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By *attoodchap OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

So, I went on a date a few days ago and the lady I met looked nothing like the person in the photos. (I know everyone chooses their best ones and uses filters etc) but this was like a totally different person!

How would you guys and girls deal with this? Would you be brutally honest from the start? See the date through? Ghost them?!

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By *leasure-QueenWoman
over a year ago

The twilight zone

I would very tactfully tell them that you feel somewhat deceived.

If its a date with the potential to progress towards a relationship then honesty is imperative from the start.

Using a different face picture or one that’s 15 years old is dishonest and that dishonestly sets the precedence for the entire relationship.

I’m interested to know if you fancied the woman that did turn up though lol

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By *rayheresnowMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I went on one she said what do you think. I said you better go home and take some up todate photos. They must have been around 10 years old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I went on a date a few days ago and the lady I met looked nothing like the person in the photos. (I know everyone chooses their best ones and uses filters etc) but this was like a totally different person!

How would you guys and girls deal with this? Would you be brutally honest from the start? See the date through? Ghost them?!

"
she catfished you into a meet/ date what else is she going to be fake about just cut your losses & move on

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By *attoodchap OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

So I arrived at the venue and as a lady walked towards me she waved. I ignored it as I didn't recognise her.....waved again so made sure it was me she was waving to! And yes, it was me! She introduced herself and I was pretty suprised at just how different she looked! Long and short of the scenario is we had a meal and a drink but she was a completely different person! I did not fancy her whatsoever in person!

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By *ikesfun1Man
over a year ago

around and about

Honesty is the best policy

i would have just said oh sorry i did not recognise you as you look nothing like the pics you sent me, nothing wrong with continuing the evening but just say thanks for a nice evening and say sorry but you are not my type.

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By *heekychopperMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Always little bit of a tricky one! Embarrassing for them really

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By *attoodchap OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Thanks chaps, it was just a bizarre date! I was embarrassed for her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always honest & would expect them to be, even if a person's pics are up to date etc the click might not be there in person X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I went on a date a few days ago and the lady I met looked nothing like the person in the photos. (I know everyone chooses their best ones and uses filters etc) but this was like a totally different person!

How would you guys and girls deal with this? Would you be brutally honest from the start? See the date through? Ghost them?!

"

Be honest, I had a meet when I was single on here, the face pic was of a clean shaven guy, the guy who turned up had a goatie down to his belly button ... I got back in my car and went home

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By *ampy and zxrCouple
over a year ago

caerphilly

we went to a guys house about a month of 2 back for a meet nothing like his pics they must have been took 20 yrs ago he was pissed before we got there had a chat for 5 mins and made our excuses and left blocked never to meet again

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By *ibbler and the NobblerCouple
over a year ago

Maesteg


"So, I went on a date a few days ago and the lady I met looked nothing like the person in the photos. (I know everyone chooses their best ones and uses filters etc) but this was like a totally different person!

How would you guys and girls deal with this? Would you be brutally honest from the start? See the date through? Ghost them?!

"

Not cool or acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was out shopping a good few years ago and agreed to meet a guy for a social

He described what he was wearing and the bench he was sitting on

He was at least 15 years older and 10 stone heavier than the individual in the photos he had sent me

I blocked him and drove off

How he thought I wouldn't notice the difference or at least that I wouldn't care was quite bizarre

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By *t.jt.jtMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So I arrived at the venue and as a lady walked towards me she waved. I ignored it as I didn't recognise her.....waved again so made sure it was me she was waving to! And yes, it was me! She introduced herself and I was pretty suprised at just how different she looked! Long and short of the scenario is we had a meal and a drink but she was a completely different person! I did not fancy her whatsoever in person!"

This is why I tend to have a low pressure coffee date as a first date, I'm not a fan of having to sit through a meal if we're clearly incompatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been in this exact position

I tactfully told her that the very act was deeply unattractive as it belied a total lack of confidence, and a person uneasy with themselves. How could she get other people to accept and find her attractive if she couldn’t?

I paid the drink tab and left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I arrived at the venue and as a lady walked towards me she waved. I ignored it as I didn't recognise her.....waved again so made sure it was me she was waving to! And yes, it was me! She introduced herself and I was pretty suprised at just how different she looked! Long and short of the scenario is we had a meal and a drink but she was a completely different person! I did not fancy her whatsoever in person!

This is why I tend to have a low pressure coffee date as a first date, I'm not a fan of having to sit through a meal if we're clearly incompatible."

Exactly my rationale for a coffee in a neutral place, but it seems to be getting harder to find guys who will do this X

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I would be honest because that’s me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to be honest.

I once waited in a bar for a guy who was meant to be 6ft, he walked in all of 5ft 3inch whilst I sat whistling "Hi ho, Hi ho"

Mean I know, shamefully so, but funny

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By *attoodchap OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Weirdly though I've never had an issue from this site! I run a mile from a filter on here! This was a dating app and the pics looked pretty good (not heavily filtered or anything) Ah well, lesson learned and I'll be sticking to an afternoon cuppa from now on! X

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By *hunkeeMonkeyMan
over a year ago

Clydach


"So, I went on a date a few days ago and the lady I met looked nothing like the person in the photos. (I know everyone chooses their best ones and uses filters etc) but this was like a totally different person!

How would you guys and girls deal with this? Would you be brutally honest from the start? See the date through? Ghost them?!

"

Its a tough one but id never ghost or just block its cruel. Just be up front and honest and politely say thanks for meeting but youre not my type.

Theres not need to be rude or nasty imho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone uses their best photos, I have mine which are up to date and show the progress of my tattoos too, I would never put up pics that misrepresented me. It's not right, would never catfish anyone, and if someone or people do that and expect not to be called out on it then that's wrong too. Don't get me wrong, wouldn't about it for all to hear but would certainly say that they aren't the person they put across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get out out out! It’s not on. Might be fun to watch on tv bit when it’s happened for real, it’s quite sad really. What else are they fibbing about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong, I use angles for my pics as we want to look our best. When I send a face pic, its me. Id love to use a filter and look 10 years younger but whats the point, Im only kidding myself. It sucks but honesty is def the best policy. No point tricking someone as you will only make yourself feel worse anyway. X

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By *almprintsWoman
over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

I usually insist on a photo taken the day of, and I always send a photo on the day to remind people what I look like.

Not going to lie, sometimes people haven't showed, but I'd like to think it's because they are tits rather than my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend of mine (genuine friend and not me I swear) lol was telling me about his experiences on grinder.

He always asked for a face pic with a clock showing the current time in the background so he knew it was there and then.

Had a meet from here personally where I was meeting a shaved, no Facial haired, very slim and toned 35yr old cd /tv….. arrived at the house to find a guy who looked the spitting image of Gandalf from LotR except easily a 50+ inch waist…… (I’m no spring chicken don’t get me wrong but my pics are of me at least!!)….. literally thanked him for his offer and left

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By *exi_LexiTV/TS
over a year ago

caerphilly

I don't used filters or any other crap that alters the image, for me its all about wot you see is wot you get, and plenty of face pics that not taken from a million miles away lol, why lie or try to make yourself look different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't used filters or any other crap that alters the image, for me its all about wot you see is wot you get, and plenty of face pics that not taken from a million miles away lol, why lie or try to make yourself look different "

You don’t need any alterations!!!

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