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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette.

This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS !

Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY.

1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone.

2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on.

3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first.

4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine.

5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason.

6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue.

7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room.

Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ?

Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room.

Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ

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By *ord MarmiteMan
over a year ago

BRIDGEND

Great post CJ .

I would also like to add that just because you may have played with someone before or even that night, it doesn't grant you the rights to assume that you can play with them again. Treat each and every play situation as a brand new one. Ask and find out if they are open to a repeat situation first. And when you have left the room and the play is over, that's usually it. Game Over for that situation unless it's been discussed already to continue one way or another. People being over familiar just because they have had sex can be quite uncomfortable indeed. So go back to a hands free polite approach even if you just blew someone's mind.

Respect is everything. Courtesy costs nothing. Don't be that guy who people talk about after for being inappropriate or weird .

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By *ust Peachy 1Woman
over a year ago

Ammanford

Exactly what he said!

This gent is the gold standard of single gents. The single guys could learn alot from CJ!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A to the men CJ!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with every word written here. As a single woman it can be quite daunting having single guys following you around and trying to play footsie in the hot tub with you and half the time they don't even say a word to you while they are doing it. Respect and consent is a must here guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more! Also a little grooming goes a long way - not saying get the razor out and shave everything, but a little pruning on the garden goes along way!

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By *leasure-QueenWoman
over a year ago

The twilight zone

I’d like to add that the above advice doesn’t merely apply to single guys.

We must all be respectful towards each other

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By *ilthy brownieMan
over a year ago

yours

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By *ilthy brownieMan
over a year ago

yours

I agree some guys are just have no patience...be Respectful to everyone and be nice too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great post CJ .

I would also like to add that just because you may have played with someone before or even that night, it doesn't grant you the rights to assume that you can play with them again. Treat each and every play situation as a brand new one. Ask and find out if they are open to a repeat situation first. And when you have left the room and the play is over, that's usually it. Game Over for that situation unless it's been discussed already to continue one way or another. People being over familiar just because they have had sex can be quite uncomfortable indeed. So go back to a hands free polite approach even if you just blew someone's mind.

Respect is everything. Courtesy costs nothing. Don't be that guy who people talk about after for being inappropriate or weird . "

You're both spot on but this one is usually my particular issue, I rarely want a repeat once I'm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with every word written here. As a single woman it can be quite daunting having single guys following you around and trying to play footsie in the hot tub with you and half the time they don't even say a word to you while they are doing it. Respect and consent is a must here guys x"

Never mind the footsie it's the toe up the minge that grips my shit aaaaargh

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"I’d like to add that the above advice doesn’t merely apply to single guys.

We must all be respectful towards each other "

Yes you are right about that.

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By *imandHer9396Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

All of this also applies to the jucuzzi. Unless you have been invited to touch, don't.

The bubbles don't make you invisible.

If you think touching without consent is ok at a club, you really shouldn't be out in public full stop.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say it louder for the people in the back! Amazing post CJ!

Can I just add. It’s people that don’t follow these simple things that have led to me being put off clubs for the foreseeable if not forever!! So behave

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

Brilliant points CJ and Lord Marmite! For me the biggest off putting reason I haven't been to the club recently is that so many people just see it as a place to get so inebriated. I'm not a party pooper by any means but very d*unk people aren't attractive. It also can leave people in a vulnerable position. Not knowing what is going on so the issue of consent or not would be a red flag...

On the hygiene front, as well as washing your 'bits' please don't forget armpits too..

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By *indictiveMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Seems to be great advice, just sad that it needs to be said at all

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Great post!

I think I remember the old post you mention, or a similar one, which I used as a guide for my first ever proper club visit a few weeks ago. What did shock me was the amount of people who DON’T follow this advice.

Consent and respect is everything, socialising is important and entitlement is a no go

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another bump for bump day

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

If any guys thinking of attending a club this weekend be worth a read

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales

Cj op can you do one for dogging advice please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If any guys thinking of attending a club this weekend be worth a read "

CJ can you take me dogging? It's on my bucket list

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By *itenDaysCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan


"Great post CJ .

