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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seems theres a tons of guys on here! Finally had a message from a couple asking if id would be interested in meeting. I read the messsge didntnreply straight away. Went back to the message 22mins later to find i have another message saying i must not be interested and now blocked! Id have loved to! Now theres no way of contacting them! Hope i havent offended by not replying straight away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always reply once read. The other user can see if you have read the message.

I tend to make sure if I have messages I have the time to read and reply at the same time.

If they see its been unread they can't sat you haven't replied lol

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By *carlett AllureWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

There is one couple I’ve had message me and do the exact same thing on multiple accounts! Very strange!

I think it has become a lot harder on here to find genuine swingers. There’s been a huge influx of profiles in the last 2 years thinking they can sign up and get a shag as and when they want it. This is the main reason I now only meet at social events or clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a world of difference between genuine swinging and using this site for hook ups. Word seems to be getting out to men that they can use this site for just hook ups which makes it harder for genuine swingers to find each other. So yea I would agree it’s getting harder.

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By *andy Andy300Man
over a year ago

Near You

Having been on the site for over 10 years now, it is definately more difficult to get to know new people these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on the site for over 10 years now, it is definately more difficult to get to know new people these days "

Yet your 2 month old profile says your new to this... you can sort of see why people only meet at socials and clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many time wasters makes us put off, so many meets arranged to find 5 minutes before some things popped up and can’t meet. Weeks of building up and then backed out, I get some reasons are genuine.

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By *iscreetman09Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Best way to get a meet is probably the socials they arrange but even then it's tough. I've not had any socials out side of group socials but good luck

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We have only been on here for two years and we are lucky as we haven’t been let down by any of our arranged socials or meets, ohhh actually we have had a few lame excuses. However, we are finding it more and more difficult to chat with genuine couples that share mutual interests and are interested in the social side of swinging as well as the play…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on fab on & off for over 10 years & it's definitely getting close to impossible to get anyone to agree to meet me, perhaps it's my age or the fact I'm married & playing solo with my wife's permission or people just don't fancy me. Doesn't help that so many people seem to block messages from anyone over 55.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Seems theres a tons of guys on here! Finally had a message from a couple asking if id would be interested in meeting. I read the messsge didntnreply straight away. Went back to the message 22mins later to find i have another message saying i must not be interested and now blocked! Id have loved to! Now theres no way of contacting them! Hope i havent offended by not replying straight away! "

But would you really have wanted to meet someone like that? What was the rush? They seem quite unpleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone wants to get to know just a genuine nice guy one here. Not that it helps ha, but asked to attend that Swansea day social so hopefully meet some nice genuine people there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey all, im new here and I am a genuine guy looking to get to know some new people but i admit that i find it hard to engage over messages but people on here seem to be very wary about meeting even socialy. Im happy to go to group social meets just not sure if i have to be invited. Also its difficult when your not verified to get verified any advise would be welcome

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Hey all, im new here and I am a genuine guy looking to get to know some new people but i admit that i find it hard to engage over messages but people on here seem to be very wary about meeting even socialy. Im happy to go to group social meets just not sure if i have to be invited. Also its difficult when your not verified to get verified any advise would be welcome "
You don’t have to be verified for some group socials so keep a eye out and pop your name down ..Think there’s a swansea one coming up beginning of December..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, thanks for the help. Swansea is a bit far for me im in cwmbran but ill keep an eye out, will meets be added to the forums aswell and where do i pop my name down lol sorry for the questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, thanks for the help. Swansea is a bit far for me im in cwmbran but ill keep an eye out, will meets be added to the forums aswell and where do i pop my name down lol sorry for the questions"

In all honesty if you aren't committed enough to travel for a social you aren't really going to get much out of this site. Yes Swansea is a distance but its an open social where you don't need verifications to attend and your best bet of getting verified for the events that do. Also there are always a great bunch of diverse people that you could possibly make some great connections with.

