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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So much has been written about single males and we don't mean to be negative. We recognize there are reliable men on here but their becoming rare.

We get lots of messages from males wanting us to meet on their terms.Arrange the accommodation, meet when they say etc. No compromise . Many seem unprepared to even travel a short distance. Won't even dwell on the short, rude and crude messages.

Rant we know but ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfortunately there are plenty of profiles, male,female abd couples to whom the same could be said... which does kind of spoil it for the genuine meetee...

but it also makes finding and meeting someone genuine so much more satisfying.. if it was all easy would people soon lose interest i wonder?

as a "single" male i do find it hard (sic) to meet genuine people but have managed it (and am not exactly a beautiful person or classed as vwe either - just a regular joe).

keep searching and enjoy the spoils

dave


"So much has been written about single males and we don't mean to be negative. We recognize there are reliable men on here but their becoming rare.

We get lots of messages from males wanting us to meet on their terms.Arrange the accommodation, meet when they say etc. No compromise . Many seem unprepared to even travel a short distance. Won't even dwell on the short, rude and crude messages.

Rant we know but ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much has been written about single males and we don't mean to be negative. We recognize there are reliable men on here but their becoming rare.

We get lots of messages from males wanting us to meet on their terms.Arrange the accommodation, meet when they say etc. No compromise . Many seem unprepared to even travel a short distance. Won't even dwell on the short, rude and crude messages.

Rant we know but ....

"

havent you got anything better to do than come on the forum and slag off single guys we are sick of coming on here and the same old thing slag off single guys.

we have met many good single guys but also bad ones but we have also had the same problems from couples,

if you dont like it just block them or just ignore them why is it getting to you so much just move on.

its not rocket science to out the timewasters to the genuine ones its easy the signs are there,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't say we've found this at all. If anything the men we've encountered have been keen to travel/accom. Though maybe because we have non-negotiable criteria in our profile...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So much has been written about single males and we don't mean to be negative. We recognize there are reliable men on here but their becoming rare.

We get lots of messages from males wanting us to meet on their terms.Arrange the accommodation, meet when they say etc. No compromise . Many seem unprepared to even travel a short distance. Won't even dwell on the short, rude and crude messages.

Rant we know but ....

havent you got anything better to do than come on the forum and slag off single guys we are sick of coming on here and the same old thing slag off single guys.

we have met many good single guys but also bad ones but we have also had the same problems from couples,

if you dont like it just block them or just ignore them why is it getting to you so much just move on.

its not rocket science to out the timewasters to the genuine ones its easy the signs are there,"

We raised it for discussion with the hope of changing attitudes. Not slagging off.Read the post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't say we've found this at all. If anything the men we've encountered have been keen to travel/accom. Though maybe because we have non-negotiable criteria in our profile..."

Perhaps that's the best attitude to have .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So much has been written about single males and we don't mean to be negative. We recognize there are reliable men on here but their becoming rare.

We get lots of messages from males wanting us to meet on their terms.Arrange the accommodation, meet when they say etc. No compromise . Many seem unprepared to even travel a short distance. Won't even dwell on the short, rude and crude messages.

Rant we know but ....

havent you got anything better to do than come on the forum and slag off single guys we are sick of coming on here and the same old thing slag off single guys.

we have met many good single guys but also bad ones but we have also had the same problems from couples,

if you dont like it just block them or just ignore them why is it getting to you so much just move on.

its not rocket science to out the timewasters to the genuine ones its easy the signs are there,

We raised it for discussion with the hope of changing attitudes. Not slagging off.Read the post."

WE read your post and as you say rant over so we dont think it sounds like a way of changing attitudes it sounds like a rant over single guys like you say rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has different desires, requirements and concerns.

As long as everyone is open and honest about their position and expectations and remembers that the other party is not subservient to your needs, then all should be fine.

Never that simple I'm sure, but simply walk away from those that cause vexations, no point getting upset as its highly unlikely selfish people will take heed anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Everyone has different desires, requirements and concerns.

As long as everyone is open and honest about their position and expectations and remembers that the other party is not subservient to your needs, then all should be fine.

Never that simple I'm sure, but simply walk away from those that cause vexations, no point getting upset as its highly unlikely selfish people will take heed anyway. "

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By *ld skool swingerMan
over a year ago

Abertillery

i hate the stigma attached to being a single male , i always put the effort in , i have to cause im ugly

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

i (fem) came to the Wales Forum to look @ new threads only to find THE SAME OP post as in the Swingers Chat Forum

anybody interested in a POSITIVE comment about single guys my opinion is posted there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Read the thread . We just related what we have experienced . It's not anti " single" male.

What are these forums for if not for adult debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

calm down guys xmas is just around the corner good will to all init

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the thread . We just related what we have experienced . It's not anti " single" male.

What are these forums for if not for adult debate.

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Single males have been debated enough. Let it go already

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No one is forced to read the threads are they ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one is forced to read the threads are they ?"

Quite right !

The threads are discussion points for opinions and debate, not for forcing opinions on others.

I'm an attached male, who to say the least faces much criticism in threads, but I respect those opinions. So I simply don't read them if I don't wish to hear opinions, although its healthy to do so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What a refreshing approach .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel that if the op had actually looked at the problem they face "males wanting us to meet on their terms" they could have concluded that a percentage of single males are demanding, self assured and maybe a little arrogant. Instead of posting a "rant" they could have either ignored these people, applied filters to stop single guys or blocked them and filtered out the single guys that actually know how to treat ladies and couples, you'll find they are in demand and don't need to be crass or demanding

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah but the forums exist to do just that .Its called debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah but the forums exist to do just that .Its called debate "

but the topic has been debated to death now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should be for debates, but there have been very few debates in them.

People will use the forum for what they want, be it a discussion, announcement for an event or to proclaim a grievance.

In my experience they tend to be either look at me I have a grievance or look at me I cant get a fuck or would you do the one below

It is open to interpretation however the initial post to me seems to be a grievance as there is nothing to debate. There is no question or invitation to rebut or dare I say it even debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah but the forums exist to do just that .Its called debate "

we think you should practice what you preach.

and we did read your post and you do say that its a rant so is it a rant or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Rant or not it started a debate didn't it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That you did ! I don't usually get involved. Everyone has something worth hearing. It's how they say it that matters.

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