I would also like to add that just because you may have played with someone before or even that night, it doesn't grant you the rights to assume that you can play with them again. Treat each and every play situation as a brand new one. Ask and find out if they are open to a repeat situation first. And when you have left the room and the play is over, that's usually it. Game Over for that situation unless it's been discussed already to continue one way or another. People being over familiar just because they have had sex can be quite uncomfortable indeed. So go back to a hands free polite approach even if you just blew someone's mind.

Respect is everything. Courtesy costs nothing. Don't be that guy who people talk about after for being inappropriate or weird . "

Amazing posts from both of you and we hope that these words of advice travel far and wide, and make clubs a much better environment for everyone to enjoy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect to this!!!

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By *nsatiables21Couple
over a year ago

Neverland

Really hoping that people are going to follow this after we visit chams soon after what seems like forever as its our only club and we can't let the minority to ruin it, they just need training and a firm hand

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All of this also applies to the jucuzzi. Unless you have been invited to touch, don't.

The bubbles don't make you invisible.

If you think touching without consent is ok at a club, you really shouldn't be out in public full stop.

Her x"

^^^^ This. It has happened to me, too. LadyO

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Just a bump for Fridays event

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By *unning-ManMan
over a year ago

Prestbury

Do you remember the old Swimming Pool Rules posters, like No Running, No Pushing etc.? Could do with a similar one for clubs and dotted around to remind people

Laminated of course just in case

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By *rofMan
over a year ago

Around

Not bad CJ

There's one flaw in the post, most men won't bother to read anything longer than a paragraph or choose to ignore their unwanted advances.

How many times has valid advice been given? if I remember there's the peackcock thread that's lost to the depths of the forums.

Nobody should be made to feel uncomfortable, have some social skills be respectful and no means no. It's not that hard (no pun intended) ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been an enlightening thread.

I have never had the opportunity to attend a club as of yet and this has given me insight as to what happens on said occasions.

Once I feel confident after a few socials and meets. I would hope to join and meet some great people.

Just like swimming, you can't go diving in at the deep end.

Thank you CJ and all for your advice.

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump for anyone going to a club tonight

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

A few there last night who had read this so thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This needs to be bumped back to the top ready for Fridays BBW Event I think xx

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By *carlett CumslutWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off! "

Unfortunately babe those type of men don't think they need to read these forums

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By *carlett CumslutWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

I know, unfortunately. He ever pulls a stunt like it again and he will definitely have a telling off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is awful

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By *oxy babeWoman
over a year ago

gower


"I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off! "

I had a guy do this on Saturday night, until I informed him about consent and asked if he’d rather I hit him, he soon backed off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off!

I am shocked

I had a guy do this on Saturday night, until I informed him about consent and asked if he’d rather I hit him, he soon backed off "

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

This really needs to be read for any guys going friday

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"This really needs to be read for any guys going friday "

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales


"This really needs to be read for any guys going friday "

And Saturday

Come on guys read it and absorb it you will go a long way

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By *ord MarmiteMan
over a year ago

BRIDGEND


"I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off! "

He is lucky I didn't see this happen! Purely inexcusable behaviour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This really needs to be read for any guys going friday "

Definitely

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"This really needs to be read for any guys going friday

Definitely "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys please read this! Its invaluable advice

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

A bump... hoping guys will read this as it's at the top..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all I have been to clubs as man and wife mostly in England but the last time was about 15 years ago I am now single and have been for the last 8 years I have attempted to go to clubs and socials but bottled out

Last minute, however I often wonder when it does happen how would it behave and my list was as the advice you guys have given that as

encouraged me more now to go ,so if you do see a well behaved man that talks and tells lots of stories it will be me thanks for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all I have been to clubs as man and wife mostly in England but the last time was about 15 years ago I am now single and have been for the last 8 years I have attempted to go to clubs and socials but bottled out

Last minute, however I often wonder when it does happen how would it behave and my list was as the advice you guys have given that as

encouraged me more now to go ,so if you do see a well behaved man that talks and tells lots of stories it will be me thanks for that "

I'll hold your hand sometime X

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump this up as you never know a guy might actually read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette.

