FabSwingers.com forum: Timewasters

By *ustUS in Cardiff OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Should we be able to create a list of timewasters & fakes on here?

Seems to be plenty of them about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should we be able to create a list of timewasters & fakes on here?

Seems to be plenty of them about."

The server would explode with the volume of them

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By *leasure-QueenWoman
over a year ago

The twilight zone

Personally I think no we shouldn’t.

One persons perception of a “ time waster” will differ greatly from another’s.

What constitutes a time waster?

Someone who chats for a while and then loses interest, then ghosts?

Arranges a meet and is a no show?

Someone who chats and then life gets in the way so they have to take a break?

Just some examples of what could be considered a time waster.

Naming and shaming isn’t the way forward.

Just report the no shows, perceived time wasters and move on.

Don’t let it get you down and lash out by naming and shaming I say.

Make love not war

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales

"Personally I think no we shouldn’t.

One persons perception of a “ time waster” will differ greatly from another’s.

What constitutes a time waster?

Someone who chats for a while and then loses interest, then ghosts?

Arranges a meet and is a no show?

Someone who chats and then life gets in the way so they have to take a break?

Just some examples of what could be considered a time waster.

Naming and shaming isn’t the way forward.

Just report the no shows, perceived time wasters and move on.

Don’t let it get you down and lash out by naming and shaming I say.

Make love not war

That is the sensible thing to do

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By *hewankinmanMan
over a year ago

wales

"Personally I think no we shouldn’t.

One persons perception of a “ time waster” will differ greatly from another’s.

What constitutes a time waster?

Someone who chats for a while and then loses interest, then ghosts?

Arranges a meet and is a no show?

Someone who chats and then life gets in the way so they have to take a break?

Just some examples of what could be considered a time waster.

Naming and shaming isn’t the way forward.

Just report the no shows, perceived time wasters and move on.

Don’t let it get you down and lash out by naming and shaming I say.

Make love not war

Someone that invites you to their house then doesn’t open the door ??

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By *leasure-QueenWoman
over a year ago

The twilight zone

"Personally I think no we shouldn’t.

One persons perception of a “ time waster” will differ greatly from another’s.

What constitutes a time waster?

Someone who chats for a while and then loses interest, then ghosts?

Arranges a meet and is a no show?

Someone who chats and then life gets in the way so they have to take a break?

Just some examples of what could be considered a time waster.

Naming and shaming isn’t the way forward.

Just report the no shows, perceived time wasters and move on.

Don’t let it get you down and lash out by naming and shaming I say.

Make love not war

Someone that invites you to their house then doesn’t open the door ??"

Granted that’s an extreme example and undoubtedly has happened to some people.

Highly frustrating and inconvenient but all we can do is report and move on.

My point is, if there’s a public list it’ll expose all members to potential abuse or ostracisation. The reasons for them being named may or may not be justified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think no we shouldn’t.

One persons perception of a “ time waster” will differ greatly from another’s.

What constitutes a time waster?

Someone who chats for a while and then loses interest, then ghosts?

Arranges a meet and is a no show?

Someone who chats and then life gets in the way so they have to take a break?

Just some examples of what could be considered a time waster.

Naming and shaming isn’t the way forward.

Just report the no shows, perceived time wasters and move on.

Don’t let it get you down and lash out by naming and shaming I say.

Make love not war

Someone that invites you to their house then doesn’t open the door ??

Granted that’s an extreme example and undoubtedly has happened to some people.

Highly frustrating and inconvenient but all we can do is report and move on.

My point is, if there’s a public list it’ll expose all members to potential abuse or ostracisation. The reasons for them being named may or may not be justified.

I just think there are 2 sides to every story and anyone can label anyone a time waster out of spite if they want to, so as a site tool it would be totally useless

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

No, that would not end well, as frustrating as it is.

Just deal with them as you do with all the other time waters in our lives, ignore and avoid, if you can. Here it's at least easier than with work or family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think no we shouldn’t.

