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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are people's views on attached men on here who's partners don't know. Would you take the risk in finding out about them and possible meet or avoid.

I know to some we are shallow people but we're not all that bad.

Intrigued to hear some answers and maybe see if it's worthwhile in keeping my account on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will not meet cheaters.

I will meet men in open relationships or ethical non monogamy relationships. I would want to speak with the mrs though to make sure they are okay with it.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will not meet cheaters.

I will meet men in open relationships or ethical non monogamy relationships. I would want to speak with the mrs though to make sure they are okay with it."

How would you know ? If a guy doesnt tell you he is with someone then how do you know if he is cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will not meet cheaters.

I will meet men in open relationships or ethical non monogamy relationships. I would want to speak with the mrs though to make sure they are okay with it.

How would you know ? If a guy doesnt tell you he is with someone then how do you know if he is cheating"

I always insist on a social in public if they refuse then in my mind they have something to hide so I wont meet them.

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By *rMrsMorningstarCouple
over a year ago

near bridgend

If we said no to attached men, (which we used to), they'd end up lying about it only to slip up later, so the possibility of that happening are somewhat high.

Happend twice for us.

We'd much prefer to know their status and get a choice to accept or decline..

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

It wouldn't be the first time that I've gone out a meet and put the council tax bill with single person discount on it in my inside pocket to show that I am genuinely single, but some people have actually told me that that they prefer married men because, they are likely to be more cautious than single guys over safe sex on account of not wanting to risk taking a dose of the nasties home with them. Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your honesty. I know it ain't for most. I get a lot of mixed reviews on it as some prefer attached men due to them having to be discreet and have the respect to keep play partners discreet. But then I do understand that the risk of playing with a cheater the risk of getting caught and them getting publicly oughted when it is not they're fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have absolutely zero interest in having some poor wife/husband banging on our front door screaming and shouting.

Their is far too much drama going on in the world without knowingly adding to it.

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By *aidinwalesWoman
over a year ago

Rainbows End

I have met married guys knowingly in the past and have remained friends with them for years and still meet up now and again. However after being on the receiving end of finding out my partner was seeing someone behind my back In a vanilla relationship and the pain it caused me I choose no longer to do so.

Some guys have genuine reasons for looking elsewhere, others are just cheating for their own gain Im not here to judge them

I just no longer wish to be part of the reason of someone going through what I went through It’s a personal choice

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Just be open about it. Some will be OK with it and some won't. Just meet the ones who are.

Men and women are still going to play away for a variety of reasons. Branding them all as trash will just force them to lie which will likely make things more difficult all round.

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By *allwelshcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cwmbran


"We have absolutely zero interest in having some poor wife/husband banging on our front door screaming and shouting.

Their is far too much drama going on in the world without knowingly adding to it."

Exactly this..

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By *rMrsMorningstarCouple
over a year ago

near bridgend


"Just be open about it. Some will be OK with it and some won't. Just meet the ones who are.

Men and women are still going to play away for a variety of reasons. Branding them all as trash will just force them to lie which will likely make things more difficult all round. "

This what I was trying to say..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s disgusting myself cheating on a partner some people have no morals , the people who cheat and the people who knowingly cheat , if you have a partner be faithful or leave them simples

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By *nique_GymMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I suppose the most logical question to ask yourself is this. What if you were sat in your lounge scrolling through this site and then suddenly you came across a profile of a woman and it’s your partner. You look at the photos and recognise your lounge, kitchen and bedroom in photos where she has been playing with other men. Then you look at her verifications and see she is verified by 175 men, all met in person, all saying how amazing she is!

How would you think and feel about her, I am not being provocative here. It’s just an imponderable that might be worthy of thought as to how you would feel about it. If you would be upset, sad, jealous even then that’s maybe how she would feel finding out you are on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have always been up front with play partners as there is no point in hiding, I think it just makes it harder to relax and enjoy playtime. There are some with reasons and some who don't. I know what it is like to be on the recieving end of a cheater so I get why some don't like the idea. I know that it's a selfish act whichever way you look at it but still can't leave my partner.