Been really wanting to go for years but never pulled my self closer enough to the entrance to go lol. But threading this I think I'm ready. Is Friday a good night for a first timer xx

This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS !

Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY.

1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone.

2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on.

3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first.

4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine.

5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason.

6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue.

7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room.

Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ?

Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room.

Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump for any guys going after the social

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By *ild WomanWoman
over a year ago

Carlow

Love for single women going while on holiday to club and how to keep safe at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bump again

I'm off to my first club in Oct and while all these "rules" should be common sense I understand that men are stupid (I am one)

I was directed here from another page and I can't believe all this has to be written down and women are still being touched without being asked

WTAF!!!

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"Bump again

I'm off to my first club in Oct and while all these "rules" should be common sense I understand that men are stupid (I am one)

I was directed here from another page and I can't believe all this has to be written down and women are still being touched without being asked

WTAF!!!"

Yes it's unbelievable that guys are still doing it !

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By *ookinglocal888Man
over a year ago

barry

I personally think this is just copy and pasted dribble that I definitely didn't read past 2 lines and still could roll up in the club and be all eyez on me lol and blokes that you calling out all know is connection like any club. Respect like any club. Don't apply get kicked out like any club. I think blokes know by now how to get women lol I also know what definitely ain't getting women

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"I personally think this is just copy and pasted dribble that I definitely didn't read past 2 lines and still could roll up in the club and be all eyez on me lol and blokes that you calling out all know is connection like any club. Respect like any club. Don't apply get kicked out like any club. I think blokes know by now how to get women lol I also know what definitely ain't getting women "

Well that made sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally think this is just copy and pasted dribble that I definitely didn't read past 2 lines and still could roll up in the club and be all eyez on me lol and blokes that you calling out all know is connection like any club. Respect like any club. Don't apply get kicked out like any club. I think blokes know by now how to get women lol I also know what definitely ain't getting women

Well that made sense "

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bump again

I'm off to my first club in Oct and while all these "rules" should be common sense I understand that men are stupid (I am one)

I was directed here from another page and I can't believe all this has to be written down and women are still being touched without being asked

WTAF!!!"

it's not like the people who do it, are actually going to read information on such matters though

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By *AZTASTICMan
over a year ago

Barry

Thanks for the advice. I am still waiting to try a club. Think I'll try and go with someone. Lol any offers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette.

This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS !that is great advice, wish I could ask you more

Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY.

1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone.

2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on.

3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first.

4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine.

5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason.

6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue.

7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room.

Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ?

Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room.

Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ "

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By *ibbler and the NobblerCouple
over a year ago

Maesteg

Bumping this because a dickhead touched out friend 3 times last night despite being told every time. Also tried to get closer to me whilst playing,even when my boyfriend told him to basically fuck off.

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

A good read for any guys going to give a club a try

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump for weekend club visits by guys

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By *oraceCouple
over a year ago

Newport


"Bumping this because a dickhead touched out friend 3 times last night despite being told every time. Also tried to get closer to me whilst playing,even when my boyfriend told him to basically fuck off."

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By *wanseaBi35Man
over a year ago

swansea


"Do you remember the old Swimming Pool Rules posters, like No Running, No Pushing etc.? Could do with a similar one for clubs and dotted around to remind people

Laminated of course just in case "

Great idea!

Definitely need to mention "not to follow people from room to room"

At times ive felt like I was in the old scooby-doo cartoon, running away from the monster from room to room. Not to mention it was my "friend's" first experience going there.

Massive boner killer! lol

They won't read this, but posters would be a great idea.

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By *nsatiables21Couple
over a year ago

Neverland

I'll say this a little louder for those in the back

No means no and don't you be afraid to tell them sternly, it's the only thing that works. And if it doesn't or you're shy tell staff

Mrs

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By *j71Man
over a year ago

Soham

I think you've covered most things.

What I'd add is about expectations. If you arrive expecting to play. You will most likely have a shit night.

I go expecting to meet and spend time with nice open and fun people regardless of whether I play or not it's a good night.

Keep doing this and you'll be suprised.

Chatting and having a laugh gets you way further than standing around hoping to get involved (basically don't be a wanking zombie).