One persons perception of a “ time waster” will differ greatly from another’s.

What constitutes a time waster?

Someone who chats for a while and then loses interest, then ghosts?

Arranges a meet and is a no show?

Someone who chats and then life gets in the way so they have to take a break?

Just some examples of what could be considered a time waster.

Naming and shaming isn’t the way forward.

Just report the no shows, perceived time wasters and move on.

Don’t let it get you down and lash out by naming and shaming I say.

Make love not war

Someone that invites you to their house then doesn’t open the door ??"

i had a phone call whilst parking the car outside someones house saying theres been a change of mind , just move on and stay positive ,plenty of genuine people on here

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By *wmbranmikeMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

Nothing worse than arranging to meet then last minute they make an excuse grr lol

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Someone that invites you to their house then doesn’t open the door? "

That would be an awful thing, sorry if it happened to you.

I'm sure this isn't you, but what if the guy turned up and as he approached the house the other person could see he was 20 years older, completely different body shape and dressed in shitty clothing? I think a few people wouldn't answer the door.

In that instance perhaps they shouldn't be called out for doing it?

Gbat

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By *ust Us TogetherCouple
over a year ago

Newport

One person posting in here is a total timewaster. Left us waiting for him to turn up giving excuse after excuse why he was late. Never even left his house...

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By *etpanteaseWoman
over a year ago

cearphilly

Imagine how many I'd have in that "said list" after being here for 3 yrs plus.

Yes they should b named n shamed x

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By *ikesfun1Man
over a year ago

around and about

100% and there should be a 3 strike rule , mess users around 3 times then get kicked off

same as not profile pics within a month get kicked off

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By *etpanteaseWoman
over a year ago

cearphilly

Well said ,I totally agree x

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By *ikesfun1Man
over a year ago

around and about

too many like it unfortunately, ive driven 40 mins too meet someone and they then decided to go offline when i was in the street I could even see they was in touching distance

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By *ustUS in Cardiff OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"100% and there should be a 3 strike rule , mess users around 3 times then get kicked off

same as not profile pics within a month get kicked off "

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where does it end though? A ban from the website? No problem, just set up with another email address. It won’t solve anything g. As others have said, just report and move on. There a block function to enjoy using as well. Someone annoyed you? Block them and get on with your life.

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By *ev257Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Wish they would have a time wasters list.

Save a lot of time n disappointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where does it end though? A ban from the website? No problem, just set up with another email address. It won’t solve anything g. As others have said, just report and move on. There a block function to enjoy using as well. Someone annoyed you? Block them and get on with your life."

Well said, then again it works the other way too.

For example, someone messaged me out of the blue asking for a meet there and then.

When I replied saying I was going to work and wasn't looking to meet until next week, I was told to fuck off, called a time waster and blocked lol.

All because I didn't fit their Time schedule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just block them won't see them again quite a long list though and getting longer!

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By *wanseaBi35Man
over a year ago

swansea

Excellent attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think no we shouldn’t.

One persons perception of a “ time waster” will differ greatly from another’s.

What constitutes a time waster?

Someone who chats for a while and then loses interest, then ghosts?

Arranges a meet and is a no show?

Someone who chats and then life gets in the way so they have to take a break?

Just some examples of what could be considered a time waster.

Naming and shaming isn’t the way forward.

Just report the no shows, perceived time wasters and move on.

Don’t let it get you down and lash out by naming and shaming I say.

Make love not war

Someone that invites you to their house then doesn’t open the door ??

Granted that’s an extreme example and undoubtedly has happened to some people.

Highly frustrating and inconvenient but all we can do is report and move on.

My point is, if there’s a public list it’ll expose all members to potential abuse or ostracisation. The reasons for them being named may or may not be justified.

I just think there are 2 sides to every story and anyone can label anyone a time waster out of spite if they want to, so as a site tool it would be totally useless

Spot on P, it would be open to misuse X

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By *ustUS in Cardiff OP Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I just block them won't see them again quite a long list though and getting longer! "

Our list is probably longer!

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