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By *nique_GymMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I have always been up front with play partners as there is no point in hiding, I think it just makes it harder to relax and enjoy playtime. There are some with reasons and some who don't. I know what it is like to be on the recieving end of a cheater so I get why some don't like the idea. I know that it's a selfish act whichever way you look at it but still can't leave my partner.

"

But you haven’t answered the question how would you feel if you found out she was on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Really don't find your reply provocative dude. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and I knew I would get mixed replies due to the nature of my question. I can see how you would think I would be upset about a situation like that but personally if my partner were to say be like that then I would be able to speak to her about her sexual needs and desires and then I would be able to enjoy her company in this wonderful world of swinging

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By *H22Woman
over a year ago

haverfordwest


"We have absolutely zero interest in having some poor wife/husband banging on our front door screaming and shouting.

Their is far too much drama going on in the world without knowingly adding to it."

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe. "
but do they though “give permission” or is this just another way for a guy who is married/attached to get a meet I only say as I have this guy messaging me about a meet he’s attached but is saying his partner wouldn’t mind if he met me on his own but I am really struggling in my mind about this dilemma from his girlfriends point of view like I don’t think I would let my partner go out on meets on his own knowingly I would be more up for meeting him & his partner rather than just him as I also don’t want grief at my door either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe. but do they though “give permission” or is this just another way for a guy who is married/attached to get a meet I only say as I have this guy messaging me about a meet he’s attached but is saying his partner wouldn’t mind if he met me on his own but I am really struggling in my mind about this dilemma from his girlfriends point of view like I don’t think I would let my partner go out on meets on his own knowingly I would be more up for meeting him & his partner rather than just him as I also don’t want grief at my door either x"

You could ask for him to verify this by letting her have a chat with you on the phone to confirm his story, pretty sure you wouldn't hear from him again but obviously I could be wrong.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe. but do they though “give permission” or is this just another way for a guy who is married/attached to get a meet I only say as I have this guy messaging me about a meet he’s attached but is saying his partner wouldn’t mind if he met me on his own but I am really struggling in my mind about this dilemma from his girlfriends point of view like I don’t think I would let my partner go out on meets on his own knowingly I would be more up for meeting him & his partner rather than just him as I also don’t want grief at my door either x"
Some couples do have separate meets but I personally wouldn’t just take his word for it maybe suggest a social meet where u can meet his partner or a video call .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe. but do they though “give permission” or is this just another way for a guy who is married/attached to get a meet I only say as I have this guy messaging me about a meet he’s attached but is saying his partner wouldn’t mind if he met me on his own but I am really struggling in my mind about this dilemma from his girlfriends point of view like I don’t think I would let my partner go out on meets on his own knowingly I would be more up for meeting him & his partner rather than just him as I also don’t want grief at my door either xSome couples do have separate meets but I personally wouldn’t just take his word for it maybe suggest a social meet where u can meet his partner or a video call ."
yeah x

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By *L9269Couple
over a year ago

Newport


"Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe. but do they though “give permission” or is this just another way for a guy who is married/attached to get a meet I only say as I have this guy messaging me about a meet he’s attached but is saying his partner wouldn’t mind if he met me on his own but I am really struggling in my mind about this dilemma from his girlfriends point of view like I don’t think I would let my partner go out on meets on his own knowingly I would be more up for meeting him & his partner rather than just him as I also don’t want grief at my door either x"

Like ive said before i read the message wrong i have met with a female on my own and she enjoyed it we would both be happy to meet you if you like as i said i read the messages wrong and i have apologised but still both happy to meet you and take you for a drink coffee or stronger x

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By *enuine photographerMan
over a year ago

Swansea


"I think it’s disgusting myself cheating on a partner some people have no morals , the people who cheat and the people who knowingly cheat , if you have a partner be faithful or leave them simples "

Always glad to see an open mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe. but do they though “give permission” or is this just another way for a guy who is married/attached to get a meet I only say as I have this guy messaging me about a meet he’s attached but is saying his partner wouldn’t mind if he met me on his own but I am really struggling in my mind about this dilemma from his girlfriends point of view like I don’t think I would let my partner go out on meets on his own knowingly I would be more up for meeting him & his partner rather than just him as I also don’t want grief at my door either x

Like ive said before i read the message wrong i have met with a female on my own and she enjoyed it we would both be happy to meet you if you like as i said i read the messages wrong and i have apologised but still both happy to meet you and take you for a drink coffee or stronger x"
lol this is not about you!

