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By *alleyGirlEnglishMan OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare

I’m sure this has been discussed here before at length so sorry if we’re covering old ground.

Our profile quite clearly states “not looking for single males we’ll find you” yet not a day goes by without unsolicited messages from you guessed it single males.

We have random friend requests from men we’ve never spoken to, messages often very crass and directed at the female half of the couple.

The latest was a chap who after reading a reply we made on the forum about dogging decided to after viewing our profile sending a message asking to meet. We did say that if he couldn’t be trusted to follow our wishes/limits on here why on Earth would we agree to meet with him in real life as we wouldnt be able to trust him to follow other rules. At this point he appoligised and said he should of replied in the forum (to little to late).

I understand how hard it is as a single guy here I’ve been here for years as one myself but I always try to adhere to peoples wishes as I wouldn’t expect them to reply if I didn’t.

We don’t want to filter everyone out though our block list is ever growing.

Just wondered what others thought about it.

S&C

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think people are just wired differently. Some pay attention to details, some don't. Some receive messages in pictures clearer than in written word.

It's annoying to have the added admin and it doesn't feel good to reject someone but I don't think it will ever change.

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By *alleyGirlEnglishMan OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare

Your so right it just gets tedious that’s all…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m sure this has been discussed here before at length so sorry if we’re covering old ground.

Our profile quite clearly states “not looking for single males we’ll find you” yet not a day goes by without unsolicited messages from you guessed it single males.

We have random friend requests from men we’ve never spoken to, messages often very crass and directed at the female half of the couple.

The latest was a chap who after reading a reply we made on the forum about dogging decided to after viewing our profile sending a message asking to meet. We did say that if he couldn’t be trusted to follow our wishes/limits on here why on Earth would we agree to meet with him in real life as we wouldnt be able to trust him to follow other rules. At this point he appoligised and said he should of replied in the forum (to little to late).

I understand how hard it is as a single guy here I’ve been here for years as one myself but I always try to adhere to peoples wishes as I wouldn’t expect them to reply if I didn’t.

We don’t want to filter everyone out though our block list is ever growing.

Just wondered what others thought about it.

S&C "

Simple…. Just block single males in your settings ?!? No need for an essay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the poster above says, use your filters so single men can't message you. It's easy to do and any time you change your mind you can remove it

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By *alleyGirlEnglishMan OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare

And we will… I just think people should respect the wishes of others by breaking even this basic request it shows a potential disregard for any other limits.

Surely it just basic etiquette

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By *mudger 40Man
over a year ago

newport

It comes down to respect and there isn’t any, yes single males get tarred with the same brush. Yet your on here as a couple play as a couple it’s not hard to see that. Yet the dog hounds will never see that. You are always going to get it. It’s sad the chaff out numbers the wheat. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm assuming some just sent out bulk, standard, copy and paste messages without reading.

Messages are like bait, the more that's sent out the more you catch.

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By *CDecauxMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I can only assume that the same people who do stuff like this, are the same ones who send “hi” along with a pic of their tally whacker to every single person on here who catches their attention for more than 0.005 seconds.

It’s tedious to be on the end of, and it ruins things for those of us who have taken the time to be respectful of such things.

Yes it’s difficult to be a single male on here, but it’s not half made harder by these buffoons also.

But, as they say, you can’t educate pork, so why worry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And we will… I just think people should respect the wishes of others by breaking even this basic request it shows a potential disregard for any other limits.

Surely it just basic etiquette "

Think your going a little over the top to be fair.. people just trying there luck, your a good looking couple, your going to get males messaging you unless you block them, it’s fab! Welcome

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By *mudger 40Man
over a year ago

newport

Nail head, very well said, that’s why I like socials. Face to face you click game on face to face you don’t you just made a new friend in the same circles. ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just single males even though they are far more prominent. Couples are just as bad when messaging miss Insatiables’ single profile hoping to “put on a show” or “treat my Mr” when it couldn’t be clearer that she is purely looking for FF play on that profile.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"I’m sure this has been discussed here before at length so sorry if we’re covering old ground.