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"Bump "

Bump,bump,bump

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By *weet_candy_kissWoman
over a year ago

close to u

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By *weet_candy_kissWoman
over a year ago

close to u


"[Removed by poster at 23/09/22 16:41:39]"

I was just having this conversation with a new single male and he couldn’t get over that some men just creep about and wank and don’t even say hi

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By *leasure-QueenWoman
over a year ago

The twilight zone

Bump

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Swinging clubs are not brothels, just because you have paid an entrance fee does not guarantee you a ride.

You wouldn't touch anyone up in a nightclub without permission don't think you can in a swingers club.

Sad indictment of our times that people lack Manners and common courtesy.

Manners maketh the man, and man with Manners ie a gentleman is more likely to get fun than a nobhead.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Fantatsic post mate

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place


"[Removed by poster at 23/09/22 16:41:39]

I was just having this conversation with a new single male and he couldn’t get over that some men just creep about and wank and don’t even say hi "

This actually happens??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens every time Ive been there. When I've allowed guys to stay and watch I've had to tell them to back off as they are wanking a foot away from my face

Dont fancy a bukkake from them tbh.

Going in as a couple single guys tend to respect you more for some reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happens every time Ive been there. When I've allowed guys to stay and watch I've had to tell them to back off as they are wanking a foot away from my face

Dont fancy a bukkake from them tbh.

Going in as a couple single guys tend to respect you more for some reason"

Omg some guy was wanking so close to my face once I felt his cock brush my cheek, I instinctively punched him in the chest...bleurgh

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"Happens every time Ive been there. When I've allowed guys to stay and watch I've had to tell them to back off as they are wanking a foot away from my face

Dont fancy a bukkake from them tbh.

Going in as a couple single guys tend to respect you more for some reason

Omg some guy was wanking so close to my face once I felt his cock brush my cheek, I instinctively punched him in the chest...bleurgh"

Hope you punched him really hard!

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By *andomAccessMemoryMan
over a year ago

Usk

Often is the time I have had to be firm with the wanking dead there, there was one time that I was trying to walk down a corridor after playing with a magnificent hard on and the wanking dead did not give me rager room o needed so I just brushed my way past dragging my pride across the ignorant key jinglers. Best advice is to talk to people and make an effort to treat people right.

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales

Bumped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette.

This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS !

Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY.

1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone.

2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on.

3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first.

4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine.

5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason.

6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue.

7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room.

Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ?

Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room.

Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ "

Thanks OP

I have yet to attend a club and this has been great advice.

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Thaught I'd bump this after some of the recent posts by single guys not getting any luck. Treat the site like this as its just the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happens every time Ive been there. When I've allowed guys to stay and watch I've had to tell them to back off as they are wanking a foot away from my face

Dont fancy a bukkake from them tbh.

Going in as a couple single guys tend to respect you more for some reason

Omg some guy was wanking so close to my face once I felt his cock brush my cheek, I instinctively punched him in the chest...bleurgh

Hope you punched him really hard! "

I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bump

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By *hriscaroline36Couple
over a year ago

Treharris

I think you need to add, if there's loads of space in the hottube, then don't sit as close as you can to a couple/others, give people space and have a chat instead. And if you do sit to close and people move away dont then move close to them again.

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By *AZTASTICMan
over a year ago

Barry

No petting..unless invited of course

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By *AZTASTICMan
over a year ago

Barry

Great advice. Thank you

Still on my list to attend a club. Been in the lifestyle off and on for longer than I can remember.

Any advice on clothing etc. What to wear when you get there or remove etc.?

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I think you need to add, if there's loads of space in the hottube, then don't sit as close as you can to a couple/others, give people space and have a chat instead. And if you do sit to close and people move away dont then move close to them again. "

Yeah you talked to us about this last night. Id find that creepy and id have told him to fuck right off lmao. X

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette.

This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS !

Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY.

1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone.

2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on.

3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first.

4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine.

5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason.

6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue.

7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room.

Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ?

Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room.

Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ "

Great talking to you last night. There were a few wanking zombies there last night. But to be fair most of the guys were respectful.