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"I think it’s disgusting myself cheating on a partner some people have no morals , the people who cheat and the people who knowingly cheat , if you have a partner be faithful or leave them simples "

Nothing in life is simple. Different people have different circumstances and different challenges. You do you, and best not to judge others.

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By *L9269Couple
over a year ago

Newport


"Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe. but do they though “give permission” or is this just another way for a guy who is married/attached to get a meet I only say as I have this guy messaging me about a meet he’s attached but is saying his partner wouldn’t mind if he met me on his own but I am really struggling in my mind about this dilemma from his girlfriends point of view like I don’t think I would let my partner go out on meets on his own knowingly I would be more up for meeting him & his partner rather than just him as I also don’t want grief at my door either x

Like ive said before i read the message wrong i have met with a female on my own and she enjoyed it we would both be happy to meet you if you like as i said i read the messages wrong and i have apologised but still both happy to meet you and take you for a drink coffee or stronger x lol this is not about you! "

Haha well thats good to know offer still stands happy for us 3 to meet for a drink somewhere x

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales


"I suppose the most logical question to ask yourself is this. What if you were sat in your lounge scrolling through this site and then suddenly you came across a profile of a woman and it’s your partner. You look at the photos and recognise your lounge, kitchen and bedroom in photos where she has been playing with other men. Then you look at her verifications and see she is verified by 175 men, all met in person, all saying how amazing she is!

How would you think and feel about her, I am not being provocative here. It’s just an imponderable that might be worthy of thought as to how you would feel about it. If you would be upset, sad, jealous even then that’s maybe how she would feel finding out you are on here? "

So... You're both on a swinger site without telling the other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s disgusting myself cheating on a partner some people have no morals , the people who cheat and the people who knowingly cheat , if you have a partner be faithful or leave them simples

Nothing in life is simple. Different people have different circumstances and different challenges. You do you, and best not to judge others. "
If a man cheats on his Mrs and she doesn’t know would you think that was fair on his poor Mrs , I think not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it’s disgusting myself cheating on a partner some people have no morals , the people who cheat and the people who knowingly cheat , if you have a partner be faithful or leave them simples

Nothing in life is simple. Different people have different circumstances and different challenges. You do you, and best not to judge others. If a man cheats on his Mrs and she doesn’t know would you think that was fair on his poor Mrs , I think not "
Or visa versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not interested in meeting cheaters. Women or guys who have hubbies/wifes permission maybe. but do they though “give permission” or is this just another way for a guy who is married/attached to get a meet I only say as I have this guy messaging me about a meet he’s attached but is saying his partner wouldn’t mind if he met me on his own but I am really struggling in my mind about this dilemma from his girlfriends point of view like I don’t think I would let my partner go out on meets on his own knowingly I would be more up for meeting him & his partner rather than just him as I also don’t want grief at my door either x

Like ive said before i read the message wrong i have met with a female on my own and she enjoyed it we would both be happy to meet you if you like as i said i read the messages wrong and i have apologised but still both happy to meet you and take you for a drink coffee or stronger x lol this is not about you!

Haha well thats good to know offer still stands happy for us 3 to meet for a drink somewhere x"
awww

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By *imandHer9396Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

If we are aware of the potential meet being involved with another person, and they didn't know, we would not meet. We've had several messages from people with partners that have been honest with us. We've politely let them know it's not for us, but that's their business.

Personally, we would never meet with someone with an unaware partner. There are warning signs, no public social meets, not being able to accom, strange or short meets/hours, no public photos. We do know these can be for other reasons of course, but it just doesn't work for us.

