attractive in any way.

Soon found my sex drive once I was divorced "

Good on you my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never been married but been i a cpl of ltr`s , once the sex ran out so did i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just observing this one lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Potentially the fact you’ve spent a year on here looking for answers/distractions instead of communicating with her?

Have a chat through…Or set her free so both of you don’t have to suffer.

If you’re not in a consensually open relationship, the effort and energy getting put in here might be better spent at home.

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By *irtyDianaHWWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

I’ve been the woman in a 10 yr marriage, not getting the sex and attention I needed.

He worked away for 3/4 nights a week, but when he was home, he just didn’t seem interested in getting intimate. Once I even took a look at his browser history to see what porn he was watching….I took some inspiration, dressed accordingly and paraded around in front of him…….STILL NOTHING!

I knew it was over from that moment! So glad I made the decision to end that relationship. And now I’ve found somebody amazing (who was also in a 10 yr sexless relationship) who introduced me to swinging

My advice - if you’ve really tried your best to make it work, walk away for you both to move on x

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"I’ve been the woman in a 10 yr marriage, not getting the sex and attention I needed.

He worked away for 3/4 nights a week, but when he was home, he just didn’t seem interested in getting intimate. Once I even took a look at his browser history to see what porn he was watching….I took some inspiration, dressed accordingly and paraded around in front of him…….STILL NOTHING!

I knew it was over from that moment! So glad I made the decision to end that relationship. And now I’ve found somebody amazing (who was also in a 10 yr sexless relationship) who introduced me to swinging

My advice - if you’ve really tried your best to make it work, walk away for you both to move on x"

I went through something very similar, was with hubby for 20 years , he also worked away, my take on quality time together was very different to his. I would dress up in basque n stockings for hun to just laugh at me . I once sat one end of the settee from him and masturbated he couldn’t tinged to watch the telly, bit saying a word. I knew it was over no egrets Leaving him.

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By *ob longMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Tell me about it . That's why I'm on here

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By *elshman100Man
over a year ago

Wales

That's why I am on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For all the guys saying leave her, there's more to marriage than sex. Maybe her sex drive has been affected by health reasons , mental or physical. Relationships are built on love not sex.

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By *ookinglocal888Man
over a year ago

barry


"For all the guys saying leave her, there's more to marriage than sex. Maybe her sex drive has been affected by health reasons , mental or physical. Relationships are built on love not sex. "

Sounds shit. No wonder the women leave lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was the woman in this scenario.

I felt like sex was just another job that was expected of me. It became a chore, clean house, cook dinner,have sex and didn't enjoy it...

Thought I'd lost my sex drive, turns out I just didn't find my husband attractive in any way.

Soon found my sex drive once I was divorced "

But you married him so surely you did?

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston


"So - I’ve been married for 10 years now, and suddenly, sex has almost disappeared. It started with weeks, and now that has turned into months, with no affection at all. I’ve tried being romantic, whisking away for nights away alone, role playing, but nothing is working. Has anyone had experience with this, and what did you do to resolve? "

There could be lots of reasons that she’s not into sex or showing affection. Stress can be a big factor , tiredness, maybe she’s not feeling attractive . We only know one side of the story. You need to talk it out, try to work out what is going on.

Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is stale. She is fucking someone else. After days/weeks of hounding her. When he does finally get a bit. All she gets is needing a shower. Probably drinks and therefore stinks of it. Lots of smelly blokes out there. Unshaven smelly blokes

Could be a million things but agree with the other guy. Fuck her off.

I can't imagine why single guys get a bad reputation on here..........

You clearly can understand "

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

sit her down have a Frank and honest conversation with her ask her what happened in the relationship to make her not want to have sex or what's going on there could be 100 different million reasons you really will not know until you ask her tatts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's far too complex for you to get answers on here, I've been there twice. The 1st time he opened up about being gay & has now lived as a woman for many years, the 2nd time was far more complex & I gave up trying. In the end he met someone here & we agreed to part ways, I thought amicably but he clearly felt otherwise & seems to resent my open lifestyle & no longer acknowledges me after 20 years of marriage, certainly his loss & not mine X

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By *irkby coupleCouple
over a year ago

Kirkby

Your profile says 37, assuming your partner is of a similar age. She still has needs and they may be getting taken care off elsewhere.

Bring this site up in convo, a friend in work was talking about it or something. See if she is up for a couples account and that may spark her interest.

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By *elsh_naturist_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Newport


"So - I’ve been married for 10 years now, and suddenly, sex has almost disappeared. It started with weeks, and now that has turned into months, with no affection at all. I’ve tried being romantic, whisking away for nights away alone, role playing, but nothing is working. Has anyone had experience with this, and what did you do to resolve? "

First off maybe she's found out you got a profile on a sex site?

Second have you tried talking to her?

Third maybe she's bored.

Fourth maybe the menopause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be a number of reasons.

Do you make an effort with your appearance? Or do you take it for granted that she’s been with you that long that you don’t need to try?

Do you go on dates? Do you spend any quality time together?

Sometimes in long term relationships it’s easy to be complacent and not make those small efforts that make the difference. Being in a routine where you just exist together can make it like this.

Also, becoming too needy can have the opposite effect.

Have you spoken to her about how you feel?

Maybe join the gym (for mental health reasons not saying you need to)

Have a social life outside of the marriage with your friends, focus on doing things alone and make her miss you. Dress sharp and go for a drink with the lads and stuff like that.

(I’m not making assumptions I’m asking to see if any of this rings a bell. Totally friendly here I’m not being a dick)

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