Our profile quite clearly states “not looking for single males we’ll find you” yet not a day goes by without unsolicited messages from you guessed it single males.

We have random friend requests from men we’ve never spoken to, messages often very crass and directed at the female half of the couple.

The latest was a chap who after reading a reply we made on the forum about dogging decided to after viewing our profile sending a message asking to meet. We did say that if he couldn’t be trusted to follow our wishes/limits on here why on Earth would we agree to meet with him in real life as we wouldnt be able to trust him to follow other rules. At this point he appoligised and said he should of replied in the forum (to little to late).

I understand how hard it is as a single guy here I’ve been here for years as one myself but I always try to adhere to peoples wishes as I wouldn’t expect them to reply if I didn’t.

We don’t want to filter everyone out though our block list is ever growing.

Just wondered what others thought about it.

S&C

Simple…. Just block single males in your settings ?!? No need for an essay "

Some guys just have no respect.

If a profile says no single guy, why can't these brain dead people accept that.

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By *ovis and GreeneyesCouple
over a year ago

Swansea


"I’m sure this has been discussed here before at length so sorry if we’re covering old ground.

Our profile quite clearly states “not looking for single males we’ll find you” yet not a day goes by without unsolicited messages from you guessed it single males.

We have random friend requests from men we’ve never spoken to, messages often very crass and directed at the female half of the couple.

The latest was a chap who after reading a reply we made on the forum about dogging decided to after viewing our profile sending a message asking to meet. We did say that if he couldn’t be trusted to follow our wishes/limits on here why on Earth would we agree to meet with him in real life as we wouldnt be able to trust him to follow other rules. At this point he appoligised and said he should of replied in the forum (to little to late).

I understand how hard it is as a single guy here I’ve been here for years as one myself but I always try to adhere to peoples wishes as I wouldn’t expect them to reply if I didn’t.

We don’t want to filter everyone out though our block list is ever growing.

Just wondered what others thought about it.

S&C

Simple…. Just block single males in your settings ?!? No need for an essay

Some guys just have no respect.

If a profile says no single guy, why can't these brain dead people accept that. "

As others have already stated if a couple, single female or single males do not want messages from a certain gender, couples or age group then use the filters that's what they are there for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m sure this has been discussed here before at length so sorry if we’re covering old ground.

Our profile quite clearly states “not looking for single males we’ll find you” yet not a day goes by without unsolicited messages from you guessed it single males.

We have random friend requests from men we’ve never spoken to, messages often very crass and directed at the female half of the couple.

The latest was a chap who after reading a reply we made on the forum about dogging decided to after viewing our profile sending a message asking to meet. We did say that if he couldn’t be trusted to follow our wishes/limits on here why on Earth would we agree to meet with him in real life as we wouldnt be able to trust him to follow other rules. At this point he appoligised and said he should of replied in the forum (to little to late).

I understand how hard it is as a single guy here I’ve been here for years as one myself but I always try to adhere to peoples wishes as I wouldn’t expect them to reply if I didn’t.

We don’t want to filter everyone out though our block list is ever growing.

Just wondered what others thought about it.

S&C

Simple…. Just block single males in your settings ?!? No need for an essay "

I have single males blocked and only unblock them when a rare one like yourself pops up that we no it will be a long standing friendship with .

We have maybe 6 single males on our friends list

Funnily all were met at chams on a syaruday night.

I agree to blocking them

Some are nice and respectful some are down right rude .

Most of the males I've met have been decent thankfully

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Not that I agree with the guys messaging you, I don’t, but I do feel you are allowing them the opportunity too by not filtering out their ability to do so! If you say you will find them, then why not just stop them from being able to message? They may not have read your description properly, or just chancing it because they can? However I can see the frustration

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"I’m sure this has been discussed here before at length so sorry if we’re covering old ground.

Our profile quite clearly states “not looking for single males we’ll find you” yet not a day goes by without unsolicited messages from you guessed it single males.

We have random friend requests from men we’ve never spoken to, messages often very crass and directed at the female half of the couple.