We have, absolutely, met people with partners who aren't into the scene, but are happy with this. That's not a problem, and most have offered contact with the partners. Some are friends who I trust completely.

There's no right answer. One messaged and explained the partner had a disability so wasn't interested in sex, but they didn't know. I get it absolutely, but it's not for us in the slightest. We have too much respect for others, and ourselves. And mostly, we cannot be assed for the potential drama!

It works for some and not for others and that's ok. But we wouldn't be involved.

Her x

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"If we are aware of the potential meet being involved with another person, and they didn't know, we would not meet. We've had several messages from people with partners that have been honest with us. We've politely let them know it's not for us, but that's their business.

Personally, we would never meet with someone with an unaware partner. There are warning signs, no public social meets, not being able to accom, strange or short meets/hours, no public photos. We do know these can be for other reasons of course, but it just doesn't work for us.

We have, absolutely, met people with partners who aren't into the scene, but are happy with this. That's not a problem, and most have offered contact with the partners. Some are friends who I trust completely.

There's no right answer. One messaged and explained the partner had a disability so wasn't interested in sex, but they didn't know. I get it absolutely, but it's not for us in the slightest. We have too much respect for others, and ourselves. And mostly, we cannot be assed for the potential drama!

It works for some and not for others and that's ok. But we wouldn't be involved.

Her x"

It is not worth the fall out drama that could happen if the other partner finds out who he has met and you get pulled in to the shit fiest that will insue.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Ensue. Bloody phone grrr

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By *almprintsWoman
over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

If they are big enough to play away,they are big enough to handle their own dramas and fallout.

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By *ndyandMandyCouple
over a year ago

swansea


"If they are big enough to play away,they are big enough to handle their own dramas and fallout. "

Here here

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"If a man cheats on his Mrs and she doesn’t know would you think that was fair on his poor Mrs , I think not "

As I said, different people are in different situations, and calling them all 'disgusting' suggests a basic lack of empathy. It's not a one size fits all thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone said above, this isn’t a morally black or white thing-it’s definitely in the grey area.

There are legitimate reasons that a man or woman might want to go out and fulfil their sexual needs without the attachment, certainly if for some reason, there’s a problem with intimacy due to mental health or just plain reasons.

You can’t generalise but you can only hope that you can spot an arsehole from someone decent who’s circumstances genuinely mean they need that sexual release.

It’s not easy though…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all of the above but as you know there are males and females on here who play away without their partners not knowing not here to cause trouble with anyone it’s just the minority on here

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

So they're not all disgusting, then? Your apology is accepted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies guys. I know this was going to be a grey subject and glad it didn't stir any trouble or upset. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I'm all about freedom of speech.

For me I like that I have a place I can come and ask a question and get honest answers. Or even talk sexualy without being told I'm a pervert or sick.

Thank you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they're not all disgusting, then? Your apology is accepted."
Didnt give a apology Roger I don’t say sorry to no one

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

I'm just pointing out the things you're getting wrong. We should always be learning things. I'm being constructive and helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I’m trying to be nice old chap but if you ever talk to women they will actually tell you , they know single men who are playing away from they’re partners , and there are women who do the same , wake up and smell the coffee ?

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy


"What has any of this got to do with haberdashery? key pad I should of said ????"

Would need a bloody big keypad. He's 5 foot 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m 6 foot 2 so what ?

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy


"I’m 6 foot 2 so what ? "

Well you'd be lucky to find a 6 foot keyboard to hide behind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha your right there

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By *dible_KinkCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Cheaters are the scum of the earth. Hot wives and hot husbands are absolutely embraced and encouraged, but cheaters are just a 100% no. The hurt it causes to the other partner and / or family unit is devastating. There is a massive difference between playing away with consent to doing it clandestinely. I've been cheated on in the past and it's soul destroying. Solo meets with permission on the other hand is the exact opposite - it's exciting and fun.

Mr.