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By *carlett CumslutWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour!

Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour!

Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!"

What happened babe? Message if you want. Boundries are non existant on saterdays by some we were told last night. X

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour!

Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!"

It's the same old story for Saturdays. Such a shame

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By *itaMiaWoman
over a year ago

Taffs Well


"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour!

Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!"

Ive just read this and seen your comment, was this 22nd?. I was there that night it was awful. I stayed for a little after 11pm but ended up leaving as there was a man still there who couldn't keep his hands to himself despite being told numerous times throughout the night.

Hope you are OK x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour!

Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!

It's the same old story for Saturdays. Such a shame "

You're right CJ the poor behaviour is sadly slipping into the Saturday night, not enough to report but enough to tell guys bluntly. Remember guys it doesn't help your cause going round all night telling women they'll enjoy your 8 inches & for the guy I politely chatted to at the bar, that nice chat was not an invitation to touch me for the rest of the night. I'm lucky enough to be able to stand up for myself but I can see that it's not so easy for others. Shape up or ship out guys X

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By *ristolian_in_NewportMan
over a year ago

Newport

I can't comprehend why blokes would think touching and grabbing (without permission!) is ok.

I've only ever been to one swingers night (Remix in Swindon) and it all seemed very respectful there.

I've been groped and grabbed at the Greenhouse, but that's on gay/she-dazzle days and was what I was there for! I would hope people would back off if I told them to, it's horrible to think somebody would keep doing it despite being told no.

I guess it all comes down to the management needing to crack down on any bad behaviour.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour!

Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!

Ive just read this and seen your comment, was this 22nd?. I was there that night it was awful. I stayed for a little after 11pm but ended up leaving as there was a man still there who couldn't keep his hands to himself despite being told numerous times throughout the night.

Hope you are OK x"

Give him a slap. Its sexual assault. Clubs can get in to trouble if you reported it to the police. Clubs need security staff i think these days.

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By *ockyroad666Man
over a year ago

Maesteg

If you behave badly as a single guy you are letting the side down! “ don’t be a horny idiot” is the number 1 fab rule lol

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

I think if i am ever groped unwantingly id just slap him hard even if i get asked to leave myself. Sorry but unless us girls react these idiots who spoil it for the tidy guys get away with it.

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

My standard reply to getting touched/groped without consent is:

Touch me again without my consent and I'll punch your lights out..

It usually works lol..

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"My standard reply to getting touched/groped without consent is:

Touch me again without my consent and I'll punch your lights out..

It usually works lol.. "

Id hit them the first time. No way will i put up with unsolicited groping. In a play sinario the guy can grope all he wants as he has my permission but not by some guy who because he payed entry to a club now thinks it entitles him to touch up any woman he likes.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"My standard reply to getting touched/groped without consent is:

Touch me again without my consent and I'll punch your lights out..

It usually works lol..

Id hit them the first time. No way will i put up with unsolicited groping. In a play sinario the guy can grope all he wants as he has my permission but not by some guy who because he payed entry to a club now thinks it entitles him to touch up any woman he likes. "

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"My standard reply to getting touched/groped without consent is:

Touch me again without my consent and I'll punch your lights out..

It usually works lol..

Id hit them the first time. No way will i put up with unsolicited groping. In a play sinario the guy can grope all he wants as he has my permission but not by some guy who because he payed entry to a club now thinks it entitles him to touch up any woman he likes. "

Completely agree with this… I ask if it’s ok for me to sit next to someone in a club let alone anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Completely agree with this… I ask if it’s ok for me to sit next to someone in a club let alone anything else "

Thats the correct way. You wouldnt just sit next to someone in the vanilla world without asking first.

Unfortunately some people (I've seen women as well as men) think they thay it is a fuck club and they can touch who they like as they've paid an entrance fee.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"

Completely agree with this… I ask if it’s ok for me to sit next to someone in a club let alone anything else

Thats the correct way. You wouldnt just sit next to someone in the vanilla world without asking first.

Unfortunately some people (I've seen women as well as men) think they thay it is a fuck club and they can touch who they like as they've paid an entrance fee."

True words.