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By *oursweetCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I think finding someone who actually follows through and meets after you've spoken for a while is the hardest thing to find on this site anymore. Between that and the fakes it's a nightmare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought that might be the case, but unfortunately im not in the possotion to do so, im lucky to have a few hours to myself every week let alone a whole day, and the odds of that day being the same day as a social are slim lol but thanks for the heads up

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By *ardiff321Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I've been doing something wrong by the looks if it. I'm struggling to get any response from couples and females. Really looking to have more experience and fun in swinging but finding it hard to get any meets. Unfortunately it's currently difficult for me to get to the clubs because of work.

Any advice would be great!

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By *oostorm3Man
over a year ago

llanelli

I’ve also noticed the amount of fake couple and single female profiles cropping up recently, there seems to be a new one around me every 2 hours!

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I can't say that it's getting harder on here, but it gets rock hard when we meet face to face, and there is a connection.

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By *indictiveMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

This is our first time trying to do anything like this so have no idea!

We have been chatting to a few really nice people and its been pretty fun so far! No meets yet but I think its important to be patient and get it right, but we are pretty naïve about it all and just learning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do have problem getting verified I’ve had many meets with new women on here but they ain’t verified either so it’s a struggle when contacting others when they state only chat with verified users

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By *he tunnelsCouple
over a year ago

newport

Have loads of requests for face photos on the first message ….. really come on guys

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By *itenDaysCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

Agree it has become a lot harder over the last couple of years, the socials do help to meet the genuine people but even now we prefer the club visits and events now. The let downs are disappointing and to be honest are happening more and more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought that might be the case, but unfortunately im not in the possotion to do so, im lucky to have a few hours to myself every week let alone a whole day, and the odds of that day being the same day as a social are slim lol but thanks for the heads up

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But you don’t have to go for the whole day. A few hours will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is one couple I’ve had message me and do the exact same thing on multiple accounts! Very strange!

I think it has become a lot harder on here to find genuine swingers. There’s been a huge influx of profiles in the last 2 years thinking they can sign up and get a shag as and when they want it. This is the main reason I now only meet at social events or clubs. "

Definately alot harcer. I think clubs are the way forward now but do miss the intimacy of a couple home or hotel room!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Having been on the site for over 10 years now, it is definately more difficult to get to know new people these days

Yet your 2 month old profile says your new to this... you can sort of see why people only meet at socials and clubs."

Not sure why you needed to rwply with such a passive agressive nature. This is one of the reasons its getting worse here. Ever occured to you he may have had more than one profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on fab on & off for over 10 years & it's definitely getting close to impossible to get anyone to agree to meet me, perhaps it's my age or the fact I'm married & playing solo with my wife's permission or people just don't fancy me. Doesn't help that so many people seem to block messages from anyone over 55. "

As a woman who appreciates the more mature man I can say that doesn’t put me off. Nor does you being able to play as you’ve got consent. But what would have turned me off your profile was the photo of your penis with the caption “come on ladies, it’s not going to suck itself”

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been on fab on & off for over 10 years & it's definitely getting close to impossible to get anyone to agree to meet me, perhaps it's my age or the fact I'm married & playing solo with my wife's permission or people just don't fancy me. Doesn't help that so many people seem to block messages from anyone over 55.

As a woman who appreciates the more mature man I can say that doesn’t put me off. Nor does you being able to play as you’ve got consent. But what would have turned me off your profile was the photo of your penis with the caption “come on ladies, it’s not going to suck itself” "

Haha ive always wondered have you managed to get anyone in your 98-99 age range yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on fab on & off for over 10 years & it's definitely getting close to impossible to get anyone to agree to meet me, perhaps it's my age or the fact I'm married & playing solo with my wife's permission or people just don't fancy me. Doesn't help that so many people seem to block messages from anyone over 55.