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By *oolybullyMan
over a year ago

Close enough

I'm one of those and I would say that the ratio of people who say they would not meet is very different from the people that actually will meet.

I'm not here to judge...what right have I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man cheats on his Mrs and she doesn’t know would you think that was fair on his poor Mrs , I think not

As I said, different people are in different situations, and calling them all 'disgusting' suggests a basic lack of empathy. It's not a one size fits all thing."
well knowing that you are bi you could gancy the male half as well I suppose, what do you think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man cheats on his Mrs and she doesn’t know would you think that was fair on his poor Mrs , I think not

As I said, different people are in different situations, and calling them all 'disgusting' suggests a basic lack of empathy. It's not a one size fits all thing."
well knowing that you are bi you could gancy the male half as well I suppose, what do you think ? Fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheaters are the scum of the earth. Hot wives and hot husbands are absolutely embraced and encouraged, but cheaters are just a 100% no. The hurt it causes to the other partner and / or family unit is devastating. There is a massive difference between playing away with consent to doing it clandestinely. I've been cheated on in the past and it's soul destroying. Solo meets with permission on the other hand is the exact opposite - it's exciting and fun.

Mr."
I totally agree with you buddy about time someone said the facts

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

By 'facts', do you mean your opinions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By 'facts', do you mean your opinions?"
. No not just my opinions Roger old chap there’s lots of people on here thinking it’s wrong that’s all and you being bi which one would you fancy the male or the female ?

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

Lots of people thinking something doesn't make it a fact.

And sorry, you're not my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of attached women on here to where hubby doesn't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of people thinking something doesn't make it a fact.

And sorry, you're not my type. "
I’m getting fed up of this now , I’m not bi and I’m very glad I’m not your type take care old chap

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

I bet you'll want the last word.

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By *imandHer9396Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend


"Lots of people thinking something doesn't make it a fact.

And sorry, you're not my type. I’m getting fed up of this now , I’m not bi and I’m very glad I’m not your type take care old chap "

Fixated on the fact that Roger is Bi, aren't you?

If you are looking for the super straight, I think your on the wrong site

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bet you'll want the last word. "
why are you pushing me leave me alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not fixated at all I’ve got bi friends, but I’m not that way , just seems certain people want to have a little go , I’ve got broad shoulders

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"Fixated on the fact that Roger is Bi, aren't you?

If you are looking for the super straight, I think your on the wrong site "

It says bi-curious anyway. I'm not sure what he was hoping to achieve by bringing it up. I'm interested in women, and I wouldn't be interested in playing with a bloke on his own, but I changed my orientation to reflect the fact that in threesomes, I have allowed lines to become blurred occasionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fixated on the fact that Roger is Bi, aren't you?

If you are looking for the super straight, I think your on the wrong site

It says bi-curious anyway. I'm not sure what he was hoping to achieve by bringing it up. I'm interested in women, and I wouldn't be interested in playing with a bloke on his own, but I changed my orientation to reflect the fact that in threesomes, I have allowed lines to become blurred occasionally. "
Take care old chap and have a lovely day from the bottom of my heart

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"Lots of attached women on here to where hubby doesn't know"

Indeed, and many of them will have understandable reasons for doing what they do.

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By *carlett CumslutWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

Married or not, being upfront about it is the main thing for those whom you are talking to, so that they can make their own decisions.

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"Married or not, being upfront about it is the main thing for those whom you are talking to, so that they can make their own decisions.

"

Yes, that's true.

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By *elshman100Man
over a year ago

Wales

Married or not both men and women play away without they partner knowing.

Obviously they have reasons why.

Plus nothing wrong in being bi either,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married or not, being upfront about it is the main thing for those whom you are talking to, so that they can make their own decisions.

Yes, that's true. "
what’s a blurred line , can you elaborate for me please ? Xx

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"Married or not, being upfront about it is the main thing for those whom you are talking to, so that they can make their own decisions.

"

You're right. It's about informed decisions. I don't understand why certain people feel the need to start threads and then get argumentative about other people's decisions.

Basically they need to use fab as they want and leave others to do their own thing...