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By *carlett CumslutWoman
over a year ago

cardiff


"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour!

Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!

Ive just read this and seen your comment, was this 22nd?. I was there that night it was awful. I stayed for a little after 11pm but ended up leaving as there was a man still there who couldn't keep his hands to himself despite being told numerous times throughout the night.

Hope you are OK x"

That was the night!

I think I’ll have to start giving them a slap, nice red handprint across the face will be a good warning to others

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour!

Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!

Ive just read this and seen your comment, was this 22nd?. I was there that night it was awful. I stayed for a little after 11pm but ended up leaving as there was a man still there who couldn't keep his hands to himself despite being told numerous times throughout the night.

Hope you are OK x

That was the night!

I think I’ll have to start giving them a slap, nice red handprint across the face will be a good warning to others "

Definitely give them a slap! No is no...always

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bumping this as there may be on the off chance someone who reads it before they go the club tonight

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump again and I will before Friday in hope guys will read this

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey


"Bump again and I will before Friday in hope guys will read this "

Hopefully they will

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

Dirty cunts there. I know exactly who they are that acts like that

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Dirty cunts there. I know exactly who they are that acts like that "

There were a only a few guys there when we went on our first visit a few weeks ago who were creepy. They were in they late 70's and kept constantly staring at a few of us ladies and one followed me most times when i went to the toilet and locker room. That creeped me out a bit and i felt a bit wary going so john came with me when i needed to go. To be fair the younger guys were tidy if i am honest. Joanne.

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

Yeah one old guy kept trying on with the missus and another foreign guy kept getting his dick out to her

I'm extremely tolerant tbf plus she's got it covered

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

When I was in the swing I had a guy in his 60s/70s wanking about a foot from my face and I had to shout at him to back off. Then he kept talking to us whilst we were "busy". Another guy came in to watch and the old geezer threw him out! He was told to f off after that.

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"Yeah one old guy kept trying on with the missus and another foreign guy kept getting his dick out to her

I'm extremely tolerant tbf plus she's got it covered "

Unfortunately they spoil it for the guys who do abide by respect

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran


"When I was in the swing I had a guy in his 60s/70s wanking about a foot from my face and I had to shout at him to back off. Then he kept talking to us whilst we were "busy". Another guy came in to watch and the old geezer threw him out! He was told to f off after that."

Upstairs is where all the fucking weirdos are, unfortunately the good stuff is up there but it's always the same when you go up. They all come scurrying out dick in hand

Fucking denizens

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By *etnWelsh21Couple
over a year ago

Barry

This is part of what is putting us off going. I know there are loads of respectful people that do go but it's always the minority that ruin the experience. Are the staff good at dealing with them if you tell them?

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran


"Yeah one old guy kept trying on with the missus and another foreign guy kept getting his dick out to her

I'm extremely tolerant tbf plus she's got it covered

Unfortunately they spoil it for the guys who do abide by respect

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Loads of respectful guys there. My advice would be, watch yourself up the top

Funny, talking about it triggers me way more then on the night.

Either way they are no threat which is why I'm polite enough back but if i thought it was bothering her I'd step in and warn them but it doesn't.

Probably loves the attention secretly haha

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran


"This is part of what is putting us off going. I know there are loads of respectful people that do go but it's always the minority that ruin the experience. Are the staff good at dealing with them if you tell them?"

Unsure about that but ive heard they are on it with the troublemakers.

We will be there 2 weeks Saturday, always welcome to tag along for a little while til you feel comfortable to branch off.

Our first night was great.

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By *etnWelsh21Couple
over a year ago

Barry

Aw that's very kind of you. We went to a club back in the summer with some friends for the first time and it was great having some familiar faces so we may well take you up on that. Is that the 26th?

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By *eard and TattsCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran

Yes that's the one. We usually do Saturdays, well, only done Saturdays so far

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales

Oi oi everyone

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"Oi oi everyone "

Change those flip flops

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales


"Oi oi everyone

Change those flip flops "

Lol that’s the best part getting caught red handed

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Bump "

Lets hope they behave at chams tonight. I will have no hesitation if i am touched without permission they will get a very hard slap. Thanks for bumping CJ. joanne.