As a woman who appreciates the more mature man I can say that doesn’t put me off. Nor does you being able to play as you’ve got consent. But what would have turned me off your profile was the photo of your penis with the caption “come on ladies, it’s not going to suck itself”

Haha ive always wondered have you managed to get anyone in your 98-99 age range yet "

you have no idea how blissful my inbox is since I changed that filter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've been on fab on & off for over 10 years & it's definitely getting close to impossible to get anyone to agree to meet me, perhaps it's my age or the fact I'm married & playing solo with my wife's permission or people just don't fancy me. Doesn't help that so many people seem to block messages from anyone over 55.

As a woman who appreciates the more mature man I can say that doesn’t put me off. Nor does you being able to play as you’ve got consent. But what would have turned me off your profile was the photo of your penis with the caption “come on ladies, it’s not going to suck itself”

Haha ive always wondered have you managed to get anyone in your 98-99 age range yet

you have no idea how blissful my inbox is since I changed that filter. "

That explains the slow messsages! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on fab on & off for over 10 years & it's definitely getting close to impossible to get anyone to agree to meet me, perhaps it's my age or the fact I'm married & playing solo with my wife's permission or people just don't fancy me. Doesn't help that so many people seem to block messages from anyone over 55.

As a woman who appreciates the more mature man I can say that doesn’t put me off. Nor does you being able to play as you’ve got consent. But what would have turned me off your profile was the photo of your penis with the caption “come on ladies, it’s not going to suck itself” "

Thanks for your thoughts,I've now deleted that picture.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

It’s definitely changed on here over the past few months, and Challenging at times with all the timewasters! We’re stuffed if people expect a reply within 20mins of you reading a message, for me that’s unrealistic and a tad demanding Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffo seems alot of people tell you what you want to hear

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By *aisiahMan
over a year ago

crosshands


"I've been on fab on & off for over 10 years & it's definitely getting close to impossible to get anyone to agree to meet me, perhaps it's my age or the fact I'm married & playing solo with my wife's permission or people just don't fancy me. Doesn't help that so many people seem to block messages from anyone over 55.

As a woman who appreciates the more mature man I can say that doesn’t put me off. Nor does you being able to play as you’ve got consent. But what would have turned me off your profile was the photo of your penis with the caption “come on ladies, it’s not going to suck itself” "

that ain't cute at all and so many weirdos on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on fab on & off for over 10 years & it's definitely getting close to impossible to get anyone to agree to meet me, perhaps it's my age or the fact I'm married & playing solo with my wife's permission or people just don't fancy me. Doesn't help that so many people seem to block messages from anyone over 55.

As a woman who appreciates the more mature man I can say that doesn’t put me off. Nor does you being able to play as you’ve got consent. But what would have turned me off your profile was the photo of your penis with the caption “come on ladies, it’s not going to suck itself”

that ain't cute at all and so many weirdos on here "
I have now deleted that picture & take offense at the suggestion that I'm a weirdo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s definitely changed on here over the past few months, and Challenging at times with all the timewasters! We’re stuffed if people expect a reply within 20mins of you reading a message, for me that’s unrealistic and a tad demanding Miss pc "

Haha was a bit of a shock! Get not everyones lie that!

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By *reen EyesMan
over a year ago

Wales

If you have been chatting to someone for a while or a couple, why wouod you not turn up. I really don't understand that. You won't really know.if you click until you have chatted in person. Felt the connection, the flirt the laughter etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been what’s going on for years, never had a problem trying it yourself to the clubs and socials it will help you on your quest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems theres a tons of guys on here! Finally had a message from a couple asking if id would be interested in meeting. I read the messsge didntnreply straight away. Went back to the message 22mins later to find i have another message saying i must not be interested and now blocked! Id have loved to! Now theres no way of contacting them! Hope i havent offended by not replying straight away! "

The same has happened to me they asked me for pics so I replied straight away and statied I’d send them a pic now just need to upload it first and before I know it they have blocked me and I’m left feeling like I’m the problem

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