The latest was a chap who after reading a reply we made on the forum about dogging decided to after viewing our profile sending a message asking to meet. We did say that if he couldn’t be trusted to follow our wishes/limits on here why on Earth would we agree to meet with him in real life as we wouldnt be able to trust him to follow other rules. At this point he appoligised and said he should of replied in the forum (to little to late).

I understand how hard it is as a single guy here I’ve been here for years as one myself but I always try to adhere to peoples wishes as I wouldn’t expect them to reply if I didn’t.

We don’t want to filter everyone out though our block list is ever growing.

Just wondered what others thought about it.

S&C

Simple…. Just block single males in your settings ?!? No need for an essay

Some guys just have no respect.

If a profile says no single guy, why can't these brain dead people accept that.

As others have already stated if a couple, single female or single males do not want messages from a certain gender, couples or age group then use the filters that's what they are there for!

"

Sadly in this world of very little respect, we have to agree with you.

Blocking is the only way.

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By *azylivingMan
over a year ago

random location


"I’m sure this has been discussed here before at length so sorry if we’re covering old ground.

Our profile quite clearly states “not looking for single males we’ll find you” yet not a day goes by without unsolicited messages from you guessed it single males.

We have random friend requests from men we’ve never spoken to, messages often very crass and directed at the female half of the couple.

The latest was a chap who after reading a reply we made on the forum about dogging decided to after viewing our profile sending a message asking to meet. We did say that if he couldn’t be trusted to follow our wishes/limits on here why on Earth would we agree to meet with him in real life as we wouldnt be able to trust him to follow other rules. At this point he appoligised and said he should of replied in the forum (to little to late).

I understand how hard it is as a single guy here I’ve been here for years as one myself but I always try to adhere to peoples wishes as I wouldn’t expect them to reply if I didn’t.

We don’t want to filter everyone out though our block list is ever growing.

Just wondered what others thought about it.

S&C "

Nothing to fear here.

I block profiles that say not looking for single guys.

I also block profiles that I’ve no interest in meeting.

I find fab much simpler that way

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

There will always be people like you describe. It's pretty simply really: use the message filters.

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By *ommy trucker1Man
over a year ago

south wales

I always read a profile to see if single guys are welcome ? If not the I just scroll on by. No need to be a twat about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m sure this has been discussed here before at length so sorry if we’re covering old ground.

Our profile quite clearly states “not looking for single males we’ll find you” yet not a day goes by without unsolicited messages from you guessed it single males.

We have random friend requests from men we’ve never spoken to, messages often very crass and directed at the female half of the couple.

The latest was a chap who after reading a reply we made on the forum about dogging decided to after viewing our profile sending a message asking to meet. We did say that if he couldn’t be trusted to follow our wishes/limits on here why on Earth would we agree to meet with him in real life as we wouldnt be able to trust him to follow other rules. At this point he appoligised and said he should of replied in the forum (to little to late).

I understand how hard it is as a single guy here I’ve been here for years as one myself but I always try to adhere to peoples wishes as I wouldn’t expect them to reply if I didn’t.

We don’t want to filter everyone out though our block list is ever growing.

Just wondered what others thought about it.

S&C "

I have perhaps messaged couples to say I loved there photo's, great looking couple etc etc, is that bad, thought I was just thanking them for sharing their photo's ?

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By *alleyGirlEnglishMan OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdare

No that’s not bad and it’s why we didn’t initially want to block single males.

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By *ustUS in CardiffCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We put our filters on ages ago to stop being pestered by them & their deranged messages.

So many just look at the pics as 'wank' material & never read the profile anyway!

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

Our opinion is if anyone says no to anything, why not just leave them be if you are what they are saying no to??

Is it really that hard??

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

I have single guys filtered out, but I dropped it recently for a few days so someone I'd met at Chams and become friendly with could message me. He messaged pretty quickly, but I left the filters off a bit to see what happened. During that time, I had a lot of 'straight' guys all wanting my cock in some way or another. As that's not what I'm here for, I put the filters back on.

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