Just a person trying to get a kick out of antagonising others

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"Just a person trying to get a kick out of antagonising others "

I'm not one to kink-shame, but this one does seem a little weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married or not, being upfront about it is the main thing for those whom you are talking to, so that they can make their own decisions.

You're right. It's about informed decisions. I don't understand why certain people feel the need to start threads and then get argumentative about other people's decisions.

Basically they need to use fab as they want and leave others to do their own thing...

Just a person trying to get a kick out of antagonising others "
There’s more to this than is being said I spoke my mind and a certain person has had a little go for reasons we both know why ???

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"There’s more to this than is being said I spoke my mind and a certain person has had a little go for reasons we both know why ???"

What reasons might they be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married or not, being upfront about it is the main thing for those whom you are talking to, so that they can make their own decisions.

You're right. It's about informed decisions. I don't understand why certain people feel the need to start threads and then get argumentative about other people's decisions.

Basically they need to use fab as they want and leave others to do their own thing...

Just a person trying to get a kick out of antagonising others There’s more to this than is being said I spoke my mind and a certain person has had a little go for reasons we both know why ???"
I’ve said my piece now take care all have a lovely Sunday and happy fabbing xx

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

You'll be back for the last word. That's nailed on, that is.

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy


"Married or not, being upfront about it is the main thing for those whom you are talking to, so that they can make their own decisions.

Yes, that's true. what’s a blurred line , can you elaborate for me please ? Xx "

Thought it was a song by Robin thick.

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"Thought it was a song by Robin thick. "

Thicke. Although thick is oddly apt here.

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By *elshman100Man
over a year ago

Wales

Sorry if I have put it the wrong context, I am not trying to windup.

Being married and upfront is the right thing to do and let other people make they own decision about it.

Again apologies if I came across wrong it wasn't meant too.

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"Sorry if I have put it the wrong context, I am not trying to windup.

Being married and upfront is the right thing to do and let other people make they own decision about it.

Again apologies if I came across wrong it wasn't meant too. "

Your post came across just fine. Don't worry.

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By *elshman100Man
over a year ago

Wales

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So when the blurred lines are happening do you sing moon river lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting back to the topic of this thread there are probably two main camps - avoid the 'cheaters' and those that think 'it's not my problem'. However, I think for some of the 'cheaters' they have valid reasons. If they do, and they are honest and up front about those, then the more understanding members may give them a chance.

Let's remember, this site is for people to get together and enjoy themselves.

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"Getting back to the topic of this thread there are probably two main camps - avoid the 'cheaters' and those that think 'it's not my problem'. However, I think for some of the 'cheaters' they have valid reasons. If they do, and they are honest and up front about those, then the more understanding members may give them a chance.

Let's remember, this site is for people to get together and enjoy themselves. "

^^ This ^^

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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago

my house

Thought this was an adult site ????some behave like kids ffs....Rise above.

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By *espectfull but filthyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

As a genuine married man in an ENM relationship, I can guarantee that you will get a drama free meet with me. Always communicate who and where I'm meeting and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name is P3achy & I'm scum

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"My name is P3achy & I'm scum "

See, this is the reason I get so pissed off with blanket judgment. People seeking extra-marital sex without their partner's knowledge are human beings too, and each has a story. Calling fellow human beings 'scum' and 'disgusting' without listening or trying to understand is pretty crappy behaviour.

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare


"As a genuine married man in an ENM relationship, I can guarantee that you will get a drama free meet with me. Always communicate who and where I'm meeting and vice versa. "

ENM is the ideal, but I appreciate how hard it is for some people to get to the point of being ethical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a genuine married man in an ENM relationship, I can guarantee that you will get a drama free meet with me. Always communicate who and where I'm meeting and vice versa.

ENM is the ideal, but I appreciate how hard it is for some people to get to the point of being ethical. "
who are calling people scum old chap that’s not very nice is it my bestest new found mate xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I love you old chap xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add me as a friend ? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so glad we are friends on here old chap and sugar thinks exactly the same about you and marmite we are going to have so much fun together I’m a very loving man xx

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By *ilffadMan
over a year ago

swansea

Tedious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know but I just loves this man xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Evening all! Not new to Fab life, returning to reconnect with old friends, make some new ones. Thought I'd throw my hat in the ring here.