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump for tonight

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Any guys wishing to attend for their first time had better call the club in advance as I was informed there is now a waiting list for single guy membership

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Gonna bump this because I can

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By *corpio86777Man
over a year ago

cardiff

i am a single guy and would like to try one of these clubs whats the best way to go about it im extremely outgoing and treat others how they treat me im very familiar with consent as i hate all that forced upon shit hell i cross the road to make a lone walking woman feel safer just the way i was raised so i would like to try to go to a club and see how it pans out any info would be greatly appreciated

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bumping this for any guys going tonight after the social

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By *carlett CumslutWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

Bumping for Friday night!

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By *atKat-xoxWoman
over a year ago

Neath,united kingdom

Bumping because some Guys last night from the club clearly think it's appropriate to bang on doors and follow women around, and touch without consent.

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey


"Bumping because some Guys last night from the club clearly think it's appropriate to bang on doors and follow women around, and touch without consent."

Not amused with the touching my arse without consent last night by the bar but so packed I couldnt tell who had done it

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

This thread is awesome.

However...

...according to Fabs own stats, only about 1% of fab users use the forums.

A better idea would be to have some great words of advice like this printed out, laminated, and given to every guy (single, or in a couple) who walks through the club door.

Even then, a lot will either not read it, or just ignore what's written unfortunately.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Why do guys in a club stalk ladies and cpls. Touching and grabbing a ladies arse/boobs is also seen by them ok to do because they paid to get in. In the street they could be arrested for these offences but in clubs they go fucking brain dead. This is why so many people get nasty towards them as the thick fuckers cannot or do not want to see what they are doing is wrong. Chams should ban these guys for life but they wont as they make more money off the single guys than anyone else. If clubs shared names of these undesireables with each other and gave them a total block from entering any clubs the enviroment would helf the ladies relax more to play with the decent men who treat them with respect. Clubs need to do more to eradicate these types who give the tidy lady a hard time getting meets there.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

As a fairly new man to attend clubs any help is greatly appreciated, I've been to the Greenhouse a couple of times and always found it a friendly place although being on the shy side arriving on my own would always be nervous. I've chatted to some lovely people male and female, never been there when it's chams as think that would be more intimating. Always happy to receive and invite if only as friends.

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By *atKat-xoxWoman
over a year ago

Neath,united kingdom


"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful. "

My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire


"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful.

My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice "

I remember meeting you both last Christmas, you were a lovely couple to chat to. Thank you for that.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful.

My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice "

There were two guys there that night both late 70's at least. Joanne can stick up for herself so no problem telling them to back off. But why should she have to. Its a place to chill with like minded people but the pervy fuckers go and spoil it. The same guy sat opposite a cpl just because she had a crotchless body on and thats the area he kept staring at until her hubby gave him a mouthful looking is fine abd i find it a turn on other guys looking at her and chatting to her but stalking and touching without permission is taking the piss. John

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By *ai MyrddinMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful.

My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice "

Sorry to hear you had to put up with that shit

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful.

My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice

Sorry to hear you had to put up with that shit "

Infortunately dai a few wankers ( literately) spoil it for the real tidy gents out there. Clubs need to contact each other and ban the buggers from all the clubs. No room for disrespectful people in clubs. To mant times you hear off ladies on here about guys coping a feel without permission in clubs. Banning them is the only way unfortunately as they cannot see what they are doing is out of order.

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By *usesCouple
over a year ago

Merthyr Tydfil


"This thread is awesome.

However...

...according to Fabs own stats, only about 1% of fab users use the forums.

A better idea would be to have some great words of advice like this printed out, laminated, and given to every guy (single, or in a couple) who walks through the club door.

Even then, a lot will either not read it, or just ignore what's written unfortunately. "

The other factor to note is that you do not have to have a _rofile on fab to be a member of Chameleons. Anyone can be a member .... There is very little vetting of people. Everyone needs to be vigilant and stay safe.

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"This thread is awesome.

However...

...according to Fabs own stats, only about 1% of fab users use the forums.