Speaking personally as a single, ethically minded bi-sexual slut I tend to avoid meeting married or partnered types who are "playing away". Not as a judgement call as such, more that meets tend to be a bit too rushed and a bit too clandestine for my tastes.

Plus the last meet I had with a guy I only found out he was married halfway through(didn't mention it on his FG profile of course) , while his wife was at work! In their marital bed! I was so embarrassed I got up and walked out!

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

As said tedious..

Your post's are becoming moronic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As said tedious..

Your post's are becoming moronic"

Yeh I'm kinda picking up on the vibes in the room myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My name is P3achy & I'm scum

See, this is the reason I get so pissed off with blanket judgment. People seeking extra-marital sex without their partner's knowledge are human beings too, and each has a story. Calling fellow human beings 'scum' and 'disgusting' without listening or trying to understand is pretty crappy behaviour. "

Hey I've been called worse by women on the site for adding to threads like this, each to their own & I'll still fall back on, how many people vet the people they're playing with in clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My name is P3achy & I'm scum

See, this is the reason I get so pissed off with blanket judgment. People seeking extra-marital sex without their partner's knowledge are human beings too, and each has a story. Calling fellow human beings 'scum' and 'disgusting' without listening or trying to understand is pretty crappy behaviour.

Hey I've been called worse by women on the site for adding to threads like this, each to their own & I'll still fall back on, how many people vet the people they're playing with in clubs? "

That's very true if you're meeting anonymous people in a consequence free environment like a club . I mean, who really knows who anyone is or what they get up to in "real life"?

As I said, no judgement from me. In fact the guy I mentioned in my previous post was from eastern Europe. When he first mentioned he was married I was kind of prepared to" look the other way", I thought maybe he was here alone, maybe needing company but not wanting to "cheat" on his wife back home with another woman.

As for calling people "scum" it's usually those shouting loudest who have the least to say and the most to hide in my experience... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex husband met his partner via the site, I don't blame the site for that our relationship was clearly not right for that to have happened. These things happen regardless of what goes on via Fab, equally I've know relationships last longer because a person is getting what's missing on a no strings basis. This was always going to be a contentious thread X

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"My ex husband met his partner via the site, I don't blame the site for that our relationship was clearly not right for that to have happened. These things happen regardless of what goes on via Fab, equally I've know relationships last longer because a person is getting what's missing on a no strings basis. This was always going to be a contentious thread X"

I couldn't agree with you more, I've known several couples who have split up and swinging got the blame for it, but when you cut through the crap there were already chinks in the armour of their so called meaningful relationship, and as you say having an open relationship can hold it together because, each partner can have all the sex they want within the context of their own meaningful relationship. The best relationships I've had have invariably been with a woman who is on the same wavelength as myself, but finding such a woman can be like finding The Holy Grail.

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By *ischi3fMan
over a year ago

Carmarthen Outskirts

Not for everyone I guess, but i agree we are not all that bad.

Id rather be up front and honest about it here and let the other parties decide if they want to meet me or not

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"My ex husband met his partner via the site, I don't blame the site for that our relationship was clearly not right for that to have happened. These things happen regardless of what goes on via Fab, equally I've know relationships last longer because a person is getting what's missing on a no strings basis. This was always going to be a contentious thread X

I couldn't agree with you more, I've known several couples who have split up and swinging got the blame for it, but when you cut through the crap there were already chinks in the armour of their so called meaningful relationship, and as you say having an open relationship can hold it together because, each partner can have all the sex they want within the context of their own meaningful relationship. The best relationships I've had have invariably been with a woman who is on the same wavelength as myself, but finding such a woman can be like finding The Holy Grail. "

I have that woman but we did not meet on a swing site. We dont meet single guys purely because so many lied to us during chats on here.

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