A better idea would be to have some great words of advice like this printed out, laminated, and given to every guy (single, or in a couple) who walks through the club door.

Even then, a lot will either not read it, or just ignore what's written unfortunately. "

It's the same for any club. The purpose of the thread was that even if a minority of guys read it, they know how to present themselves at a club.

In my eyes, I've done my bit to attempt to get the message over to some

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire


"This thread is awesome.

However...

...according to Fabs own stats, only about 1% of fab users use the forums.

A better idea would be to have some great words of advice like this printed out, laminated, and given to every guy (single, or in a couple) who walks through the club door.

Even then, a lot will either not read it, or just ignore what's written unfortunately.

It's the same for any club. The purpose of the thread was that even if a minority of guys read it, they know how to present themselves at a club.

In my eyes, I've done my bit to attempt to get the message over to some "

1 more bit of advise that's wasn't told to me when I first visited the greenhouse...... Take flip flops.

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By *carlett CumslutWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

As always with the club- if staff are told they do have words or kick these type of people out. Not enough people report them for the club to eradicate the vermin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had an issue once at Chams Newport girl I was playing with one on one asked this idiot to stop touching her as we were getting it on he didn’t listen and at third attempt of him trying she stopped and he ran off I caught with him later had words he shit himself reported it to staff who dealt with impeccable and kicked him out sadly I have seen him there again since for me once is enough to receive permanent ban

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Had an issue once at Chams Newport girl I was playing with one on one asked this idiot to stop touching her as we were getting it on he didn’t listen and at third attempt of him trying she stopped and he ran off I caught with him later had words he shit himself reported it to staff who dealt with impeccable and kicked him out sadly I have seen him there again since for me once is enough to receive permanent ban "

They should perminently ban these idiots.

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

Bump

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

Bumping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread - or something similar - would go nicely on the club review section.

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"This thread - or something similar - would go nicely on the club review section."

ive just put it in the club forum..see what happens ?

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

Bump for the BBW on Friday

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By *hriscaroline36Couple
over a year ago

Treharris

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By *hriscaroline36Couple
over a year ago

Treharris

I'll add that if you're playing with a couple, of course the lady needs to feel happy, but something that's often over looked is how much fun the couples husband/boyfriend is having. If he feels at all that it was a negative experience (even if the lady had fun) you will likely never get tye chance play with them again, and he's likely to end the encounter quick. Couples are there to have a good time together and no man or woman wants to feel like the spare part in an encounter

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By *nsatiableCouple2022Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

100% agree! I hate when it feels like the male is left out and the Male/couple is only interested in the lady. We don't meet with the couple/male again if that happens.

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By *exyswingerbbwWoman
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Bumping this up for Friday

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Friday is fast approaching. I hope new single guys read this

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley

Bump for any guests attending cams tonight

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By *rown ThunderMan
over a year ago

newport

Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this.

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By *ory_xWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way Syndey

Yes a lot of them are that is why CJ posted this invaluable advice. If they didnt act like morons in the club there wouldnt have been a need for this advice.

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By *nnasHammerCouple
over a year ago

The Upside Down


"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. "

Well this was a bit harsh. You clearly don’t know who the OP is and the kind of credibility he has in the scene. OP’s advice is most definitely warranted because, although not all men are moronic, some still need a lesson in club etiquette.

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By *atKat-xoxWoman
over a year ago

Neath,united kingdom


"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. "

The OP is far from a desperate idiot. The advice is helpful over all so

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. "

The advice given is very helpful. Especially beneficial to those who haven't been to a club before! Attitudes like yours often mean you will get blocked before you've even messaged someone.

Lots of people use the forum and people's attitudes as a means of filtering those they wouldn't be interested in

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By *heoriginalCJ OP   Man
over a year ago

mystic valley


"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. "

Ooh I have a fan

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By *leasure-QueenWoman
over a year ago

The twilight zone


"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. "

Sorry but some are moronic idiots and don’t conduct themselves in an appropriate manner. This advice has been given endeavouring to educate everyone. If the advice was taken on board and not dismissed as you’ve done, then the club will continue to be a safe and enjoyable environment for all

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